AOS & EAD Feb. 2008 Filers

[neel06 0]

ours is a marriage based K-3 visa AOS. I was thinking it would be processed faster than others.......... guess i was wrong. :crying:

i am seeing people who filed in march getting greencards. Not fair

Some people on here have waited YEARS for their green cards.

You haven't even waited six months which is supposed to be the average wait time according to the USCIS.

I know there are people who have waited yearsssss..........but thats when something goes seriously wrong with the case. I am hoping thats not us or anyone else here. I was comparing my timeline with the average cases...... and I think I am allowed that. I bet when you were waiting for your case to be approved you were only monitoring the normal cases and not taking the cases which took years to be approved into account.

It is very easy to be patient and advise others when one is all done him/herself.

[carpe diem 2]

ours is a marriage based K-3 visa AOS. I was thinking it would be processed faster than others.......... guess i was wrong. :crying:

i am seeing people who filed in march getting greencards. Not fair

Some people on here have waited YEARS for their green cards.

You haven't even waited six months which is supposed to be the average wait time according to the USCIS.

I know there are people who have waited yearsssss..........but thats when something goes seriously wrong with the case. I am hoping thats not us or anyone else here. I was comparing my timeline with the average cases...... and I think I am allowed that. I bet when you were waiting for your case to be approved you were only monitoring the normal cases and not taking the cases which took years to be approved into account.

It is very easy to be patient and advise others when one is all done him/herself.

I know it's easy for me to tell you not to obsess and you're perfectly entitled to do so, also I know that this is the perfect place to vent and perhaps the only place where others understand the need to do so, but for your own sake, I ask you to try to chill. For what it's worth, I was very obsessed the first two weeks or so and checked about every 20 minutes to see if my check had cashed and was worried I didn't get a NOA although everybody else seemed to. Then at one point I just decided to stop worrying about it as it doesn't change anything-- and if I get my card a few months later than some others, so be it.

There are no indications that your application is headed the wrong way-- it's just not one of the super fast ones and you may have secretly hoped or expected it would be. Now get yourself away from the visa websites and do something fun with your spouse/family/friends or make plans to do so. Life is too short!

[Stillness 0]

It is very easy to tell yourself to not worry and relax...but I know for me at least it is not quite so easy to do.

Worrying and stressing too much will only drive you bonkers, but at the same time, it is a very important issue and certainly worthy of concern.

For myself, not hearing anything at all drives me up the wall, even more so because I know at this point there is nothing more I can do. My mind races to all the possible things that might be going wrong. This isn't particularly productive I admit, but at the same time I can't seem to help it.

Of course I realize compared to many my case has been moving very fast, we ourselves were very shocked we got an interview so soon, but that doesn't make the waiting any easier. My future with the person I love more than anything depends on this, how can I not be anxious?

That being said I try not to let myself get too freaked out (with varying degrees of success depending on the day). I'd say the people here should understand well the strain of waiting, and what is this forum for if not support from those in a similar circumstance? I can't think of a better place to vent.

[acouto07 0]

It is very easy to tell yourself to not worry and relax...but I know for me at least it is not quite so easy to do.

Worrying and stressing too much will only drive you bonkers, but at the same time, it is a very important issue and certainly worthy of concern.

For myself, not hearing anything at all drives me up the wall, even more so because I know at this point there is nothing more I can do. My mind races to all the possible things that might be going wrong. This isn't particularly productive I admit, but at the same time I can't seem to help it.

Of course I realize compared to many my case has been moving very fast, we ourselves were very shocked we got an interview so soon, but that doesn't make the waiting any easier. My future with the person I love more than anything depends on this, how can I not be anxious?

That being said I try not to let myself get too freaked out (with varying degrees of success depending on the day). I'd say the people here should understand well the strain of waiting, and what is this forum for if not support from those in a similar circumstance? I can't think of a better place to vent.

I agree 100%....

Also, I think it is a true shame that this process is as stressful and opaque as it is....one would think that the USCIS would have enough resources to make things a little more smooth (I know they are overstrained)....simple things, like the online case status....it is a nice idea, except it doesn't work for everyone....sometimes (often) it just adds to the stress....and the 1-800 line that is now known as the "misinformation line".....and the rumors that easier cases are processed before harder cases......all this after dishing out over USD1k in fees.....so it is more than reasonable to be frustrated with the process....this shouldn't be a guessing game and a free for all....

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

I know there are people who have waited yearsssss..........but thats when something goes seriously wrong with the case. I am hoping thats not us or anyone else here. I was comparing my timeline with the average cases...... and I think I am allowed that. I bet when you were waiting for your case to be approved you were only monitoring the normal cases and not taking the cases which took years to be approved into account.

It is very easy to be patient and advise others when one is all done him/herself.

Actually while I was waiting a MONTH for my NOA, I managed not whine or wallow in self-pity or moan about others who filed after me getting their biometrics etc before me.

