COPING UP WITH SPOUSAL DIFFERENCES?

[David-and-Mae 15]

I am very sensitive and emotional and my husband is impatient, so whenever my husband would rub me the wrong way, I pout, become mute and work myself to death. That's how I get over petty misunderstandings and my husband couldn't stand it. I explained to him many times that that's how I like to deal with it but he said it's not healthy and normal. He said I am letting myself get so down and upset and it shouldn't be that way. What he would do is he would threaten me like "I feel like leaving because I cannot stand your silence and pouting anymore" or "You have at least 5 minutes to get over it or I'm leaving". He can get me so scared so I'd start talking and tell him what upset me. He would apologize for it and tell me that he will never hurt my feelings intentionally or purposely. Which is true because thinking about all our misunderstandings in the past, it was never me who caused him to be pissed and upset, it just so happen that I was at the wrong time when I butt in. So as a result he took it out on me (sometimes). It's all about love, patience, respect, understanding and open communication in coping up with differences. One needs to be neutral when the other is active/aggressive. It's been 3 weeks since we had our last misunderstanding... and I'm telling you, that last one was a little scary because my husband was about to walk out and drive around until I'm ready to talk about it.

Never end the day without reconciliation... And having said that, making love is always the nicest way to make up.

--Mae

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WEAR A THONG AND TEASE HIM :blush:

:yes:

[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

I am very sensitive and emotional and my husband is impatient, so whenever my husband would rub me the wrong way, I pout, become mute and work myself to death. That's how I get over petty misunderstandings and my husband couldn't stand it. I explained to him many times that that's how I like to deal with it but he said it's not healthy and normal. He said I am letting myself get so down and upset and it shouldn't be that way. What he would do is he would threaten me like "I feel like leaving because I cannot stand your silence and pouting anymore" or "You have at least 5 minutes to get over it or I'm leaving". He can get me so scared so I'd start talking and tell him what upset me. He would apologize for it and tell me that he will never hurt my feelings intentionally or purposely. Which is true because thinking about all our misunderstandings in the past, it was never me who caused him to be pissed and upset, it just so happen that I was at the wrong time when I butt in. So as a result he took it out on me (sometimes). It's all about love, patience, respect, understanding and open communication in coping up with differences. One needs to be neutral when the other is active/aggressive. It's been 3 weeks since we had our last misunderstanding... and I'm telling you, that last one was a little scary because my husband was about to walk out and drive around until I'm ready to talk about it.

Never end the day without reconciliation... And having said that, making love is always the nicest way to make up.

--Mae

This is also called the break-up just to make-up syndrome.

Edited February 21, 2008 by CarolsMarc

[✿Ice Rain✿ 0]

I am very sensitive and emotional and my husband is impatient, so whenever my husband would rub me the wrong way, I pout, become mute and work myself to death. That's how I get over petty misunderstandings and my husband couldn't stand it. I explained to him many times that that's how I like to deal with it but he said it's not healthy and normal. He said I am letting myself get so down and upset and it shouldn't be that way. What he would do is he would threaten me like "I feel like leaving because I cannot stand your silence and pouting anymore" or "You have at least 5 minutes to get over it or I'm leaving". He can get me so scared so I'd start talking and tell him what upset me. He would apologize for it and tell me that he will never hurt my feelings intentionally or purposely. Which is true because thinking about all our misunderstandings in the past, it was never me who caused him to be pissed and upset, it just so happen that I was at the wrong time when I butt in. So as a result he took it out on me (sometimes). It's all about love, patience, respect, understanding and open communication in coping up with differences. One needs to be neutral when the other is active/aggressive. It's been 3 weeks since we had our last misunderstanding... and I'm telling you, that last one was a little scary because my husband was about to walk out and drive around until I'm ready to talk about it.

Never end the day without reconciliation... And having said that, making love is always the nicest way to make up.

--Mae

IM STRONGLY EMOTIONAL AND SENSITIVE TOO.. ( I THINK MOST FIL GIRLS ARE) BUT WITH THAT, IM REALLY TRYING TO WORK ON "CONTROLLING" WITH MY EMOTIONS.. IM SO THANKFUL THAT MY HUSBAND IS REALLY SO PATIENT AND UNDERSTANDING TO ME ESPECIALLY WHEN IM IN MY "BAD MOOD"...

