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[English Muffin 59]

There is no one on VJ near me either.

In fact, you're probably the nearest person Julez at about 450 miles.

I might be closer -- New Haven's only about 120 miles away from Boston... I am pretty sure I'm the only active UK VJer at the moment in Connecticut.

But aren't you moving soon? I thought you were jetting off to the sun?

[*julez* 124]

Just found out they FINALLY accepted our second bid on the house!!!! Gambled and rejected their counter-offer to our counteroffer and it paid off!! Woooohoooo!!!!

[elmcitymaven 9,712]

There is no one on VJ near me either.

In fact, you're probably the nearest person Julez at about 450 miles.

I might be closer -- New Haven's only about 120 miles away from Boston... I am pretty sure I'm the only active UK VJer at the moment in Connecticut.

But aren't you moving soon? I thought you were jetting off to the sun?

7 weeks from today! We are road tripping from CT to CA, stopping off to see my uncle in Galveston and my grandma in El Paso. All our worldly goods will be following -- FINALLY got a realistic moving quote this afternoon -- because we need to find a place to stay when we get there. The first 2 weeks we will be living at the Hollywood Econo Lodge... B)

Just found out they FINALLY accepted our second bid on the house!!!! Gambled and rejected their counter-offer to our counteroffer and it paid off!! Woooohoooo!!!!

WOO HOO indeed! Congrats, Julez!!!

[English Muffin 59]

Just found out they FINALLY accepted our second bid on the house!!!! Gambled and rejected their counter-offer to our counteroffer and it paid off!! Woooohoooo!!!!

CONGRATULATIONS!

[*julez* 124]

Thanks, guys!! We're so excited!! :D

[Jeraly 4]

7 weeks from today! We are road tripping from CT to CA, stopping off to see my uncle in Galveston and my grandma in El Paso. All our worldly goods will be following -- FINALLY got a realistic moving quote this afternoon -- because we need to find a place to stay when we get there. The first 2 weeks we will be living at the Hollywood Econo Lodge... B)

Just found out they FINALLY accepted our second bid on the house!!!! Gambled and rejected their counter-offer to our counteroffer and it paid off!! Woooohoooo!!!!

WOO HOO indeed! Congrats, Julez!!!

w00t!! You are so brave maven!!!!

And gratzies again Julez!!

Thunderstorm here at the moment - hailstones the size of marbles!!! But really warm!!! It's awesome!

[elmcitymaven 9,712]

Freak out! It's my 20th reunion for my elementary/middle school (yes, that's weird to have one for that, I know) tomorrow. My best friend (we've been BFs since we were 3) and I are going but we realise that 1) we can't stand most of the people going and 2) we both need to lose at least 25 lbs in the next 18 hours. I am going to ignore the weight loss and go get a mani/pedi instead; I have some wicked shoes to wear tomorrow. Red patent leather wedges that make me look almost as tall as a normal human!

[no name 1]

Congrats Julez.

[*julez* 124]

Freak out! It's my 20th reunion for my elementary/middle school (yes, that's weird to have one for that, I know) tomorrow. My best friend (we've been BFs since we were 3) and I are going but we realise that 1) we can't stand most of the people going and 2) we both need to lose at least 25 lbs in the next 18 hours. I am going to ignore the weight loss and go get a mani/pedi instead; I have some wicked shoes to wear tomorrow. Red patent leather wedges that make me look almost as tall as a normal human!

LOL You thinks that's bad? I have my 20 year highschool reunion next Saturday night!! OMG, how is it possible??? Three of us are going together, strength in numbers to face all the snooty b!tches, whom I am am certain have not changed for the better in the last 20 years. I'm the one who needs to lose the weight, UGH! Even with a week, its not gonna happen!! No wicked shoes...yet...BUT I am shopping this weekend!!

We decided we'd skip the reunion mass (I went to a private Catholic all girls school) and head out for drinks first! Could be dangerous, but do we care???? NO!!!

Congrats Julez.

Thanks Dev!

[Jeraly 4]

Julez - sounds hilarious!! I want to hear all about it - and you Maven!!!

[Alex & Rachel 78]

Congratulations Julez!

[VisaJourneyLady 33]

Congratulations Julez!!! way to keep a cool head, and bargain for the house!!!

Internet still broken at my house, it's been doing my head in. in a park now stealing wireless.

So my OH gave his notice at his work. That's at least 2 months notice. They really appreciated that he told them as soon as he knew. Since he works for Disney, and their head office is in LA (Glendale) an they've offered to help find him a position over there. (does that make Los Feliz a done deal - angelos?)

