Vent! Vent!

[Harding 0]

hi all.

i don't post often on this site -- only when i have a question that i can't find the answer to -- but honestly, i'm reaching the end of my rope. This week marks the one-year anniversary of our having to leave each other (we had been together in the states for a number of years, I on a student visa, until it ran out). Now we're hundreds of miles away, and have been apart for an entire year. i know that we are lucky to even be on the same continent, but really - no one should have to go through this.

On top of it all there has been no word from the powers that be. Our case was completed at the beginning of Februrary but nothing else has happened (it has been 11 weeks since then). Have called, have emailed, have gotten no answers and no indication that this is ever going to end.

Sorry, i'm babbling and ranting. this whole process is so awfully draining.

Who wants to join me in a campaign for a world without borders? a place where love conquers countries?

[Mr. Big Dog 10,747]

Who wants to join me in a campaign for a world without borders? a place where love conquers countries?

I wouldn't go that far - for plain practical reasons.

Just out of curiosity: Why didn't you file for adjustment of status keeping your loved one here in the first place? Clearly that must have been an option for someone that was here on a student visa.

[iceyspots 0]

hi all.

i don't post often on this site -- only when i have a question that i can't find the answer to -- but honestly, i'm reaching the end of my rope. This week marks the one-year anniversary of our having to leave each other (we had been together in the states for a number of years, I on a student visa, until it ran out). Now we're hundreds of miles away, and have been apart for an entire year. i know that we are lucky to even be on the same continent, but really - no one should have to go through this.

On top of it all there has been no word from the powers that be. Our case was completed at the beginning of Februrary but nothing else has happened (it has been 11 weeks since then). Have called, have emailed, have gotten no answers and no indication that this is ever going to end.

Sorry, i'm babbling and ranting. this whole process is so awfully draining.

Who wants to join me in a campaign for a world without borders? a place where love conquers countries?

Your timeline states that your marriage took place on 2005-07-01. We are now towards the end of April... How do you figure now is within a week of your one year anniversary of seeing eachother? Were you not present to sign the marriage certificate or something... cause there's a two month gap..

[Mr. Big Dog 10,747]

hi all.

i don't post often on this site -- only when i have a question that i can't find the answer to -- but honestly, i'm reaching the end of my rope. This week marks the one-year anniversary of our having to leave each other (we had been together in the states for a number of years, I on a student visa, until it ran out). Now we're hundreds of miles away, and have been apart for an entire year. i know that we are lucky to even be on the same continent, but really - no one should have to go through this.

On top of it all there has been no word from the powers that be. Our case was completed at the beginning of Februrary but nothing else has happened (it has been 11 weeks since then). Have called, have emailed, have gotten no answers and no indication that this is ever going to end.

Sorry, i'm babbling and ranting. this whole process is so awfully draining.

Who wants to join me in a campaign for a world without borders? a place where love conquers countries?

Your timeline states that your marriage took place on 2005-07-01. We are now towards the end of April... How do you figure now is within a week of your one year anniversary of seeing eachother? Were you not present to sign the marriage certificate or something... cause there's a two month gap..

[Harding 0]

my apologies, I thought the "off topic" forum was the appropriate place to post my worries.

to answer your questions, respectively, i was ineligible for an adjustment of status at the time I had to leave (believe me, we tried). I was in the states for my BA from '99 to '04 (took half a year off to volunteer abroad). in my junior year of university i met my husband-to-be. finished school in the winter of 2004 and started working on an extension of my student visa (they called it an 'optional practice training' at the time, but that may have since changed). student-extension visa expired April 2005. steve and i had been living together for about 2 years at that point. long story short, visa expired, i had to move back to canada, hence we have been apart for a year (if not more). We got married in the states on July 1st (canada day! 2005 while I was visiting him for 2 weeks - as much time as we had.

make sense?

[raphael7546 0]

my apologies, I thought the "off topic" forum was the appropriate place to post my worries.

to answer your questions, respectively, i was ineligible for an adjustment of status at the time I had to leave (believe me, we tried). I was in the states for my BA from '99 to '04 (took half a year off to volunteer abroad). in my junior year of university i met my husband-to-be. finished school in the winter of 2004 and started working on an extension of my student visa (they called it an 'optional practice training' at the time, but that may have since changed). student-extension visa expired April 2005. steve and i had been living together for about 2 years at that point. long story short, visa expired, i had to move back to canada, hence we have been apart for a year (if not more). We got married in the states on July 1st (canada day! 2005 while I was visiting him for 2 weeks - as much time as we had.

make sense?

So ya went back to Canada. then came back and married whilst visiting then went back home and filed for a k-3 right?

