If I pull the I-864 what happens?

[bhajishah 4]

Yah i come by every 3 months or so same thing mermaid clarifying the straight talk about "entering in marriage on good faith blah"...bottom line, people feel betrayed angry because of expectations of sig and relationships other or not really knowing other person, ....thats pesonal business , the reality of situation per INS is time andtime again..most marriages are legit.and entered in good faith. People came her to get married.in usa. OUr country adultry is not illegal!! part of our "freedoms". it hurts well yes. To pull an affadavit with a wedding ,cohabitation ,and two kids is prob not going to happen.. that is reality.. even normal usc marriiages end go down hill. Is it deportable or is there no chld support or alimony to woman etc if she cheats.???.. find another way to get back .Like curbing the little baxxxtard and moving on . having another good guy or raising good children on your own.. fck the rum. Like he really going to be able to figure out the welfare sstem , if he does then prob owe only 300 dollars a month to govt tops. small price to pay for self respect and freedom from hell!!!!!! In future get with mature and respectful men....

[Nanusia & Lukaszek 0]

the reality of situation per INS is time andtime again..most marriages are legit.and entered in good faith.

Perhaps we'll leave this for the OP to decide. Because I remember a post that said within about a week of the OP's fiance arriving that he was planning to split, because he had another woman in another state lined up already. Now that to me sounds like intent was to decieve USCIS and just gain entry into the US. Perhaps the OP & husband are working through this, but apparently she has doubts as to whether or not the marriage is legit, or it was GC fraud and she just didn't see it.

[bhajishah 4]

Im not AN USCIS genious, but it doesnt take a rocket scientist to figure out that she stayed with hima nd he fathered her children...............>>>>>>> sounds like legitimate realtion ship marriage to me and im willing to be to USCIS as well. revenge and anger would have to take another form on this one:thumbs:

[Nanusia & Lukaszek 0]

Some immigrants stick around for 3 yrs to get the permanent GC and then take off running, and admit they were in it for the papers. To some GC is gold and they do whatever it takes.

[pushbrk 13,076]

I don't understand how it is that people/members aren't going to benefit from a discussion like this. Unless something is fleshed out, when an opportunity arises, then we'd all be operating on only half the information we need. I'll admit that the way it is done makes all the difference to its importance/noteworthiness, but let's not lose sight of the point here.

Absolutely. We came to a resolution without any assistance from a moderator. What I find disgraceful is for a moderator's first input to the thread to be in support of a personal attack on a member. Disgraceful indeed.

Edited January 30, 2008 by pushbrk

[Nanusia & Lukaszek 0]

Absolutely. We came to a resolution without any assistance from a moderator. What I find disgraceful is for a moderator's first input to the thread to be in support of a personal attack on a member. Disgraceful indeed.

Where was the attack? Perhaps you should learn to distinguish opinion from attack.

[pushbrk 13,076]

Absolutely. We came to a resolution without any assistance from a moderator. What I find disgraceful is for a moderator's first input to the thread to be in support of a personal attack on a member. Disgraceful indeed.

Where was the attack? Perhaps you should learn to distinguish opinion from attack.

Post #26.

[LaL 418]

Absolutely. We came to a resolution without any assistance from a moderator. What I find disgraceful is for a moderator's first input to the thread to be in support of a personal attack on a member. Disgraceful indeed.

Where was the attack? Perhaps you should learn to distinguish opinion from attack.

Post #26.

I think you misread. I agreed only with Nanusia that the thread became confusing. No where did I support Kezzie's post and do believe it went over the top.

[pushbrk 13,076]

Absolutely. We came to a resolution without any assistance from a moderator. What I find disgraceful is for a moderator's first input to the thread to be in support of a personal attack on a member. Disgraceful indeed.

Where was the attack? Perhaps you should learn to distinguish opinion from attack.

Post #26.

I think you misread. I agreed only with Nanusia that the thread became confusing. No where did I support Kezzie's post and do believe it went over the top.

I believe you but I'm confused as to why it didn't warrant a comment at the time.

[truffles 2]

Was that an personal attack on a mod?

[bhajishah 4]

What can i say ,Im asmuck when it comes to love. makes me weak in knees. i cant keep away

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

We are currently waiting for his adjustment of status to go through, we were married in August and filed in December. He just had his biometrics appointment. If I pull the I-864, what exactly happens? If we do reconcile, can I resubmit it? We really need more time, as we have only been in marriage counseling for 3 weeks, (our second time in counseling since we were married 6 months ago) but things seem to be getting worse instead of better. Although he is going, so I know in his heart he wants to make it work. I keep hoping that if he starts working things might be different and he will feel good about himself and our family again. But I imagine if I pull the I-864 he won't get his EAD.

In the meantime, we have a two year old that is caught in the middle and a baby on the way. It is so hard to decide what to do, as I want to give it at least a year of marriage as I hear that is the hardest year for any couple, let alone a mixed culture couple, but I worry that if this isn't going to work, we will suffer greatly, in particular our babies. Then again, I want him to be a part of his childrens' lives and maybe the best way to do that would be if he were here in the US. I am part of the foreign service where I work at different embassies around the world and due to the nature of my work and our relationship I am strongly discouraged to enter his home country, so if we split without his greencard, chances of him seeing the children would be slim.

I try to chalk up our differences to cultural differences, but I have never felt so unhappy in my whole life, and have never been treated so poorly in my life. The pain is unbearable, and is affecting my health and my job, not good when you are pregnant. We go days and days without speaking to one another, as he will not speak to me when we have an argument, let alone have a normal conversation about the weather, life, and love. And the paranoia is unreal, as he is constantly speaking in his language to people on the phone including women at all hours of the night and I have no idea what they are saying to one another. His little Hi5 (like myspace) profile is set to private, so I can't see what is really going on, but when I do walk by when he is on the Hi5 website, I see he has literally 178 friends almost all of which are young women and his status instead of saying married says "tell you later". Adding to my fears is that his father had 2 wives at the same time, although my husband says he saw what it did to his mother and he would never want to do that to me, it is only me and he never wants anyone else.

We lived together for a year in Africa, even with our daughter, and it wasn't like this at all, we were so happy, but he was working and I was in school so he felt like he was the breadwinner. We are under extreme pressures from money, the new soon to be baby, our two year old, and our schedules (I am up for work by 5 am in bed by 9 and he is up at noon and in bed by 3 am by choice), let alone the idea that we can be up and out in another country at a moments notice.

We have both said at least once since our marriage that this was a mistake. I wish I could look into the future and see 6 months down the road.

Sorry for the rambling, but sometimes it is good to let the tears flow.

Google 'keylogger' and install it on your PC.

That will give you all his passwords and record all of his conversations using the PC.

Make your decision then.

As an outsider looking in, I would lay money on him being a cheating $%^$&, but I'm not in your situation.

This needs to be resolved quickly , you don't need the stress while pregnant....

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

I would go to the interview and tell them we were no longer together.

Why should you assume the HUGE responsibility the affidavit of support entails just so he can see his kids??

I'm sure they can visit him if need be.

[Ban Hammer 13,491]

Google 'keylogger' and install it on your PC.

That will give you all his passwords and record all of his conversations using the PC.

Make your decision then.

As an outsider looking in, I would lay money on him being a cheating $%^$&, but I'm not in your situation.

This needs to be resolved quickly , you don't need the stress while pregnant....

be warned that this may be violating some state laws.....

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

even if it`s her computer??????????