THINGS TO MAKE THEM FEEL AT HOME

[myfellah 0]

My husband has been here almost 3 years now. He arrived with the attitude of learning everything here and blending our cultures. So far it has worked. He did bring some things with him that we set out in our home. I made sure to have things cleared so he had his space upon arrival. I had ESL classes set up so he would have something to do. Driving lessons and life lessons. He brought his tagine with him and he does the Moroccan cooking, with my assistance of course, but we use the crock pot most of the time, which he loves. I do the American cooking but he can cook that just as well as me now. We didn't purchase any special programs or anything, if he wants to watch something he can get it on the computer most of the time. I just think spending time and being there for all the questions helps. If we were with them in their country, they would do the same for us. It's really hard to remember the beginning at times but when I do think back, we have come so far and it's all been worth it. I doubt anyone would know that he hadn't lived here for a very long time now. He is as independent now as he was in Morocco. There are many adjustments for both people but it can be done with lots of love and great communication.

Good luck and enjoy.

Doreen

[sarahaziz 0]

Wow Goodluck to everybody... but what about stubborn spouses who don't appreciate the free American lifestyle I love America

Help them meet other local Arabs they will appreciate that friendship

[♥JP♥ 5]

They will have to get over their stubborness or they will never make it here. My husband was VERY stubborn in the beginning and it lasted about a month or so. We place so much emphasis saying what a big change it is for them but in reality it's a big change for both parties. Your husband has to adjust to a new life style and new surroundings to say the very least. You have to get used to having someone depend on you constantly and explaining every little thing. Its trying and frustrating in the beginning for both parties.

I didn't do anything really to make my husband feel at home when he arrived because he came on a fiance visa and we didn't live together until after we got married. I basically just took him sight seeing and spent some time with him. Now that we live together, we have arabic tv, lots of photos of family members, and foods/spices/etc from home everywhere. However I think the most important thing I did was before he came and it REALLY helped in his adjustment. I set up a vonage phone and mailed it to him in Jordan, he set it up and it was great. He had an american phone number so no more calling cards! Now his parents and family use it to communicate with him. I think that was something that put him at ease because whenever he felt homesick, they were only a phonecall away.

[Bassi and Zainab 1]

I set up a vonage phone and mailed it to him in Jordan, he set it up and it was great. He had an american phone number so no more calling cards! Now his parents and family use it to communicate with him. I think that was something that put him at ease because whenever he felt homesick, they were only a phonecall away.

Wow!! I can't believe I haven't read this anywhere else on this site. This is a spectabulous idea!!! Does that mean you don't pay for the calls? It's just part of your local calling plan?

[BelwinMills 0]

I set up a vonage phone and mailed it to him in Jordan, he set it up and it was great. He had an american phone number so no more calling cards! Now his parents and family use it to communicate with him. I think that was something that put him at ease because whenever he felt homesick, they were only a phonecall away.

Wow!! I can't believe I haven't read this anywhere else on this site. This is a spectabulous idea!!! Does that mean you don't pay for the calls? It's just part of your local calling plan?

Our friend keeps telling us to do this. But I still don't understand how it works.

[BelwinMills 0]

We bought special food from Jamaica off a website. The house has decorations of his home country. The first 2 months were hard when he first arrived but having him get involved with school and a job. Was the best. He made friends that helped the most. Having the internet so he can talk to his friends back home. Oh and a friend he made that had lived in Jamaica for a year. All the best.

[Bassi and Zainab 1]

I set up a vonage phone and mailed it to him in Jordan, he set it up and it was great. He had an american phone number so no more calling cards! Now his parents and family use it to communicate with him. I think that was something that put him at ease because whenever he felt homesick, they were only a phonecall away.

Wow!! I can't believe I haven't read this anywhere else on this site. This is a spectabulous idea!!! Does that mean you don't pay for the calls? It's just part of your local calling plan?

Our friend keeps telling us to do this. But I still don't understand how it works.

Hmmm.........well, if the phone is through your internet connection, then you can set it up here and just use the internet connection and the router box on any computer to use your phone. That's what it would seem to me cause I use VOIP here.

[♥JP♥ 5]

I set up a vonage phone and mailed it to him in Jordan, he set it up and it was great. He had an american phone number so no more calling cards! Now his parents and family use it to communicate with him. I think that was something that put him at ease because whenever he felt homesick, they were only a phonecall away.

