NEED HELP NOW PLEASE ASAP

[Marriednow 4]

I need advice at this minute. Last night my hubby of 3 months went to another city to stay until his friend could send him money to go back to Morocco. I live in TN. Now they have told me he has to stay with me til we get divorce or he will be in trouble with authorities back home.

Is this true? I will gladly pay his plane fare if he can go get on plane and go home. Both of us will be happier. One of us can get divorce in future. I don't want to go into details, but he can't be trusted. And he is angry. I don't want the police involved as I live in a small town and don't need all this #######.

Advice please? We have filed for AOS and done biometrics jsut last week. thank for all help, Sadly waiting

[pushbrk 12,876]

I need advice at this minute. Last night my hubby of 3 months went to another city to stay until his friend could send him money to go back to Morocco. I live in TN. Now they have told me he has to stay with me til we get divorce or he will be in trouble with authorities back home.

Is this true? I will gladly pay his plane fare if he can go get on plane and go home. Both of us will be happier. One of us can get divorce in future. I don't want to go into details, but he can't be trusted. And he is angry. I don't want the police involved as I live in a small town and don't need all this #######.

Advice please? We have filed for AOS and done biometrics jsut last week. thank for all help, Sadly waiting

Any trouble in Morocco, is his trouble. It doesn't sound right to me but perhaps there's something unique to Morocco to consider. You might want to ask in the appropriate regional forum. Otherwise, you can divorce without his cooperation or presense in the US. As for the immigration related issues, simply contact USCIS for instructions on withdrawing your I-864. AOS will cease at that point.

[Marriednow 4]

Hubby of 3 months left yesterday to stay with person in another town until he could leave for Morocco on Wed. I am planning divorce. He left message with my friend that he will come back to my house cuz his Moroccan friends (or acquaitances really) told him that he had to get divorced before he came back or he would be in trouble with authorities. I am sitting here scared to death cuz I don't want him back in the house. I live in small town, don't want trouble with police. I am sure he will leave (I will even pay for the friggin ticket) if he knows for sure he can go back and not be in trouble with authorities. We can divorce in the future. As for status, applied for AOS, EAD, had fingerprints made week ago. I am just sick and shaking because of all this stress. He lost my trust, can never be earned back, and only married 3 months.

Advice, please. THanks

PS--Divorce in TN takes 60 days and we can't stay in same house for that amount of time, if at all. And of course, all of this is my fault, except for this one incident. What a crock and what a sad thing this is.

Edited January 13, 2008 by Nervously Waiting

[I love Ashraf 0]

I am sorry that you are going through all of this.I would get a restraining order.I know it is just a piece of paper but maybe it will give some peace of mind,can you go stay with a friend or family member for a few days? Until things settle down.

Maranda(f)

Hubby of 3 months left yesterday to stay with person in another town until he could leave for Morocco on Wed. I am planning divorce. He left message with my friend that he will come back to my house cuz his Moroccan friends (or acquaitances really) told him that he had to get divorced before he came back or he would be in trouble with authorities. I am sitting here scared to death cuz I don't want him back in the house. I live in small town, don't want trouble with police. I am sure he will leave (I will even pay for the friggin ticket) if he knows for sure he can go back and not be in trouble with authorities. We can divorce in the future. As for status, applied for AOS, EAD, had fingerprints made week ago. I am just sick and shaking because of all this stress. He lost my trust, can never be earned back, and only married 3 months.

Advice, please. THanks

PS--Divorce in TN takes 60 days and we can't stay in same house for that amount of time, if at all. And of course, all of this is my fault, except for this one incident. What a crock and what a sad thing this is.

