Pre-nups for bridesmaids

[Alex & Rachel 78]

I feel really lucky that I've never been a bridesmaid despite my stunning looks and sense of style.

joyce you would have been my #1 pick if I knew you then. *sigh* maybe we can photoshop you into the pics?

wow, i disagree sister amber.....with that helmet head, sister joyce, in the pix..it take all the focus off of you, the bride

[Amby 490]

I feel really lucky that I've never been a bridesmaid despite my stunning looks and sense of style.

joyce you would have been my #1 pick if I knew you then. *sigh* maybe we can photoshop you into the pics?

wow, i disagree sister amber.....with that helmet head, sister joyce, in the pix..it take all the focus off of you, the bride

dean you do make a very good point...joyce you're out sorry

[msu17 0]

I can't believe that brides get P.Oed at their best friends getting pregnant... Ok, if my maid of honor gained 100Lb, I might be irked, but if she was 8 months pregnant at the wedding, I'd be so happy for her. I dunno, I think in general people on VJ tend to be more laid back than the average bride since we appreciate the whole point of a wedding more after being apart for so long. Not every other bride, but most of them.

Fan for joyce being a bridesmaid! DO IT!!!!!

[jundp 191]

You won't get me to pay thousands of dollars for a dress I'll wear once, much less for a cake.

You wear cake?

I think that is the wedding night...

booo Neil just thought I was crazy he didn't object to it. He just kept laughing at me for caring that much. It was our day though I think everyone should be allowed to be selfish on their wedding day

It was your wedding day. You should be allowed to do what you want. Don't let the haters get you down!

Although I personally couldn't do it, I agree with the Master here.

Agreed. I couldn't do it (but then all my friends are stunning, of course) but I appreciate your candor, Amber It seems a tad shallow to me, but it was your day!

I am only having my kids and my bff from Germany so it doesn't matter. We'll be gorgeous and our happiness will shine I think. Besides, we'll all be in medieval garb anyway, so even if we were butt ugly no one would care!

[Ban Hammer 13,651]

I am only having my kids and my bff from Germany so it doesn't matter. We'll be gorgeous and our happiness will shine I think. Besides, we'll all be in medieval garb anyway, so even if we were butt ugly no one would care!

and if they don't like it, you probably have a sword or two anyways

[Fandango 1,440]

booo Neil just thought I was crazy he didn't object to it. He just kept laughing at me for caring that much. It was our day though I think everyone should be allowed to be selfish on their wedding day

It was your wedding day. You should be allowed to do what you want. Don't let the haters get you down!

I don't think anyone's 'hatin' per se, but I think several people are just shocked. I personally couldn't care less what Amber does, but for the sake of conversation, I find it a really crappy thing to do to a 'friend'.

I don't understand why a wedding day brings out some really strange stuff in people. I see it all the time on Bridezillas....'IT'S MY DAY DAMNIT!' they all say, but does that mean you have to wear a sash and tiara for a month? lolz....

My BFF is personally stunning, mind you..but even if she weren't, the woman she is inside is so beautiful that I would be honored for her to stand by my side sharing one of the biggest days of my life. Our friendship goes beyond the superficial!

Sorry if this offends, Amber...just bein honest, toots!

[sj5 4]

Bridesmaids may soon be forced to sign contracts agreeing not to put on weight or get pregnant before the wedding.

One in five brides-to-be is so concerned that her bridesmaids might let her down that she would ask them to sign a "pre-nuptial agreement", according to a new poll.

And nearly half said they would sack a bridesmaid who failed to stick to the rules.

The survey of 1,000 women, commissioned by You & Your Wedding magazine, asked women which clauses they would put in their contract.

It found that respondents' biggest gripes were with bridesmaids who put on weight, became pregnant or changed their hairstyles before the big day.

Suggested clauses included one saying bridesmaids should not consume more than 10 units of alcohol or make advances towards "inappropriate male guests" - or the groom.

Many women who had already married reported stories of their bridesmaids letting them down on their big day.

One woman said her maid-of-honour left her dress at a service station on the way to the wedding after deciding she didn't like it, while another revealed a bridesmaid had left 30 invitations unsent in her desk drawer.

Colette Harris, editor of You & Your Wedding magazine, said: "Planning weddings can be a stressful time for brides and while our contract is meant to be tongue-in-cheek, the survey demonstrates that issues with bridesmaids are of concern to many readers.

"Perhaps official contracts are the way forward for brides struggling to keep the peace."

http://www.ananova.com/news/story/sm_2713095.html?menu=

I wouldn't do this sounds kinda catty to me. Would you?

[britty 1]

My wedding was so important in the sense that I was getting married to the love of my life, but the wedding day itself was certainly not more important than my two best friends (my bridesmaids). We chose their strapless floor length deep pink dresses together and had a ball trying on different things in the store. They looked absolutely beautiful and had their hair and make-up the way they wanted. They cried throughout the whole ceremony as they were so happy to see me so happy. I'm welling up now just thinking about it !!