THEN AFTERWARDS, I'VE REALIZED IM REALLY BEING A BRAT, AND SO I WILL END UP FLIRTING MY HUSBAND , MASSAGING HIM AND MAKING TWEETUMS.. AND HE REALLY LIKES IT AND FORGET AND FORGIVE ME EASILY... I'VE LEARNED FROM HIM THE IMPORTANCE OF "CONTROLLING" AND "AS MUCH AS I CAN, BE CALM..." (L)

[almaty 19]

MAKING TWEETUMS

hmmmmmmmmmmmmm

[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

MAKING TWEETUMS

hmmmmmmmmmmmmm

Knock....knock...knockin on heavens door

[✿Ice Rain✿ 0]

MAKING TWEETUMS

hmmmmmmmmmmmmm

Knock....knock...knockin on heavens door

HMMMM....... TWEETUMS.... MEANING FLIRTING WITH HIM INNOCENTLY BUT SUPER CUTIE AND SEXIE, THAT HE WONT RESIST, HEHEHE :lol:

[JVKn'CVO 11]

*Thinks to herself* mmm so by parading in a thong...I can be always right? mmmm *Continues to think to herself* *rubs hands together- Burns' style*

Saludos,

Caro

[Ban Hammer 13,334]

*Thinks to herself* mmm so by parading in a thong...I can be always right? mmmm *Continues to think to herself* *rubs hands together- Burns' style*

Saludos,

Caro

a french maid outfit works better.

[Nessa 23]

*Thinks to herself* mmm so by parading in a thong...I can be always right? mmmm *Continues to think to herself* *rubs hands together- Burns' style*

Saludos,

Caro

It can't hurt to try it.

[JVKn'CVO 11]

*Thinks to herself* mmm so by parading in a thong...I can be always right? mmmm *Continues to think to herself* *rubs hands together- Burns' style*

Saludos,

Caro

a french maid outfit works better.

but I bet not as good as hitting him with a pillow until he surrenders!

Saludos,

Caro

[Ban Hammer 13,334]

*Thinks to herself* mmm so by parading in a thong...I can be always right? mmmm *Continues to think to herself* *rubs hands together- Burns' style*

Saludos,

Caro

a french maid outfit works better.

but I bet not as good as hitting him with a pillow until he surrenders!

Saludos,

Caro

but with my idea you get to go shopping

[JVKn'CVO 11]

*Thinks to herself* mmm so by parading in a thong...I can be always right? mmmm *Continues to think to herself* *rubs hands together- Burns' style*

Saludos,

Caro

a french maid outfit works better.

but I bet not as good as hitting him with a pillow until he surrenders!

Saludos,

Caro

but with my idea you get to go shopping

Saludos,

Caro

[✿Ice Rain✿ 0]

[David-and-Mae 15]

I am very sensitive and emotional and my husband is impatient, so whenever my husband would rub me the wrong way, I pout, become mute and work myself to death. That's how I get over petty misunderstandings and my husband couldn't stand it. I explained to him many times that that's how I like to deal with it but he said it's not healthy and normal. He said I am letting myself get so down and upset and it shouldn't be that way. What he would do is he would threaten me like "I feel like leaving because I cannot stand your silence and pouting anymore" or "You have at least 5 minutes to get over it or I'm leaving". He can get me so scared so I'd start talking and tell him what upset me. He would apologize for it and tell me that he will never hurt my feelings intentionally or purposely. Which is true because thinking about all our misunderstandings in the past, it was never me who caused him to be pissed and upset, it just so happen that I was at the wrong time when I butt in. So as a result he took it out on me (sometimes). It's all about love, patience, respect, understanding and open communication in coping up with differences. One needs to be neutral when the other is active/aggressive. It's been 3 weeks since we had our last misunderstanding... and I'm telling you, that last one was a little scary because my husband was about to walk out and drive around until I'm ready to talk about it.

Never end the day without reconciliation... And having said that, making love is always the nicest way to make up.

--Mae

This is also called the break-up just to make-up syndrome.

Seriously, after "making up", he would tease me that I don't have to get both of us too upset just to be f###ed... Did I mention above that he's a meanie too ?