White Women And Black Men

[Krikit 1,164]

In college, I was told that black people can not, by definition, be racist.

What class did you learn that in?

No Class 101

Or

Upper Class 101

[AnewKINDofFEELIN 0]

This is only sort of on topic, but in the past few years I've noticed a dramatic increase in black women dating white men, which is something you didn't used to see that often. So... yay!

RACIST!

[*JG* 2]

This is only sort of on topic, but in the past few years I've noticed a dramatic increase in black women dating white men, which is something you didn't used to see that often. So... yay!

In St. Louis, it is not an anomaly. I see it all the time. But, yes, I agree with you in other places I have visited.

[Amby 490]

I'm from a white town. We never had any african americans in school with us until I was in 6th or 7th grade and then there was only 1. My mom tells this story about when I was little the first time I saw a black person (I was 3 or 4) I got really excited and started yelling the "n" word because I didn't know it was wrong. She said she was so embarrased and went and apologized to the person. I've never understood why people are racist. My dad's parents are a great example. They're completely against anything that has to do with not being white. My grandmother in particular disgusts me because of this. Maybe I just don't pay enough attention to it or maybe I just don't care to see the hate. I wish the world were just butterflies and flowers and everyone would get along.

[Mary Lou 681]

I'm from a white town. We never had any african americans in school with us until I was in 6th or 7th grade and then there was only 1. My mom tells this story about when I was little the first time I saw a black person (I was 3 or 4) I got really excited and started yelling the "n" word because I didn't know it was wrong. She said she was so embarrased and went and apologized to the person. I've never understood why people are racist. My dad's parents are a great example. They're completely against anything that has to do with not being white. My grandmother in particular disgusts me because of this. Maybe I just don't pay enough attention to it or maybe I just don't care to see the hate. I wish the world were just butterflies and flowers and everyone would get along.

I just cant seem to understand how a 3 or 4 yr old would say that offensive word, or how they even knew it.

[Amby 490]

I'm from a white town. We never had any african americans in school with us until I was in 6th or 7th grade and then there was only 1. My mom tells this story about when I was little the first time I saw a black person (I was 3 or 4) I got really excited and started yelling the "n" word because I didn't know it was wrong. She said she was so embarrased and went and apologized to the person. I've never understood why people are racist. My dad's parents are a great example. They're completely against anything that has to do with not being white. My grandmother in particular disgusts me because of this. Maybe I just don't pay enough attention to it or maybe I just don't care to see the hate. I wish the world were just butterflies and flowers and everyone would get along.

I just cant seem to understand how a 3 or 4 yr old would say that offensive word, or how they even knew it.

I knew it because of my dad's mom that I talked about being racist. Sorry I didn't add that in there it made sense in my head that you would figure out how I heard it.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

I'm from a white town. We never had any african americans in school with us until I was in 6th or 7th grade and then there was only 1. My mom tells this story about when I was little the first time I saw a black person (I was 3 or 4) I got really excited and started yelling the "n" word because I didn't know it was wrong. She said she was so embarrased and went and apologized to the person. I've never understood why people are racist. My dad's parents are a great example. They're completely against anything that has to do with not being white. My grandmother in particular disgusts me because of this. Maybe I just don't pay enough attention to it or maybe I just don't care to see the hate. I wish the world were just butterflies and flowers and everyone would get along.

I just cant seem to understand how a 3 or 4 yr old would say that offensive word, or how they even knew it.

Well she did say her paternal grandparents are racists, so is it so difficult to understand where she might have heard it as a child?

I grew up around a lot of bigoted invective too, from my grandparents.

[*JG* 2]

I'm from a white town. We never had any african americans in school with us until I was in 6th or 7th grade and then there was only 1. My mom tells this story about when I was little the first time I saw a black person (I was 3 or 4) I got really excited and started yelling the "n" word because I didn't know it was wrong. She said she was so embarrased and went and apologized to the person. I've never understood why people are racist. My dad's parents are a great example. They're completely against anything that has to do with not being white. My grandmother in particular disgusts me because of this. Maybe I just don't pay enough attention to it or maybe I just don't care to see the hate. I wish the world were just butterflies and flowers and everyone would get along.

I just cant seem to understand how a 3 or 4 yr old would say that offensive word, or how they even knew it.

The funny thing about that word is that my husband, as a Jamaican, doesn't see it as offensive. He heard it in music, in movies, in books, in yardie talk..........he couldn't figure out why I had a fit and said never ever say that word around me.

[isleta521 5]

I'm from a white town. We never had any african americans in school with us until I was in 6th or 7th grade and then there was only 1. My mom tells this story about when I was little the first time I saw a black person (I was 3 or 4) I got really excited and started yelling the "n" word because I didn't know it was wrong. She said she was so embarrased and went and apologized to the person. I've never understood why people are racist. My dad's parents are a great example. They're completely against anything that has to do with not being white. My grandmother in particular disgusts me because of this. Maybe I just don't pay enough attention to it or maybe I just don't care to see the hate. I wish the world were just butterflies and flowers and everyone would get along.

I just cant seem to understand how a 3 or 4 yr old would say that offensive word, or how they even knew it.

