Pre-nups for bridesmaids

[Converse34 1]

haha too funny!! could you imagine if this girl had a fiance that was non USC and had to go through this process? "Excuse me US government employee, this delay is NOT according to THE plan. I want my interview date immediately, don't you realize I have a wedding to plan for?!" But then I suppose marrying a non USC would definitely not be a part of the plan!

Edited February 5, 2008 by Converse34

[britty 1]

Forget the mother of the groom, what about the mother of the bride?!

Although really, why would you care how someone's hair was done?...

I think if someone wears something inappropriate to a wedding, the joke's on them, whether it's jeans to a formal wedding or a lady wearing a white dress similar to the bride's!

And I really dislike the 'it's MY day' mentality. It's not your day. It's the groom's day, it's also your parents' day, and your family and friends' day, too. If you concentrate on having a good time and not stressing over little details, then you're going to enjoy yourself a lot more and thus everyone around you is going to have a more fun time, too. A bride (or groom!) who's fretting and whining is going to put everyone else on edge and cause everyone else to make more mistakes!

Okay, so the bride is the only one who gets to wear a huge fancy white dress (if she chooses) but other than that she's no more important than anyone else, certainly not the groom!

It is heracy you speak! Everyone knows that the groom is irrelevant, aside from making sure that his appearance won't embarrass you. Brides are the ones who have dreamed of their wedding, written journal entries about it, planned it out long before the groom ever came into the picture, absolutely MUST have perfection, and can't believe that their wedding date is not marked on all of the calendars of the world.

Yes, I've known brides (or bride wanna-bes) who fit one or all of those descriptions above.

My friend Blake was engaged to a girl who had planned not just her wedding, but her life, back when she was 15 or so. If anything got thrown off of schedule, she would freak out, throw things, beat the ####### out of him (she was a big girl), or whatever. She used her "plan" as justification for her plan. "Why must the engagement ring be exactly one 2 carat diamond?" "Because that's what it says in my ideal life planner."

Her plan was completely independent of who might be around at that time. She happened to be with Blake at that time, so Blake was the one who HAD to propose to her on the day that was listed in her journal. (I'm not making this up) She had their wedding date planned, where they would honeymoon and for how many days. She had Blake's career planned for him, even though it wasn't what he actually did for a living. She had planned her career back when she was 15 and had followed that plan. She couldn't understand why Blake was reluctant to follow the career plan that SHE had created for her nameless, faceless groom 15 years ago.

Needless to say, he eventually dumped her. That REALLY threw her over the edge because now her entire timeline was off and could never be recovered. She tried to keep his bikes and other personal items as "payment" for destroying her life and corrupting her life plan.

I think he was a saint for sticking around as long as he did !!! She is never ever going to get another guy so she may as well throw away the journal and enter the convent...

[Krikit 1,165]

With that in mind I'm strongly considering having my other little sis, who'll be 10 when I'm married, as a bridesmaid, just so she can have the thrill of getting to wear a lovely dress and stand up with me And of course, when you're that young, you don't have to do a thing! Just stand there and look cute. I wasn't going to have any bridesmaids as it's going to be a very informal affair, but having her as one may be fun.

Yes, have your little sis as a bridesmaid! She'll get to have the same memories!

Bridesmaids aren't the ones you have to worry about - it is the mother of the groom! At our wedding, his mother insisted she did not want her hair done and she wore it half up and half down tied with a scrunci - ugh!!

It is heracy you speak! Everyone knows that the groom is irrelevant, aside from making sure that his appearance won't embarrass you. Brides are the ones who have dreamed of their wedding, written journal entries about it, planned it out long before the groom ever came into the picture, absolutely MUST have perfection, and can't believe that their wedding date is not marked on all of the calendars of the world.

Yes, I've known brides (or bride wanna-bes) who fit one or all of those descriptions above.

My friend Blake was engaged to a girl who had planned not just her wedding, but her life, back when she was 15 or so. If anything got thrown off of schedule, she would freak out, throw things, beat the ####### out of him (she was a big girl), or whatever. She used her "plan" as justification for her plan. "Why must the engagement ring be exactly one 2 carat diamond?" "Because that's what it says in my ideal life planner."

Her plan was completely independent of who might be around at that time. She happened to be with Blake at that time, so Blake was the one who HAD to propose to her on the day that was listed in her journal. (I'm not making this up) She had their wedding date planned, where they would honeymoon and for how many days. She had Blake's career planned for him, even though it wasn't what he actually did for a living. She had planned her career back when she was 15 and had followed that plan. She couldn't understand why Blake was reluctant to follow the career plan that SHE had created for her nameless, faceless groom 15 years ago.

Needless to say, he eventually dumped her. That REALLY threw her over the edge because now her entire timeline was off and could never be recovered. She tried to keep his bikes and other personal items as "payment" for destroying her life and corrupting her life plan.

