Threatening me to go back home or stay after the Greencard then he will divorce me.

[domesticviolence 0]

Hi! I got here in US through k1 fiance visa. During the day of our marriage he almost got killed me in the car. Then he told me that he just needed me here to become his housemaid and if i dont want to,he told me to go back to Philippines. After that event,things have changed.He always yell at me and blame me for a miserable life. I cannot just call a police because he warned me already that if i will call a police He dont know what he can do to me.I am scared. Then last night and several times he told me to choose between: to go back home or to wait for the greencard then he will divorce me. What kind of husband is he?Just because i told him that he will be the one to wash the dishes he used,he wants me to choose between those two options..Please do help.we didnt file adjustment of status yet,but it is set on friday which i dont know if he wants to or not.What will i do?

[mox 298]

The first thing you need to do is to remove yourself from the situation.

Call the National Domestic Abuse Hotline. The phone number is 1-800-799-7233. It is a toll free call. Get yourself out of that relationship now, and worry about your adjustment of status later. There are provisions in the law that will allow you to self-file. But for now, just get yourself out.

[cjindia 0]

Hi! I got here in US through k1 fiance visa. During the day of our marriage he almost got killed me in the car. Then he told me that he just needed me here to become his housemaid and if i dont want to,he told me to go back to Philippines. After that event,things have changed.He always yell at me and blame me for a miserable life. I cannot just call a police because he warned me already that if i will call a police He dont know what he can do to me.I am scared. Then last night and several times he told me to choose between: to go back home or to wait for the greencard then he will divorce me. What kind of husband is he?Just because i told him that he will be the one to wash the dishes he used,he wants me to choose between those two options..Please do help.we didnt file adjustment of status yet,but it is set on friday which i dont know if he wants to or not.What will i do?

If you are not happy and clearly this situation seems dangerous, why dont you just go back home and leave him? Do you think this situation can be salvaged?

[Jasman0717 9]

The first thing you need to do is to remove yourself from the situation.

Call the National Domestic Abuse Hotline. The phone number is 1-800-799-7233. It is a toll free call. Get yourself out of that relationship now, and worry about your adjustment of status later. There are provisions in the law that will allow you to self-file. But for now, just get yourself out.

Remember your CFO training, get out of there and call for help.

[pcana 1]

Hi! I got here in US through k1 fiance visa. During the day of our marriage he almost got killed me in the car. Then he told me that he just needed me here to become his housemaid and if i dont want to,he told me to go back to Philippines. After that event,things have changed.He always yell at me and blame me for a miserable life. I cannot just call a police because he warned me already that if i will call a police He dont know what he can do to me.I am scared. Then last night and several times he told me to choose between: to go back home or to wait for the greencard then he will divorce me. What kind of husband is he?Just because i told him that he will be the one to wash the dishes he used,he wants me to choose between those two options..Please do help.we didnt file adjustment of status yet,but it is set on friday which i dont know if he wants to or not.What will i do?

No much to offer here but please be safe!! look for help ,follow the advise of the most experiences people here

God bless you.

[ForeverAmen 0]

The first thing you need to do is to remove yourself from the situation.

Call the National Domestic Abuse Hotline. The phone number is 1-800-799-7233. It is a toll free call. Get yourself out of that relationship now, and worry about your adjustment of status later. There are provisions in the law that will allow you to self-file. But for now, just get yourself out.

Agree! AOS can wait. Your safety is more important.

Boaz

[dbears 1]

Hi! I got here in US through k1 fiance visa. During the day of our marriage he almost got killed me in the car. Then he told me that he just needed me here to become his housemaid and if i dont want to,he told me to go back to Philippines. After that event,things have changed.He always yell at me and blame me for a miserable life. I cannot just call a police because he warned me already that if i will call a police He dont know what he can do to me.I am scared. Then last night and several times he told me to choose between: to go back home or to wait for the greencard then he will divorce me. What kind of husband is he?Just because i told him that he will be the one to wash the dishes he used,he wants me to choose between those two options..Please do help.we didnt file adjustment of status yet,but it is set on friday which i dont know if he wants to or not.What will i do?

