~July 2007 K-1 Filers~

[tucson_chick 0]

ALY

We really need to start friday night zinfandel again. Although at the moment I'm becoming more of a pool side margarita girl. Also got a new non alcoholic addiction....starbucks cinnemon dolce latte frappacino!!!

I can sympathise with the moving. I still don't have all my stuff here. I have a lot of boxes at my parents as couldn't afford it all at once.

most of my stuff, including all my furniture is still at my parents. just too expensive to ship it.

i am so homesick, its not even funny. today is the first day i really regret moving here. its scary to admit it, and i would never have the guts to tell eric, but i really do regret it.

[Jeraly 4]

ALY

We really need to start friday night zinfandel again. Although at the moment I'm becoming more of a pool side margarita girl. Also got a new non alcoholic addiction....starbucks cinnemon dolce latte frappacino!!!

I can sympathise with the moving. I still don't have all my stuff here. I have a lot of boxes at my parents as couldn't afford it all at once.

Oh hun that sounds awesome!! We totally have to do that again - once I am there and you have the net set up then we can get on instant messenger and kick our OHs out and chat non-stop!! At the moment though, every night seems to be some kind of wine night - Jeremy is being very patient but it is taking at least two glasses just to get me to sleep >< Ah well - once I move I can sort myself out Something non-alcoholic sounds good - totally need some kinda detox And to lose some weight.

Still don't know if I will get back in my dress tomorrow night

most of my stuff, including all my furniture is still at my parents. just too expensive to ship it.

i am so homesick, its not even funny. today is the first day i really regret moving here. its scary to admit it, and i would never have the guts to tell eric, but i really do regret it.

Oh hun - you should talk to Eric about it - what would the possibility of you moving back be? Give it a bit more time - it hasn't been all that long and things will take a while to settle down - I am not expecting to feel totally comfortable for about a year - maybe longer Besides - I have to come visit you in August so you're not allowed to go back to Germany just yet

Oh - and the whole purpose of this exercise was to reacquaint myself with StP's budgie's name - my mum got a bird for her birthday yesterday (aren't us kids great?!) and I had a weird thought they had the same names...

[Jeraly 4]

Ok - I just checked and the names are totally different... I think this move is driving me crazy....

Finished packing suitcase number 2 today and suitcase number 3 is almost done as well... waiting on Pickfords to come give me a quote this afternoon... Excess Baggage called and were going to e-mail me a quote but I can't get into my e-mail which is really annoying

Calmed down for the moment - just really really really want to be there now so I can chillout and forget about things for a while

[Jeraly 4]

Ok - calm moment has passed - am going to opt for mid-afternoon wine soon as am sooo p*ssed off with this shipping BS. Pickfords just quoted me £975 with insurance and I just want to know what on earth I have done to get such high quotes - I mean I have no furniture, it's just a bunch of boxes with books and ####### in.

I just don't know what to do now - I budgeted about £500 for this thinking that would be more than enough and now it looks like there is no way on earth I can afford to ship my stuff

[KGSodie 0]

Natasha has told me several times that she would rather be back in Russia. She misses the pace of life, her family, and just the way of life there. It hurts when I hear her say this, but I've come to realize it has nothing to do with me, and everything to do with how different and difficult things are for her in the USA, as she struggles to improve her English and waits for EAD so she can look for a job.

Believe me, us newly-minted husbands just want our wives to be happy, and his reaction would probably be more of concern over your well being than anything else.