[Ban Hammer 13,651]

Needless to say, he eventually dumped her. That REALLY threw her over the edge because now her entire timeline was off and could never be recovered. She tried to keep his bikes and other personal items as "payment" for destroying her life and corrupting her life plan.

she's a control freak.

[PlatyPius 5]

Needless to say, he eventually dumped her. That REALLY threw her over the edge because now her entire timeline was off and could never be recovered. She tried to keep his bikes and other personal items as "payment" for destroying her life and corrupting her life plan.

she's a control freak.

Yes.

If she were a member here, I bet she'd have her topics closed all of the time when they didn't go how her journal said they should/would.....

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Platy,

Wow, that's some story. Thx for sharing!

[PlatyPius 5]

What's sad is, he really DID try. Too much, in "our" (his friends) opinion. He was with her for 3 years. It was his first real relationship. He was 30 at the time.

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Poor guy.

Moral of the story: Beware of chicks with journals (and myspace pages lol)

[Ban Hammer 13,651]

Needless to say, he eventually dumped her. That REALLY threw her over the edge because now her entire timeline was off and could never be recovered. She tried to keep his bikes and other personal items as "payment" for destroying her life and corrupting her life plan.

she's a control freak.

Yes.

If she were a member here, I bet she'd have her topics closed all of the time when they didn't go how her journal said they should/would.....

maybe she's already here

What's sad is, he really DID try. Too much, in "our" (his friends) opinion. He was with her for 3 years. It was his first real relationship. He was 30 at the time.

how old was she when this started?

[PlatyPius 5]

Needless to say, he eventually dumped her. That REALLY threw her over the edge because now her entire timeline was off and could never be recovered. She tried to keep his bikes and other personal items as "payment" for destroying her life and corrupting her life plan.

she's a control freak.

Yes.

If she were a member here, I bet she'd have her topics closed all of the time when they didn't go how her journal said they should/would.....

maybe she's already here

What's sad is, he really DID try. Too much, in "our" (his friends) opinion. He was with her for 3 years. It was his first real relationship. He was 30 at the time.

how old was she when this started?

I think she was 27 and Blake was 30. Not sure about that, but it should be close.

[Ban Hammer 13,651]

What's sad is, he really DID try. Too much, in "our" (his friends) opinion. He was with her for 3 years. It was his first real relationship. He was 30 at the time.

how old was she when this started?

I think she was 27 and Blake was 30. Not sure about that, but it should be close.

a bit old to be working off of a plan made over a decade ago at 15.......what a weirdo!

[Alex & Rachel 78]

That story is hilarious - but also very, very scary! Their age isn't really surprising. She'd be especially crazy after 12 years of planning!

I really feel sorry for people who get stuck in an age mentality. I know I've experienced so much since I was 15 and having just gone with the flow. It's good to have a few goals in life, but there's also nothing ever wrong with changing them.

[PlatyPius 5]

What's sad is, he really DID try. Too much, in "our" (his friends) opinion. He was with her for 3 years. It was his first real relationship. He was 30 at the time.

how old was she when this started?

I think she was 27 and Blake was 30. Not sure about that, but it should be close.

a bit old to be working off of a plan made over a decade ago at 15.......what a weirdo!

Monica was definitely a piece of work.

Her Dad was the sheriff of her hometown. She was used to getting whatever she wanted. Blake had some issues with the "hometown police" until he moved back to Indianapolis. The police also showed up at Monica's house and removed all items that "Mom and Dad" had bought for Blake. Nothing came of his reports and pictures of bruises, cuts, etc either.

Part of her plan also included her and Husband X retiring to Florida and living near whatever relatives might still be alive down there. They would have a house on the beach, 3 adult children (1 boy and 2 girls), 2 cars, and a net worth of at least 2 million dollars. When I say this chick planned, I mean PLANNED. She everything planned out. EVERYthing.

[tmma 467]

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I wouldn't do this sounds kinda catty to me. Would you?

No.

Sounds catty to me too.

What also sounds catty [to me] is selecting bridesmaid worthiness based on looks rather than their investment to you as your friend...at least the contract people are getting it "out in the open" by letting their " friends" know the truth of what is expected of them in the looks department. You did it in a sort of sneaky way ....

I just told everyone we drew names since our group of friends is so large we thought it was the only way to be fair. No one cared

also-what if one of your friends wasn't alittle ....uhm....chunky? How would you feel if that good friend didn't pick you because you were trying to lose weight and your size would not look good on her photographs, and she didn't want to be " looking at bad photographs for the rest of her life".

No doubt-your wedding-your pick-but to me, there is no denying that your comments and choice of phrase does make you sound incredibly shallow, and before you ask " what's it got to do with you?"...you posted the topic, and your opinion for interpretation-hereby inviting varying POV.

Edited February 5, 2008 by tmma

[Empress of Groovy 373]

Needless to say, he eventually dumped her. That REALLY threw her over the edge because now her entire timeline was off and could never be recovered. She tried to keep his bikes and other personal items as "payment" for destroying her life and corrupting her life plan.

she's a control freak.

That's putting it mildly!