Medical related question

[Sonea 138]

Hi, i've started compiling all the evidence etc. to submit our K1. The thing is we've been together for many years until I moved back to the US for a new job. I've never been apart from her this long and i'm getting depressed and having suicidal thoughts every now and then. I would never do anything, because i love my fiance and my family but i htink i should seek help, however I am afraid it might hurt my petition if USCIS thinks i'm "unstable". Will this be the case?

[Usui Takumi 1,562]

As far as I know, they would never know....they only look at your fiance's medical condition. And I believe that depression won't effect her chances either as long as there is no sign that she might harm someone else.

I personally wouldn't let USCIS know, however you might have the opportunity for an expedited case here. On the record you should be given one, however USCIS will probably deny it. If they let one person go quickly through for this, I think we'd all throw ourselves on the suicide watch list to get our SO here.

[Missing.him 0]

I think first of all you should absolutely seek help! this process is stressful and sad and can rattle even the most "stable" person. Its ok to go talk to someone. I really do not see how it will affect your petition. First if I am correct the only ask the beneficiary not the petitioner medical questions. It is sad though that depression is seen as being a mental disorder and something to be looked down upon when actually it is a chemical imbalance or just bottled up emotions... This forum also is excellent at expressing your feelings, venting and commiserating with others going through the exact same thing... take care and talk whenever you need.

[Tanjay 0]

I think first of all you should absolutely seek help! this process is stressful and sad and can rattle even the most "stable" person. Its ok to go talk to someone. I really do not see how it will affect your petition. First if I am correct the only ask the beneficiary not the petitioner medical questions. It is sad though that depression is seen as being a mental disorder and something to be looked down upon when actually it is a chemical imbalance or just bottled up emotions... This forum also is excellent at expressing your feelings, venting and commiserating with others going through the exact same thing... take care and talk whenever you need.

[Jesse and Hema 2]

I think first of all you should absolutely seek help! this process is stressful and sad and can rattle even the most "stable" person. Its ok to go talk to someone. I really do not see how it will affect your petition. First if I am correct the only ask the beneficiary not the petitioner medical questions. It is sad though that depression is seen as being a mental disorder and something to be looked down upon when actually it is a chemical imbalance or just bottled up emotions... This forum also is excellent at expressing your feelings, venting and commiserating with others going through the exact same thing... take care and talk whenever you need.

Agreed. And they are most concerned about the status of the non-US-citizen..

It's not like you are locking yourself up in an asylum. People go to counselors all the time for lots of reasons. Why you go is none of USCIS's business.

[vsmtghdy 2]

This will not hold bearing on your petition... Your fiance is the one who will undergo medical exams prior to visa approval. But you do however need to consult professional (Psychiatrist/Psychologist) help with regards to your depression and especially since you're having some suicidal ideations. You will experience more stress as your petition is being process especially the long wait and some frustrations along the way... so as early as you can, seek consult, you may need some anti-depressants. Everyone feels depressed but there are some that can't handle their depression and needs medical help. Good luck with your petition and stay healthy.

[Marvsgirl 0]

Hi, i've started compiling all the evidence etc. to submit our K1. The thing is we've been together for many years until I moved back to the US for a new job. I've never been apart from her this long and i'm getting depressed and having suicidal thoughts every now and then. I would never do anything, because i love my fiance and my family but i htink i should seek help, however I am afraid it might hurt my petition if USCIS thinks i'm "unstable". Will this be the case?

I'm sorry to hear that you are having a difficult time with the separation from your fiancee. Definetly seek professional help because this journey is long. Continue to visit VJ and see how others are coping. I personally like to go to the movies or hang out with my friends.

Bridget

[SnowyTater 0]

bobber, please definately go for some help. It won't effect your case at all (If we're being honest, I think probably over half of the US is now on some sort of prescription drug or another...many probably not needing it) so even if the USCIS knew about it, they wouldn't give it a second glance. Like everyone else has said, it'll only be a procedure medical for your fiance. She'll get through in a few months, it's all routine, there's nothing to worry about and no grounds at all to believe anything's going to go wrong.

In the meantime I recommend trying to get into your job - it must be great for you to have moved back to the US for it, so congrats Concentrate on setting up a great new life for you and your fiance and your growing family for when she gets here. And try to make friends, get out of the house, etc. This whole thing'll make you both stronger as a couple.

Also long-distance tips: the internet is your friend. From what I've found, calling cards in the US for some reason absolutely suck, but maybe that expense isn't a problem for you. I do recommend programs like Skype or MSN messenger, going and getting a mic and webcamera if you don't already have one; it can make 'seeing' each other a lot easier.

And even more off topic, if you do go for help and they try to give you drugs, I'd say try going without them if you think you can...you're still adjusting to not being with your fiance so hopefully you'll feel better after awhile, and just from personal experience in my family, antidepressants have a tendency to Not Work sometimes and make the person even worse and more unbalanced :\

Good luck.