Desperation

[Joanna&Bobby 3]

Every time I drop my love off at the airport I feel like this. The last time 1 month ago was the worst. I couldn't calm down, standing there and looking at him walk through security... For the rest of the day I felt like nothing makes sense, life lost its flavour, nohing really maters, felt like DEPRESSION. For the next week I put myself to sleep just crying for hours. And I didn't have anyone to talk to- I live with one roomate and she works nights, so when I got home from work there was noone to talk to. That just made me feel more lonely...

A couple weeks later I am feeling better. Right now we're waiting for our interview date which should be in around 4 weeks.

I know you'll feel better, and soon you'll be together! This is a very good time to just get busy, maybe visit some websites and check out what kinds of decoration you want for your wedding, look for a location. When you're busy time goes faster!

Hope you feel better already after you've seen how many people replied to your post! You're not alone, there's a lot of us with similar experiences!

[psiprez 3]

My young girls didn't understand why I was SUCH a mess at the airport last time we said goodbye to my fiance. They told me later they actually thought he had hurt me I some way! I had to explain that I was very sad he was leaving, because I knew it would be months before we'd be together again. They are the ones that pointed out that I should be happy, because if he didn't go back home now, he couldn't come back for good later (the wisdom of children amazes me sometimes!).

I just try to remember that each goodbye is another step, another milestone, in the proceess.

[rebeccajo 14]

My young girls didn't understand why I was SUCH a mess at the airport last time we said goodbye to my fiance. They told me later they actually thought he had hurt me I some way! I had to explain that I was very sad he was leaving, because I knew it would be months before we'd be together again. They are the ones that pointed out that I should be happy, because if he didn't go back home now, he couldn't come back for good later (the wisdom of children amazes me sometimes!).

I just try to remember that each goodbye is another step, another milestone, in the proceess.

That's because they can get right past all the BS and straight to their own hearts.

Children are always looking forward to 'someday'. 'Someday' when I'm big enough to tie my own shoes. 'Someday' when I have my own bike.

'Someday' when I get to high school. 'Someday' when I have my own car. 'Someday' when I have my masters.....

They know good times are ahead. They're kids. They live for it.

Amazingly smart.

[GlenAndLisa 0]

Hi All,

I have just returned from 8 days with my love, and I am having a really tough time. I cried for a good hour after getting on the plane, but after that I was ok. I mean, I was really sad during my 18 hour trip, but I was reasonably calm.

But once I got home, I LOST IT. I had a total panic attack- I suddenly felt the immesity of the distance between us, and realized that I couldn't just get to him if I needed to. Even if I had the money (which I don't), it would take me 2 days to reach him. It's just so far. I could see his face in front of me but I couldn't touch it. I felt like I was trapped in a bubble and couldn't get out to get to him- almost like claustrophobia. I tried to go outside but the sky just felt like it was closing in and I was nearly hyperventilating. I couldn't breathe or think rationally for almost an hour. It really freaked me out. I'm a pretty strong person and we have gone for several months in the past between visits, but this time feels different. WAY more intense.

The whole last week doesn't even feel real right now- like it was a movie or a dream I woke up from. I'm just back to my same old life again, and he is exactly where I left him. Exactly where I want to be.

I am sleep deprived after my long trip and overwhelmed by the situation, and I'm sure this is contributing to the problem. I know we're all in (or have been in) in a similar boat so I hope I'm not the only one feeling this desperate. Am I?? This is far beyond missing him. I feel a little bit crazy. Would sure appreciate any reassurance.

I will see him again when I go for his interview, whenever that may be (hopefully 2-3 months).

Thanks,

Jennifer

I went through a similar thing when I came home from England last time. It hurts like hell to be apart from the one you love so much! Glen and I spend every day on Skype together, but we've only been lucky enough to be together in person every 3-6 months. I haven't seen him since October 8.

But you know what? The next time I see him will be when he's coming home FOR GOOD! We've been a couple since November, 2005. We started our Visa process in April, 2007. It's been a very long journey, but rest assured, it does end eventually... but really, it will be just the beginning.

[Joanna&Bobby 3]

I went through a similar thing when I came home from England last time. It hurts like hell to be apart from the one you love so much! Glen and I spend every day on Skype together, but we've only been lucky enough to be together in person every 3-6 months. I haven't seen him since October 8.

But you know what? The next time I see him will be when he's coming home FOR GOOD! We've been a couple since November, 2005. We started our Visa process in April, 2007. It's been a very long journey, but rest assured, it does end eventually... but really, it will be just the beginning.

The beginning of FOREVER and EVER AFTER

[ForeverAmen 0]

I hope things are better for you. I know that saying 'see you later' can be hard. In the meantime, try to keep busy with preparing for arrival. Such as learning where the markets are that carries the foods he likes, preparing space in the closet, etc., etc.

Everything will be OK.