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Point Blank, there comes a time in(life) when we have to look, evaluate our self and say":how did I allow this to happen". We can not blame no one. for anything. That includes God. He gives us free will. There also comes a time to get over things. We all have dealt with devastating blows in life. But in order to heal you must look to the God of peace. Sometimes, when you can not share with family members or close family out of embarassment you will go where it is most comfortable. The air has many pollutants in it. But we continue to breath each moment.

When telling your story: becomes beratement it can not be recieved by others. Wrath and Anger only turns away people.

BassiZainab is always supportive, and so is Oomba. The OP allowed herself to get the best of herself and basically said nothing over and over. yes your story has been repeated. I too have had phone conversations about your story with vjer's. people have empathy towards you not so much as sympathy. The focus is basically a child involved and the childs welfare is the utmost concern. So since Victor is a Doctor, Have him step up and do the proper thing and get on with your life. There is a world outside of VJ. Majority of the time it is best to step away from the things that was apart of the process of the pain.

Be prepared next time to comments to your posts, people are entitled to their comments/posts as you are. People are also entitled to ignore those they chose to.

Health and Wellness Always.

Well said.

If I may respectfully mention that there being a child involved breaks my heart. You mentioned the child, why oh why must children of broken homes suffer so these days and grow up without a father figure as role model everywhere in America.

Therfore I do not quiet understand why the motivation to deport the father is so strong and the possibility of the child

growing up without the father ( see the what would you do thread ).

I would want the child's well deserved child support and the oportunity to get to know the father and culture and not

get hung up on deport proceedings but let USCIS handle their job and if they decide he stays then the child gets to see him.

It is very unusual for an African father to not want to see his first born son and I wonder if or what steps were taken to

make that issue a fiasco.I was not there so I don't know and am not judging, just making a comment. I hope and pray that no

threats were used as often is the case, the child becomes the weapon of power and manipulation these days due to unresolved issues between the parents. It is the child that suffers most and that breaks my heart.

I agree, it is unusual for an African father to not want to see his first born son. Believe it or not, I know for a fact that this type of abandoment does take place. My knowing this is not through anyone on this forum, but from a relative who made every effort possible for the father of her son to be a part of the child's lift. Unfortunately 2+ years later, the child has yet to see his father, hear his voice, or receive any type of financial support. So while it is unusual, it does happen.

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This is the most action I have seen in this forum in a long time.

I know, right. I saw 22 members at the bottom a few mins ago.

[Ta Ta 1]

My focus is on how do we make it better, how do we improve and adjust to have good marriages. What can I do to make things better within myself ? Where do I need help ? What are my shortcomings that are disrespectful to my SO ?

Not how do we prepare for doom that is sure to come when it isn't.

To me that is paranoia and unbelief and it may be better for someone with such distrust to remain single.

It is backwards to me. B)

That's my focus, too. What can I do to be a good wife? Is there anything that I can improve on? What can I do to make him happy? Are there any shortcomings that I need to overcome or bad habits that I need to get rid of?

And when you go into a relationship expecting doom, you'll find it. You have to start out with TRUST!!! You CANNOT have a working relationship (especially a marriage relationship) WITHOUT TRUST!!!

eh...yuh speak true ... so et be me sista. Trust na be de big ting.

[Ban Hammer 13,637]

Du bist in gefangenschaft, schlampe!

Brutal zussammengeschlagen (I think...)

I'm done.

How did this go from Nigerian scam lovers to German trash talk to hairy men, I'll never know.

oh yeah i forgot that one!

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My focus is on how do we make it better, how do we improve and adjust to have good marriages. What can I do to make things better within myself ? Where do I need help ? What are my shortcomings that are disrespectful to my SO ?

Not how do we prepare for doom that is sure to come when it isn't.

To me that is paranoia and unbelief and it may be better for someone with such distrust to remain single.

It is backwards to me. B)

That's my focus, too. What can I do to be a good wife? Is there anything that I can improve on? What can I do to make him happy? Are there any shortcomings that I need to overcome or bad habits that I need to get rid of?

And when you go into a relationship expecting doom, you'll find it. You have to start out with TRUST!!! You CANNOT have a working relationship (especially a marriage relationship) WITHOUT TRUST!!!

eh...yuh speak true ... so et be me sista. Trust na be de big ting.

[Ban Hammer 13,637]

Mmhhh where have you been hanging out Charles ? Bwuahahahaha...........

i lived in germany for 8 years

[Ta Ta 1]

ok, look at the extra hair part on his chest where it is kinda shaped like a heart. You don't see an eye and a nose?

yeah, like a Pinocceo nose and it looks kind of mean

Yeah, the nose is long and he definately isnt smiling. The face is a 'he'.

Omoba, I bet you have run across some busted toes, huh?

