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cmltdg · April 11, 2006

Hey, Wendibob! Thanks for posting your letter. It was very well done! I hope our sounded that great. I guess we'll find out. How's everyone doing? Me, trying very hard not to obsessively count the days! That's harder than I thought it would be. We've also decided to move our wedding date back to July 22, just in case we're cutting it too close with approval (we hope), also just worked out better scheduling-wise. So, 102 days until then! Whhooooyooo! Time sure is going by quickly, that's the good thing. Hope all is well with you all.

Later,

Tiff

beetee4ever · April 11, 2006

I'm feeling a little blue am missing my honey.....

I emailed the US embassy in Copenhagen and asked them if they sent my waiver to London yet *London is also doing waivers for Denmark* that was like a week ago and they've had my waiver for almost 3 weeks now, haven't gotten an answer.........Bummer

sharky · April 12, 2006

Chin up Beetee,

people in here can give you as much support as possible, I found it really helps when you feel down and times get hard, and there will be a few of them before (fingers crossed) we are all approved.

Look at Misty B's timeline, I'm sure she had to go through a similar process with submitting her waiver via stockholm and then waiting for it to be sent to London. A plus side of this method was that she didn't have to wait the 12-15 weeks from when London received it, I think it was only four weeks from then?? (not sure)

anyway, if you're feeling down, and you want to type, we're all here for you!

:thumbs:

Baileyj96 · April 12, 2006

Hi guys,

Yeah we all go through missing our sweeties. I just went over to see mine thinking it would help us get through the next few months of waiting. It was hard coming home and leaving him there and it brings a tear to my eye once in a while but it's getting better now. I try to concentrate on what I need to do before he is able to come. Finding out about the drivers license, social security number, getting names on bank accounts and most of all where we can get married. I'm trying to figure out how to do this and not spend a bunch of money. After all the fee's and expense for the visa there isn't much left to have a big elaborte one. Not that I would want a large expensive wedding anyway. Later on this summer I'm going to start organizing the closets and try to figure out where we can put all his things. I swear the man has more clothes and shoes than I do. :lol: I keep teasing him about being a pack rat. Maybe if you can think about those things and concentrate on what you need to do before he comes, well the waiting won't be so bad. I know easy for me to say, we haven't filed yet. But just trying to help. Soon you will be bouncing off the walls knowing he's on his way there. Can you just imagine how that will feel? Keep thinking about that one and he will be here before you know it.

Smile...............it's Wednesday. lol

Baileyj

beetee4ever · April 12, 2006

Thanks PaulC, aww you guys are so sweet *hugs* yea I guess no one understands us better than those who are in it or has been through it - my friends and family thinks I'm rambling and not making sense, they should know the stress we all have of not knowing our future :wacko:

BaileyJ,

thanks for the advice on how to pass time, but just a correction...I'm the wifey and he is the hubby - I'm the one outside the US, and he is the one that is inside the US...lol. So, I can't really do those things Well, I can start packing my suitcases ..lol, all ready to go :lol:

You're funny, with the Wednesday thing he he, got me smiling

Edited April 12, 2006 by beetee4ever

Baileyj96 · April 12, 2006

Soooooooooo Sorry beetee, I'm old so I can't seem to keep everyone straight. Well maybe you can think about what your going to do when you get there. Rearranging everything, redecorating. Just think how much fun it will be staying at home when he's at work and moving everything so he can't find it. :lol:

Sorry again, hope you cheer up a little. Keep thinking about how good it will be in the end and maybe you can find something to take your mind off the waiting.

:star: Baileyj

beetee4ever · April 12, 2006

BaileyJ,

lol - you've got some great ideas, I'll keep those in mind for when I get to the US, lol...move everything around

Don't worry, we all feel old during this immigration process, it just sucks the life out of everyone - and our wallets too :wacko:

wendibob · April 12, 2006

heh, and the waiting continues! SMS, them that deliver the visa decided to visit me when I wasn't in without notification.

They left a card with an illegible number on it and claimed to have tried to deliver at 10am which is a big fib cos I was home for an hour at 1pm.

So I phoned up to rant and they said it was attempted to be delivered at 12pm! More fibbers!!!

So on to arrange the next possible date. That will be next wednesday, a whole week away!! Why??? Because its Easter! Ngh! I want to crush their stupid eggs!!! So next wednesday then. What time will you deliver? We don't know, any time. So I have to book a whole day off work? yes, can we have your phone number so we can let you know for sure?

yes. so you will phone me before it arrives? No.

GNH!!!!

annoyingly, I can't provide an alternative address for them.

