In case Anyone Is interested

[I love Ashraf 0]

I am happy because I wanted to get married in Egypt.I was surprised by the email I was sure they were going to tell me nothing had changed.No Deb all my info came from the email the consular sent to me and I copied and pasted it word for word.

[ninaoquinn 0]

I'm not sure if this link will work, but the same information is on the Cairo embassy webpage. I have been checking this page every month since last April when they decided to disallow marriages. This is the first time that I have seen this page updated to reflect this information and I had just checked the website last week.

http://cairo.usembassy.gov/consular/acs12.htm

[I love Ashraf 0]

I know it had not changed in a long time.It did not change until yesterday which is why I e-mailed them for update.

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

OMG!!! It's true! What she said is true. They even updated the embassy website to reflect everything that she copied here. That is wonderful news for anyone wishing to marry in Egypt. I am so happy they changed it.

Now, I am stuck with a dilemma...Do I keep with the original plan to file the K-1 or do I marry in Egypt when I go on Feb. 20th? I really don't know what the best route to take is now that they have changed it. Can anyone help me to figure this out....and fast! lol! Thanks...

my 2 cents, for what it's worth....wait until he gets here to get married. File the K-1 which will allow him to work upon entry for three months and get married in the US. The marriage in the ministry of justice is just about the most unromantic thing you'll ever do. Seriously getting your teeth pulled is more intimate. That way you can have your family with you when you get married here to AND for the year and a half or so of waiting for the visa, you won't be separated from your husband, you'll be separated from your fiance. It really sucks to be married and not be able to be with your husband every day.

I totally agree! You can never get that day back and you don't want to have that feeling you missed the specialness of the day because you got married in a busy office with chain smoking officials and people running around doing faxes, and stapling, and opening and closing doors.

[I love Ashraf 0]

I agree with that statement Olivia but it is not the day that I care about it is what comes after that day.The dress,the cake all that can be done anytime.It is not a wedding I am after,I am after a marriage spending my life with the man that I feel is the mate to my soul.I am not going to lie and say that I don't want the whole shabang but wedding does not make a marriage.

Edited January 23, 2008 by I love Ashraf

[doodlebugg 10]

I agree with that statement Olivia but it is not the day that I care about it is what comes after that day.The dress,the cake all that can be done anytime.It is not a wedding I am after,I am after a marriage spending my life with the man that I feel is the mate to my soul.I am not going to lie and say that I don't want the whole shabang but wedding does not make a marriage.

That's true and it's true that you miss a fiance as well BUT I guess the thought that you can never get that day back is just sooo true for me right now. My daughters are mad that they weren't able to be there and when I think back to that day I just remember smoke filled rooms and running around. No dress, none of that fun and froo froo stuff a woman looks forward to. I just think, for me of course, that hindsight is 20/20 and I'd much rather be filling my days now planning a nice luxurious wedding where my family and friends can be there than just sitting around waiting for my husband. You'll still be spending your life with him you just won't be doing it as a married couple until he gets here.

I was told the same thing and I didn't heed it either though and now I wish I had.

[♥JP♥ 5]

Well what the website says is one thing and what actually happens is another things. I guess we will all just have to keep our fingers crossed until the first person comes back married!

I agree with that statement Olivia but it is not the day that I care about it is what comes after that day.The dress,the cake all that can be done anytime.It is not a wedding I am after,I am after a marriage spending my life with the man that I feel is the mate to my soul.I am not going to lie and say that I don't want the whole shabang but wedding does not make a marriage.

That's true and it's true that you miss a fiance as well BUT I guess the thought that you can never get that day back is just sooo true for me right now. My daughters are mad that they weren't able to be there and when I think back to that day I just remember smoke filled rooms and running around. No dress, none of that fun and froo froo stuff a woman looks forward to. I just think, for me of course, that hindsight is 20/20 and I'd much rather be filling my days now planning a nice luxurious wedding where my family and friends can be there than just sitting around waiting for my husband. You'll still be spending your life with him you just won't be doing it as a married couple until he gets here.

I was told the same thing and I didn't heed it either though and now I wish I had.

It's a two way street, the groom may also have family and friends that may want to attend.

[Mr and Mrs Bird 0]

I agree with that statement Olivia but it is not the day that I care about it is what comes after that day.The dress,the cake all that can be done anytime.It is not a wedding I am after,I am after a marriage spending my life with the man that I feel is the mate to my soul.I am not going to lie and say that I don't want the whole shabang but wedding does not make a marriage.

