VISA Question

[bakofoil 27]

Well, it's a difficult one - saving yourself $455 and canceling the petition now (will your fee even be returned?) or using the time between now and your NOA2 approval to work out what each of you want.

I can't advise you on that I'm genuinely sorry that this is happening to you. I hope you come to a resolution that suits both of you.

[biggrlsblouse 0]

Well, it's a difficult one - saving yourself $455 and canceling the petition now (will your fee even be returned?) or using the time between now and your NOA2 approval to work out what each of you want.

I can't advise you on that I'm genuinely sorry that this is happening to you. I hope you come to a resolution that suits both of you.

The money is gone. They told me that on the phone today.

[*JG* 2]

Hey,

I did a post a few days ago about my fiance backing out right after I submitted the VISA petition. He tells me now the reason why he backed out is because in 1989 he shoplifted something small but he was not prosecuted for it and in 1991 he assaulted his ex-wife, who is an alcoholic and drove him to the brink of madness, and he was put on probation for one year. He thinks he will be denyed because of this. Do you think this would be cause for denial? I am aggravated because he has known this all the time and allowed me send out that VISA petition and lose my money. and he just tells me this. arghhhh

I think you should be more concerned about other stuff than just loosing your money. If he's hasn't told you his past of theft and assults, what else is he hiding?

I agree with this post.

Trust is all you have in this process for quite a while. Where is it?

I have known him for 3 1/2 years. We have waited this long to finally file for the petition, which I just did Saturday, February 2nd. He had lied to me about some things in the beginning, minor little stuff, and then he seemed to be OK for the most part ever since. He has visited me 10 times in three years. Then we get down to this point and I even said to him are you sure before I send this in and he says I am sure. Then two days later, he says he wants to back out without giving me a specific reason. Two days later, he tells me this. So, the post office said they did not even deliver it until this past Monday, February 11th, so I made a call to the immigration number on their website and she said I would have to just sent in a letter withdrawing the petition. I did not give any reasons why and she said since it was so early in the game and I don't even have a receipt number, which could take four weeks, that there shouldn't be any problem withdrawing it. Now he says to me he could go through with it. He just does not want to go to the interview and then be denied and not be able to come back to the U.S. I think he is more worried about having to go the Embassy for the interview and submitting a police report thinking they might deny him future entry into the States. I told him I don't think he knows what he wants to do. One day it is one thing and the next day it is something else.

I am so sorry. Having been through this process, I can only imagine this happening to me.

Maybe he is just really scared and projecting it this way. The scared part is understandable. Treating you this way is not.

Please sit him down and really find out what he wants to do. You have to tell him these kinds of games cannot continue. If you both want to be together, you figure out a way to do that. If not, then no games are necessary.

[bakofoil 27]

Well, it's a difficult one - saving yourself $455 and canceling the petition now (will your fee even be returned?) or using the time between now and your NOA2 approval to work out what each of you want.

I can't advise you on that I'm genuinely sorry that this is happening to you. I hope you come to a resolution that suits both of you.

The money is gone. They told me that on the phone today.

No need to cancel then. You bought yourself some time.

[biggrlsblouse 0]

Well, it's a difficult one - saving yourself $455 and canceling the petition now (will your fee even be returned?) or using the time between now and your NOA2 approval to work out what each of you want.

I can't advise you on that I'm genuinely sorry that this is happening to you. I hope you come to a resolution that suits both of you.

The money is gone. They told me that on the phone today.

No need to cancel then. You bought yourself some time.

Yeah, but I am wondering about him now.

[bakofoil 27]

Yeah, but I am wondering about him now.

I understand. But, if you iron things out with him and come to some agreement on a way forward, the last thing you need is to be paying USCIS another $455. So, don't be hasty cancelling anything because it could take 3-6 months to approve anyway.

I totally sympathise with your situation. If you want my opjnion, and it is just an opinion, the onus is on him now to explain to you why he agreed that you would petition for him to come to the US to marry before he had been completely honest with you about his past. If he wants to marry you then he should be able to trust you - and you him.

[Nanusia & Lukaszek 0]

Marriage is based on trust. How can you trust someone after 3 yrs, if in the last minute, they throw this in. I didn't mean to put you on the spot, or to justify your relationship to us here on VJ, cause of course you dont have to! But just for your own inner peace, to know that nothing else lurks in his past and will not be an issue in your relationship in the future.

I'd be flat out honest with him and say, what's more important, ME or your future entries into the US (to visit whomever they may be). You are his fiance, you should be his priority.

Good luck to you.

[English Muffin 59]

Has he been entering the US on the VWP each time he visits you? If any of his offences are CIMT's and he's not been declaring them each time he's entered this could be a serious problem for him.

Gillian

[rebeccajo 14]

Moving this to the waiver forum as the issues at hand seem to be more relevant for that forum.

If your fiance has a record (and you will only know that if he orders a police report) and he has not answered the questions on his I94 properly on any of his 10 VWP entries, that will give you some difficulty with your waiver process.