What Do I Do???????????

[rebeccajo 14]

What I want to know is what the Family Unity Section being part of the Immigration Reform Bill means?

[Fandango 1,440]

Why does it have to be like this? This up and down roller coaster marry or don't marry make decisions in an instant type thing? I don't deal with this stuff well...it stresses me out and I get nervous and upset. This whole thing I think is going to kill me.

Why? Well, I look at it this way: We have to go thru this chit now cos it's gonna be so wonderful when they get here...kinda like nothing good comes easy, ya know? And no use frettin over it, cos it is what it is...don't get nervous or upset, melissa, just take a deep breath & picture the man you love. He's worth this...isn't he?

[Traviesa 0]

What I want to know is what the Family Unity Section being part of the Immigration Reform Bill means?

I don't know in its entirety-I only know what it says about Waivers. It means those who have an outstanding I-130 on the date the bill passes into law will no longer have to file an I-601 at the interview for previous illegal presence.

[Fandango 1,440]

Why does it have to be like this? This up and down roller coaster marry or don't marry make decisions in an instant type thing? I don't deal with this stuff well...it stresses me out and I get nervous and upset. This whole thing I think is going to kill me.

Pros...

We wouldn't have to file the I-601

We would be married

Cons...

We would have to start all over again with the I-130

We would have to wait probably 9 months for an interview

We would still have to file the I-212

I would be eloping-something I do not want to do

We would spend the first year (at least) of our marriage separate

This must have been posted while I was still typing...

So what exactly are these benefits then?

We wouldn't have to file the I-601 waiver...for a lot of couples this is good since that means they get the Visa instantly! For us, it would mean we would only file one waiver instead of two-which leads to a higher chance of success and (possibly) a shorter wait time for waiver approval.

That needs to be seriously put above the con of not wanting to elope imo

[Traviesa 0]

Why does it have to be like this? This up and down roller coaster marry or don't marry make decisions in an instant type thing? I don't deal with this stuff well...it stresses me out and I get nervous and upset. This whole thing I think is going to kill me.

Why? Well, I look at it this way: We have to go thru this chit now cos it's gonna be so wonderful when they get here...kinda like nothing good comes easy, ya know? And no use frettin over it, cos it is what it is...don't get nervous or upset, melissa, just take a deep breath & picture the man you love. He's worth this...isn't he?

YES he is!!! He's the first one I called and of course the first words out of his mouth were ok come on, let's get married. But of course he leaves the decision making to me...not always a good idea but I think I'm going to make a good decision on this one...

Why does it have to be like this? This up and down roller coaster marry or don't marry make decisions in an instant type thing? I don't deal with this stuff well...it stresses me out and I get nervous and upset. This whole thing I think is going to kill me.

Pros...

We wouldn't have to file the I-601

We would be married

Cons...

We would have to start all over again with the I-130

We would have to wait probably 9 months for an interview

We would still have to file the I-212

I would be eloping-something I do not want to do

We would spend the first year (at least) of our marriage separate

This must have been posted while I was still typing...

So what exactly are these benefits then?

We wouldn't have to file the I-601 waiver...for a lot of couples this is good since that means they get the Visa instantly! For us, it would mean we would only file one waiver instead of two-which leads to a higher chance of success and (possibly) a shorter wait time for waiver approval.

That needs to be seriously put above the con of not wanting to elope imo

Thing is...there already is a good chance of success...something like 95% of the Waivers get approved. It may bump that up to about 98% chance-of course I'm just guessing here-but it's not material. Like I feel confident about our Waivers already.

[Fandango 1,440]

Why does it have to be like this? This up and down roller coaster marry or don't marry make decisions in an instant type thing? I don't deal with this stuff well...it stresses me out and I get nervous and upset. This whole thing I think is going to kill me.

Why? Well, I look at it this way: We have to go thru this chit now cos it's gonna be so wonderful when they get here...kinda like nothing good comes easy, ya know? And no use frettin over it, cos it is what it is...don't get nervous or upset, melissa, just take a deep breath & picture the man you love. He's worth this...isn't he?

