Just found out husband chatting online with woman

[Dylan'sWife 2]

Now that you have the overwhelming consensus that his behavior is wrong. the question remains WHAT DO YOU PLAN TO DO ABOUT IT?

If I were you, the first thing I would do is to move all your money out of your joint account, then I would confront him about his spending and online infedelity.

Ressurect old posts much?

What are you the internet God of protocol or something? Did the OP sew this topic up because it seems uncompleted to me?

[stevemc 0]

Im not new here but rarely post and i hope i dont sound too dumd or rambling. He goes,

I found out yesterday that my husband has been chatting online with another girl. He told her hes not married but we have been married 4+ years. When i question him about it he thought someone had told this to me, in reality i found his chat log and i read the whole conversation he had with her. It hurt me too bad and now im wondering whatelse has he lied about. Also we own a business and he send lot of money back home without my knowledge. Anyone else has had this happen or happening to them.

Barb

Hi Barb,

How are you doing this time? Hope your doing great!

About your situation, it is sad to learn that your husband had been chatting with another girl.

First, You don't have to get angry or sad on that matter, chatting on internet is just a fun thing

not real, your husband maybe bored, or maybe your too busy for each other, i guess all you need to

do is to think of a good date and invite your husband for a sweet dinner, get him back and focus to you

before its too late and complicated.

Remember you are married for 4 years, there is nothing to worry about, stop thinking bad things about

your husband, you have made it that long because you love each other and when you think something fishy

that would i can consider unfair to your husband. All you need is communication, understanding, a little perks

or shall we call spicy in life, don't mind it in short.

Just stay cool, i know you love your husband so just do the best and if there is any looser in the end it would

be your husband, he doesn't know what he is loosing.

You have a good heart and take care of it, don't let brake for something your not sure of.

, so better think positive and smile always!!:-)

Take care talk to u soon...++ciao Mercy

[BarbSami 32]

Im not new here but rarely post and i hope i dont sound too dumd or rambling. He goes,

I found out yesterday that my husband has been chatting online with another girl. He told her hes not married but we have been married 4+ years. When i question him about it he thought someone had told this to me, in reality i found his chat log and i read the whole conversation he had with her. It hurt me too bad and now im wondering whatelse has he lied about. Also we own a business and he send lot of money back home without my knowledge. Anyone else has had this happen or happening to them.

Barb

Hi Barb,

How are you doing this time? Hope your doing great!

About your situation, it is sad to learn that your husband had been chatting with another girl.

First, You don't have to get angry or sad on that matter, chatting on internet is just a fun thing

not real, your husband maybe bored, or maybe your too busy for each other, i guess all you need to

do is to think of a good date and invite your husband for a sweet dinner, get him back and focus to you

before its too late and complicated.

Remember you are married for 4 years, there is nothing to worry about, stop thinking bad things about

your husband, you have made it that long because you love each other and when you think something fishy

that would i can consider unfair to your husband. All you need is communication, understanding, a little perks

or shall we call spicy in life, don't mind it in short.

Just stay cool, i know you love your husband so just do the best and if there is any looser in the end it would

be your husband, he doesn't know what he is loosing.

You have a good heart and take care of it, don't let brake for something your not sure of.

, so better think positive and smile always!!:-)

Take care talk to u soon...++ciao Mercy

Mercy,.

Thanks for your very kind reply. You are indeed a wonderful person

Barb

[zqt3344 21]

What a jerk, cut his B A L L S off!

Im not new here but rarely post and i hope i dont sound too dumd or rambling. He goes,

I found out yesterday that my husband has been chatting online with another girl. He told her hes not married but we have been married 4+ years. When i question him about it he thought someone had told this to me, in reality i found his chat log and i read the whole conversation he had with her. It hurt me too bad and now im wondering whatelse has he lied about. Also we own a business and he send lot of money back home without my knowledge. Anyone else has had this happen or happening to them.

Barb

[Wilfe and Robert 0]

I'm sorry to hear about your pain and your problems. It's now become a "trust" issue. If he is doing this now, how do you know he won't do it again. Or continue what he is doing now without your knowledge.

Marriage is based on TRUST. I have been in your shoes and it didn't work out. My suggestion is to find a good lawyer and be ready for the worst. PROTECT YOUR ASSETS. . . your HOME, BUSINESS, AND BANK ACCOUNTS. Be ready for the worst. If he is sending money without you knowing, is it possible he is sending the money to her? Hire an investigator to find out what exactly is going on. Perhaps it is nothing . . . and perhaps it is something. DON'T WAIT. It is easy to bury your head in the sand and think it will work itself out. It won't. Once you know the truth from the investigator, you will know how to proceed. And then you can confront your husband about it.

I hope everything works out for you!

God Bless You!!!

Robert

[BarbSami 32]

I'm sorry to hear about your pain and your problems. It's now become a "trust" issue. If he is doing this now, how do you know he won't do it again. Or continue what he is doing now without your knowledge.

Marriage is based on TRUST. I have been in your shoes and it didn't work out. My suggestion is to find a good lawyer and be ready for the worst. PROTECT YOUR ASSETS. . . your HOME, BUSINESS, AND BANK ACCOUNTS. Be ready for the worst. If he is sending money without you knowing, is it possible he is sending the money to her? Hire an investigator to find out what exactly is going on. Perhaps it is nothing . . . and perhaps it is something. DON'T WAIT. It is easy to bury your head in the sand and think it will work itself out. It won't. Once you know the truth from the investigator, you will know how to proceed. And then you can confront your husband about it.

I hope everything works out for you!

God Bless You!!!

Robert

Thank You so much Robert. You are absolutely correct it is a trust issue. All your advice is well appreciated and I have been preparing myself but I feel that what he did was the worst one could do to someone whom they claim to love and share a life with.

God will see me through this and I'll be fine.

Thanks and God Bless You, Too

Barb

[warriorprincess 0]

Hi Barb I was just browsing and came across your thread. The thing is internet cheating is still cheating and the fact that he had to lie about it suggests something is definitely amiss. He is being emotionally unfaithful to you and that is still cheating.

I hope you have sorted it out the situation by now.

[BarbSami 32]

Hi Barb I was just browsing and came across your thread. The thing is internet cheating is still cheating and the fact that he had to lie about it suggests something is definitely amiss. He is being emotionally unfaithful to you and that is still cheating.

I hope you have sorted it out the situation by now.

warriorprincess,

I am not the one to brush it off as, maybe he was lonely or it is just the internet. I have read here that some met each other by the internet. For me to assume this was harmless would make it seems that I am out of reality. This is my life I am talking about. There were zero signs I guess my only mistake was trusting him. Im not comparing anyone situation to mines . If my husband doesnt like me sharing my story with others it seems like a personal problem of his.

How would he feel if it was me doing these things? As far as Im not being fair to him by postig here, posting here is nothing compared to what he has done to our marriage. I have no symphaty for him and Im not the bad guy here. Maybe in some way my pain can save someone else from the pain I have inside.

My posting here is not to cause problems for anyone but it helps me breathe. To me cheating is chatting to one of the opposite sex thats not innocent. This was not innocent. The strangest thing was i wasnt looking for any of the things i found.

Maybe God wanted me to know b/c I had not had any reason to thik he was doing things like this.

Emotionally Im not good, but Im trying very hard to make the best decision to secure me.

There are some very kind hearted and understand people here. I wish you all the best and may life gives you all your hearts desire.

Barb