Changing your last name

[SweetBliss 0]

I changed to my married name as soon as I traveled back to the states. I was so proud to have married my husband, I just couldnt wait.

K&L I felt the same. I was like Shug in the color purple showing off her ring. I told my husband that I was proud to have his name and I couldnt wait to change mine and he was overwhelmed with emotion. He told me that his name is highly respected in his area and he loved his father very much and that he had determined long ago that he would give that name to the one women he would remain with til the day he died.

Efia06,

I think we are close to the same in feelings as i read your post My husbands father has passed as well, and their family surname is one of great honor..My husband is actually Nigerian and I know that they are very proud people, when i told my husband i changed my name so quickly , that was a sign of great respect.

Isnt it funny K&L. Here in US it seems that only the rich or famous are really proud of their names even if its infamous. But in my husband's culture having a good name is looked highly upon. It really means something to pass it on. Ecclesistes 7:1 talks about how a name is better than good oil and the day of death of death is better than birth. That shows how during the course of one's life does our name take on full meaning in whether we practiced righteousness or wickedness. Its nice to know I marriad into a culture that still values a good name.

Hey Efia06

I like that scripture...very good! Where are you from in the US?

[SweetBliss 0]

Thanks for all the imput on the name change if I can change it this week without my original marriage certificate I will, I am very honored to be married to a very special man... I had so many life changes days after I returned from NIgeria losing both of my parent's that was overwheming I kept putting if off, but it's time now. My husband and I talked about it and he has always known I would change it... thank you so much for the words of advice..... Love you all...

Myangel2

Sorry to hear that you lost both your parents, that would be tuff! May the Lord continue to strengten you. What a blessing to have your husband to help u through.

[His Glory 25]

Thanks for all the imput on the name change if I can change it this week without my original marriage certificate I will, I am very honored to be married to a very special man... I had so many life changes days after I returned from NIgeria losing both of my parent's that was overwheming I kept putting if off, but it's time now. My husband and I talked about it and he has always known I would change it... thank you so much for the words of advice..... Love you all...

Myangel2

Sorry to hear that you lost both your parents, that would be tuff! May the Lord continue to strengten you. What a blessing to have your husband to help u through.

Angel, im sorry about your loss. My husband has been a great comfort during my loss as Im sure yours has. However, not being together was very tough during this time. Your faith will get you through. ::hugs:::

K im in southern cali

[JJWashington 0]

Sorry to hear about the loss of your parents.

[knl 0]

I changed my last name to my husbands. At work, some people are so confused and call me by my old last name. I've tried my best to make sure my name was changed every where at work, but it seems like my co workers/boss cant accept change. My husband was very happy that I changed my name. He thought I might not do it because he thought it was a lot of work. He was very suprised how quickly I changed it. I never liked my birth last name, so I was very happy to change it.

Since I have changed my last name, my husband said he is going to change his last name to something else! I was like

He says he doesn't want to have his fathers last name, or have anything to do with his father. Because he left him at a very young age and has never spoke to him again. I have also learned when my husband was younger, in school he decided to use his older sisters last name because of his feelings for his father.

I hope he decides to not change his last name because I like it and I'm not changing it again.

[Linguere 0]

We just got married in December and I added his last name without a hyphen. Traditionally, changing the last name to the man's was not done in matrilineal African regions, so being a cultural nationalist, I protested. The line USED to be traced through the mother and even when identifying children it would be said, _____(name) is the son of _____(the mother). My husband is the sweetest and most revolutionary man I know. He signs his emails with his last name and then my last name. He tells people that too. For my husband, having his last name was very important. He just asked for this one thing and added "it's only two letters!" I could not refuse him because it was so important to him. I added his last name to my own name because I have two degrees, a professional life and also a child named after me in my own name in Cameroon. So, as a compromise, my third degree will be with both names. I changed everything in a matter of days and believe it or not, received my passport back in a week. AMAZING! Best to you all!

[chispas 0]

I already had that double Hispanic name before, so I replaced my husband's name in place of my mother's name. It is still long, but I have dual nationality and didn't want the hassle of going through that process in another country also.

[myangel2 0]

Thanks for all the imput on the name change if I can change it this week without my original marriage certificate I will, I am very honored to be married to a very special man... I had so many life changes days after I returned from NIgeria losing both of my parent's that was overwheming I kept putting if off, but it's time now. My husband and I talked about it and he has always known I would change it... thank you so much for the words of advice..... Love you all...

Myangel2

Sorry to hear that you lost both your parents, that would be tuff! May the Lord continue to strengten you. What a blessing to have your husband to help u through.

Thank you it was a struggle but I'm still here..... Bless God.