Prenuptial Agreement

[Ban Hammer 13,334]

We talked about it before I came here but we didn't do it, we both agreed it wasn't necessary. I told him I was gonna get married once and for life, he's stuck with me. And I don't believe in divorce. Yes people can change blah blah blah, we'll be optimistic and work on our problems when they arrive.

PS: I would feel terrible if I came to the States without discussing that and he wanted a pre-nup. People should cover every possible detail about life (finances, kids, work, everything) before commiting to marriage.

i shoulda got a bedroom pre-nup so i can get some sleep

[Alex & Rachel 78]

I am fully committed to this relationship and certainly do not anticipate a divorce. We're already looking forward to sharing our household and giving away or selling duplicate DVDs, etc. However, I don't think I'd mind signing a pre-nup, either. I wouldn't be offended.

As it is we really have no use for a pre-nup; we're going into marriage with absolutely nothing.

[Nessa 23]

We talked about it before I came here but we didn't do it, we both agreed it wasn't necessary. I told him I was gonna get married once and for life, he's stuck with me. And I don't believe in divorce. Yes people can change blah blah blah, we'll be optimistic and work on our problems when they arrive.

PS: I would feel terrible if I came to the States without discussing that and he wanted a pre-nup. People should cover every possible detail about life (finances, kids, work, everything) before commiting to marriage.

i shoulda got a bedroom pre-nup so i can get some sleep

then u'd never sleep in our bedroom due to your snoring that is not healthy for my sleep

[Ban Hammer 13,334]

We talked about it before I came here but we didn't do it, we both agreed it wasn't necessary. I told him I was gonna get married once and for life, he's stuck with me. And I don't believe in divorce. Yes people can change blah blah blah, we'll be optimistic and work on our problems when they arrive.

PS: I would feel terrible if I came to the States without discussing that and he wanted a pre-nup. People should cover every possible detail about life (finances, kids, work, everything) before commiting to marriage.

i shoulda got a bedroom pre-nup so i can get some sleep

then u'd never sleep in our bedroom due to your snoring that is not healthy for my sleep

that i'll get to sleep!

[Jan and Steve 0]

Pre-nuptual agreements can also provide legal protection, and help in keeping a married couple financially afloat in some very common situations.

1. Wife gets sued (why? do people even need a reason any more?) and loses. The lawsuit awards millions of dollars. The wife has nothing left. Without a pre-nup, the husband's assets and income are "common property", and he has nothing either. Now, they both have nothing.

2. Husband brings a lot of debt into the marriage. Wife makes a lot of money, but they can't get a mortgage because of husband's debt. With a pre-nup that separates finances, this wouldn't be a problem.

3. Bankruptcy. A pre-nup can make it so that you may file bankruptcy separately. The bank will only get half of the couple's assets, instead of all of them.

A pre-nup isn't just for divorces, it legally defines separation of property. Personally, a couple can work their finances however they wish, but on paper they should be separate entities. Everybody knows you should never put all your eggs in one basket, and in finances this is the cardinal rule. In these cases, a pre-nup is protecting the family, not planning for their demise. It is irresponsible in this day and age not to have a pre-nup.

A few off-shore island bank accounts are good too.

[Sister Fracas 5]

We don't have a pre-nup, but I think if a couple mutually decides it's in the best interest of their relationship, SO WHAT? Why does everyone jump to the conclusion that they are just planning for the inevitable divorce??? VJ Sheesh!

[sarahaziz 0]

Definitely should make agreements on things before marriage is brought up or you get engaged. Both parties should be notified of the prenup I'd DO IT! Marriage is make or break.

[Fandango 1,439]

2. Husband brings a lot of debt into the marriage. Wife makes a lot of money, but they can't get a mortgage because of husband's debt. With a pre-nup that separates finances, this wouldn't be a problem.

I dunno about the rest of your list, but if the husband is not on the mtg app, his debt doesn't come into it, since he's not the one taking the loan. You don't need a prenup for this. Individual states may vary...I dunno...but I categorically know this to be true for FL.

[almaty 19]

how about the other side of the coin? where the non-usc wants a pre-nup...

sanita had more personal wealth than me..no pre-nup...etc..but there are cases simialr to sister lisa where the parties are equal or the non-usc has more...

[Caladan 19]

We don't have a pre-nup, but I think if a couple mutually decides it's in the best interest of their relationship, SO WHAT? Why does everyone jump to the conclusion that they are just planning for the inevitable divorce??? VJ Sheesh!

Completely agreed. (Especially given the number of people who are here on their second marriage.)

We did not have a pre-nup because neither of us have assets to protect. But I can think of plenty of reasons that a couple might want one that don't mean that they're planning to divorce, and even some reasons that might make for a stronger relationship (e.g., a second marriage, adult children worried about their inheritance, makes everyone more relaxed if some of that it settled prior to marriage.) It's just financial planning. If you take out a life insurance policy, are you being morbid?

To the OP: if you want to get a pre-nup, you can in the 90 days. But please talk about it with your spouse before he gets here. It's not a good thing to spring on someone once they've moved across the world and are essentially dependent on you. If translation is needed, make sure that gets done. And separate representation is probably a good idea, because in the event that you'd need to rely on your pre-nup, you don't want it being challenged on the grounds that your spouse was pressured into on pain of being deported, didn't understand it, and didn't have a lawyer that was working in their interest.

[Fandango 1,439]

how about the other side of the coin? where the non-usc wants a pre-nup...

sanita had more personal wealth than me..no pre-nup...etc..but there are cases simialr to sister lisa where the parties are equal or the non-usc has more...

Yeah, he has more than I do.

But at the end of the day, neither one of us give a sh!t about it. He's my lobster, lol.

ETA: If he asked for a prenup, I'd be sad. Thinking about it right now, I would be offended as I would take it as he didn't trust me. But him leaving everything behind for us is enough of a leap of faith which shows he does actually trust me with his life...so I'm sure there won't be a prenup.

Edited February 9, 2008 by LisaD

[Desigal 1]

Life is a long time. Hopefully you end up with the person you chose til the bitter end, but that's not always in your hands. You might share everything, but you don't become one person, and people change. Your partner could have a midlife crisis and cheat. They could have trouble adjusting to life in the U.S., become depressed, and act irrationally. Heck, they could have a brain injury and change completely. If you have things, you should get a pre-nup, end of story. Any other decision is kind of naive.

I didn't get one, but that's because neither of us has anything!

i agree

[Desigal 1]

No....he has my heart...I couldn't give a sh!t what happens to my possessions.....

[Desigal 1]

We talked about it before I came here but we didn't do it, we both agreed it wasn't necessary. I told him I was gonna get married once and for life, he's stuck with me. And I don't believe in divorce. Yes people can change blah blah blah, we'll be optimistic and work on our problems when they arrive.

PS: I would feel terrible if I came to the States without discussing that and he wanted a pre-nup. People should cover every possible detail about life (finances, kids, work, everything) before commiting to marriage.

[Taylorlove 0]

No....he has my heart...I couldn't give a sh!t what happens to my possessions.....

He may have your heart but (touch wood) it doesn't happen, if he fell for another and decided to divorce you, how would feel about your possessions being shared with his new love? GRRRR I certainly would not want my "husband turned cheater" giving my life's possessions to someone else thats crazy. It's practicality and protection - not love and trust.