[StillThePrettiest 3]

oh, there's a bit more sadness in this thread today than I'd like

Agnes, I'm so very sorry you feel the way you do

I have no words of wisdom... just the rather hackneyed 'try to look for the good things'; so far that's working for me (I don't love it here either, and if I had a choice between PLACES I'd choose London in a heartbeat, but this is about more than place)... even doing little things, like getting the bird, and planting some herbs in a pot, planning some short day trips, and looking at recipes online that I know Dave will like, have helped me feel like I 'belong' here, even a little bit

I hope you feel better soon

*hug*

Aly, I don't know what to say about Pickfords... I'm so surprised; maybe there's a flat rate up to a certain amount, or maybe it costs a bit more because you're not in London, but that's so much more than I was quoted, according to amount (as far as I can figure, anyway)

can you maybe ask them about the cut-off rates? by which I mean, find out the ceiling limits, of when the price changes, and see how much you can pack in the highest amount you can afford

the guy who did my quote said that the price per cubic foot drops the more you take, and when mine came in at JUST under one limit, he bumped it up into the next bracket, so I was actually paying less to take more (if that makes sense)

all the best with it! I'm thinking of you and sending hugs your way

[Jeraly 4]

StP - found out that they guy quoted me for 60cuft when I only have 36 cuft Apparently "Industry standard volume" for "fruit boxes" is 4cuft when mine measure in at just over 2cuft... I wasn't very impressed - some people may not even check and end up getting ripped off... He is going to send me a revised quote anyway so if they do and it is cheaper then I will try and knock the price down on the other guys... if I can't manage that then I might use the other guys just out of principle.

And he was old. And ugly.

Agnes - I sent you a link to a site that I have been checking out - I don't know if it will help but it is something else to look at anyway

I really really hope I love living in the USA - I know it is going to be hard but at the same time we made the decision to move there for a reason and I want nothing more than to love it more than here... just so I can relax *and* be happy... is that too much to ask or am I being unrealistic!??!

I guess I can always pop on over to see Marta for a happy injection

[tucson_chick 0]

thanks everybody for cheering me up!

today was the first day of monsoon-season here and it feels wonderful nice and cool outisde.

@aly: sorry hun that they tried to ripp you off! hope that you can ship your stuff without breaking the bank!

I'll go for a walk now and try to collect my thoughts and emotions and get myself together.

THANKS FOR THE LINK!

[Jeraly 4]

thanks everybody for cheering me up!

today was the first day of monsoon-season here and it feels wonderful nice and cool outisde.

@aly: sorry hun that they tried to ripp you off! hope that you can ship your stuff without breaking the bank!

I'll go for a walk now and try to collect my thoughts and emotions and get myself together.

THANKS FOR THE LINK!

No probs I actually managed to find some roleplay geeks in the area so we are going to meet up when I move which should be awesome - but there are so many other things that I want to do - meditation, yoga, weightwatchers It's great because you can just search by your area and find things that you may not have even tried before

For anyone else wanting to know what the heck I am talking about:

http://www.meetup.com/

[CBR 0]

Jeraly you always crack me up! I can't believe you're moving time is here finally! How exciting

I hope you don't get all homesick too. I would imagine that just about everyone does though. I know I would if I were the one moving to Canada. I think it's more a matter of mouring the loss of everyone and everything you are accustomed to than not liking your new home. Hopefully once you have more and more good experiences and memories here the homesickness will abate.

Might as well change subject in my post here...we went and applied for our marriage license yesterday!! It should come in the mail next week. I called the local SS office, but Jeremy isn't in the system yet so we're gonna wait and call again next week. I don't want to get caught up in that ####### where they have to verify you with USCIS and it takes forever. Jeremy has been looking at job openings in our area so we're getting anxious.

In exactly 3 weeks from now I will have a new last name!!! I can't wait!!

[Jeraly 4]

Yay! That is so exciting!! I am supposed to be getting ready and freaking out that my dress might not fit!!!

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHH I can't wait til this is all over! I am cacking myself about the first dance - I hate people all staring at me - wasn't so bad when it was just our small wedding but now... Well - I've given my grandparents and my mum and her partner strict instructions that they have to get on the dancefloor a couple of minutes in as the song is quite long and I don't want to be shuffling around with Jeremy looking lame for ages

Ohhh I hate this

[StillThePrettiest 3]

J, you don't HAVE to have a first dance

it's your wedding; you can have - and not have - exactly what you want

I didn't even have flowers at mine... or music... no one gave me away... it was so simple, and it was exactly right for us

(I hate people looking at me too )

[rae_and_scott 1]

Agnes, I just wanted to say a few words to you. I don't know if they will help, but I feel bad that you are feeling regret and so unhappy.