You would be surprised what 3 or 4 year old can pick up. And BTW, My Afro-Brasilian sons say this word all the time.. I dont like it but I cannot stop them from saying it outside the house.

[Udella&Wiz 325]

Good point Jomo.......many black people call eachother the n-word in casual reference....not with a negative connotation

My daughter is a good example...she is mixed (her father is Nigerian)....I've seen texts between her and her friends (also black) saying 'Hey N****...what are you doing'...etc etc...

I'm not fond of ANYONE using a derogatory term..especially this one.

I have seen some discussion by a professor of African American studies who said that younger black people today essentially do not consider it negative amongst themselves, but he believes that it's a subtle way for them to be in control...they say the word first, thereby negating the negativity associated... an interesting theory

[Scott & Lai 12]

Good point Jomo.......many black people call eachother the n-word in casual reference....not with a negative connotation

My daughter is a good example...she is mixed (her father is Nigerian)....I've seen texts between her and her friends (also black) saying 'Hey N****...what are you doing'...etc etc...

I'm not fond of ANYONE using a derogatory term..especially this one.

I have seen some discussion by a professor of African American studies who said that younger black people today essentially do not consider it negative amongst themselves, but he believes that it's a subtle way for them to be in control...they say the word first, thereby negating the negativity associated... an interesting theory

And yet, if someone outside the approved group uses the word, look out!

[eric&gen 0]

I see more white people than black people hanging out at KFC.

[Nikita2Charles 32]

You hear the n word all the time among teenagers growing up in Brooklyn, but at home and around adult it's forbidden to even think about it. As for dating white women, why should the word white even be mentioned, the person can be yellow, brown, dark, what difference does it make? My mother was always like, As far as she's a sweet person, she treats you nice, she's already my daughter I don't care where she's from. I've dated different nationality and I can tell you it doesn't matter where the person is from, you are always faced with the same issues, because we are all human, The people you interact with, work with, are friends with, over time you might find one that you like. We all dated black girls in the past and have nothing wrong or any complain, all of those stereotype are just people insecurities. To give you an example of diversity in our family, My wife is Indian, my 2nd brother's wife is Japanese, and my little brother's wife is Jamaican.

It's not just in dating you see that kinda mentality is on many aspect of life, I was one of 3 non white in my field at the university. So when you actually enter the job market in that field it's not uncommon i have drivers coming to pick me up at the airport in some really all white town, and they are asking are you really so and so.

The most funny things i had happen to me, I was on a business trip to Suwong Korea, and we went on an outing with one of my colleague to the country side, visiting his folks. They had a 4 year daughter, considering it's Korea, there are lot of american in Seoul because of the military base out there. The whole time i was there, she was so fascinated, as time goes on and she felt more confortable. She came over took my hand, and start rubbing it, i kinda watch to see what she's doing, then later on she spits on her dress to make it wet and started to rub even hard, then they had to tell her it's not Paint, for me it was kinda funny.

Edited February 5, 2008 by Nikita2Charles

[Marlita 0]

Ha Ha! This is funny. Its an old article that came out YEARS ago. Well as a Black woman, I can say that I have dated the whole United Nations of races and ethnicities so I never saw the issue of Black women not being in cross-racial relationships.

I think the guy in the article was being as crude as the original woman was...so in that case he made his point. Both points were a tad extreme but I gotta say that the comments and reasons he made about why Black men choose to date white women.....I've heard that alot...from Black men. Now nothing is ever 100% final so I am sure there are just as many cases of Black men dating outside there race for legitimate and loving realtionships, but the comment he made is also a reason why Black men date other races. Truth hurts, yes, but it still doesn't take away that its the truth.

And sometimes "the truth" is just a bunch of regurgitated stereotypical rumors that fly because no one can come up with a genuine idea of their own. Don't perpetuate this stuff by spreading the hate.

Well I'm not really "spreading the hate", just pointing out that many guys have told me some of the stuff that the interviewer guy said. Meaning....it is the truth the those who say it. I am neither a Black man, nor a White woman, so i can not say it is my truth, but its apparently how some folks feel.

[Marlita 0]

Ha Ha! This is funny. Its an old article that came out YEARS ago. Well as a Black woman, I can say that I have dated the whole United Nations of races and ethnicities so I never saw the issue of Black women not being in cross-racial relationships.

I think the guy in the article was being as crude as the original woman was...so in that case he made his point. Both points were a tad extreme but I gotta say that the comments and reasons he made about why Black men choose to date white women.....I've heard that alot...from Black men. Now nothing is ever 100% final so I am sure there are just as many cases of Black men dating outside there race for legitimate and loving realtionships, but the comment he made is also a reason why Black men date other races. Truth hurts, yes, but it still doesn't take away that its the truth.

And sometimes "the truth" is just a bunch of regurgitated stereotypical rumors that fly because no one can come up with a genuine idea of their own. Don't perpetuate this stuff by spreading the hate.

Ain't nobody hating it's the fact.

And the white woman's perspective in the article...was that also fact?

Yup! It was a fact to her. Like I said truth is all relative when it comes down to LIFES EXPERIENCES, just because you don't agree with someones life experiences or choices, doesn't make it any less of the truth to that person. So like I said...sometimes the truth hurts.