NEED HELP!!! REALLY... NEED HELP!

[tashyta 0]

Ah, I see your posting while I was writing. It is good that you finally have him moving.

It doesn't mean he will move, I just want him to face reall facts not what he is hoping for!

[john_and_marlene 162]

I'm glad to hear he is going with you--hopefully he will do the right thing when faced with the facts.

I noticed you had mentioned the 10 year ban vs. the 3 year ban. I think perhaps the actual dates were not accurately calculated during the initial phone call.

overstay between 180 days and 1 year = 3 year ban

overstay of 1 year or more = 10 year ban

Your overstay did not begin to accrue until the expiration of your I-94 which should have been 90 days after entry--so you should only have about 8 - 9 months of overstay now. Enough for a 3 year ban, but short of a 10 year ban for now.

Hopefully we'll find everything out on Tuesday in lawyer's office Thank you for explaining to me the ban periods, I feel better now with 3 years

You are very welcome. I hope it works out for you.

[DerekJ 0]

Ah, I see your posting while I was writing. It is good that you finally have him moving.

It doesn't mean he will move, I just want him to face reall facts not what he is hoping for!

True, given his history. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

[tashyta 0]

Ah, I see your posting while I was writing. It is good that you finally have him moving.

It doesn't mean he will move, I just want him to face reall facts not what he is hoping for!

True, given his history. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

Thank you for yur support!!! I really appreciate it!

[mariapoe 0]

I'm glad to hear that you got an appointment with the lawyer and that you and your fiance go together. I hope he'll make a right decision and, if you still want to be with him, you guys will get married and you will avoid that three-year ban. Good luck!

[Nanusia & Lukaszek 0]

Yikes, talk about commitment issues! The dude is scared to get married, no doubt about that. Since the 10yr ban soon approaching, here's what I'd do if I were in your shoes. Apply for a new marriage license, set a marriage date, and tell him either you get married on this date (less than 12 months before 10yr ban would set in) or you are packing and leaving.

Protect yourself, as it seems he really doesnt care and thinks everything is just a piece of cake to fix later on.

I wish you lots of luck, you certainly have been patient with a guy like that. I commend you on that, cause I'm a control freak and wouldn't take his excuses.

[tashyta 0]

Yikes, talk about commitment issues! The dude is scared to get married, no doubt about that. Since the 10yr ban soon approaching, here's what I'd do if I were in your shoes. Apply for a new marriage license, set a marriage date, and tell him either you get married on this date (less than 12 months before 10yr ban would set in) or you are packing and leaving.

Protect yourself, as it seems he really doesnt care and thinks everything is just a piece of cake to fix later on.

I wish you lots of luck, you certainly have been patient with a guy like that. I commend you on that, cause I'm a control freak and wouldn't take his excuses.

You know, I already started to doubt that I need such husband as he is. If he behaves like that already in the beginning, I don't want to imagine what will be next...

[~Laura and Nick~ 5]

You know, I already started to doubt that I need such husband as he is. If he behaves like that already in the beginning, I don't want to imagine what will be next...

Your gut is probably telling you something hon.

Live for you. I know you love him but sometimes love isn't enough.

Take it from me....I've been there.

Whatever you decide, I wish you the best in all you do.

[eau_xplain 2]

I wish you luck.

And please, consider seriously not waiting until you get the 10-year bar.

[calamitka 0]

Dear tashyta I really wish you good luck.

I'm sorry but I have to tell you I do have some doubts about the future of your relationship. Usually beside love, the COMUNICATION between two people is the key, and it has just a little to do with language barrier. Clearly your fiance is not able to communicate with you because he DOESN'T listening. He choices not to.

Tashyta are you sure you want eventually raise children with him? I mean he is already taking lightly his responsibilities to you.

I'm sorry if I confuse you more I only wish the best for my fellow Eastern woman.

[tashyta 0]

I guess Tuesday will decide everything, after our visit to the lawyer! I'll see how bad my situation is and I'll decide what's good for ME!

[boyage 0]

I've been there..My fiance did not marry me also.He has a lot of alibis.They said when a man has too many alibis to marry you,it means he is just not sure of being with you.He is having second thoughts.Before,I did not listened and that's why I also overstayed my visa.I also loved that guy because he is my first love and I was used to be ''one man ,one woman''until I realized the fact that it is not happen all the time.It doesn't mean that you do it intentionally,but it's just happens.I think it's because ,we as human,before we were born and see this world,we already have a partner.God already made a plan for us.Because,I base it from my experience,I really wanted that guy so badly to be my husband,he knows that,and I also feel that he also feel the same,but I am just not 100% sure because if he does ,he should marry me without any alibis or whatever.But , you know,let us be feel pity to ourselves.We should love ourselves.Nobody can help us but it's only us.Dealing with emotional problems is hard.I been there.It will make you malnuorish.You cannot sleep well.I don't know if you feel the same way too.Because,when I was on that situation,all I do is crying most of the time.Can't eat.I lost my apetite and you will look old.Believe me.Stress can make you old and unhealthy.I don't know if you don't feel stressed with this situation.

You know,what I did to my fiance,I give him a time frame.Maybe he will not listen because he is already used to is like what happened to mine also.It is just like threatening to him and it likes it makes him feel more challenge to not to marry you.It is like,I don't care.Yes,he also said to me,everything will be fine which I know is not fine.Well,that's what I did before I left him.I gave him a time frame.Believe me it's like ,maybe 5 times until I decided to leave him.What I did in order to forget him is think what he have done which is not good for you,then, you will be brave.You will say to yourself,I am stupid...I should have not love him.But, we are human, it's not a fault.It's just like a lesson.It could be a nice part of your life history when you grow old, you can advice it to someone too who is in the same situation.I think it's because God wants us to be strong that's why he gave us some trials.he wants to measure your loyalty to HIM.Just keep praying,that's what I do every now and then.Ask him to take the cross in your shoulder.Just believe in HIM.And if this guy is really meant for you,he will marry you.And if not,look for someone else who is deserve to have you.I am also young .I am only 22 yrs old.And,being a young, there's nothing to be discourage about.Justdon't give up.Someday, you will also find the happiness like me.:-)

[JenT 0]

This post is 7 months old. Tashyta has gone back to the Ukraine.

[bangity 0]

one quick question. Do you have to do the ceremony or can you just do the marriage license?

[ladybee 0]

I'll just throw this out there too, and you can take it for what it's worth: Doesn't it seem odd to you that your fiance is so reluctant to take this situation seriously and just marry you? He didn't marry you on your first K-1. He didn't marry you on your second K-1. He has let your current marriage certificate expire.

Does this guy ever really plan to marry you, or is it possible that he is just taking advantage of you? Currently your fiance is not the person who is in trouble. You're the one in trouble, and he doesn't seem to really care.

I don't know anything about your relationship, so I won't speculate. But I have to wonder why you are tolerating such a one-sided deal.

I agree it like why buy the cow when you could get milk free