Prenuptial Agreement

[Amby 490]

My husband sends monthly child support to his 2 young sons, received by his ex. Before I arrived here, my husband's brother warned him that he might consider a prenuptial agreement because he read somewhere that if I will be working soon and will add income to the household my huband's ex-wife can actually go to court and ask for an increase of the child support which is already more than a thousand dollars per month. With this predicament, we talked, and he wanted to enter into a prenup to protect my earnings from the greedy ex wife (I have met her and my golly, she is what my husband says she is) But upon consultation with his divorce lawyer, his ex wife can only run after my income if anything happens to my husband and he becomes disable. With this assurance , we didnt enter into a prenup.

If indeed, my husband's brother was right, and his ex wife can run after my income even if my husband is still working, then definitely we will enter into a pre-nuptial agreement. I will insist on it, lol.

Myla

some women are greedy like that! my stepdad's ex wife tried to take him and my mom to court to get more money when they got married so she could get part of my mom's income too. they told her they would divorce if she tried to do that so she gave up does your husband's ex work?

[jom 4]

My husband sends monthly child support to his 2 young sons, received by his ex. Before I arrived here, my husband's brother warned him that he might consider a prenuptial agreement because he read somewhere that if I will be working soon and will add income to the household my huband's ex-wife can actually go to court and ask for an increase of the child support which is already more than a thousand dollars per month. With this predicament, we talked, and he wanted to enter into a prenup to protect my earnings from the greedy ex wife (I have met her and my golly, she is what my husband says she is) But upon consultation with his divorce lawyer, his ex wife can only run after my income if anything happens to my husband and he becomes disable. With this assurance , we didnt enter into a prenup.

If indeed, my husband's brother was right, and his ex wife can run after my income even if my husband is still working, then definitely we will enter into a pre-nuptial agreement. I will insist on it, lol.

Myla

some women are greedy like that! my stepdad's ex wife tried to take him and my mom to court to get more money when they got married so she could get part of my mom's income too. they told her they would divorce if she tried to do that so she gave up does your husband's ex work?

No, she doesnt work, never did work, the reason why my husband doesn't pay any alimony.I love my stepsons and treat them as my own, but no money of mine will go to their mom because I know she will not spend it for the boys. I told my husband when Im working, definitely I will buy things for the boys, and any financial help necessay will be in kind.

[Amby 490]

My husband sends monthly child support to his 2 young sons, received by his ex. Before I arrived here, my husband's brother warned him that he might consider a prenuptial agreement because he read somewhere that if I will be working soon and will add income to the household my huband's ex-wife can actually go to court and ask for an increase of the child support which is already more than a thousand dollars per month. With this predicament, we talked, and he wanted to enter into a prenup to protect my earnings from the greedy ex wife (I have met her and my golly, she is what my husband says she is) But upon consultation with his divorce lawyer, his ex wife can only run after my income if anything happens to my husband and he becomes disable. With this assurance , we didnt enter into a prenup.

If indeed, my husband's brother was right, and his ex wife can run after my income even if my husband is still working, then definitely we will enter into a pre-nuptial agreement. I will insist on it, lol.

Myla

some women are greedy like that! my stepdad's ex wife tried to take him and my mom to court to get more money when they got married so she could get part of my mom's income too. they told her they would divorce if she tried to do that so she gave up does your husband's ex work?

No, she doesnt work, never did work, the reason why my husband doesn't pay any alimony.I love my stepsons and treat them as my own, but no money of mine will go to their mom because I know she will not spend it for the boys. I told my husband when Im working, definitely I will buy things for the boys, and any financial help necessay will be in kind.

that's what I thought. that's the problem with my stepdad's ex too. people like that drive me crazy. she spends the child support money on stuff like tanning beds and vacations for herself. that's not right! he's still paying child support and neither of the kids even live with her anymore because she's so evil they hate her. I wish the money could just go straight to the kids.

eta: it's not like they go without things but it's just sad that she's so greedy and lazy she can't even do nice things for her kids with the money she is given for them

Edited February 6, 2008 by Amber&Neil

[almaty 19]

i did not do it..sanita had more personal wealth than i did..and she did not do it...