[amal 4]

I haven't personally gone through this but there are a few on here who will have a lot of information that may help you. I wish you luck in whatever course God has chosen for you.

amal

[sereia 0]

Oh Debbie I'm so sorry to hear it ended this way!!! You can remind him he doesn't need to stay here in the US and to get his ####### back to Morocco on Wednesday. You don't need to feel all that stress and be afraid like that! Then call and cancel the AOS. *big hugs*

[chaishai 1]

Hubby of 3 months left yesterday to stay with person in another town until he could leave for Morocco on Wed. I am planning divorce. He left message with my friend that he will come back to my house cuz his Moroccan friends (or acquaitances really) told him that he had to get divorced before he came back or he would be in trouble with authorities. I am sitting here scared to death cuz I don't want him back in the house. I live in small town, don't want trouble with police. I am sure he will leave (I will even pay for the friggin ticket) if he knows for sure he can go back and not be in trouble with authorities. We can divorce in the future. As for status, applied for AOS, EAD, had fingerprints made week ago. I am just sick and shaking because of all this stress. He lost my trust, can never be earned back, and only married 3 months.

Advice, please. THanks

PS--Divorce in TN takes 60 days and we can't stay in same house for that amount of time, if at all. And of course, all of this is my fault, except for this one incident. What a crock and what a sad thing this is.

Do not listen to his friends. Clearly they do not have your best interest in mind. I wouldnt pay for his ticket. What happens when they get deported do they bill them? Do it that way. Get a restraining order, have him deported and get a divorce. In that order. He can be back in morocco and you can get a divorce no problem, you dont need him for that. I doubt he would be in trouble with authorities in morocco unless he did something wrong to deserve that and if he did, then thats his problem. You said you dont trust him, so protect yourself 100%. Dont answer calls from his friends, tell your friends not to answer calls from his friends.

[sereia 0]

If it IS possible to get him deported (not sure how easy that is, someone here will chime in) then I would. But it would almost be easier just to pay the ticket (don't give him money, buy the ticket yourself) I'd even make sure his ####### was at the airport and left. lol

[sarah and hicham 3]

I'm sorry this happened to you. I agree with Chaishai, get him out of her and cancel your AOS and don't worry about the divorce this second. It sounds like he's trying to get divorced before he leaves for a reason- maybe he's planning on marrying another American to stay here... who knows. GOod luck!

[caybee 21]

I've never heard of a man getting in trouble with authorities in Morocco for returning there before his divorce was final. He may very well lose face, but that's his problem and it's not the same as getting in trouble with the authorities. He and his friends may be hoping he gets his green card before the divorce goes through (my husband's AOS was transfered to CSC and approved without an interview, so this could conceivably happen for your husband since biometrics are done -- they may be hoping for that). Ignore his friends. Withdraw your affidavit of support immediately before they have time to issue his EAD, get a restraining order (seriously!), and let USCIS know you are divorcing. You can't control whether they deport him or not, or when, but it won't be very pleasant for him trying to hang around without an EAD or a green card. You don't owe him a plane ticket, but if it will help you feel safer, I can understand buying it. Once he's out, he won't be allowed back in without another visa. Good luck. I'm sorry this has happened to you.

[~~~water~~~ 0]

im sorry , stay strong, get him out of the country

[rebeccajo 14]

Who are 'they'?

Too bad this man is out of your eyesight. As things stand right at the moment, he could move anywhere and you would have no idea where he might be.

As pushbrk said, you can notify USCIS that you are withdrawing your petition and I-864. It would also be a good idea to include in that correspondence his last known address.

[Marriednow 4]

Here is the latest. He called begged to come back. Says he will go to Imam and counseling, loves me, please forgive this one mistake. Now the problem--do you forgive one mistake? Later

[caybee 21]

If he could delay the divorce until after he received his conditional green card, he could then petition to remove the conditions on his own after the divorce without even waiting the two years to do so (unless I'm very much mistaken). Maybe this is where he and his friends are going with this. Are you sure he really wants to return to Morocco? Please act quickly and get out from under that affidavit of support, and please stay safe. You may not have a very big window of opportunity here with USCIS.

[melly 0]

Sounds like he realized he won't get his green card if he leaves now...

You have previously stated that his family doesn't want him to be with you and sounds like he doesn't want to be here either, at least in his present situation.

I would think long and hard before you take him and his abuse back into your life.

Edited January 13, 2008 by melly