She is a Control Freak!

[Eagleeye 1]

Hello Everyone,

I hoped i could be like the perfect couple who give immigration advice to others.Well this is my case,the last time i posted with a topic IS MARRIAGE TO A USC ALL ABOUT GC? unfortunately i am still wondering.

I do undersatnd that marriage is not bed of roses,but honestly what i have experienced in the past 7 months was never what i bargained for! I am the alien and my wife is the USC we really have a routine for major fights every two weeks.Each time very hurtful facts come out in our relationship up to the point of daring each other to leave,we both have expressed more than once our regrets to getting together.

The thought of divorce scares the daylight out of me first of all i have no clue what i would tell my parents! if this marriage ends up in a divorce i would be the very first family member in four generations,my wife seems to understand this and plays on it.Another factor is that i gave up my career to start from the scratch here in the US.My conditional green card was just approved in november 2007 and i just got an a great offer of appointment with one of the leading banks here.

My concerns are that my wife is very controlling she wants me to do every single thing she says but never listens to what me or any other person has to say, our recent fight was sparked off because i was given a car by a family memember and the title was not signed in her name.Basically all hell is let loose once when i differ from her opinion,i hardly ever imagined i would be in this kind of marriage,i guess no one ever does.How does a sane woman get up in a mans face and dare him to hit her when he never has?She and her family accuse me of using her for immigration purposes, this is wearing me out.

I am in graduate school now and my conditional GC expires in November 2009.I just like to prepare for the worst if either of us pull the divorce cord,i would like to complete my progarm and at least have reasonable profesional experience i can transfer outside the US.

I am so confused right now i do not want to be accused of using any one for immigration purposes at the same time i am only 24 and have no intention of having an unhappy life.We have one counsellor but the situation seems to deteriorate!

I am sorry for my whining but my question is what options are open to me(a conditional GC holder) if this marrige fails?

Thanks for the !!

[bichon82 0]

I have no idea what options are open to you but i'm sure an other informed VJ member will give you the info. I just want to say that I feel sorry that this had to happen to you and whatever your spouse might say when she is angry does not necessarily mean that she really believes what she's saying. I hope that you manage to sort things out and as long as you're honest everything will turn out fine. Great job on your new career opportunity and I wish you all the best.

[Minya's wife 24]

Hello Everyone,

I hoped i could be like the perfect couple who give immigration advice to others.Well this is my case,the last time i posted with a topic IS MARRIAGE TO A USC ALL ABOUT GC? unfortunately i am still wondering.

I do undersatnd that marriage is not bed of roses,but honestly what i have experienced in the past 7 months was never what i bargained for! I am the alien and my wife is the USC we really have a routine for major fights every two weeks.Each time very hurtful facts come out in our relationship up to the point of daring each other to leave,we both have expressed more than once our regrets to getting together.

The thought of divorce scares the daylight out of me first of all i have no clue what i would tell my parents! if this marriage ends up in a divorce i would be the very first family member in four generations,my wife seems to understand this and plays on it.Another factor is that i gave up my career to start from the scratch here in the US.My conditional green card was just approved in november 2007 and i just got an a great offer of appointment with one of the leading banks here.

My concerns are that my wife is very controlling she wants me to do every single thing she says but never listens to what me or any other person has to say, our recent fight was sparked off because i was given a car by a family memember and the title was not signed in her name.Basically all hell is let loose once when i differ from her opinion,i hardly ever imagined i would be in this kind of marriage,i guess no one ever does.How does a sane woman get up in a mans face and dare him to hit her when he never has?She and her family accuse me of using her for immigration purposes, this is wearing me out.

I am in graduate school now and my conditional GC expires in November 2009.I just like to prepare for the worst if either of us pull the divorce cord,i would like to complete my progarm and at least have reasonable profesional experience i can transfer outside the US.

I am so confused right now i do not want to be accused of using any one for immigration purposes at the same time i am only 24 and have no intention of having an unhappy life.We have one counsellor but the situation seems to deteriorate!

I am sorry for my whining but my question is what options are open to me(a conditional GC holder) if this marrige fails?

Thanks for the !!

You have your conditional greencard. Should you divorce from now on....you can self petition to remove the conditions on your residency. You will need prove that your marriage was entered into in good faith, and that while married you had a marriage like any other.

Also, if you are in a graduate program, you may be able to have a student visa to continue your studies.

It sounds like your marriage problems could be worked out...if you both committed to do so. Have you tried suggesting you talk to a neutral person, to get another perspective? Good luck w/ whatever you do.

-P

[diadromous mermaid 36]

Hello Everyone,

I hoped i could be like the perfect couple who give immigration advice to others.Well this is my case,the last time i posted with a topic IS MARRIAGE TO A USC ALL ABOUT GC? unfortunately i am still wondering.

I do undersatnd that marriage is not bed of roses,but honestly what i have experienced in the past 7 months was never what i bargained for! I am the alien and my wife is the USC we really have a routine for major fights every two weeks.Each time very hurtful facts come out in our relationship up to the point of daring each other to leave,we both have expressed more than once our regrets to getting together.