[jom 4]

My husband sends monthly child support to his 2 young sons, received by his ex. Before I arrived here, my husband's brother warned him that he might consider a prenuptial agreement because he read somewhere that if I will be working soon and will add income to the household my huband's ex-wife can actually go to court and ask for an increase of the child support which is already more than a thousand dollars per month. With this predicament, we talked, and he wanted to enter into a prenup to protect my earnings from the greedy ex wife (I have met her and my golly, she is what my husband says she is) But upon consultation with his divorce lawyer, his ex wife can only run after my income if anything happens to my husband and he becomes disable. With this assurance , we didnt enter into a prenup.

If indeed, my husband's brother was right, and his ex wife can run after my income even if my husband is still working, then definitely we will enter into a pre-nuptial agreement. I will insist on it, lol.

Myla

some women are greedy like that! my stepdad's ex wife tried to take him and my mom to court to get more money when they got married so she could get part of my mom's income too. they told her they would divorce if she tried to do that so she gave up does your husband's ex work?

No, she doesnt work, never did work, the reason why my husband doesn't pay any alimony.I love my stepsons and treat them as my own, but no money of mine will go to their mom because I know she will not spend it for the boys. I told my husband when Im working, definitely I will buy things for the boys, and any financial help necessay will be in kind.

that's what I thought. that's the problem with my stepdad's ex too. people like that drive me crazy. she spends the child support money on stuff like tanning beds and vacations for herself. that's not right! he's still paying child support and neither of the kids even live with her anymore because she's so evil they hate her. I wish the money could just go straight to the kids.

eta: it's not like they go without things but it's just sad that she's so greedy and lazy she can't even do nice things for her kids with the money she is given for them

Are you saying that the kids dont live with her anymore and yet she is still receiveing the child support from your stepdad?

[Amby 490]

My husband sends monthly child support to his 2 young sons, received by his ex. Before I arrived here, my husband's brother warned him that he might consider a prenuptial agreement because he read somewhere that if I will be working soon and will add income to the household my huband's ex-wife can actually go to court and ask for an increase of the child support which is already more than a thousand dollars per month. With this predicament, we talked, and he wanted to enter into a prenup to protect my earnings from the greedy ex wife (I have met her and my golly, she is what my husband says she is) But upon consultation with his divorce lawyer, his ex wife can only run after my income if anything happens to my husband and he becomes disable. With this assurance , we didnt enter into a prenup.

If indeed, my husband's brother was right, and his ex wife can run after my income even if my husband is still working, then definitely we will enter into a pre-nuptial agreement. I will insist on it, lol.

Myla

some women are greedy like that! my stepdad's ex wife tried to take him and my mom to court to get more money when they got married so she could get part of my mom's income too. they told her they would divorce if she tried to do that so she gave up does your husband's ex work?

No, she doesnt work, never did work, the reason why my husband doesn't pay any alimony.I love my stepsons and treat them as my own, but no money of mine will go to their mom because I know she will not spend it for the boys. I told my husband when Im working, definitely I will buy things for the boys, and any financial help necessay will be in kind.

that's what I thought. that's the problem with my stepdad's ex too. people like that drive me crazy. she spends the child support money on stuff like tanning beds and vacations for herself. that's not right! he's still paying child support and neither of the kids even live with her anymore because she's so evil they hate her. I wish the money could just go straight to the kids.

eta: it's not like they go without things but it's just sad that she's so greedy and lazy she can't even do nice things for her kids with the money she is given for them

Are you saying that the kids dont live with her anymore and yet she is still receiveing the child support from your stepdad?

yup because everytime they try to take her to court she makes the kids lives a living hell until they move back in and then they're home for a few weeks and then it happens all over again so they just gave up. one actually lives with my mom & stepdad and the other lives with his grandma

[BlakeandOlha 0]

As a rule, child support and the calculations are governed by state law, so if this is a big concern you should probably have your ex check with his attorney. In many states it is only the inomce of the former spouses that determines the relative support amounts, as well as the amount of time the children spend with either parent. At least that is the case with Colorado. In that state at least, your earnings should not be included or attachable. My ex hit the jackpot and married a guy that is pulling down serious bucks, but that doesn't affect my support level at all. It always makes me feel good to know how fairly the system works. I struggle to make ends meet and she struggles with whether to go to Hawaii every other month (for what I am sure is much needed rest).