How can anyone believe that marriage is the solution

I can assure you that I would have spent a couple of more years with my boyfriend before we even thought about marriage if the immigrationlaw didn't force us to marry.

Even on our AOS interview the officer said that he was so sorry sorry that they force people to be married.

I am happy that our intentions was to be married. But not everyone would be able to be ready for this just like that. Geeze. how many devorced couples will this be giving I just ask

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

Well what the website says is one thing and what actually happens is another things. I guess we will all just have to keep our fingers crossed until the first person comes back married!

I agree with that statement Olivia but it is not the day that I care about it is what comes after that day.The dress,the cake all that can be done anytime.It is not a wedding I am after,I am after a marriage spending my life with the man that I feel is the mate to my soul.I am not going to lie and say that I don't want the whole shabang but wedding does not make a marriage.

That's true and it's true that you miss a fiance as well BUT I guess the thought that you can never get that day back is just sooo true for me right now. My daughters are mad that they weren't able to be there and when I think back to that day I just remember smoke filled rooms and running around. No dress, none of that fun and froo froo stuff a woman looks forward to. I just think, for me of course, that hindsight is 20/20 and I'd much rather be filling my days now planning a nice luxurious wedding where my family and friends can be there than just sitting around waiting for my husband. You'll still be spending your life with him you just won't be doing it as a married couple until he gets here.

I was told the same thing and I didn't heed it either though and now I wish I had.

It's a two way street, the groom may also have family and friends that may want to attend.

And that too!

[doodlebugg 10]

I agree with that statement Olivia but it is not the day that I care about it is what comes after that day.The dress,the cake all that can be done anytime.It is not a wedding I am after,I am after a marriage spending my life with the man that I feel is the mate to my soul.I am not going to lie and say that I don't want the whole shabang but wedding does not make a marriage.

How can anyone believe that marriage is the solution

I can assure you that I would have spent a couple of more years with my boyfriend before we even thought about marriage if the immigrationlaw didn't force us to marry.

Even on our AOS interview the officer said that he was so sorry sorry that they force people to be married.

I am happy that our intentions was to be married. But not everyone would be able to be ready for this just like that. Geeze. how many devorced couples will this be giving I just ask

how did the immigration law force you to marry?

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

I agree with that statement Olivia but it is not the day that I care about it is what comes after that day.The dress,the cake all that can be done anytime.It is not a wedding I am after,I am after a marriage spending my life with the man that I feel is the mate to my soul.I am not going to lie and say that I don't want the whole shabang but wedding does not make a marriage.

How can anyone believe that marriage is the solution

I can assure you that I would have spent a couple of more years with my boyfriend before we even thought about marriage if the immigrationlaw didn't force us to marry.

Even on our AOS interview the officer said that he was so sorry sorry that they force people to be married.

I am happy that our intentions was to be married. But not everyone would be able to be ready for this just like that. Geeze. how many devorced couples will this be giving I just ask

Yes this too! Looking back I felt rushed because the military was going to take him. Well they took him anyways and now we have to wait a year to sixteen months any freaking ways! And we've almost gotten divorced once already and this latest time he offered me a divorce before he went into the military saying he didn't want me to suffer from the wait. I told him I would wait and it made him very proud and happy.

But there are things I know now that I didn't know then when I made all those choices. Now I know I wanted our families to meet. I wanted to have a proper wedding and do it right. I wanted all the joy and celebration that is supposed to be felt when you're a first time bride. I had no one there for me. It was him and his two witnesses and I was scared to death! He and his two friends chatted in the corner and laughed it up having a joyous time while I didn't speak the language. I was totally alone semi-hyperventilating from the gravity of the situation experiencing slight culture shock and I'm about to get married for the first time. Sure I love him and wanted to be with him but nothing was happening the way I always dreamed it to be. Part of that also is I didn't have money for all that dreaming. I just should have trusted myself made a few visits let him get his ducks in a row and waited it out instead of letting myself be talked into what he wanted and it had to be this way to save time and money. I even convinced myself I wanted it too and getting out of all the pompous stress and show of the celebration was the better end of the deal. However, I am glad we are married and I am going to have the wedding someday.

