Have you ever gotten into any arguments with your SO during your visa journey ?

[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

Visas are a pain in the #######! But i would definately do it over again.

Edited February 18, 2008 by CarolsMarc

[jundp 191]

We have spats but only one major problem and that was BEFORE we started the journey.

Actually, we tend to argue over the silly little things when we're together for more than 2 weeks, but they never last at all. I think our journey (thus far) has made us aware of how lucky we are to have found each other.

Ask me again when he moves here in July

[Scott & Lai 12]

And when the visajourney feels rough with no end in sight, remember this:

I Despair.com. I used to have their demotivators on my office walls before I resigned from that position and moved to the US. *sigh* I really never knew how good I had it.

Yes! Fellow despair.com fans! Those motivational posters make me want to gag. I'm starting to see some common traits among my fellow VJers.

P.S. Thuy and I never argue. She knows I'm always wrong and so do I.

Love Despair.com! Now you can even design your own Demotivators

[nksj 0]

God, I thought it was just us who were arguing throughout this process. Always about completely nothing when we got to the bottom of it!

We both realize it's because of the uncertainty and frustrations at the delays and unexpected stuff that comes up in this process. It was OK when things were going smoothly, but then we hit a 1.5 month period for CSC to mail out stuff to NVC (it sat in their loading area for all that time) and that nearly drove us both crazy. Of course, one reads of worse stories, but everyone feels their own stuff most.

Now, things are moving and we got through the rough patch. I have no illusions and fully expect the ups and downs. Just must keep reminding myself to look past the b.s. and remember all the things about him that made me love him in the first place.

[Fandango 1,439]

Wow, there are many who never fought while they were apart. I guess I was wrong!

[Dr. Obvious 49]

Sure. Nothing wrong with a little difference of opinion sometimes.

[*JG* 2]

Absolutely.......I hung up on him more then a few times. It's all part of the process......learning how to deal with frustration.

[*JG* 2]

Absolutely.......I hung up on him more then a few times. It's all part of the process......learning how to deal with frustration.

[sara..... 371]

Wow, there are many who never fought while they were apart. I guess I was wrong!

:) hmmm I dont think we really fight......how to explain let me try lol.......he is a doctor so he tries to portray this serious persona and does not know what to do with fear (as in fear of what will happen if they do not approve his visa)..if it does not have a medical name what ever it is he is feeling he is totally confused and says random stuff that makes no sense so thats where i come in..........lol i let him have his little fit......stew about it for a few hours then talk to him he ends up sooooooo sorry lol and does not understand why he even said what he did.......i am 11 years younger than he is so im pretty good at knocking him off of his doctor mountain....with out ever having to raise my voice......i hate conflict lol.....i asked him one time why he fell in love with me........he stated because im the only person he has ever met that totally completely treated him like he was an idiot.....

[Teacher Mark 53]

I prefer bickering with family, friends, fellow users on VJ, Customer Service Reps for companies that have p*&^%$ me off, Co-Workers... In other words anyone who is unfortunate enough to have contact with me when the process/distance is getting to me!

Edited February 18, 2008 by WideAwakeInTheUSA

[Jasman0717 9]

I don't know if you would call it an agrument. I lecture about spending too much money, Claudeth listens and then goes and spends a bunch of money on #######

[SMOKE 1,426]

no real fights between us, just little bumps here & there.

now me & the future in-laws here in US...

[MissStacey 1]

Sure we fought- we didn't actually have any fights during the time I was in Canada waiting for my K3 visa though. Mel had fears that I would settle back easily into my life in Canada and want to stay there and I had fears too- Mel lived the exact same life as he always had here- this is is home and what he is used to- the only thing that was different was I was not here. During those 10 months I think we both were walking on eggshells and neither of us wanted to do or say anything that could lead to a blow up.

[Sister Fracas 5]

Sure, we had disagreements, nothing major though, which I'd attribute to the total frustration of the process...totally normal.

Having disagreements, spats, arguments, whatever you want to call them, is a very normal part of relationships. People who never argue...hmmm...don't understand how that's possible. It's how you deal with the disagreements that's important, not the fact that you have them. You have 'em, you deal with them productively, and move on, hopefully having learned something from them.

[Kazan' Tiger 1]

More than either of us would like! It has been a rocky road over our almost 5 year journey. But we make up with an equal amount of personal responsibility. Hey, this process is not easy! Frustration can get even the best of us from time to time.