[iceyspots 0]

my apologies, I thought the "off topic" forum was the appropriate place to post my worries.

to answer your questions, respectively, i was ineligible for an adjustment of status at the time I had to leave (believe me, we tried). I was in the states for my BA from '99 to '04 (took half a year off to volunteer abroad). in my junior year of university i met my husband-to-be. finished school in the winter of 2004 and started working on an extension of my student visa (they called it an 'optional practice training' at the time, but that may have since changed). student-extension visa expired April 2005. steve and i had been living together for about 2 years at that point. long story short, visa expired, i had to move back to canada, hence we have been apart for a year (if not more). We got married in the states on July 1st (canada day! 2005 while I was visiting him for 2 weeks - as much time as we had.

make sense?

I hate to be nitpicky, but if you got married in the states on July 1st, then you have seen him in the past year, if not less... there's still two months to account for... unless my math is really really wrong...

[MichelleandCraig 1]

I'm sure she just worded it wrong...she LIKELY meant the time they have been apart except for that two week visit to get married....just my guess. M.

To the OP...as we all do know, being apart is TOUGH! Sounds like you are toward the end of your journey tho, and will hopefully be together soon..I know that doesn't make it any easier now though. All the best to get this resolved for you both soon... M&C

Edited April 22, 2006 by MichelleandCraig

[GaryC 7]

my apologies, I thought the "off topic" forum was the appropriate place to post my worries.

to answer your questions, respectively, i was ineligible for an adjustment of status at the time I had to leave (believe me, we tried). I was in the states for my BA from '99 to '04 (took half a year off to volunteer abroad). in my junior year of university i met my husband-to-be. finished school in the winter of 2004 and started working on an extension of my student visa (they called it an 'optional practice training' at the time, but that may have since changed). student-extension visa expired April 2005. steve and i had been living together for about 2 years at that point. long story short, visa expired, i had to move back to canada, hence we have been apart for a year (if not more). We got married in the states on July 1st (canada day! 2005 while I was visiting him for 2 weeks - as much time as we had.

make sense?

I hate to be nitpicky, but if you got married in the states on July 1st, then you have seen him in the past year, if not less... there's still two months to account for... unless my math is really really wrong...

Maybe she meant it feels like a year. It's still a long time to be away from the one you love. I am sure we can all identify with that!

[meddykomp 0]

Hopefully you will be back together soon.

[Harding 0]

thanks for your kind replies :-

But no, i mean exactly what i said... we have been apart for a year now. (That is to say, after years of living together in the states, while I was legally there as a student/nonimmigrant worker, we lived together and shared a life, but were not yet married. As of one year today, we had to begin living apart.). We have been married for 9, almost 10 months (anniversary July 1st). sorry for the confusion, but really, it's not that difficult to understand...

girl pursues university and career in the US, girl meets boy, girl falls in love with boy (who is US citizen), girl has to leave US due to ammendments, girl misses boy terribly and visits many times, boy misses girl terribly and visits canada many times, boy asks girl to marry him, girl sais yes of couse! boy and girl get married, boy and girl are still waiting for the visa...

[MichelleandCraig 1]

We get all that. What we (I think..I did anyway) THOUGHT you meant was that you hadn't actually SEEN each other for a year..not that you began living apart a year ago. Obviously, you had to see one another to get married in JULY...thus, the confusion. All cleared up now..and still..a long time!! Hope you're together soon. M&C

[Harding 0]

exactly. thanks.

but really, no one's into the rally for a global state? no borders? love conquers all? c'mon... woundn't it be cool if we could all be with our families right now, as opposed to later, none of this waiting-for-paper nonsense?

sorry, i'm just experiencing a bout of severe impatience.

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DISCLAIMER: The views and opinions expressed in this particular singular post are the sole opinion of the OP, who in no way wishes to offend or dispose any given party to the possibility of alternate means of accession into lawful permanent residency in the United States. Any such claims to the contrary must be taken with a grain of salt. I am just extremely impatient.

[MichelleandCraig 1]

hhahahahah Believe me, Craig & I talked about it too(just as a matter of conversation, not ever seriously)when we were apart...when one isn't with his/her loved one, believe me, I do understand!...anything to solve that sounds good!! And I FULLY realize that you are (likely! maybe not!??) kidding here as well..but it would never happen...well, maybe in a 'million years' as they say... but not anytime soon! Too many ramifications of that. Anyway, I get what you're saying...great that you did the right thing tho, and hopefully won't be long now!! M.

[Mr. Big Dog 10,747]

...i was ineligible for an adjustment of status at the time I had to leave (believe me, we tried)... student-extension visa expired April 2005. steve and i had been living together for about 2 years at that point. long story short, visa expired, i had to move back to canada, ... make sense?

Not really. I still don't see the initial ineligibility to stay here and file for adjustment of status if you really wanted that and if you really tried as you say. All it would have taken is to get married sometime before April '05. Could have just stayed and filed then. Wonder who told you otherwise.