~July 2007 K-1 Filers~

[jundp 191]

thanks everybody for having such good advise and so many nice words. i really don't quite understand myself. i am such a lucky girl, i found a job relativ

ely easily, i have a really great husband, we have no real financial worries (not meaning that we are loaded, you know what i mean), we are healthy and stuff. i should be more greatful.

BUT: good news: i will go to a meetup tomorrow afternoon! a group of germans here in town are meeing twice a month

ahh, aly, you are a pro in getting married by now, aren't you?

i could bake a cake! cake anybody? vanilla cake with chocolate frosting?

YUMMI!!!!

Agnes, did you get my PM with the link to German cultural stuff in Arizona? I hope that will help. And just to make you feel at home:

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[Jeraly 4]

J, you don't HAVE to have a first dance

it's your wedding; you can have - and not have - exactly what you want

I didn't even have flowers at mine... or music... no one gave me away... it was so simple, and it was exactly right for us

(I hate people looking at me too )

Yeah but we picked out the perfect song so we kinda had to - it was ok in the end - I gave everyone instructions to interrupt us and join in I was rather disappointed that my goth friends didn't do the conga like they promised

thanks everybody for having such good advise and so many nice words. i really don't quite understand myself. i am such a lucky girl, i found a job relativ

ely easily, i have a really great husband, we have no real financial worries (not meaning that we are loaded, you know what i mean), we are healthy and stuff. i should be more greatful.

BUT: good news: i will go to a meetup tomorrow afternoon! a group of germans here in town are meeing twice a month

ahh, aly, you are a pro in getting married by now, aren't you?

i could bake a cake! cake anybody? vanilla cake with chocolate frosting?

YUMMI!!!!

Yay!!! So glad you found something to go along to - maybe you can find a baking meetup as well

Hmmm you could bake a cake for when I get there

[StillThePrettiest 3]

Agnes, I'm SO SO glad you're feeling a bit better, and that you found some people to meet with

and I'm putting my hand up for cake

way, way up... it's scraping the ceiling

[Jeraly 4]

AHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I move TOMORROW!!!

I am sooooo nervous - I feel absolutely dreadful - I am all shaky and I have a tummy ache and feel sick and I just want to feel better again My brothers are coming over for Sunday lunch today and that will be our goodbyes so I am nervous about that as well. This time tomorrow I will have said goodbye to mum and I just want it all to be over now. I feel like this will never end - I feel like I have been up for hours because I've been tossing and turning in bed unable to sleep... I hate this so much.

Please somebody tell me this is normal? I woke this morning thinking that "omigod I'm moving tomorrow" and had this blind panicked thought that I just can't do it. I just can't believe it is my turn now - it all seems so unreal and I am scared...

[VisaJourneyLady 33]

It is totally normal. Remember, just one foot in front of another and you will get there. *hugs*hugs*hugs*

It is totally normal that after such a long time planning and waiting and worrying that it's stressful at this juncture, but it's so soon, and this is as high pitched as it's likely to get. **huuuuuuggggssss**

:star:

[StillThePrettiest 3]

you're very normal

you're seeing the whole thing at once, and it IS overwhelming, but as Poiteen says - just cope with each little bit as it comes, and you will find yourself on the plane, and hardly even know how you got there... and it's amazing, once you're actually moving forward, and the goodbyes have been said, how different you feel

*hugs* and *huuuuuugs*

you will be FINE

just smile and enjoy the day as much as you can... it will be a much nicer memory than stressing over things you can't change

xxx

[Thee_Rak 0]

The last two pages are exactly what I'm the most worried about. I'm the USC and my Thai fiancée is telling me right now that she's not excited yet or worried or anything. Our trip is 2 months off now and I'm going there to get her. We'll have a 3 week vacation there b/4 we come to the US and I'll be with her for the trip through immigration and all but still THIS IS A HUGE MOVE FOR HER!!!

She's young, very close to her family, has lots of friends and lives in one of the biggest most exciting cities in the world (Bangkok). She's moving to mid-america and it's going to freak her right the hell out. Kansas City is 1/2 a million people, not very big and doesn't have public transportation worth a spit. There's not really any kind of China-town let alone a Thai-town. We have to drive everywhere and she doesn't drive. It's not like she can walk out of the apartment and take a motorcycle taxi where she wants for 50 cents. Hell a taxicab here is near $2 a mile. Her English is mediocre at best and my Thai pretty much sucks so, at first, even trying to "talk it out" is going to be difficult.

I can only imagine that the first few months are going to be filled with some really bad days.