This is just horrible:(... I hope you would seek help fast. Abusers use threats to paralyze their victims but posting your situation is already an act of courage so, pls do muster all your strength and courage to call that number that Mox gave before its too late. And I agree with Mox, just worry about the other things after.... just secure your safety first.

God be with you always.

[mox 298]

And whoever moved this thread...did it ever occur to you that the OP might not know to look in the new location once it's scrolled off the page?

There's organizing and then there's just poor judgment. At least let this stick around a day or so before moving.

[diadromous mermaid 36]

Hi! I got here in US through k1 fiance visa. During the day of our marriage he almost got killed me in the car. Then he told me that he just needed me here to become his housemaid and if i dont want to,he told me to go back to Philippines. After that event,things have changed.He always yell at me and blame me for a miserable life. I cannot just call a police because he warned me already that if i will call a police He dont know what he can do to me.I am scared. Then last night and several times he told me to choose between: to go back home or to wait for the greencard then he will divorce me. What kind of husband is he?Just because i told him that he will be the one to wash the dishes he used,he wants me to choose between those two options..Please do help.we didnt file adjustment of status yet,but it is set on friday which i dont know if he wants to or not.What will i do?

What is set on Friday? The interview for AOS? If so, only you can clearly assess the potential for danger, but if you are two days away from the interview and and he has agrred to attend with you, you have to determin if it would be wise to go and then get out.

[Mags 112]

And whoever moved this thread...did it ever occur to you that the OP might not know to look in the new location once it's scrolled off the page?

There's organizing and then there's just poor judgment. At least let this stick around a day or so before moving.

When moving a topic you leave a link in the original place of posting. Or should, anyway. Additionally, you can check under you own profile where it lists your topics.

Edited February 12, 2008 by Mags

[mox 298]

When moving a topic you leave a link in the original place of posting. Or should, anyway. Additionally, you can check under you own profile where it lists your topics.

Yeah, disregard. For some reason I had it in my head that the original link "dissolves" after scrolling off. I was just worried the OP would think it had been deleted. My mistake, apologies for jumping to that conclusion.

Edited February 13, 2008 by mox

[Mags 112]

When moving a topic you leave a link in the original place of posting. Or should, anyway. Additionally, you can check under you own profile where it lists your topics.

Yeah, disregard. For some reason I had it in my head that the original link "dissolves" after scrolling off. I was just worried the OP would think it had been deleted. My mistake, apologies for jumping to that conclusion.

S'okay, I didn't move it anyway!

[mikeandlani 0]

The first thing you need to do is to remove yourself from the situation.

Call the National Domestic Abuse Hotline. The phone number is 1-800-799-7233. It is a toll free call. Get yourself out of that relationship now, and worry about your adjustment of status later. There are provisions in the law that will allow you to self-file. But for now, just get yourself out.

Remember your CFO training, get out of there and call for help.

^^ i agree! put your CFO counselling into good use and call for help. no one deserves to be in an abusive environment.

[Kazan' Tiger 1]

Yes, to the O/P, get out and find safe haven! Once safe, then concern yourself with appropriate action and next steps!

The first thing you need to do is to remove yourself from the situation.

Call the National Domestic Abuse Hotline. The phone number is 1-800-799-7233. It is a toll free call. Get yourself out of that relationship now, and worry about your adjustment of status later. There are provisions in the law that will allow you to self-file. But for now, just get yourself out.

[sj5 4]

Hi! I got here in US through k1 fiance visa. During the day of our marriage he almost got killed me in the car. Then he told me that he just needed me here to become his housemaid and if i dont want to,he told me to go back to Philippines. After that event,things have changed.He always yell at me and blame me for a miserable life. I cannot just call a police because he warned me already that if i will call a police He dont know what he can do to me.I am scared. Then last night and several times he told me to choose between: to go back home or to wait for the greencard then he will divorce me. What kind of husband is he?Just because i told him that he will be the one to wash the dishes he used,he wants me to choose between those two options..Please do help.we didnt file adjustment of status yet,but it is set on friday which i dont know if he wants to or not.What will i do?

If you are not happy and clearly this situation seems dangerous, why dont you just go back home and leave him? Do you think this situation can be salvaged?

will he purchase her ticket? sometimes, its always to have pocket money incase of emergency when USC getting crazy.