What Do I Do???????????

[Traviesa 0]

I just got an e-mail from our attorney. Evidently, the Family Unity section is now part of the immigration reform bill. She tells me I need to make plans to get married to Javier so that we will benefit from this, if it passes, then we would file the I-130 right away, before the Pres. signs it. Thing is, I'm not so sure I want to do that! When I get married I don't want it to be for that!!!! On the other hand, it would provide a small amount of relief to our case. I need input-any thoughts???

[Fandango 1,440]

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[Traviesa 0]

Lisa, what does that mean? I'm freaking out here because that's a decision I wasn't prepared to make right now.

[Fandango 1,440]

YOu love him, he loves you....it might not be exactly how you've dreamed it'll be...but it's the man of your dreams!

If there's a way I could get David here sooner by getting married tomorrow, I'd do it!

[Traviesa 0]

It won't necessarily be sooner-we would have to go through the entire I-130 process, plus wait for an interview date in Juarez...it will actually be a longer process.

[KarenCee 3]

I have to agree with you Lisa...how much longer are you prepared to wait Melissa? Just a thought hon...

[almaty 19]

melissa...i think you should not marry for that reason, who knows what the final outcome will be..have the wedding you dreamed of...( my 2 cents)

you know i respect you and javier and have known you for over a year.,...think with your head and heart...the answer is inside you..not here from others.. your amigo dean

[Jenn! 918]

A lot of people here get married before they would have if immigration issued weren't involved. If you're planning to get married anyway, there's no reason to think that you're getting married "just for immigration" if you were to take advantage of something that will make your process easier and your reunificaation more speedy.

JMO.

Good luck in whatever decision you make!

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So was that "Here Comes the Bride"???

[Traviesa 0]

Sorry I should have said it won't make the process faster...it will extend the length of time.

[gimygirl 0]

if it extends the length of time AND it would not be the wedding you have planned for .... it seems like a no brainer to me. why spend more time apart when you don't have to?

i guess like everything else ... make a pro's & con's list ... maybe we can help. what are the pro's and what are the con's at this point??

[Traviesa 0]

Pros...

We wouldn't have to file the I-601

We would be married

Cons...

We would have to start all over again with the I-130

We would have to wait probably 9 months for an interview

We would still have to file the I-212

I would be eloping-something I do not want to do

We would spend the first year (at least) of our marriage separate

[Fandango 1,440]

A lot of people here get married before they would have if immigration issued weren't involved. If you're planning to get married anyway, there's no reason to think that you're getting married "just for immigration" if you were to take advantage of something that will make your process easier and your reunificaation more speedy.

JMO.

Good luck in whatever decision you make!

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So was that "Here Comes the Bride"???

That or the death march...

KIDDING GUYS!!!!

Ita with you btw (no offense brother dean)...if you were getting married anyways (which i presume is why you're here)...then what's the diff? The gowns & flowers & stuff?

But I do agree with Bro Dean that only you should make your own choice...follow your heart....I know what *I* would do, but then again we're two different people!

[almaty 19]

Pros...

We wouldn't have to file the I-601

We would be married

Cons...

We would have to start all over again with the I-130

We would have to wait probably 9 months for an interview

We would still have to file the I-212

I would be eloping-something I do not want to do

We would spend the first year (at least) of our marriage separate

then sister melissa, i think you know the answer

[Fandango 1,440]

Pros...

We wouldn't have to file the I-601

We would be married

Cons...

We would have to start all over again with the I-130

We would have to wait probably 9 months for an interview

We would still have to file the I-212

I would be eloping-something I do not want to do

We would spend the first year (at least) of our marriage separate

This must have been posted while I was still typing...

So what exactly are these benefits then?

[Traviesa 0]

Why does it have to be like this? This up and down roller coaster marry or don't marry make decisions in an instant type thing? I don't deal with this stuff well...it stresses me out and I get nervous and upset. This whole thing I think is going to kill me.

Pros...

We wouldn't have to file the I-601

We would be married

Cons...

We would have to start all over again with the I-130

We would have to wait probably 9 months for an interview

We would still have to file the I-212

I would be eloping-something I do not want to do

We would spend the first year (at least) of our marriage separate

This must have been posted while I was still typing...

So what exactly are these benefits then?

We wouldn't have to file the I-601 waiver...for a lot of couples this is good since that means they get the Visa instantly! For us, it would mean we would only file one waiver instead of two-which leads to a higher chance of success and (possibly) a shorter wait time for waiver approval.