Wow!! I can't believe I haven't read this anywhere else on this site. This is a spectabulous idea!!! Does that mean you don't pay for the calls? It's just part of your local calling plan?

Nope we don't. Basically I ordered a vonage phone and picked the area code I wanted (same as mine) and I sent him the phone. He set it up at home on his computer and that was it. Its been almost 2 years now since I sent it and the only think I pay for is the cost of the vonage service which about $28 a month. We never had to worry about how long we talked since that time, no more $400 calling card bills, and the best part? I have Tmobile and we both have that number in our Fave Five! So we can even talk from a cell phone anytime we want without worrying about our minutes.

Many people on the site have done and posted it when they did, but I'm sure those threads are buried now.

I set up a vonage phone and mailed it to him in Jordan, he set it up and it was great. He had an american phone number so no more calling cards! Now his parents and family use it to communicate with him. I think that was something that put him at ease because whenever he felt homesick, they were only a phonecall away.

Wow!! I can't believe I haven't read this anywhere else on this site. This is a spectabulous idea!!! Does that mean you don't pay for the calls? It's just part of your local calling plan?

Our friend keeps telling us to do this. But I still don't understand how it works.

Hmmm.........well, if the phone is through your internet connection, then you can set it up here and just use the internet connection and the router box on any computer to use your phone. That's what it would seem to me cause I use VOIP here.

Yup and they can do the same thing there. The only catch is they have to have DSL, the faster the better.

[sereia 0]

wow with all the money i spent on calling morocco i could have bought them a computer and this vonage service! *stomps foot

[sarahaziz 0]

i just recently started calling him with cards We spend like 25 dollars a day speaking wallah. thanks alot to who posted the idea up. Sadly he has no computer there and no dsl only net cafe. He is not computer efficient at all we cant even chat online I will try to do that when I go again out of country.

[Ahmed N Cheryl 0]

I bought my hubby to be a Bidet that attaches to my standard toilet. This was a concern for him because of the need to be clean for the prayers. He said he can live with everything else. I found a really good site. The one I bought was only $89 and I just finished installing it and works good. He will be very clean when he here....LOL.

Cheryl

[amrssnowangel 0]

I bought my hubby to be a Bidet that attaches to my standard toilet. This was a concern for him because of the need to be clean for the prayers. He said he can live with everything else. I found a really good site. The one I bought was only $89 and I just finished installing it and works good. He will be very clean when he here....LOL.

Cheryl

Hi Cheryl,

What is the url??

thanks

Faith

[Imua 0]

I bought my hubby to be a Bidet that attaches to my standard toilet. This was a concern for him because of the need to be clean for the prayers. He said he can live with everything else. I found a really good site. The one I bought was only $89 and I just finished installing it and works good. He will be very clean when he here....LOL.

Cheryl

I would love to be able to do this but I think you need a free-standing toilet, not apartment style(no tank) - right?

I guess we're going to have to stick with the plastic measuring cup, oh well....

[Ahmed N Cheryl 0]

I bought my hubby to be a Bidet that attaches to my standard toilet. This was a concern for him because of the need to be clean for the prayers. He said he can live with everything else. I found a really good site. The one I bought was only $89 and I just finished installing it and works good. He will be very clean when he here....LOL.

Cheryl

Hi Cheryl,

What is the url??

thanks

Faith

Here is the URl. And no it fits most two piece toilets. It attaches under your toilet seat. Very easy installation. We bought the ACE Bidet. I installed it myself in just a few minutes.

Bidet Attachments for Standard Toilets

Hope it helps you. We got free shipping to anywhere in USA and the ACE one we bought was only $89.

Cheryl

I bought my hubby to be a Bidet that attaches to my standard toilet. This was a concern for him because of the need to be clean for the prayers. He said he can live with everything else. I found a really good site. The one I bought was only $89 and I just finished installing it and works good. He will be very clean when he here....LOL.

Cheryl

I would love to be able to do this but I think you need a free-standing toilet, not apartment style(no tank) - right?

I guess we're going to have to stick with the plastic measuring cup, oh well....

Here is the URl. And no it fits most two piece toilets. It attaches under your toilet seat. Very easy installation. We bought the ACE Bidet. I installed it myself in just a few minutes.

Bidet Attachments for Standard Toilets

Hope it helps you. We got free shipping to anywhere in USA and the ACE one we bought was only $89.

Cheryl

[doodlebugg 10]

This one's pretty cheap. http://cgi.ebay.com/Bathroom-Bidets-BIDET-...1QQcmdZViewItem