YES he is!!! He's the first one I called and of course the first words out of his mouth were ok come on, let's get married. But of course he leaves the decision making to me...not always a good idea but I think I'm going to make a good decision on this one...

Why does it have to be like this? This up and down roller coaster marry or don't marry make decisions in an instant type thing? I don't deal with this stuff well...it stresses me out and I get nervous and upset. This whole thing I think is going to kill me.

Pros...

We wouldn't have to file the I-601

We would be married

Cons...

We would have to start all over again with the I-130

We would have to wait probably 9 months for an interview

We would still have to file the I-212

I would be eloping-something I do not want to do

We would spend the first year (at least) of our marriage separate

This must have been posted while I was still typing...

So what exactly are these benefits then?

We wouldn't have to file the I-601 waiver...for a lot of couples this is good since that means they get the Visa instantly! For us, it would mean we would only file one waiver instead of two-which leads to a higher chance of success and (possibly) a shorter wait time for waiver approval.

That needs to be seriously put above the con of not wanting to elope imo

Thing is...there already is a good chance of success...something like 95% of the Waivers get approved. It may bump that up to about 98% chance-of course I'm just guessing here-but it's not material. Like I feel confident about our Waivers already.

I can sense that you've made your choice already

[Traviesa 0]

Lisa, I think I have...it didn't sound good to me to begin with. I am always just afraid of making a snap decision. I like to consider it for a while and get outside opinions on it first. This thread was actually really helpful-my pros and cons list helped me see it.

[desert_fox 32]

The last I heard, you had already been thru the 129F fiance, and the 601 waiver which ended up with a 10 year ban. How is getting married going to change any of this. Got me confused. Find out more info and god luck.

[Traviesa 0]

The last I heard, you had already been thru the 129F fiance, and the 601 waiver which ended up with a 10 year ban. How is getting married going to change any of this. Got me confused. Find out more info and god luck.

No, we never filed a Waiver...we had a 3 year punishment because of a certain line of inadmissibility that had nothing to do with illegal presence. We never actually got to the Waiver part-yet. Still would have to await the Advisory Opinion to go through.

[LaL 418]

my hubby always says... the more choices you have, the more options you have to get upset and uptight about. i know throwing this "opportunity" into the mix looks like it may have some benefits for you, but do yourself a favor and keep yourself sane... if you really know in your heart what you want to do, keep on that path. too many "opprtunities" lead to too many what if i did that, etc.... just follow what is best for you.

sounds funny coming from me... since we always have some crazy "what if" moments, be it jobs, immigrations... etc.

Laura

Edited April 25, 2006 by lal_brandow

[Traviesa 0]

Here's sort of our timeline so far in case anyone else is confused:

August, 2005-filed I-129F

September, 2005-I-129F approved

October, 2005-Ciudad Juarez received packet

November, 2005-Medical gone bad and interview-supposed to file the I-212 and I-601 waivers, but not given the opportunity, instead given a 3 year punishment

December, 2005-Filed Advisory Opinion because of incorrect judgment of Consular Officer

now-still waiting on the Advisory Opinion to go through

[Mr. Big Dog 10,747]

Here's my thoughts on your lawyer's thoughts:

I remember vividly that people close to the immigration process (attorneys and former USCIS employees) believed back in 2003 when I looked into what path to pursue for Nani's immigration that an immigration reform bill is coming. They told folks to hang tight as an equivalent of the 2000/2001 LIFE Act provisions was just around the corner. That was 2.5 - 3 years ago.

Do what feels right to you and Javier. Don't do what a lawyer tells you is the opportune thing to do because of what might happen. The lawyer has NOTHING vested in your future. Absolutely nothing.

[Kajikit 65]

You know what MissLiss... if I was you I'd be seriously considering starting married life in Mexico and forget about all this immigration cr@p for a few years...

[Traviesa 0]

You know what MissLiss... if I was you I'd be seriously considering starting married life in Mexico and forget about all this immigration cr@p for a few years...

Unfortunately, that decision is not coming easily to me as it would break my mom's heart and it would be a permanent move for me.

[iceyspots 0]

Hope everything works out and you make the best decision