In 2004 I moved to Canada to be with Scott. I was lucky in that I fit into the TN category of visas, which are extremely easy to get. So we lived together up there for a year and a half. In my first month, I was miserably unhappy, crying myself to sleep. I loved him, I loved being with him, but I think CBR put it well saying that it was mourning the loss of everything that had been familiar to me. I didn't like that I couldn't even buy the same brand of rice I was used to, little things like that, let alone huge ones like missing my friends. Of course, I can only see this in retrospect. At the time I just felt horribly depressed, and didn't fully understand why. I mean, it's obvious enough to miss things, but I thought I should have felt so happy just to be with Scott. I guess it taught me that I was more independent that I thought I had been; I was living his life and dependent on him for most things, even though I had a job and a normal routine and everything from the start. Canada is also culturally really similar to the US, so I wasn't expecting this type of thing to happen at all. It took me about a year or more to finally make one good friend. Once I did, things were a lot better, but in my head I had already decided that I wouldn't be staying in Canada. I was torn about what to do since I didn't want to break up with Scott. We eventually decided that he would move to New York, even though he hated the city and the US. 3 years of being separated later, we are finally together. It's been a long road, and what I have wished since then was that I had been more patient with myself at the time, when I was living up there. It really can take a long time to adjust, and the hardest thing is that sometimes you just plain feel like sh*t for long periods of time. I think if you were to tell Eric how you feel he would be understanding; he wants you to be happy. I know I did a lot of moping and not always telling Scott that I wasn't happy there b/c I didn't want him to feel like I was telling him I wasn't happy with him. It was hard to communicate it all. Hopefully Eric is a patient person and with some time you both will get through this and be stronger for it.

I know it's not the easiest thing to be told "be patient" and "give it time". It's hard to give things time when they hurt and you are feeling really down. But that's all I can say having sort of been there before; I wish I had given it more time. It was *really* hard for me at the start. And you know, I felt stupid for feeling so down about it. I was like, why am I not happy, just being with the guy I love? But there's a lot to this mix, and really, it's okay to feel down. Know that too. Mourn what you need to, talk to Eric, and I hope you start to feel happier with time.

[CBR 0]

Very nice post Rae! Another thing for the younger people here is that you are changing your primary role in life which is a huge adjustment. You're going from being your parent's son or daughter to being someone's husband or wife now (head of your own household if you weren't before). And for some you're soon to be someone's parent. Those changes in and of themselves are major adjustments to make in life and to couple that with moving to a new country, and I can see why some have a rough road. In the end though all that matters is being with the one you love and creating your life together.

[tucson_chick 0]

Very nice post Rae! Another thing for the younger people here is that you are changing your primary role in life which is a huge adjustment. You're going from being your parent's son or daughter to being someone's husband or wife now (head of your own household if you weren't before). And for some you're soon to be someone's parent. Those changes in and of themselves are major adjustments to make in life and to couple that with moving to a new country, and I can see why some have a rough road. In the end though all that matters is being with the one you love and creating your life together.

thanks everybody for having such good advise and so many nice words. i really don't quite understand myself. i am such a lucky girl, i found a job relativ

ely easily, i have a really great husband, we have no real financial worries (not meaning that we are loaded, you know what i mean), we are healthy and stuff. i should be more greatful.

BUT: good news: i will go to a meetup tomorrow afternoon! a group of germans here in town are meeing twice a month

ahh, aly, you are a pro in getting married by now, aren't you?

i could bake a cake! cake anybody? vanilla cake with chocolate frosting?

YUMMI!!!!