HOWEVER - his dad called yesterday. His Grandfather died. His dad's from Nigeria, and split up from his mum when he was 2. His Grandfather was in Nigeria, and my OH never met him. Now his dad want's a chunk of money to help get over there and for the burial. I am trying to be understanding, but if i am very honest, I really resent our savings for the move being depleted for this man (who has not been a fantastic father). I am pretty stumped as to what to do. I know it would be a very sore point if I brought it up, but most of our savings are from me, I know it shouldn't matter. I'm feeling pretty selfish right now.

My battery is pretty low, sorry to rant. I seem to be doing a lot of ranting these days.

xxxxx

[snowfrostedlashes 0]

HOWEVER - his dad called yesterday. His Grandfather died. His dad's from Nigeria, and split up from his mum when he was 2. His Grandfather was in Nigeria, and my OH never met him. Now his dad want's a chunk of money to help get over there and for the burial. I am trying to be understanding, but if i am very honest, I really resent our savings for the move being depleted for this man (who has not been a fantastic father). I am pretty stumped as to what to do. I know it would be a very sore point if I brought it up, but most of our savings are from me, I know it shouldn't matter. I'm feeling pretty selfish right now.

Call me cold but I wouldn't provide any money if it was me... it would be different if this was a beloved family member that your other half had actually met and was close to and HE needed money to go there and pay his respects, but his less than fantastic father rings up expecting money? I'm sorry but it would be a firm NO. I could understand if your other half wanted to make a contribution to the burial costs as a sign of respect, but why should he have to help pay for his father to go over there - surely that's for his father to deal with.

I'm quite certain that the money you've worked hard to save will be needed by you both to fund the move and you shouldn't feel like it's selfish to point that out.

Edited May 10, 2008 by Mark and Hannah

[English Muffin 59]

HOWEVER - his dad called yesterday. His Grandfather died. His dad's from Nigeria, and split up from his mum when he was 2. His Grandfather was in Nigeria, and my OH never met him. Now his dad want's a chunk of money to help get over there and for the burial. I am trying to be understanding, but if i am very honest, I really resent our savings for the move being depleted for this man (who has not been a fantastic father). I am pretty stumped as to what to do. I know it would be a very sore point if I brought it up, but most of our savings are from me, I know it shouldn't matter. I'm feeling pretty selfish right now.

Call me cold but I wouldn't provide any money if it was me... it would be different if this was a beloved family member that your other half had actually met and was close to and HE needed money to go there and pay his respects, but his less than fantastic father rings up expecting money? I'm sorry but it would be a firm NO. I could understand if your other half wanted to make a contribution to the burial costs as a sign of respect, but why should he have to help pay for his father to go over there - surely that's for his father to deal with.

I'm quite certain that the money you've worked hard to save will be needed by you both to fund the move and you shouldn't feel like it's selfish to point that out.

I have to say I agree with Mark and Hannah on this one, I wouldn't be coughing up the money either. It will be a difficult time, and you could probably do without any stress right now, but I'd be worried that if I gave in this time he'd come back asking for more in the future.

Whatever you decide to do Poiteen, I wish you the very best.

Gillian

[Jeraly 4]

HOWEVER - his dad called yesterday. His Grandfather died. His dad's from Nigeria, and split up from his mum when he was 2. His Grandfather was in Nigeria, and my OH never met him. Now his dad want's a chunk of money to help get over there and for the burial. I am trying to be understanding, but if i am very honest, I really resent our savings for the move being depleted for this man (who has not been a fantastic father). I am pretty stumped as to what to do. I know it would be a very sore point if I brought it up, but most of our savings are from me, I know it shouldn't matter. I'm feeling pretty selfish right now.

You're more than welcome to rant - we all *cought* do our fair share of ranting here

Jeremy had to pay for his entire family (brother, sister, mother and aunt) to come to our wedding - I was less than impressed but it was his family and his money so it was his decision. I really wasn't very happy about it though. Personally I would try and find the most tactful way of saying "hell no". You both have your money for the move and why is it your responsibility to bail his dad out? Why does he assume you can afford something he can't? What's he going to do if you don't give him money? What if you literally didn't have any money to give?

I'd be seriously vexed if it were me but maybe only because it is something close to my heart (Jeremy had to put off finding an apartment because he had to bail his aunt out of $200 but then he lives with her so... Still p*ssed me off )