The thought of divorce scares the daylight out of me first of all i have no clue what i would tell my parents! if this marriage ends up in a divorce i would be the very first family member in four generations,my wife seems to understand this and plays on it.Another factor is that i gave up my career to start from the scratch here in the US.My conditional green card was just approved in november 2007 and i just got an a great offer of appointment with one of the leading banks here.

My concerns are that my wife is very controlling she wants me to do every single thing she says but never listens to what me or any other person has to say, our recent fight was sparked off because i was given a car by a family memember and the title was not signed in her name.Basically all hell is let loose once when i differ from her opinion,i hardly ever imagined i would be in this kind of marriage,i guess no one ever does.How does a sane woman get up in a mans face and dare him to hit her when he never has?She and her family accuse me of using her for immigration purposes, this is wearing me out.

I am in graduate school now and my conditional GC expires in November 2009.I just like to prepare for the worst if either of us pull the divorce cord,i would like to complete my progarm and at least have reasonable profesional experience i can transfer outside the US.

I am so confused right now i do not want to be accused of using any one for immigration purposes at the same time i am only 24 and have no intention of having an unhappy life.We have one counsellor but the situation seems to deteriorate!

I am sorry for my whining but my question is what options are open to me(a conditional GC holder) if this marrige fails?

Thanks for the !!

You have your conditional greencard. Should you divorce from now on....you can self petition to remove the conditions on your residency. You will need prove that your marriage was entered into in good faith, and that while married you had a marriage like any other.

Also, if you are in a graduate program, you may be able to have a student visa to continue your studies.

It sounds like your marriage problems could be worked out...if you both committed to do so. Have you tried suggesting you talk to a neutral person, to get another perspective? Good luck w/ whatever you do.

-P

He needs no visa, he has PR. All he has to do is successfully remove conditions. He needs to assemble all evidence of a bonafide marriage, in the event that their marriage ends.

[pushbrk 12,801]

Hello Everyone,

I hoped i could be like the perfect couple who give immigration advice to others.Well this is my case,the last time i posted with a topic IS MARRIAGE TO A USC ALL ABOUT GC? unfortunately i am still wondering.

I do undersatnd that marriage is not bed of roses,but honestly what i have experienced in the past 7 months was never what i bargained for! I am the alien and my wife is the USC we really have a routine for major fights every two weeks.Each time very hurtful facts come out in our relationship up to the point of daring each other to leave,we both have expressed more than once our regrets to getting together.

The thought of divorce scares the daylight out of me first of all i have no clue what i would tell my parents! if this marriage ends up in a divorce i would be the very first family member in four generations,my wife seems to understand this and plays on it.Another factor is that i gave up my career to start from the scratch here in the US.My conditional green card was just approved in november 2007 and i just got an a great offer of appointment with one of the leading banks here.

My concerns are that my wife is very controlling she wants me to do every single thing she says but never listens to what me or any other person has to say, our recent fight was sparked off because i was given a car by a family memember and the title was not signed in her name.Basically all hell is let loose once when i differ from her opinion,i hardly ever imagined i would be in this kind of marriage,i guess no one ever does.How does a sane woman get up in a mans face and dare him to hit her when he never has?She and her family accuse me of using her for immigration purposes, this is wearing me out.

I am in graduate school now and my conditional GC expires in November 2009.I just like to prepare for the worst if either of us pull the divorce cord,i would like to complete my progarm and at least have reasonable profesional experience i can transfer outside the US.

I am so confused right now i do not want to be accused of using any one for immigration purposes at the same time i am only 24 and have no intention of having an unhappy life.We have one counsellor but the situation seems to deteriorate!

I am sorry for my whining but my question is what options are open to me(a conditional GC holder) if this marrige fails?

Thanks for the !!

You have your conditional greencard. Should you divorce from now on....you can self petition to remove the conditions on your residency. You will need prove that your marriage was entered into in good faith, and that while married you had a marriage like any other.

Also, if you are in a graduate program, you may be able to have a student visa to continue your studies.

It sounds like your marriage problems could be worked out...if you both committed to do so. Have you tried suggesting you talk to a neutral person, to get another perspective? Good luck w/ whatever you do.

-P

He needs no visa, he has PR. All he has to do is successfully remove conditions. He needs to assemble all evidence of a bonafide marriage, in the event that their marriage ends.

Right, visas are for entering countries. The green card does away with any need for a visa to enter the US. He's here already.

[PlatyPius 5]

Is your wife a member here? She sounds familiar...

Seriously, I would run as far and as fast as possible. Life is too short to spend it married to a shrew. I understand your feelings about divorce - I do not believe in divorce - but even I would make an exception in this case.

[Minya's wife 24]

Hello Everyone,

I hoped i could be like the perfect couple who give immigration advice to others.Well this is my case,the last time i posted with a topic IS MARRIAGE TO A USC ALL ABOUT GC? unfortunately i am still wondering.