[second stage 14]

Actually while I was waiting a MONTH for my NOA, I managed not whine or wallow in self-pity or moan about others who filed after me getting their biometrics etc before me.

so, are you going to police the forum now?

whining/wallowing is natural..esp when you have others who applied after you get approved..

If someone whines and wallows then, let it be..If you have anything to offer, then offer something constructive otherwise please don't infuriate members on VJ.

[soulprovider915 4]

Actually while I was waiting a MONTH for my NOA, I managed not whine or wallow in self-pity or moan about others who filed after me getting their biometrics etc before me.

so, are you going to police the forum now?

whining/wallowing is natural..esp when you have others who applied after you get approved..

If someone whines and wallows then, let it be..If you have anything to offer, then offer something constructive otherwise please don't infuriate members on VJ.

You saved me from writing something a little more "in your face" , but still within the bounds of this forum. Nice answer!

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Actually while I was waiting a MONTH for my NOA, I managed not whine or wallow in self-pity or moan about others who filed after me getting their biometrics etc before me.

so, are you going to police the forum now?

whining/wallowing is natural..esp when you have others who applied after you get approved..

If someone whines and wallows then, let it be..If you have anything to offer, then offer something constructive otherwise please don't infuriate members on VJ.

Not at all. Are you?

Please feel free to point out to where I complained about others whining or wallowing...

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

I offered a constructive comparison on the time specified by the USCIS to get a green card approval, and also illustrated the point by saying people took years to get their cards.

Your tough luck if you didn't find it constructive.

[soulprovider915 4]

I offered a constructive comparison on the time specified by the USCIS to get a green card approval, and also illustrated the point by saying people took years to get their cards.

Your tough luck if you didn't find it constructive.

Let me tell you something. You speak destructive criticism. Using the words like "whining" when self describing your situation and implying that someone else should follow your way of thinking is pretty insensitive. Choose your words carefully and use a little compassion when putting forth your opinion.

[carpe diem 2]

I know there are people who have waited yearsssss..........but thats when something goes seriously wrong with the case. I am hoping thats not us or anyone else here. I was comparing my timeline with the average cases...... and I think I am allowed that. I bet when you were waiting for your case to be approved you were only monitoring the normal cases and not taking the cases which took years to be approved into account.

It is very easy to be patient and advise others when one is all done him/herself.

Actually while I was waiting a MONTH for my NOA, I managed not whine or wallow in self-pity or moan about others who filed after me getting their biometrics etc before me.

JaEnglishGirl-- I remember a LOT of posts from you when you were waiting for your NOA and for your son's AP expressing your anxiety and impatience in one way or another, and some statements to the same effect in your signature, although you seem to have edited these out now, which of course you're perfectly entitled to do. I know there are some "whiny" posts of myself early in this thread when it took a bit longer for me to get my checks cashed and get my NOA, and I vividly recall checking my online bank account and this forum like a maniac and feeling frustrated when the applications of others seemed to go faster (until I forced myself to get a life again). It doesn't help anyone to hold yourself up as the gold standard, or to characterize other people's venting as "whining" or "wallowing in self-pity" -- and yes, you did that at least implicitly (Soulprovider's post explains why). There's also no need to be rude when someone takes issue with what you say (and I know you're going to ask me to point out to you where you did that so I'll respond to you that I refer to the last sentence in your 10:44 am post-- and yes I am aware that our opinions on what constitutes rudeness may differ). I do have to say though, and this is intended as a compliment, that I think you'd be a terrific lawyer-- maybe you already are!

To acouto and stillness-- my last post about trying to live your life while going through the process was written with the friendliest intentions, even if it may not have come across that way. To give some background, about two weeks ago, something really awful happened to an immediate family member (who is going to be ok but it will be a long process, I don't want to give details). Although it is difficult to maintain perspective when dealing with a seemingly arbitrary bureaucracy and your resulting sense of powerlessness, sometimes life throws something at you that forces you to do just that. Or you watch the news and see people who have just lost their children in an earthquake.

Of course, regardless of what's going on in the rest of the world, the immigration stuff is critically important to each of us, and even more so to those for whom it has been a while since the last milestone. And as I have said before, this is the best place to vent-- and sometimes that makes it better already. All I can say is that sometimes, when I feel frustrated or unhappy or mistreated, it seriously helps to just sit down, count my blessings, and remind myself that even if a lot of things are out of my hands, I can try to control how I respond. I know it's hard to do, and I don't do it often enough myself, but at least give it a try!

[chipsahoy 3]

Finally, my interview notice came.. It'll be on July 22.

[carpe diem 2]

Finally, my interview notice came.. It'll be on July 22.

Yay!!!! Congratulations, I'm so happy for you!

[Maintian 0]

Finally, my interview notice came.. It'll be on July 22.

Congratulations

[Leafgal 3]

Finally, my interview notice came.. It'll be on July 22.

That is great news, congrats.