Ah well. I should have expected that. :lol: I've put off everything until I get it in hand but I feel like packing too! Its our 1st anniversary on Friday, and it sure does suck not being able to plan anything.

Does anyone know if you can use the visa as soon as you get it?

I'm tempted to book the plane before the prices hike up.

pax · April 12, 2006

FWIW, yes, you can use the visa as soon as you have it in hand.

Happy hunting!

cmltdg · April 13, 2006

heh, and the waiting continues! SMS, them that deliver the visa decided to visit me when I wasn't in without notification.
They left a card with an illegible number on it and claimed to have tried to deliver at 10am which is a big fib cos I was home for an hour at 1pm.

So I phoned up to rant and they said it was attempted to be delivered at 12pm! More fibbers!!!

So on to arrange the next possible date. That will be next wednesday, a whole week away!! Why??? Because its Easter! Ngh! I want to crush their stupid eggs!!! So next wednesday then. What time will you deliver? We don't know, any time. So I have to book a whole day off work? yes, can we have your phone number so we can let you know for sure?

yes. so you will phone me before it arrives? No.

GNH!!!!

annoyingly, I can't provide an alternative address for them.

Ah well. I should have expected that. I've put off everything until I get it in hand but I feel like packing too! Its our 1st anniversary on Friday, and it sure does suck not being able to plan anything.

Does anyone know if you can use the visa as soon as you get it?

I'm tempted to book the plane before the prices hike up.

Hey, that's the same thing that happened to Cas when he needed to send documents to the embassy! They are so frustrating and completely uncooperative! He had to spend a whole day off work because they said it would cost an extra 39 pounds!!!! for them to tell him an exact time they would be there! Good news is you can of course use it as soon as you have it in hand. I'd book those tickets before prices go up. What airline are you flying? We've found Aerlingus is really cheap on one way tickets, which is what ours will be.

Good luck to you guys!

Tiff

nigel · April 13, 2006

Yep..anyone waiting for there docs/visa in the future......you cant do anything about when they pick your docs up...unless you pay a extra 4/6 pounds to get it before noon...and i just wouldnt give them any more cash cas i think 19 pounds is too much anyways....so when he/she picks up your docs....just speak to the postal guy who works for postal company and ask them to take your number down before they leave cas there is a good chance the same person will be posting your visa/docs back after the Embassy is ready to send back....

This is what i did and the guy took my number and gave me a ring 1 hr before...so i knew when he was on his way.....it beats staying in all day.....so i think its worth a ask at least....it worked for me maybe it will work for others....

just my 2 cents in...

Nigel :thumbs:

nigel · April 13, 2006

Talking about Hardship letters....being cheif wookie lost most of this Forum and me and my wifes H/S/L

I thought ill dig it out again so members can have a read....maybe this will give them some idea ect...

The waiver was Approved the 30 Dec 06....

Hope it helps you guys out... :thumbs:

Nigel and wife H/S/L...

US Embassy

London

UK.

To whom this concerns.

RE: USC/UKC CASE NUMBER… LDNxxxxxxxxxx

I. HARDSHIP TO THE U.S. CITIZEN (USC) Mrs xxxxxx xxx xxxxxx (UKC) MR xxxxx xxxxx xxxxxx

Introduction

The USC/UKC has been ask to file a waiver I-601 with a letter of any hardships the USC/UKC has accrued while waiting on I-130 approved visa.

The USC/UKC will show hardships from extreme, unusual and some instances severe hardships to the USC/UKC

If ALIEN were not admitted to the United States, USC really would suffer, (from) extreme, unusual, severe hardships.

She would feel compelled by the powerful forces of her complete marital bond to do so.

There are several interacting hardships#

CHILDREN

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USC has one child (xxxxxxx xxx xxxxx) from her first marriage to (MR x. xxxxx) who was born on August xx, xxxx. They were divorced in September xxxx. USC has primary custody of (xxxxxxx xxx xxxxx) and visitation rights were awarded to (Mr x xxxxx) every 2nd weekend of the month. They also are to split holidays during even and odd years. The custody agreement explicitly states USC is not allowed to take (xxxxxxx xxx xxxxx) out of Florida unless it is under specific circumstances regarding benefits for the Childs welfare, employment related to the USC, or education purposes. This was established so that (Mr x. xxxxx) could continue to have access to his child in close proximity.

USC had her second child (xxxxxx x xxxxxx) (D.O.B xxth Nov 2xxx) from her now Alien husband and biological father Mr.x.x.xxxxxx (UKC)

If UKC's waiver were denied, this would be extremely disastrous to USC and their children (xxxxxxx x xxxxx, xxxxxx x xxxxxx). (Mr x xxxxx USC) would sanction a move to the UK of his daughter (xxxxxxxx) and will invoke court proceedings to stop any move to the UK. He has provided a written statement expressing this attitude of not providing permission for the re-location of his daughter. Upon beginning court proceedings with his former wife USC, this imposes, financially, emotional and psychological hardships on USC and there children.