Let me tell you I have seen it all as a massage therapist ! Hairy backs, feet and all.........even hairy feet .......try working on that for an hour !

And Mrs. Gas.

yes toes with fungus and Naggie you make me laugh.......Mrs. Gas !

How could I forget her? When you told me that story I was mortified!

I am still traumatized

Mmhhh where have you been hanging out Charles ? Bwuahahahaha...........

i lived in germany for 8 years

where at ? Military ? What branch ?

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ok, look at the extra hair part on his chest where it is kinda shaped like a heart. You don't see an eye and a nose?

yeah, like a Pinocceo nose and it looks kind of mean

Yeah, the nose is long and he definately isnt smiling. The face is a 'he'.

Omoba, I bet you have run across some busted toes, huh?

Let me tell you I have seen it all as a massage therapist ! Hairy backs, feet and all.........even hairy feet .......try working on that for an hour !

And Mrs. Gas.

yes toes with fungus and Naggie you make me laugh.......Mrs. Gas !

How could I forget her? When you told me that story I was mortified!

I am still traumatized

i think that was my feet

where at ? Military ? What branch ?

frankfurt am main early 94 to late 94, darmstat late 94 to late 97, kaiserslautern from late 97 to early 02. yes and army.

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Oomba, I hope I never run into that much hair as a massage therapist I think I would turn that person away. Seriously!!! They would just be pissed.

I dealth with gas the other day.

Health and Wellness Always!!!

[Ta Ta 1]

my ex was army, we met in k town........small world. We lived in Ansbach for a while, but i am from Northern Germany.

I came here in 78.

[Ta Ta 1]

Oomba, I hope I never run into that much hair as a massage therapist I think I would turn that person away. Seriously!!! They would just be pissed.

I dealth with gas the other day.

Health and Wellness Always!!!

I needed the money and am getting used to the gas ... same here, just today again.

I felt like waxing the guy so bad, I felt I was oiling a rug.....my hands just scrapped over it and it made me crazy.

Sigh !

But other than that I love my job and have been in it for over 10 years.

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Oomba, I hope I never run into that much hair as a massage therapist I think I would turn that person away. Seriously!!! They would just be pissed.

I dealth with gas the other day.

Health and Wellness Always!!!

I needed the money and am getting used to the gas ... same here, just today again.

I felt like waxing the guy so bad, I felt I was oiling a rug.....my hands just scrapped over it and it made me crazy.

Sigh !

But other than that I love my job and have been in it for over 10 years.

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Idocare,

Thanks again for starting this post. I feel so liberated. This evening I have received several phone calls and PM's. During one of the conversations I was referred to as 'the sleeping giant'. LOL. Yes, I do have a voice and a passion for others. Even when I may not agree, I believe in being respectful to others. But oh well, to me that's nothing in comparison to implications stating that although you are part of the minority you are 'jumping on a bandwagon', and 'need to do your research.' Or being questioned as to whether or not you've read the entire post; or implications that you have a mental problem; or "If nothing else, this thread has revealed some heavy duty realities and exposed people for what they really are behind their smug masks.". LOL .... what mask are you wearing? if you (or anyone else it applies to) can get through all of that then need I say again .... tell YOUR STORY.

Oh - have you noticed how the strict, always right, no one elses opinion matters Leader has yet to say or chastize anyone regarding ?? But it's all good, I enjoyed seeing the hairy photos, and having my husband who studied in Germany for several years translate some of the jokes. Again - thank you so much!

OK ... for all you folks who are sending the PM's, and burning the phone lines .... stop hiding! You may be bullied, and psyched to believe that things may/may not be what they are but speak up! It's OK .......

Perservance - thank you for your PM's. Sorry I did not have a chance to respond.

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Oomba, I hope I never run into that much hair as a massage therapist I think I would turn that person away. Seriously!!! They would just be pissed.

I dealth with gas the other day.

Health and Wellness Always!!!

I needed the money and am getting used to the gas ... same here, just today again.

I felt like waxing the guy so bad, I felt I was oiling a rug.....my hands just scrapped over it and it made me crazy.

Sigh !

But other than that I love my job and have been in it for over 10 years.

Now that just gave me a horrible mental picture.

[Ban Hammer 13,637]

Oomba, I hope I never run into that much hair as a massage therapist I think I would turn that person away. Seriously!!! They would just be pissed.

I dealth with gas the other day.

Health and Wellness Always!!!

I needed the money and am getting used to the gas ... same here, just today again.

I felt like waxing the guy so bad, I felt I was oiling a rug.....my hands just scrapped over it and it made me crazy.

Sigh !

But other than that I love my job and have been in it for over 10 years.

Now that just gave me a horrible mental picture.

i must that's my job not omoba's!