Her parents don't have any access to a web-cam or the Internet or anything like that. She'll be able to call whenever she wants for as long as she wants but it's just not the same. One of her brothers lives in Bangkok so we're going to give her computer w/ web-cam to him and maybe her mom will come to the city once in awhile so they can see each other that way.

Other than that, once she's got her green card, I've told her she can go back whenever she wants to visit.

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

i am so homesick, its not even funny. today is the first day i really regret moving here. its scary to admit it, and i would never have the guts to tell eric, but i really do regret it.

(F)

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

Awww you guys. So many sad news or stories. I hope you all feel better soon I don´t think I have any useful advice. I think everyone takes the move differently. I was wondering does it make people feel better when they live in USA and try to look for the familiar stuff (either food they have always liked or some people from their home country) or does it make them even more homesick in the end? I don´t know and I can´t answer that question.

I am glad when I find something familiar but on the other hand I am also glad when I need something and find a good enough substitute. I enjoy new things as much as I enjoy the old ones. And when I go back to Europe (if they ever give me my AP), I can always get whatever I have been missing. The other day I was at the Czech Embassy and it was kinda nice to finally hear someone speaking Czech. But I like speaking English too. Especially when people understand me They tell me I have a cute accent And ask where it´s from. And I say what do you mean? It´s California accent

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

This time tomorrow Aly will be in the air flying my direction

[tucson_chick 0]

well - for me, it helps me when i find famililar things like groceries. for example chocolate, cookies, items like risotto rice, couscous, hazelnuts, orangina and other stuff.

i enjoy trying new stuff and finding substitutes, but - there is no american well-enough substitute for german or swiss chocolate.

ah, aly will be one of the last ones of the july filers to get moving! EXCITING!!!

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

They sell Ritter Sport and stuff like that here Yum yum

It´s actually pretty easy to get German stuff in USA. Much more complicated with CZ stuff Usually I just find Czech beers but I can´t drink those now

[Jeraly 4]

The last two pages are exactly what I'm the most worried about. I'm the USC and my Thai fiancée is telling me right now that she's not excited yet or worried or anything. Our trip is 2 months off now and I'm going there to get her. We'll have a 3 week vacation there b/4 we come to the US and I'll be with her for the trip through immigration and all but still THIS IS A HUGE MOVE FOR HER!!!

...

Other than that, once she's got her green card, I've told her she can go back whenever she wants to visit.

I think it is admirable that you are aware of what she will go through and are being so supportive I can only say that having Jeremy here while I have been going through this traumatic experience has been wonderful - I don't know how I would have got through it without him. I mean I would have, obviously, but I am sure it would have been much much harder.

I took a long time to get excited and because it was mixed with so many other emotions, the excitement hasn't always been at the forefront of my mind. At the moment it is buried beneath a big chunk of fear and nerves. Part of me feels that it would be easier if the people I love weren't so upset, but seeing them hurting is really really hard - probably just as hard if not moreso than having to leave. I still can't believe it. I leave today. In 24 hours I will almost be home and I can't wait. I just want all this pain to finish now.

I digress... kinda... What I am trying to say is that I didn't start panicking really until I got the visa - it turned up and I was excited for 24 hours. Then I realised that damn, it meant I had to move and from that point I tried to block it all out. I didn't want to think about moving because although it is exciting, it is painful too and so I had to put a dampener on all those emotions just to get through this. Maybe your OH is doing the same - as soon as you let down those walls to let your excitement show, all the other emotions come flooding out too.

This time tomorrow Aly will be in the air flying my direction

Yay!! I'm coming home to you Marta!! Maybe that is what I will tell myself - I am just moving closer to the people I want to see and meet and so I can do that now

Ok guys - unless some of you are up in the middle of the night and reply to this all fast then this is it til I reach the other side You can guarantee that I will be on here as soon as ever I can with my POE review (prolly lengthy even if it is easy ) and how things went. I've been keeping a blog too - jeraly.blogspot.com because I think it is important for other people to see the emotions involved as well as the practical things you can find out online...

Oh look - I'm trying to say goodbye to you guys and all that is happening is that I won't be online for a day!! I think I like to torture myself!!

well - for me, it helps me when i find famililar things like groceries. for example chocolate, cookies, items like risotto rice, couscous, hazelnuts, orangina and other stuff.

i enjoy trying new stuff and finding substitutes, but - there is no american well-enough substitute for german or swiss chocolate.

ah, aly will be one of the last ones of the july filers to get moving! EXCITING!!!

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

I reply to this all fast Have a safe trip

[Jeraly 4]

Hehehe!! baby keeping you awake?! I'm drinking your beer for you - it's much more acceptable to be drinking it at midnight than 8am and you can't drink it cause you're preggers

So I blame it all on you But I love you so it's ok