Pre-nups for bridesmaids is just madness. I did hear of a bride (clearly mental) that asked her maid of honor if she would consider getting a breast reduction so all the bridesmaids would like identical. What a weirdo.

[Dr. Obvious 49]

Save yourself the trouble and don't have bridesmaids?

[Converse34 1]

Bridesmaids aren't the ones you have to worry about - it is the mother of the groom! At our wedding, his mother insisted she did not want her hair done and she wore it half up and half down tied with a scrunci - ugh!!

Edited February 5, 2008 by Converse34

[Emancipation 2]

meh.. i've done it both with bridesmaids and without..

It was nice to have "the gals" together.. but honestly.. how much "quality time" do you really have with them on your wedding day anyway?

The 2nd time around I opted for no bridesmaids.. saved a bundle

[Alex & Rachel 78]

Bridesmaids aren't the ones you have to worry about - it is the mother of the groom! At our wedding, his mother insisted she did not want her hair done and she wore it half up and half down tied with a scrunci - ugh!!

Forget the mother of the groom, what about the mother of the bride?!

Although really, why would you care how someone's hair was done?...

I think if someone wears something inappropriate to a wedding, the joke's on them, whether it's jeans to a formal wedding or a lady wearing a white dress similar to the bride's!

And I really dislike the 'it's MY day' mentality. It's not your day. It's the groom's day, it's also your parents' day, and your family and friends' day, too. If you concentrate on having a good time and not stressing over little details, then you're going to enjoy yourself a lot more and thus everyone around you is going to have a more fun time, too. A bride (or groom!) who's fretting and whining is going to put everyone else on edge and cause everyone else to make more mistakes!

Okay, so the bride is the only one who gets to wear a huge fancy white dress (if she chooses) but other than that she's no more important than anyone else, certainly not the groom!

[Converse34 1]

Bridesmaids aren't the ones you have to worry about - it is the mother of the groom! At our wedding, his mother insisted she did not want her hair done and she wore it half up and half down tied with a scrunci - ugh!!

Forget the mother of the groom, what about the mother of the bride?!

Although really, why would you care how someone's hair was done?...

Mother of the Bride you can control. I didn't care how it was done, I just thought it would be nice if it looked like she had made some kind of effort. She wore her hair like she was going to the gym! It never ended up being a big deal, but I don't think she realized the type of effort people make for weddings (at least in my family).

[Alex & Rachel 78]

Ah, I can understand that.

Still not convinced on the mother front, though...mine is pretty stubborn

[PlatyPius 5]

Forget the mother of the groom, what about the mother of the bride?!

Although really, why would you care how someone's hair was done?...

I think if someone wears something inappropriate to a wedding, the joke's on them, whether it's jeans to a formal wedding or a lady wearing a white dress similar to the bride's!

And I really dislike the 'it's MY day' mentality. It's not your day. It's the groom's day, it's also your parents' day, and your family and friends' day, too. If you concentrate on having a good time and not stressing over little details, then you're going to enjoy yourself a lot more and thus everyone around you is going to have a more fun time, too. A bride (or groom!) who's fretting and whining is going to put everyone else on edge and cause everyone else to make more mistakes!

Okay, so the bride is the only one who gets to wear a huge fancy white dress (if she chooses) but other than that she's no more important than anyone else, certainly not the groom!

It is heracy you speak! Everyone knows that the groom is irrelevant, aside from making sure that his appearance won't embarrass you. Brides are the ones who have dreamed of their wedding, written journal entries about it, planned it out long before the groom ever came into the picture, absolutely MUST have perfection, and can't believe that their wedding date is not marked on all of the calendars of the world.

Yes, I've known brides (or bride wanna-bes) who fit one or all of those descriptions above.

My friend Blake was engaged to a girl who had planned not just her wedding, but her life, back when she was 15 or so. If anything got thrown off of schedule, she would freak out, throw things, beat the ####### out of him (she was a big girl), or whatever. She used her "plan" as justification for her plan. "Why must the engagement ring be exactly one 2 carat diamond?" "Because that's what it says in my ideal life planner."

Her plan was completely independent of who might be around at that time. She happened to be with Blake at that time, so Blake was the one who HAD to propose to her on the day that was listed in her journal. (I'm not making this up) She had their wedding date planned, where they would honeymoon and for how many days. She had Blake's career planned for him, even though it wasn't what he actually did for a living. She had planned her career back when she was 15 and had followed that plan. She couldn't understand why Blake was reluctant to follow the career plan that SHE had created for her nameless, faceless groom 15 years ago.

Needless to say, he eventually dumped her. That REALLY threw her over the edge because now her entire timeline was off and could never be recovered. She tried to keep his bikes and other personal items as "payment" for destroying her life and corrupting her life plan.