What is the best website for finding your soul mate

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

I believe it. I'll also tell you similarly absurd conversations can (and in my case, have) occurred with non-American women. It's not an American thing, it's a woman thing

Please!

Back before I was with my husband, back in the dark ages, I went out with a group of friends - one of them, a man, offered to walk me home. I invited said man in for coffee. He drank this coffee, we chatted, he went home - very cordial. The next time I saw him he was very cold. I asked our mutual friend what his deal was. I was told he "wasn't ready for a serious commitment". #######? I have coffee with this dude (who I was not even interested in) and he thinks I'm picking out china patterns and setting my pot to boil while I go back to the rabbit hatch?

Men are even more weird.

Oh yeah. Nothing will freak some men out more than the fear of (imaginary) commitment

[Ban Hammer 13,346]

well, I'm a dried up prune by now....

Very true my friend

Speaking of Soulmates, I was just reading that only 5% of marriages will make it to their 50th anniversary. Scaaaary!

Saludos,

Caro

i don't plan on being in that 5%

You never know, you might live til you're in your 90s.

Unless Nessa 'accidentally' pushes his wheelchair off a cliff.

no cliffs around here.

So THAT'S why you moved to Kansas!!

flatter than a pool table. i'm safe

[one...two...tree 2,762]

I met my husband on a website as well -- yes it was a dating website, but at the time, we both were not looking for a relationship, it happily found us.

I can understand why people view the way we met with skepticism. However, I don't care 'cause I found the love of my life.

Personally, I don't understand people who date but are not looking for a relationship.

Ok, well, maybe if you are just looking for strings free sex or someone to buy you dinner.

Not really. My parents first met in the 50's and they had gone on many dates with different people, even had a few 'steady' relationships. Both of them I'm sure hoped to find the person they would want to spend their life with, but looked at dating as getting to know different people and a lot of times they went out with groups of people. It was my dad's younger sister who introduced him to my mother. IMO, friends making pretty good match makers. Unfortunately, a lot of people nowadays just aren't that socialable...they don't really go out and meet many new people. Social networks lead to good friendships, which can lead to falling in love and finding a partner for life.

[no name 1]

well, I'm a dried up prune by now....

I don't need that but I'm quite sure you'll need this:

Edited February 5, 2008 by devilette

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

well, I'm a dried up prune by now....

I don't need that but I'm quite sure you'll need this:

[garya505 2]

At the end of my last date with an American woman (this was our first and last date):

ME: "Do you think you would you be interested in seeing me again?"

HER: "No, I don't think so."

ME: "So, I guess you don't think there's any chemistry with us, right?"

HER: "Oh, I think we have chemistry, I just think I'll fall in love with someone else."

I'm not making this up, I swear this was the actual conversation, word for word.

I believe it. I'll also tell you similarly absurd conversations can (and in my case, have) occurred with non-American women. It's not an American thing, it's a woman thing

Oh oh, the goddesses are coming for you now, in 1, 2, 3 ...

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That's ok. I have garlic.

[Trompe le Monde 1,107]

I am not a goddess, I am a trollslayer with super powers

[no name 1]

I am not a goddess, I am a trollslayer with super powers

Just so long as he doesn't try to buy you dinner now, missy!

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

:lol: good one, robin

[garya505 2]

I met my husband on a website as well -- yes it was a dating website, but at the time, we both were not looking for a relationship, it happily found us.

I can understand why people view the way we met with skepticism. However, I don't care 'cause I found the love of my life.

Personally, I don't understand people who date but are not looking for a relationship.

Ok, well, maybe if you are just looking for strings free sex or someone to buy you dinner.

Not really. My parents first met in the 50's and they had gone on many dates with different people, even had a few 'steady' relationships. Both of them I'm sure hoped to find the person they would want to spend their life with, but looked at dating as getting to know different people and a lot of times they went out with groups of people. It was my dad's younger sister who introduced him to my mother. IMO, friends making pretty good match makers. Unfortunately, a lot of people nowadays just aren't that socialable...they don't really go out and meet many new people. Social networks lead to good friendships, which can lead to falling in love and finding a partner for life.

Since I don't have a large social network and don't meet a lot of people that didn't work well for me. Sure it's easy for some to say just go out and do more things, but if you're not a big socializer that's easier said than done. So, I went looking for someone who wanted what I did and who has similar opinions about commitment, marriage, and family as I did. Didn't find her here, so I went there.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

I met my husband on a website as well -- yes it was a dating website, but at the time, we both were not looking for a relationship, it happily found us.