[I love Ashraf 0]

See the plan has been to get married there and have a wedding here.Because our families are not going to meet,the chances of that happening is slim to none.My mom has never been out of SC and never wants,And his family cannot afford to come here.I begged her to come with me because she is really the only person that I want and need to like Ashraf,the rest of my family really ain't going to care if I ever get married.The unknown scares the heck out of me but I am going to take the chance and make the leap.Praying every step of the way.I was not sure about getting married in Egypt but the 13 months I had to wait for him to get out of the military gave me alot of time to think.I have asked all my friends and a few family members to come with me,I have tried to bribe them,begged offered to pay for their passport,ticket and hotel but no one wants to go for various reason most of them seem to think Egypt is some blackhole and they will be kidnapped or something.I keep asking them who the h*** are we:we have no money,we are not in the media and we have no political standing other than a few of us vote and Egyptians are not just lurking around waiting on an American to kidnapp,my aunt keeps saying he going to sale me into white slavery(LMAO) she obessed with that movie on Lifetime Human Traffic,I am like dude we black.90% of my friends have kids and do not want to try to find someone to watch their kids or take time off come with me.I have daydreaming planning the wedding you showing them stuff I like,and almost everyone is like girl why you spending all this money just go to the courthouse.I want the wedding and we will have one inshaAllah,but it only matters to US and he only wants it because it will make me happy.

The Future Mrs.Wagiuh

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

Yeah I got the same ear chew about selling me into white slavery, ect...

FYI I have the entire summer off from May-August if you want to "bribe" me to go with you! I have a passport I just need a ticket and I would love to go and be there for you. You shouldn't be alone cuz I remember how it felt.

See the plan has been to get married there and have a wedding here.Because our families are not going to meet,the chances of that happening is slim to none.My mom has never been out of SC and never wants,And his family cannot afford to come here.I begged her to come with me because she is really the only person that I want and need to like Ashraf,the rest of my family really ain't going to care if I ever get married.The unknown scares the heck out of me but I am going to take the chance and make the leap.Praying every step of the way.I was not sure about getting married in Egypt but the 13 months I had to wait for him to get out of the military gave me alot of time to think.I have asked all my friends and a few family members to come with me,I have tried to bribe them,begged offered to pay for their passport,ticket and hotel but no one wants to go for various reason most of them seem to think Egypt is some blackhole and they will be kidnapped or something.I keep asking them who the h*** are we:we have no money,we are not in the media and we have no political standing other than a few of us vote and Egyptians are not just lurking around waiting on an American to kidnapp,my aunt keeps saying he going to sale me into white slavery(LMAO) she obessed with that movie on Lifetime Human Traffic,I am like dude we black.90% of my friends have kids and do not want to try to find someone to watch their kids or take time off come with me.I have daydreaming planning the wedding you showing them stuff I like,and almost everyone is like girl why you spending all this money just go to the courthouse.I want the wedding and we will have one inshaAllah,but it only matters to US and he only wants it because it will make me happy.

The Future Mrs.Wagiuh

[Aymsgirl 0]

I think it is about time that the embassy got this straightened out with the MOJ. We went last June to get married and were refused the Affadavit and they even kept my notarized statements from the USA and questioned the He-- our of our relationship and intentions for hours. I wished we were able to get married then because of the baby being born here in a few weeks but now we are in the process of getting the physicals with the interview around the corner. I am in disbelief that they just updated this and I was just in Egypt two weeks ago!! Not that we would have gotten married because it would have delayed us even more but now we know that if we have to in Egypt we will in the future. I am so happy if this is what you want "I love Ashraf" and it works for you. My future hubby is an egyptian lawyer and said there is a lot of running around to do this but I am sure you will find it worth it to have this kind of commitment to each other. I wish you and everybody else on this forum the best of luck in your journey and please keep us posted on your progress. God bless!

Tasha

[polarbear 0]

Yeah I got the same ear chew about selling me into white slavery, ect...

FYI I have the entire summer off from May-August if you want to "bribe" me to go with you! I have a passport I just need a ticket and I would love to go and be there for you. You shouldn't be alone cuz I remember how it felt.

That's very true... it can begin to feel like you are being dragged around and then when he goes talks to his friends and you don't understand you start to feel left out. You probably shouldn't go alone, just for your own sanity

What I remember most about my first day in Egypt is that by the time the plane landed after 28 hrs of travel, I was so nervous and freaked out that I threw up while the plane was taxiing to the terminal I was twitchy until I saw him. That day was a blur until I got a chance to take a nap