Believing the fantasies described in love songs can be unhealthy.

[Alex+R 0]

Steve I think you've been reading waaaay too many self-help books. I still don't get it. Romantic love is fun, but it's not realistic and you're not going to one day feel that way again through "mature love."

Don't discount all books on relationship that are out there. How else are we to gain insight into such mysteries beyond our own experiences?

Real books (literature) gives us that same advantage without all the hippie #######. Honestly, I almost flew to wherever the guy that wrote that was and punched him by the time I was through just a few paragraphs.

[Peikko 1,575]

Isn't believing in fantasy an oxymoron?

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Real books (literature) gives us that same advantage without all the hippie #######. Honestly, I almost flew to wherever the guy that wrote that was and punched him by the time I was through just a few paragraphs.

I understand the sentiment, but you're really falling prey to a stereotype - that all books published for the general public on relationships is bunk, and I think that's intellectually dishonest. As far as separating the wheat from the chaff, I look for reviews and testimony as well as the author's credentials. I hope I never discount an author simply based on the idea that there's so much ####### written on that subject.

[Alex+R 0]

Real books (literature) gives us that same advantage without all the hippie #######. Honestly, I almost flew to wherever the guy that wrote that was and punched him by the time I was through just a few paragraphs.

I understand the sentiment, but you're really falling prey to a stereotype - that all books published for the general public on relationships is bunk, and I think that's intellectually dishonest. As far as separating the wheat from the chaff, I look for reviews and testimony as well as the author's credentials. I hope I never discount an author simply based on the idea that there's so much ####### written on that subject.

I didn't discount the author based on the idea that there's so much ####### written on that subject; I discounted him for his cheesy writing style and new-agey ideas. I don't know what you mean about that being intellectually dishonest. Or to what stereotype I'm falling prey.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

I didn't discount the author based on the idea that there's so much ####### written on that subject; I discounted him for his cheesy writing style and new-agey ideas. I don't know what you mean about that being intellectually dishonest. Or to what stereotype I'm falling prey.

I happen to like his writing style and think he makes a strong argument on love and relationships.

[SteveLaura 0]

Interesting. I run a class here at work - on boundaries, but it includes relationships - and we discuss whether relationships between partners can be 'unconditional'. The split in opinion is usually 50-50. Those who argue that it can be believe in the heart conquering the mind, and that even if you separate from your partner, you can still love them. The opposite view is that there are some events that can occur in relationships that would be a definite deal-breaker and they could not imagine loving that person again.

[almaty 19]

sounds like an interesting class.

[Ban Hammer 13,334]

Interesting. I run a class here at work - on boundaries, but it includes relationships - and we discuss whether relationships between partners can be 'unconditional'. The split in opinion is usually 50-50. Those who argue that it can be believe in the heart conquering the mind, and that even if you separate from your partner, you can still love them. The opposite view is that there are some events that can occur in relationships that would be a definite deal-breaker and they could not imagine loving that person again.

i subscribe to the latter.

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

Interesting. I run a class here at work - on boundaries, but it includes relationships - and we discuss whether relationships between partners can be 'unconditional'. The split in opinion is usually 50-50. Those who argue that it can be believe in the heart conquering the mind, and that even if you separate from your partner, you can still love them. The opposite view is that there are some events that can occur in relationships that would be a definite deal-breaker and they could not imagine loving that person again.

i subscribe to the latter.

definitely.

oh, and a class like that would annoy me because i'd wanna beat up the people who believe in the la-di-da fantasy #######.

[almaty 19]

Interesting. I run a class here at work - on boundaries, but it includes relationships - and we discuss whether relationships between partners can be 'unconditional'. The split in opinion is usually 50-50. Those who argue that it can be believe in the heart conquering the mind, and that even if you separate from your partner, you can still love them. The opposite view is that there are some events that can occur in relationships that would be a definite deal-breaker and they could not imagine loving that person again.

i subscribe to the latter.

definitely.

oh, and a class like that would annoy me because i'd wanna beat up the people who believe in the la-di-da fantasy #######.

brother arijit, those are the ladies that you want to date ( if single) they love for you to sh!t on them, but they take you back over and over again, and tell all their likewise friends..how terrible men are...