This would be as no benefit to anybody concerned.

(Please see Letter From Former husband Mr x xxxxx & Divorce degree attached)

As stated the USC has also a son from the (UKC Husband Mr x x xxxxxx) who is the biological father of xxxxxx x xxxxxx (The USC son xxxxxx) has only seen his father for no more than 18 days in 22 months outside the USA. xxxxxx who is now almost 3 yrs of age, and he needs his (UKC dad) in his life as all children needs both parents, to share both each other as a family unit.

The USC has, had to do this all on her own for this last 22 months, of which it is so important that her (UKC) husband can be there for his USC son & his USC step daughter, xxxxxxxx xxxxx and his wife. So that he the (UKC) can share the burdens of his USC family, every day.

Medical

Whilst the USC has no severe medical conditions; the same is not true for her 70 year old, USC mother. Her mother has a history of severe medical conditions spanning almost a decade.

The USC mother Mrs x xxxxxxxxxx was diagnosed with C.O.P.D. (Coronary (Obstructed Disease) and Emphysema about approx ten years ago. She had spontaneous Pneumothorax (collapsed lung) in 1995 where she had to undergo surgery for a thorecotomy (lung reduction)

The USC Father who was the prime caregiver to the USC mother, suddenly passed away in September 1998 at the age of 69.

The USC then became her Mother’s health surrogate and power of attorney.

The USC Mother has deteriorated through the years to whereby she is now completely oxygen dependant.

The USC must maintain her mother’s household as well as her own home. USC mother is, in/out of hospital on the average of two/three times a year for pneumonia associated with her condition. The USC mother is now experiencing difficulties in her walking. She is currently under observation for her lower back. She is now losing the use of her legs and is now having to use a cane to help herself.

The USC must not only work for approx 60+ a wk, but also a to bring up her 2 children ages, 8 and 3yrs old, but also attend to her very sick USC mother.

So as stated the USC is the sole caretaker of her sick mother, in all aspects of her stressful day-to day schedule.

Just the simple things in life we all take for granted like i.e. going to the shops, post office, pharmacy, gardening, ect this is so not the case here for the USC sick mother as she is so dependant of the USC, to take her wherever she needs to go, on any one day.

USC has a very close relationship with her mother. Without a doubt, when her mother reaches a state of decline whereby she requires regular assistance, USC wants to be one of those people who will offer a high level of assistance. If she would be unable to respond to her mother's need when the time comes, this would be an extreme hardship on USC.

If there were a fine example of a severe/extreme hardship to the USC, this would be it as stated. (Please see attached medical history)

FINANCIAL

The USC has a huge FINANCIAL commitment within the USA. This includes, Home loan, student loan repayment, and credit card debts, car loan, total amount of over $150.000.

As the USC just had promotion where she works at xxxxxxxxx College as a medical programme chair, and just recently had a pay increase from $29.000 to $39.000. This was most welcomed and deserved. The USC still finds herself living hand to mouth every month with the monthly outgoings payments.

So much one of her several credit card debts was difficult to repay back with the high interest payment, her USC mother was kind to consolidate her credit card repayment to a lower rate. This was a constructive and financially good choice for the USC to do, as she was finding the $10.000 credit card dept, difficult to repay back every month. The USC now repays her mother $200.00 per month every month. This is one of many ongoing debts.

This cannot be possible if it wasn’t for her UKC husband who subsidises her financial needs, whenever possible. As he the (UKC) has also financial commitments of his own in the UK i.e. home loan, credit card ect.

The (UKC) feels at the very least, sends to the USA from $500.00/$1.000 per month to the USA, to help out payments for his USC son’s day care/clothes ect. This would be impossible financially for the USC, if it were not for her supportive (UKC) husband.

This is the reason it is so important for her (UKC) husband to be granted into the USA, so that he can be there with his family, to share not just only emotionally, but all financial aspects of his family within the USA.

If the UKC was granted the above, it will be a great weight off the USC & her family, where he (UKC) can then work, share the burdens of his USC wife & he then can help out whichever way he can to the USC sick mother whenever he is needed.

(Please see attached financial incomings/outgoings expenditures)

Employment/ Education

The USC has a bachelor’s degree in science and is currently working at xxxxxxxxx College as a medical programme chair and her duties are to supervise medical staff and look over all medical students and also to place students in work placement as part of there course in college.

