Prenuptial Agreement

[LynnandAhmed 0]

Anybody get a prenup during the 90 days before marrying on the K-1 Visa?

Just curious.......

[DeadPoolX 9]

I'm not against prenups, but if you're going to use one, you should probably talk to your future spouse about before he or she arrives in the U.S. and becomes heavily dependent on you. Otherwise, it just makes for a bad situation all around.

I'm sure someone has gotten a prenup during those 90 days before marrying, but I can't imagine the foreign fiance/fiancee-turned-spouse would be all too happy about it. Maybe they wouldn't really care about the prenup itself, but the fact that you hide it from them and then "sprung" it at the last second would surely cause some tension.

[Krikit 1,164]

I agree with DeadPool. This is a conversation you hopefully had BEFORE the visa interview.

[payxibka 10,045]

There is a guy I know who failed to mention the pre-nup before his fiancee arrived.... He dropped the "bomb" at about day 60. They ended up not getting married and she went home after she felt coerced due to time constraints because she could not find an attorney in time who could help her translate/explain the english document into her native language.

Edited February 6, 2008 by fwaguy

[maya62 7]

I'm not against prenups, but if you're going to use one, you should probably talk to your future spouse about before he or she arrives in the U.S. and becomes heavily dependent on you. Otherwise, it just makes for a bad situation all around.

I'm sure someone has gotten a prenup during those 90 days before marrying, but I can't imagine the foreign fiance/fiancee-turned-spouse would be all too happy about it. Maybe they wouldn't really care about the prenup itself, but the fact that you hide it from them and then "sprung" it at the last second would surely cause some tension.

Totally agree. If it were me, I'd be hurt and angry.

[britty 1]

Prenups just don't sit very well with me. Its like admitting defeat before a marriage has even happened. If my husband had mentioned a prenup, I would have been concerned that he may have thought our marriage would not last.

[Kazan' Tiger 1]

Prenuptial agreements, in MY OPINION, go against all that should be in a relationship. Marriage should be a lifetime commitment with undeniable trust, where two people no longer think mine and yours but ours! I feel, if you are considering you need to protect your things, from the one person you should be willing to share all with, you should not be getting married.

This is my opinion, I am fully aware there are many that don't believe this way. Even though I say this, I can feel the flames a coming!

[Chica Yeyé 41]

I have no problem with prenups at all, as long as they are agreed upon by both partners. Prenuptial agreements are complex documents, and I also agree they should be discussed upon BEFORE interview, and even perhaps before proposing.

[*JG* 2]

I have no problem with prenups at all, as long as they are agreed upon by both partners. Prenuptial agreements are complex documents, and I also agree they should be discussed upon BEFORE interview, and even perhaps before proposing.

I agree. And, let's face it, this is one scary ride we are all on.

I went into it praying it was for the rest of my life and all that. But, seeing how others have suffered and all the melarky that goes on in so many threads on here, I don't think it is really all that bad of an idea to get a prenup. If your partner believes it's for the rest of their lives too, there will be no issues anyhow.

[DerekJ 0]

Speaking as a lawyer: Absolutely get one and speak about it with your potential spouse long before she/he gets here (maybe even before filing your k-1/k-3 paperwork). This is especially important if you have kids from a prior relationship whose interests may need to be protected. Now if you were married prior and have a well-written settlement agreement that addresses potential future spouses, you may be alright going without one dependent upon individual circumstances.

Speaking as a person in love: Heck no.

[britty 1]

Prenuptial agreements, in MY OPINION, go against all that should be in a relationship. Marriage should be a lifetime commitment with undeniable trust, where two people no longer think mine and yours but ours! I feel, if you are considering you need to protect your things, from the one person you should be willing to share all with, you should not be getting married.

This is my opinion, I am fully aware there are many that don't believe this way. Even though I say this, I can feel the flames a coming!

Im absolutely with you on this one.

[Nanusia & Lukaszek 0]

Prenups are not as bad as some may think. We did one. It is not "admitting defeat" as someone stated, not at all! It's a means of protection. Everything is nice & dandy before the marriage takes place, we all know that, cause we are all on cloud 9 during our K1 process. But life may take various tolls, various paths we dont know about. Take a look at the forum "effects of major family changes", tons of unfortunately sad divorce stories.

We love each other to death, today marks 1 day since my husband arrived, still going strong But the prenup was done as a protective measure in case somewhere down the line our views change and we can't get along. Why then try to kill each other.

Some people have businesses, some have kids, each situation should be thought about BEFORE and discussed with your fiance before marriage. We discussed it way in advance, while my husband was still in his home country, and he's the one that brought it up.

As a note about the prenups, if your fiance's primary language is not english, they must have a translator (their attorney can be their translator also) certify that the whole prenup was explained to them, line by line from english into their language, before they sign the English copy... otherwise the document won't be valid. Also, you must have 2 separate attorney's represent you, otherwise the document will have less "strength" if it ever needs to be upheld in a court of law.

[DerekJ 0]

Also, you must have 2 separate attorney's represent you, otherwise the document will have less "strength" if it ever needs to be upheld in a court of law.

?????? Where are you getting this? The validity of a contract (which is what a pre-nup is) has nothing to do with how many lawyers you have representing you.

[britty 1]

Prenups are not as bad as some may think. We did one. It is not "admitting defeat" as someone stated, not at all! It's a means of protection. Everything is nice & dandy before the marriage takes place, we all know that, cause we are all on cloud 9 during our K1 process. But life may take various tolls, various paths we dont know about. Take a look at the forum "effects of major family changes", tons of unfortunately sad divorce stories.

For me, it IS admitting defeat. IMO, the idea that I might need to be protected, means I don't wholeheartedly trust my husband and my marriage.

[Kazan' Tiger 1]

Exactly! You and I are in 100% agreement on this one!

Prenups are not as bad as some may think. We did one. It is not "admitting defeat" as someone stated, not at all! It's a means of protection. Everything is nice & dandy before the marriage takes place, we all know that, cause we are all on cloud 9 during our K1 process. But life may take various tolls, various paths we dont know about. Take a look at the forum "effects of major family changes", tons of unfortunately sad divorce stories.

For me, it IS admitting defeat. IMO, the idea that I might need to be protected, means I don't wholeheartedly trust my husband and my marriage.