~July 2007 K-1 Filers~

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

Hi Marta - a friend of mine, who's wife is pregnant sent me pics of her standing in the same outfit in the same position at 15, 18, 21 and 23 weeks, and it made me think of you! I hope you are as happy as she looked in those pictures. They were really a wonder to behold!

In the same outfit I am in right now? Yes I am as happy and even more cuz now we share outfits I should send you pics from those weeks too so you can compare

Walmart also has $2 wine at the moment that we tried for a laugh and it wasn't too bad!!

So did you laugh at the wine or did you drink it and then laughed at yourself?

[rae_and_scott 1]

W00t! You think you can get to an October wedding when you file in June/July? I would like to think I can get to a September wedding when I file in March

There goes the patience

I know, we are cutting it really close, but it couldn't be helped, what with our interview date being in June. It will suck if we don't get the AP in time (Scott's supposed to be best man), but what can we do? I worry what's happened with yours, Marta, will happen with ours, and it will take forever. No rhyme or reason to the system.

Do you have a September wedding to go to? Or wasn't it something this summer you had plans for?

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

Yeah, one´s in August and another one in September I don´t think you should worry though. Only one of us can have bad luck with USCIS and this time it´s me

[Jeraly 4]

Well I think it is stupid... I guess looking at the bright side at least you are together

[GeordieWife 1]

Julez - we should compare notes sometime - I bet Jeremy's family are more dysfunctional than yours!!!

Hey all...don't feel bad! We have a motto in my family 'Our family puts the 'fun' in dysFUNctional!'

I hope everyone is doing fine. Peter is done with his temporary work (permit expires tomorrow), so we'll have the rest of the summer to get on eachother's nerves. Hey...did you guys know that he constantly talks to me during the news??? Dang that gets on my nerves! hehe...isn't this cute!!! We've spent enough time together to get pet peeves! Aint it great! I never thought we'd ever get to that point. But other than that..we really are sooo happy to be together. We spent the 4th of July quizzing eachother over civics questions for the naturalization exam. He's gonna be READY to be a citizen.

Well all for now, just wanted you all to know I'm still alive and I lurk here from time to time.

[BabyBlueSusie 1]

Susie, that made me laugh. I guess because it's the opposite of my experience. I grew up in the midwest with things like drive-through banks. But you know, I sure don't miss them. I like walking everywhere in NY and the more personal feel to everything. A lot of places in the suburbs are lacking in that 'neighborhood' feeling, unless you happen to find a cute small town that's retained it.

Although I do miss big grocery stores with tons of availability and room to actually push a cart or two down the aisles. Here you have to go to a more gourmet type place to find the same things, I think. Ah well, I'm not really complaining; I love the city.

How's Adriano's English coming? Is he adapting any better? I hope so!

Yea, the small, personalized shops is something that I miss the most about NYC. I also miss being able to walk everywhere. Let's not get started on this list though, it will just make me depressed.

Adriano's English is coming along nicely although his attitude hasn't changed much. He still hates it, and I really don't know what to do about it.

[StillThePrettiest 3]

well, to be blunt - he may just have to suck it up...

I don't like the PLACE I'm in all that much - I'm making the best of it, as I've noted before, and of course I'm so glad to be with Dave at last, and all that - but I don't think I'm ever going to love it, or even like it all that much... but there are reasons for me being here, and I made the decision knowing those reasons, and why I was giving up everything I had in London, and it will benefit no one to keep bemoaning the fact

so while I miss London terribly - some times more than others, like right now when my best friend just had a baby - I just have to grit my teeth and smile and BE HERE; there's no law saying I have to love it, but it will be of greater benefit to me and my mental health - and Dave's - if I don't dwell on that all the time

so likewise: Adriano may always dislike it where you are

but he's there for a reason too

[StillThePrettiest 3]

oh, and what I meant to say in that post and didn't -

you shouldn't feel guilty about him not loving it there either; it's got everything to do with what he's used to, and what he's not used to, and you can't magically make it all great for him... obviously you can make SOME things great, the personal things, but you can't change the place, and you shouldn't feel bad because of that

xx

[BabyBlueSusie 1]

well, to be blunt - he may just have to suck it up...

I don't like the PLACE I'm in all that much - I'm making the best of it, as I've noted before, and of course I'm so glad to be with Dave at last, and all that - but I don't think I'm ever going to love it, or even like it all that much... but there are reasons for me being here, and I made the decision knowing those reasons, and why I was giving up everything I had in London, and it will benefit no one to keep bemoaning the fact

so while I miss London terribly - some times more than others, like right now when my best friend just had a baby - I just have to grit my teeth and smile and BE HERE; there's no law saying I have to love it, but it will be of greater benefit to me and my mental health - and Dave's - if I don't dwell on that all the time

so likewise: Adriano may always dislike it where you are

but he's there for a reason too

you shouldn't feel guilty about him not loving it there either; it's got everything to do with what he's used to, and what he's not used to, and you can't magically make it all great for him... obviously you can make SOME things great, the personal things, but you can't change the place, and you shouldn't feel bad because of that

xx

Agreed. I don't like where we are living, but I try really hard to make the best of it and focus on the positive. I wish he could think more like you, and just accept that he is here now, and realize that what is out of his control, is simply that. I know it's hard for him too though. It's a tough situation.

Thanks for the post though, it made me feel a bit better, I must say.

Edited July 13, 2008 by BabyBlueSusie

[tucson_chick 0]

thanks so much for putting it in words, STP, that's exactly the attitude we need!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ah, and on the bright side, please see the new line in my signature!!!

FINALLY today we received the interview notice!!! august 20!!!!!

i hope everybody has a great, positive and loving weekend!!!!

FREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE HUGS!

[rae_and_scott 1]

Oh my gosh, I just noticed I have a heart!

Oh my gosh, I just noticed I have a heart!

Maybe I should change my name thingy then....

Oh my gosh, I just noticed I have a heart!

Oh my gosh, I just noticed I have a heart!

Maybe I should change my name thingy then....

hahaha, look at that, I quoted myself. Twice!

[Jeraly 4]

I hope everyone is doing fine. Peter is done with his temporary work (permit expires tomorrow), so we'll have the rest of the summer to get on eachother's nerves. Hey...did you guys know that he constantly talks to me during the news??? Dang that gets on my nerves! hehe...isn't this cute!!! We've spent enough time together to get pet peeves! Aint it great! I never thought we'd ever get to that point. But other than that..we really are sooo happy to be together. We spent the 4th of July quizzing eachother over civics questions for the naturalization exam. He's gonna be READY to be a citizen.

You only *just* got pet peeves?! I have a list as long as my arm In fact I had a really good moan about it last night - silly things. Like I mean I don't mind doing the laundry and putting it away and washing up the dishes that can't go in the washer and things like that. What annoys me is when he moans about how I leave soap on the dishes (well he never complained when they were dry and he couldn't tell) and how he leaves a big pile of dirty clothes all over the house instead of putting it in the basket (I know he likes to alternate outfits but that should still mean that he only ever has one shirt and one pair of trousers by the side of his bed at one time... as for there being two pairs of boxers... well I would HOPE that he wouldn't wear them again ) So I have plenty I am sure he has plenty for me as well, but the house is still in disarray and we haven't lived together for two years so we just b*tch and talk it out and I figure with time and patience things will eventually fall into place

As for citizenship... well I haven't even got my teeth into printing the AOS forms and after Jeremy's bank charged him TEN TIMES for going overdrawn when he hadn't even gone overdrawn to start with... well, let's just say that this week's paycheck went into the gas tank so we can't even afford to buy food, let alone AOS *sigh*

All in good time I guess...

At least he finally closed his bank account with cr@ppy BofA like I've been telling him for YEARS.

thanks so much for putting it in words, STP, that's exactly the attitude we need!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ah, and on the bright side, please see the new line in my signature!!!

FINALLY today we received the interview notice!!! august 20!!!!!

i hope everybody has a great, positive and loving weekend!!!!

FREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE HUGS!

That's great news!!! Also we need to make plans for next month - not sure what you want to do about meeting up - you want to head up to Sedona? It's really beautiful If not then I can talk to Jeremy about taking a detour via Tuscon... of course then I would want to visit Tombstone as well so...

My news of the week (aside from bank charges!) is that I should be able to get my SSN tomorrow/Tuesday!!! Is it exactly two weeks from entering the US or is it an inexact science?

Oh my gosh, I just noticed I have a heart!

HAHAHA

Oh my gosh, I just noticed I have a heart!

Maybe I should change my name thingy then....

YOU REALLY

Oh my gosh, I just noticed I have a heart!

MAKE ME

Oh my gosh, I just noticed I have a heart!

Maybe I should change my name thingy then....

LAUGH

hahaha, look at that, I quoted myself. Twice!

AND YES...

You should change your name thingy

[tucson_chick 0]

peeves - if i would start on this topic, this would become the longest post in VJ-history

let's put it in one sentence: if i wouldn't work fulltime and bring in exactly as much as he does, i wouldn't mind taking care of the house-chores as much - but as i work exactly the same hours for exactly the same paycheck i really don't see a point of being his maid. unless he pays me for it.

@aly: which weekend in august?

let's make plans! it's freaking hot out there in summer. tombstone is great in the evenings when all the saloons and bars are open and the tourists are gone!!!!! LOVE IT!

do you guys have a phone number i could call so we can make plans over the phone and chat about peeves and about the good old times in old europe? otherways i could try to get yahoo messenger running on my laptop and we could chat with via our fingers

[Jeraly 4]

Yippee!! I'm on yahoo messenger all the time (unless I am in linux) but as soon as my own puter is sorted then it will be a permanent fixture - have to reboot into windows in a sec anyway You have my e-mail address, right?

Well the "official" day of our wedding is 8th which I believe is a Friday - maybe we could come back down to you for Saturday night and spend the evening in Tombstone? Obviously I'd have to run it all by Jeremy (after our bank charges nightmare we are kinda strapped for cash ) but we will defo be able to sort things out... I mean our savings are in the UK and I have my credit cards from the UK still

Oooh - it sounds so exciting!

How did that meetup go btw? We met up with a couple of people on Friday and had a lovely time We sat in an open air cafe bar and listened to live music with a few beers - it was really nice

[BabyBlueSusie 1]

@ Aly and Tuscon Chick: Ditto on the maid comments. We argue about this ALL THE TIME because most Albanians tend to be about three decades behind the rest of us when it comes to gender roles. I understand that his mom is a stay at home mom and cooks and cleans to perfection (and any other married women he knows back home, also does all the house work, regardless of whether or not she works), but I am NOT a stay at home wife. I cannot stress this enough to him, and he just doesn't get it. It is especially annoying right now because I am the only one working (even if its only part time), and yet I still have to do 95% of things around the house too. It is a lot of him telling me that he will change, and if I cook he will clean the dishes, but he just never does it. He does cook about half of the time, but he never cleans. That is definitely my number 1 pet peeve. Everytime I bring it up he says 'It's not that hard, I don't see the big deal'. My response is 'Yea, it's not hard for you because you aren't doing anything!!!!!!!' I just don't get it.