The divorce decree should spell out the support adjustment mechanism. Good luck!

[DerekJ 0]

Also, you must have 2 separate attorney's represent you, otherwise the document will have less "strength" if it ever needs to be upheld in a court of law.

?????? Where are you getting this? The validity of a contract (which is what a pre-nup is) has nothing to do with how many lawyers you have representing you.

I just re-read what you wrote. You're referring to a separate attorney representing the husband and the wife in drawing up the pre-nup, correct? You were referring to avoidance of a conflict of interest. In that case, you would be correct.

[BlakeandOlha 0]

yup because everytime they try to take her to court she makes the kids lives a living hell until they move back in and then they're home for a few weeks and then it happens all over again so they just gave up. one actually lives with my mom & stepdad and the other lives with his grandma

In this case I would say to tell you man to stop being manipulated. Clearly the money is not being used what it was intended for. All your man needs to do is have the days spent with him or his relatives documented, take it to court and get the support to the ex readjusted. That won't mean that the total support would be less as much as mean that it might actually serve the purpose it was intended for - to provide for the children. As I said earlier, it is the governing state that has the overriding interest in the well being of the children and can make whatever determination it feels is best - as long as they have some evidence to go by.

[Amby 490]

yup because everytime they try to take her to court she makes the kids lives a living hell until they move back in and then they're home for a few weeks and then it happens all over again so they just gave up. one actually lives with my mom & stepdad and the other lives with his grandma

In this case I would say to tell you man to stop being manipulated. Clearly the money is not being used what it was intended for. All your man needs to do is have the days spent with him or his relatives documented, take it to court and get the support to the ex readjusted. That won't mean that the total support would be less as much as mean that it might actually serve the purpose it was intended for - to provide for the children. As I said earlier, it is the governing state that has the overriding interest in the well being of the children and can make whatever determination it feels is best - as long as they have some evidence to go by.

I think they just completely gave up on it when she moved in a few weeks ago. The oldest turns 21 next January and it's cheaper to continue paying the child support for her for a year than it would be to take his ex to court.

[jom 4]

My husband sends monthly child support to his 2 young sons, received by his ex. Before I arrived here, my husband's brother warned him that he might consider a prenuptial agreement because he read somewhere that if I will be working soon and will add income to the household my huband's ex-wife can actually go to court and ask for an increase of the child support which is already more than a thousand dollars per month. With this predicament, we talked, and he wanted to enter into a prenup to protect my earnings from the greedy ex wife (I have met her and my golly, she is what my husband says she is) But upon consultation with his divorce lawyer, his ex wife can only run after my income if anything happens to my husband and he becomes disable. With this assurance , we didnt enter into a prenup.

If indeed, my husband's brother was right, and his ex wife can run after my income even if my husband is still working, then definitely we will enter into a pre-nuptial agreement. I will insist on it, lol.

Myla

some women are greedy like that! my stepdad's ex wife tried to take him and my mom to court to get more money when they got married so she could get part of my mom's income too. they told her they would divorce if she tried to do that so she gave up does your husband's ex work?