I do undersatnd that marriage is not bed of roses,but honestly what i have experienced in the past 7 months was never what i bargained for! I am the alien and my wife is the USC we really have a routine for major fights every two weeks.Each time very hurtful facts come out in our relationship up to the point of daring each other to leave,we both have expressed more than once our regrets to getting together.

The thought of divorce scares the daylight out of me first of all i have no clue what i would tell my parents! if this marriage ends up in a divorce i would be the very first family member in four generations,my wife seems to understand this and plays on it.Another factor is that i gave up my career to start from the scratch here in the US.My conditional green card was just approved in november 2007 and i just got an a great offer of appointment with one of the leading banks here.

My concerns are that my wife is very controlling she wants me to do every single thing she says but never listens to what me or any other person has to say, our recent fight was sparked off because i was given a car by a family memember and the title was not signed in her name.Basically all hell is let loose once when i differ from her opinion,i hardly ever imagined i would be in this kind of marriage,i guess no one ever does.How does a sane woman get up in a mans face and dare him to hit her when he never has?She and her family accuse me of using her for immigration purposes, this is wearing me out.

I am in graduate school now and my conditional GC expires in November 2009.I just like to prepare for the worst if either of us pull the divorce cord,i would like to complete my progarm and at least have reasonable profesional experience i can transfer outside the US.

I am so confused right now i do not want to be accused of using any one for immigration purposes at the same time i am only 24 and have no intention of having an unhappy life.We have one counsellor but the situation seems to deteriorate!

I am sorry for my whining but my question is what options are open to me(a conditional GC holder) if this marrige fails?

Thanks for the !!

You have your conditional greencard. Should you divorce from now on....you can self petition to remove the conditions on your residency. You will need prove that your marriage was entered into in good faith, and that while married you had a marriage like any other.

Also, if you are in a graduate program, you may be able to have a student visa to continue your studies.

It sounds like your marriage problems could be worked out...if you both committed to do so. Have you tried suggesting you talk to a neutral person, to get another perspective? Good luck w/ whatever you do.

-P

He needs no visa, he has PR. All he has to do is successfully remove conditions. He needs to assemble all evidence of a bonafide marriage, in the event that their marriage ends.

Right, visas are for entering countries. The green card does away with any need for a visa to enter the US. He's here already.

I meant to suggest the student visa option in case the OP did not want or could not pursue removal of conditions...so that he could finish his study program.

-P

[foreverido 2]

i am getting married in 14 days....reading this situation is getting me worried.

[LadyNoles 0]

HA ! HA ! you married an american women......and as what I heard from several american men...they all are control freak

No offense

well I'll pray for you..and may the best for both of you comes out of it

[Eagleeye 1]

Well! Just Hope for the best.

[JeffnBhing 0]

I was happily divorced 2 time and in between and after I have been with women that are controlling and or just freak out and argue for no apparent reason. In researching these different women I came to the conclusion that every single one of them has mental health issues of some kind or other. They are good at controlling it until a serious commitment is carried through such as marriage or living with me. I am a mental case magnet here in the US and searched elsewhere to find what I would consider a "normal" woman.

[Krikit 1,164]

Is your wife a member here? She sounds familiar...

Seriously, I would run as far and as fast as possible. Life is too short to spend it married to a shrew. I understand your feelings about divorce - I do not believe in divorce - but even I would make an exception in this case.

Rocinante, you're a hoot.

[Brian&Mel 0]

Sorry to hear about your situation. Being in love and getting married to a person is not the same. Marriage is not always bed of roses. I might not be the right person to say this as I am only married for about 2 months. But I know there are lots of tension in a marriage life especially we do not have the chance to live with our spouse before we are married.

My married woman friends told me that the 1st year of marriage is the hardest time as we only start to get to know each other. I argue too with my husband but we know that comes with the package.

Whatever your decision is, wishing you all the best and I hope you will see the lights at the end of the tunnel.

Best of luck!

[moelarrycheese 0]

HA ! HA ! you married an american women......and as what I heard from several american men...they all are control freak

No offense

well I'll pray for you..and may the best for both of you comes out of it

That's right!! Unfortunately, AW are very skilled at making you think they are decent people, up until the wedding is over and you take them home. Then it's as if a screw pops loose and they turn into monsters. I'm sure there are exceptions, but I have never heard of any...

[*JG* 2]

HA ! HA ! you married an american women......and as what I heard from several american men...they all are control freak

No offense

well I'll pray for you..and may the best for both of you comes out of it

Cute.

I was happily divorced 2 time and in between and after I have been with women that are controlling and or just freak out and argue for no apparent reason. In researching these different women I came to the conclusion that every single one of them has mental health issues of some kind or other. They are good at controlling it until a serious commitment is carried through such as marriage or living with me. I am a mental case magnet here in the US and searched elsewhere to find what I would consider a "normal" woman.

What constitutes "normal" for you?