This job is very demanding but at the same time very rewarding. One she loves to do. To face challenges of the medical students and to pass on her own experience to them, so that they (students) can also move on forward with their goals in their lives. At the same time the USC has her own goals to move forward and get back into her beloved studies of maybe into the science research. This she can only do if her UKC husband was granted to come back to the USA, so that she can focus on such a dream.

As stated the USC works at xxxxxxxxx College and her Knowledge of the science world is such a rare status for a single mother, would be such a loss to the USA. Her Employer Mr xxxxxxxxx is always singing her praise and he himself has always said that she is a fine asset to the USA, and it would be a crying shame to loose such a knowledgeable / Educational person as the USC.

(Please read letter from Employment)

Psychological

If USC was forced to make a devastating decision to live in the UK. It would be an extremely and immoral choice for her. She would suffer a lot of emotional turmoil choosing between her family, country, work and her (UKC Husband) her devastating/immoral choice will be, first and foremost her USC daughter xxxxxxxx xxxxx. Who her USC biological father, (former husband Mr xxxxx have already stated that he will not allow his USC daughter out of the state of Florida. (Please see letter from Mr x xxxxx)

When the USC lost her father suddenly in September 1998. The USC then shortly afterwards went into a state of depression, finding hard to have a good relationship with her (former husband) the USC sort medical advice from her doctor and diagnosed her with severe depression, her doctor prescribed a anti depression drug xxxxxx, of which she took for approx four months.

Although it can be expected that the average person, in an immigration USC psychological hardships have proven themselves to be particularly severe and have the potential of causing medical illness, hospitalisation, or even death. Thus, her psychological hardships warrant particularly in depth examination. Case of this nature would experience profound psychological difficulties,

Due to the extreme hardship USC has experienced as a result of the separation from her husband, and will experience if forced to move from her family and country, USC has suffered psychologically. She misses the emotional support her husband provides in regards to celebrating personal achievements, such as a recent promotion at work and celebrating national holidays with each other and with their family. Each holiday, birthdays, and anniversary they do not spend together as a family sends USC, into a state of depression and aloneness.

The majority of drawing cues indicate that USC is feeling inadequate and insecure. She is somewhat timid, dependent, and feels helpless and weak and tends to prefer to keep her feelings secret, for she does not trust easily. Her energy appears to be somewhat low at this time, perhaps because she is most likely to use her energy to over compensate for self-perceived weaknesses. She is also intensely feels the pressures and inhibitions of her environment. She clearly fears the future for herself and her children.

USC is already suffering from sleepless nights, has presented high levels of anxiety, her work performance has been hindered at the college she works at and she experiences profound feelings of worthlessness because she feels that she can not give 110% to her Employer/students at this time of her life. (Please read letter sent by her Employer)

Once a person, such as USC, has been exposed to the onset of major depression, that a person remains highly susceptible to re-occurrences. These re-occurrences are often triggered by extreme levels of stress or devastating events (such as the loss of her father) or moving to a foreign country in which one would become isolated or living away from a spouse and child). If forced to make such decision to move from her country, she would have to overcome tremendous anxiety problems as well as the possibility of developing a Full Major Depressive Disorder or an Adjustment Disorder with Depressed Mood. At the same time living without her (USC child xxxxxxxx xxxxx) would have equally devastating affects.

SUMMARY

It needs to be emphasized that by issuing an approval of an I-130 for a spousal visa, the United States government has formally and legally recognized the validity of the marriage between Mr xxxxxx (UKC) and Mrs. xxxxxx USC. It is well documented that “family unity” is an important value unpinning the raison deter of the United States of America and that actions to “assure family unity’ are part of the intent of the United States immigration law [for example see Title 8, Chapter 12, Subchapter II, Part II, section I, pp. 64 and 65]. Although, it is a function of law to provide legal definition and recognition to this marriage between USC and ALIEN, it is clearly the intent of law to support the complex nature of marriage.

In other words, in this and other genuine marriages there are multiple social psychological, familial, economic, cultural, spiritual, etc. bonds, which are presumed by the law to exist conjointly with the legal presence of marriage. Support for these complex interacting marital bonds is a fundamental value of the larger society and a function of the law.

Hardships are built upon the base of significant, although usual hardship. In other words, it is of note that USC misses her UKC husband painfully, she is anxious about their future and that of their children because it depends upon Mr xxxxxx of being granted his I-130 visa. However, these are considered herein to be “simply “ the backdrop of those other, previously listed hardships that, individually and when combined and interacting are severe. In other words, the enormous strain of being separated from her UKC husband constitutes a powerful hardship on USC. The other hardships on top of this one culminate in him being potentially and actually subjected to extreme and unusual hardship. These additional hardships include, but are not limited to USC elderly mother and fragile health, but the USC daughter; this will put the USC in an impossible and an immoral choice to choose her, USC 8 yr old baby girl, or her UKC husband in the UK.

