If I pull the I-864 what happens?

[diadromous mermaid 36]

even if it`s her computer??????????

In some states, her computer is considered his, if they are married.

[NaNaNaNaBooBoo 0]

I can tell there is alot of hurt on this page.

I don't know if I have wool over my eyes or what, but I entered into this marriage through good times and bad and sickness and in health. We have been in marriage counseling now for 2 months and things have really been looking up for us, especially the past two weeks. It could be the roller coaster that we have been on since we were married, and we are finally in the upswing of things, hopefully we are up here for a while, and if we do come down, I hope it is a smoother ride until the next upswing. But we have finally had some serious mature discussions about life and our lifestyles and we can finally see past the bickering over who is going to cook dinner or change diapers and get to the real root of the problems and deal with them. The effort I have seen coming from him and myself since we had these revelations has been what it should be, the best we can be, and wow has it made a difference in our house. The marriage counseling was and still is the key. But now we have to start working on having these conversations outside of the counselors office. We aren't there yet, but I can see it coming. So many things we didn't know about one another. I speak female and he speaks male, it just took a translator to help us figure out what the other was saying. I physically feel so much better and I notice he doesn't have those bags under his eyes either. We are holding hands again and flirting and he rubs my belly and talks to the baby every night. And our daughter has never been treated so much like a queen with both parents jumping up to change her diaper or read her a book. We even had our first professional family photo taken yesterday. I have to admit I never knew marriage could be so hard and so much work. But I think this is normal in a lot of marriages. We just had this ideal of a worry free, fun all the time marriage, and we were disappointed and down in the dumps when it didn't come to fruition. Now, we are getting closer to that ideal. Does it exisit? I don't know, but trying each day to find it, has been alot more fun than focusing on the bad stuff. We haven't had an argument in two weeks and we speak everyday about great things. I know it sounds basic, but rebuilding that foundation after it broke down just makes the weak spots stronger, as now we know where those weak spots are.

Thanks for all your support and advice on the legal stuff and being a nice safety net under our roller coaster. I will check in again in a few weeks and hopefully have an even more postive post. Only time will tell.

A hard workin' mama and papa

[tom&tata 2]

I do not have personal experience to share nor any advice, but I wish both of you congratulations on the progress & good luck !

[Nanusia & Lukaszek 0]

I'm so happy to hear that you guys are doing much better. Take it one day at a time.

Marriage is a lot of hard work. I used to think getting married meant that you get to split all the responsibilites and duties of life in half, when yet it sometimes seems they multiply. You need your spouse to be your best friend to help you get through it together.

Good luck, and may the upswing never end!

[tammy2688 1]

I'm so happy to here your update. I am so happy.

Tammy

[melusine 5]

that's awesome !!!

very happy for you !