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

Interesting. I run a class here at work - on boundaries, but it includes relationships - and we discuss whether relationships between partners can be 'unconditional'. The split in opinion is usually 50-50. Those who argue that it can be believe in the heart conquering the mind, and that even if you separate from your partner, you can still love them. The opposite view is that there are some events that can occur in relationships that would be a definite deal-breaker and they could not imagine loving that person again.

i subscribe to the latter.

definitely.

oh, and a class like that would annoy me because i'd wanna beat up the people who believe in the la-di-da fantasy #######.

brother arijit, those are the ladies that you want to date ( if single) they love for you to sh!t on them, but they take you back over and over again, and tell all their likewise friends..how terrible men are...

sounds like a fukcin nightmare.

[SteveLaura 0]

Interesting. I run a class here at work - on boundaries, but it includes relationships - and we discuss whether relationships between partners can be 'unconditional'. The split in opinion is usually 50-50. Those who argue that it can be believe in the heart conquering the mind, and that even if you separate from your partner, you can still love them. The opposite view is that there are some events that can occur in relationships that would be a definite deal-breaker and they could not imagine loving that person again.

i subscribe to the latter.

definitely.

oh, and a class like that would annoy me because i'd wanna beat up the people who believe in the la-di-da fantasy #######.

We have anger management classes too, Troll.

[DeadPoolX 9]

Interesting. I run a class here at work - on boundaries, but it includes relationships - and we discuss whether relationships between partners can be 'unconditional'. The split in opinion is usually 50-50. Those who argue that it can be believe in the heart conquering the mind, and that even if you separate from your partner, you can still love them. The opposite view is that there are some events that can occur in relationships that would be a definite deal-breaker and they could not imagine loving that person again.

Where do you work, if you don't mind me asking? It sounds like a university of some sort, since that kind of class wouldn't usually be offered at a high school. I'd like to take that class (or at least audit it) since it sounds quite interesting. I've always preferred classes that make the students think and engage them in conversation, as opposed to the professor merely lecturing, handing out reading assignments and tests.

[almaty 19]

Interesting. I run a class here at work - on boundaries, but it includes relationships - and we discuss whether relationships between partners can be 'unconditional'. The split in opinion is usually 50-50. Those who argue that it can be believe in the heart conquering the mind, and that even if you separate from your partner, you can still love them. The opposite view is that there are some events that can occur in relationships that would be a definite deal-breaker and they could not imagine loving that person again.

i subscribe to the latter.

definitely.

oh, and a class like that would annoy me because i'd wanna beat up the people who believe in the la-di-da fantasy #######.

brother arijit, those are the ladies that you want to date ( if single) they love for you to sh!t on them, but they take you back over and over again, and tell all their likewise friends..how terrible men are...

sounds like a fukcin nightmare.

well, not if you are a chopf##k two-timing basard, it is perfect....i had a married couple, the dude was paying child support on 2 other kids ..they were conceived int he 3 years they were married to differnet women..she thought forgiveness was a sign of true love....

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

Interesting. I run a class here at work - on boundaries, but it includes relationships - and we discuss whether relationships between partners can be 'unconditional'. The split in opinion is usually 50-50. Those who argue that it can be believe in the heart conquering the mind, and that even if you separate from your partner, you can still love them. The opposite view is that there are some events that can occur in relationships that would be a definite deal-breaker and they could not imagine loving that person again.

i subscribe to the latter.

definitely.

oh, and a class like that would annoy me because i'd wanna beat up the people who believe in the la-di-da fantasy #######.

We have anger management classes too, Troll.

lol. quit trolling for business