No, she doesnt work, never did work, the reason why my husband doesn't pay any alimony.I love my stepsons and treat them as my own, but no money of mine will go to their mom because I know she will not spend it for the boys. I told my husband when Im working, definitely I will buy things for the boys, and any financial help necessay will be in kind.

that's what I thought. that's the problem with my stepdad's ex too. people like that drive me crazy. she spends the child support money on stuff like tanning beds and vacations for herself. that's not right! he's still paying child support and neither of the kids even live with her anymore because she's so evil they hate her. I wish the money could just go straight to the kids.

eta: it's not like they go without things but it's just sad that she's so greedy and lazy she can't even do nice things for her kids with the money she is given for them

Are you saying that the kids dont live with her anymore and yet she is still receiveing the child support from your stepdad?

yup because everytime they try to take her to court she makes the kids lives a living hell until they move back in and then they're home for a few weeks and then it happens all over again so they just gave up. one actually lives with my mom & stepdad and the other lives with his grandma

Have your stepdad ever thought of consulting a lawyer about this? I mean there should be enough pieces of evidence now that they dont live continuously with her and what more, how old are the kids? They should be old enough to testify that their mom is just using them. I am sure the judge will see the real situation is. Have your stepdad thought about getting full custody? Joe and I are waiting that I find job and add to the household income and petition for full custody of the kids. The reason why he didnt ask for full custody before was work . He travels like twice a week within Florida and maybe 2 times outside of Florida in a month but now that I am here, I can take care of the boys while he is travelling.

I know what you mean about using the money for hte kids. Their mom dont do that, so my husband is really "pissed off" about it.

[sj5 4]

Anybody get a prenup during the 90 days before marrying on the K-1 Visa?

Just curious.......

no, he is afraid I won't marry him,

seriouly I don't mind if he wanted too but he is not into these matter.. he share everything to me.

Edited February 6, 2008 by SJ

[Chica Yeyé 41]

i did not do it..sanita had more personal wealth than i did..and she did not do it...

that's what you think Dean.... :devil: :devil:

I know this from a good source in Commies for Christ, wealthy wives chapter.

Edited February 6, 2008 by Len_and_Bren

[jom 4]

yup because everytime they try to take her to court she makes the kids lives a living hell until they move back in and then they're home for a few weeks and then it happens all over again so they just gave up. one actually lives with my mom & stepdad and the other lives with his grandma

In this case I would say to tell you man to stop being manipulated. Clearly the money is not being used what it was intended for. All your man needs to do is have the days spent with him or his relatives documented, take it to court and get the support to the ex readjusted. That won't mean that the total support would be less as much as mean that it might actually serve the purpose it was intended for - to provide for the children. As I said earlier, it is the governing state that has the overriding interest in the well being of the children and can make whatever determination it feels is best - as long as they have some evidence to go by.

I think they just completely gave up on it when she moved in a few weeks ago. The oldest turns 21 next January and it's cheaper to continue paying the child support for her for a year than it would be to take his ex to court.

I guess your stepdad is right. Here in Florida, child support ends when the child turns 18 or when emancipated whichever comes first. And whats worst, the ex still is using my husband's surname and in Florida we cant go to court to compel her to not use it. She and the kids live like 2miles from us, sometimes our mails go to her house and she says the kid opened it. She even filed a change of address using her latest address and just our surname so now, even the mails of my husband's adult daughters go to her house. We have corrected this and my husband has threatened to bring her to court if she messes up with our mails. She has even started an issue between me and my husband but well, my husband knows her too well, he doesnt believe anything she says. Anyhow, it is what it is and we have to deal with her for as long as the kids are still minors.

[sj5 4]

Anybody get a prenup during the 90 days before marrying on the K-1 Visa?

Just curious.......

Are you asking if it is possible to set up a prenup in the 90 days before the wedding?

If so, yes, it is, we did it too. You have to spend some time thinking about what you want from a prenup, though.

However, I agree with what other people said here: it certainly should not be discussed only once your fiance(e) is in the US with you. If one party has a desire to set up a prenup this should be discussed much, much earlier in the relationship.

Mrs. J06, I agree with you 100%.

My brother inlaw wanted to have prenuptial agreement but my sis didn't agree (she told him to send her back home ). She was going to kick him in curb. so everything has changed..NO PRENUPTIAL AGREEMENT

Edited February 6, 2008 by SJ