CONCLUSION

Please Sir/Madam read this hardship letter several times if need be and come to the only right and just decision to approve this waiver. Because this marriage would not be full or complete and the impact on this separation is one of great emotional, social, familial, economical and spiritual influences, one must weigh heavily the consequences that would result if the ALIEN were not allowed to be reunited with US CITIZEN family in the United States. The US CITIZEN misses ALIEN painfully and is uncertain as well as frightened of her future as it is dependent upon the status of her husband. The enormous strain that this separation has and will continue to have constitutes a powerful hardship to the US CITIZEN. Due to the above stated subject matter we respectfully request the waiver to be approved and the ALIEN to be allowed to be reunited with his family in the United States.

Subject to extreme and unusual hardship. We respectfully request the waiver be approved.

xxxxxx x. xxxxxx (USC) Date

xxxxx x. xxxxxx (UKC)

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Aliens...(Me UKc) Hardship..letter

US Embassy

London

UK.

To whom this concerns.

RE: USC/UKC CASE NUMBER… xxxxxxxxxxxxx:

I. HARDSHIP TO THE U.S. CITIZEN (USC) Mrs xxxxxxx xxx xxxxxxx (UKC) MR xxxxx xxxxxx xxxxxx

Introduction

The USC/UKC has been ask to file a waiver I-601 with a letter of any hardships the USC/UKC has accrued while waiting on I-130 approved visa.

The USC/UKC will show hardships from extreme, unusual and some instances severe hardships to the USC/UKC

If ALIEN were not admitted to the United States, USC really would suffer, extreme, unusual, severe hardships.

She would feel compelled by the powerful forces of her complete marital bond to do so.

There are several interacting hardships#

CHILDREN

The (USC) has a child from her pervious marriage, who is a (USC) and her name is xxxxxxxx xxx xxxxxx (D.O. Aug xx 19xx.and a son xxxxxx x xxxxxx born on the xx/xx/xx in xxxxxxxxx Florida USA. The (UKC) Mr x x xxxxxxx is the biological father of the USC son xxxxxxx x xxxxxxx.

Once the USC was divorced in September 20xx from her (previous) USC husband Mr xxxxx xxxxx. The Judge in his closing their case gave the USC Mrs xxxxx xxx xxxxxx, primary custody, to there child xxxxxx xxxx xxxxx USC. Also the judge stating that the (Former USC husband) Mr x xxxxx has visitation rights to his USC Daughter every 2nd wk-end of the month and they also must split the holidays with this, with odd/even years. The judge also mentions that the USC must not take the USC child out of the state of Florida, unless it is for the benefit of the child/USC for work/education reasons (only)

This was put in place so that the USC (former) husband Mr xxxxx xxxxx would have access to his USC child xxxxxxxx xxxxx, within the state of xxxxxxxxx Florida on them times stated above.

If the UKC were not allowed to be admitted to the USA, this would be nothing short of disastrous to the USC & the children xxxxxxx & xxxxxx. This then will not only be an immoral choice for the USC to make, but almost impossible, as the USC (Former) husband would sanction such a move. And he would then precede with court action forth wit. If this was to happen of which the USC (hope not) this would an Emotionally, Psychologically, and financially strain on all. This would be as no benefit to anybody concerned.

(Please see Letter From Former husband Mr x xxxxxx & Divorce degree attached)

As stated the USC has also a son from the (UKC) Mr x x xxxxxx who is the biological father of xxxxxx xxxxxx. (The USC son xxxxxx x xxxxxxx) has only seen his father for no more than 18 days in 22 months outside the USA. xxxxxx who is now almost 3 yrs of age, and he needs his (UKC dad) in his life as all children needs both parents, to share both each other as a family unit.

The USC has, had to do this all on her own for this last 22 months, of which it is so important that her (UKC) husband can be there for his USC son & his USC step daughter, xxxxxxx xxxxx and his wife. So that he the (UKC) can share the burdens of his USC family, every day.

Medical

Whilst the USC has no severe medical conditions; the same is not true for her 70 year old, USC mother. Her mother has a history of severe medical conditions spanning almost a decade.

The USC mother Mrs x xxxxxxxxx was diagnosed with C.O.P.D. (Coronary (Obstructed Disease) and Emphysema about approx ten years ago. She had spontaneous Pneumothorax (collapsed lung) in 1995 where she had to undergo surgery for a thorecotomy (lung reduction)