Stressed

[I love Ashraf 0]

Good Morning Everyone

I know my stress level is probably about a 3 compared to others because I have not even started my visa process.But lately I am stressed with my relationship.It seems like we are in a communication break down.He is working 2 jobs, and is home like every other day or sometimes every three days.I feel like everything I say is wrong.I try to express my feelings and concerns to him and I am coming off like a b****.My plans to go to Egypt have put off first by him going to the military for a year then me getting sick and losing my job. And then there is this visa process that makes me say I am going through all this for a little stamp in a little book.I am living with my mom who is old-school southern and she has this rule about no men living in her house. I tried to explain to her that I just need us to stay with her until we can get settled and my disability case is finished.I understand her feelings about it but I was hoping she would make an exception because she knows the situation.So I am going to have to go against my body and the pain and get a job so that we can have a place to live.I think I am going insane.

[Ta Ta 1]

You will have a lot of time to get everything together after you have filed. There may be many months of AP after the USCIS approval.

Best wishes for finding a good job where your pain level will be tolerable.

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

I relate with you because I felt the same stress about the visa application process before I applied. I felt it was unusual and invasive having to spread eagle for the government all my private information. I put it off for six months after we got married but also I just started college full time and moved to a new town so I had a little bit more going then just stress over submitting the applications. Doing this process is like learning math for me. You have to be precise and repetitive. I would look into all your options for housing. I think there is something like Section 48 or 42 housing for disabled and low income ppl where they make your rent on a sliding scale. Then possibly you won't have to work or work as much and you could have a degree of independence from your Mom. It's nice to have your own place to rest your head.

Olivia

P.S. We're here if you need us.

[I love Ashraf 0]

Thanks Olivia

Not in my town they have stop taking the section 8 stuff, I am working it out as far as a place to live.I am not married yet but I do understand the stress about having him being called to serve if you need to talk drop me a email.

I relate with you because I felt the same stress about the visa application process before I applied. I felt it was unusual and invasive having to spread eagle for the government all my private information. I put it off for six months after we got married but also I just started college full time and moved to a new town so I had a little bit more going then just stress over submitting the applications. Doing this process is like learning math for me. You have to be precise and repetitive. I would look into all your options for housing. I think there is something like Section 48 or 42 housing for disabled and low income ppl where they make your rent on a sliding scale. Then possibly you won't have to work or work as much and you could have a degree of independence from your Mom. It's nice to have your own place to rest your head.

Olivia

P.S. We're here if you need us.

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

Thx.

[Nutty 2]

I am sorry you are having such a difficult time.

I think you should take care of yourself first. Get your disability case settled. Then see about going to Egypt even if he is doing a year in military. He may get some time off and it would be good for you to see him and get to know him better. Reconnect. Maybe even meet with his family.

Then come back and decide what to do.

Edited January 15, 2008 by Nutty

[maggieNomar 0]

I am sorry you are having such a difficult time.

I think you should take care of yourself first. Get your disability case settled. Then see about going to Egypt even if he is doing a year in military. He may get some time off and it would be good for you to see him and get to know him better. Reconnect. Maybe even meet with his family.

Then come back and decide what to do.

We have all had our stressful moments during this process. You can vent here anytime.