I can understand why people view the way we met with skepticism. However, I don't care 'cause I found the love of my life.

Personally, I don't understand people who date but are not looking for a relationship.

Ok, well, maybe if you are just looking for strings free sex or someone to buy you dinner.

Not really. My parents first met in the 50's and they had gone on many dates with different people, even had a few 'steady' relationships. Both of them I'm sure hoped to find the person they would want to spend their life with, but looked at dating as getting to know different people and a lot of times they went out with groups of people. It was my dad's younger sister who introduced him to my mother. IMO, friends making pretty good match makers. Unfortunately, a lot of people nowadays just aren't that socialable...they don't really go out and meet many new people. Social networks lead to good friendships, which can lead to falling in love and finding a partner for life.

Since I don't have a large social network and don't meet a lot of people that didn't work well for me. Sure it's easy for some to say just go out and do more things, but if you're not a big socializer that's easier said than done. So, I went looking for someone who wanted what I did and who has similar opinions about commitment, marriage, and family as I did. Didn't find her here, so I went there.

That's understandable...not everybody is that outgoing. I say, to each his own. So far, nobody has figured out the surest way to finding a partner for life so in a way it is kind of silly for anyone to declare one way superior to another. Some ways may be more prone to success than others, but that doesn't mean a couple who met using a marriage broker can't end up having a successful and fulfilling marriage.

Edited February 5, 2008 by Mister Fancypants

[Cassie 8]

I met my husband on a website as well -- yes it was a dating website, but at the time, we both were not looking for a relationship, it happily found us.

I can understand why people view the way we met with skepticism. However, I don't care 'cause I found the love of my life.

Personally, I don't understand people who date but are not looking for a relationship.

Ok, well, maybe if you are just looking for strings free sex or someone to buy you dinner.

Perhaps I need to explain myself just to set the record clear for you, since I was not "just looking for strings free sex or someone to buy {me} dinner".

We were members of a Christian dating website that had a chat feature along with the ability to post a profile of yourself. At the time of us meeting online, neither one of us were looking to date anyone, we just wanted to talk to like-minded people. That, and I was looking to meet people that lived a wee bit closer to me. I was not expecting to fall in love with someone from the US, but it happened. Neither one of us dated indiscriminately and I refused to accept his proposal until I had a chance to fly to the US and meet his family and friends -- I wanted to know what I was getting into before saying yes.

That's our courtship in a nutshell.

[Glen Charles 0]

I met my husband on a website as well -- yes it was a dating website, but at the time, we both were not looking for a relationship, it happily found us.

I can understand why people view the way we met with skepticism. However, I don't care 'cause I found the love of my life.

Personally, I don't understand people who date but are not looking for a relationship.

Ok, well, maybe if you are just looking for strings free sex or someone to buy you dinner.

Oh noes, I wasn't aware it was 1950 & I was supposed to get married straight out of high school! God forbid I think about college...and kids, well, I'm a dried up prune by now....

Not saying people ought to do any particular thing.

I just thought dating was a courtship ritual.

You can go out with guys and have fun. It's OK if you do that. It's not dating though, in my book.

I would hope that the guy isn't buying you dinner though, if you are just being friends.

Unbelievable....

You do not see dating as a part of courtship?

Yikes!

Would you care to expand on what else I'm doing wrong? You clearly have visions of how a wifey should be...

Hell, I don't know what you do.

I think our big difference here is what we see as the definition of the word "date".

If I went out on dates with a woman and it was decided by either of us, that a future relationship were impossible, then "dating" would cease. Lets say, for instance, that one of us were already in a committed married relationship or that the person reveals that she is a lesbian or a male transvestite. Then we could still be friends and do things together. But we wouldn't be "dating".

You seem to think that dating is just a way to get to know people, period.

I see it as a way to get to know whether or not a person has the potential to be in a romantic relationship with me. Since I don't plan on having a romantic relationship with married people, lesbians, or males, the dating would stop, and some other non-romantic relationship would begin. Maybe a good friendship.

I see that as a reason why I don't use the word "date" when I go to a movie with a male friend.

[Fandango 1,439]

Well, there you have it! I guess I'll go home and tell my wife our marriage is DOOMED because we didn't meet in the approved fashion!

Hi, defensive, party of one

When exactly did I say your marriage was doomed? And why does my opin that IMBs and specifically targeting a foreign country cos one has more buying power is creepy have any bearing on your marriage?

People need to stop looking for validation from outside sources.