Just Turkish

[ErikaAndHamit 73]

I wish we could go!! I have to work Sat/Sun...maybe next year...if I lived iN Cali I could go..but..that sucks!

[awaterlily 0]

Hi Jenn, I am terribly sorry to hear of your recent diagnosis. My thoughts and prayers are extended to you and your family as you embark on this difficult journey.

Hi Everyone,

I have some bad news I wanted to share. Last week, I was diagnosed with Ovarian cancer. I'm still in a little shock, and I can't believe Fuat is going to have to go through all this after everything we;ve done to try to be together. It just doesn't seem fair that we fought to be together for two years... he's here less than a month and then THIS.

Take care,

Jenn

Edited May 5, 2010 by awaterlily

[camistanbul 0]

Hi Jenn - so sorry to hear of your diagnosis and wish you happy, healthy days -- just think positively! Gecmis olsun.

[Melinda&Necmi 0]

Hi everyone, I really need some suggestions..from people who understand what it is like to be in a long-distance relationship with someone from another culture. To make a long story short..Necmi's wife left him twice shortly before I met him. She came back the second time because she was pregnant. He was confused in the beginning, not wanting to be married..but not wanting to leave a baby that could possibly be his. When I went to visit him in June he decided he wanted to divorce and come here to live with me. September he talked with his wife and said he was ready for a divorce. She agreed but had stipulations. The one that I have trouble with is that they could not tell their families for two years. They divorced March 4th. They have lived together all this time, but in separate bedrooms. He wants to come here and get married but return to see his daughter every three months for 10 days. He will stay with his ex-wife during this time to continue the appearance of being married. I have met his ex-wife and she has said they dont love, or even like each other anymore. He is often telling me they fight, and he talks about growing old with me and she had a blackberry her current boyfriend bought for her (that Necmi didn't knwo about until I found her BB PIN on a facebook group)..so I'm not really worried about this being a fake divorce to "get a visa" The problem is, I feel like he is more loyal to her by keeping this deal (that he didnt talk to me aobut before he made it" than to me. I told him i can't deal with him going back to Turkey and sleeping in the same house as his ex-wife. Am I thinking completely like an American woman here...does this craziness somehow make sense in Turkey??

I have told him that when he is ready to tell his family about the divorce and about me, I will be ready to continue the visa process...but I am not sure this is the best idea now.

Sorry in advance for laying all this personal business out there..

Any comments or advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks, Mindi

[ErikaAndHamit 73]

Mindi I agree with you waiting to continue the visa process until he can tell his family and such. Very wise. You don't truly know what is exactly going on there. When that mess is cleaned up in his life only then can you continue. I mean, how can any normal person deal with their spouse leaving so often and staying in the same house with the "ex" ...that is asking too much of anyone not to mention very expensive. How would he deal with not seeing his child and living in another country? Wow Mindi, this is rough. I am so sorry this isn't going to be a smooth, straightforward process for you. I know how you must feel. My thoughts are with you.

Edited May 10, 2010 by ErikaAndHamit

[nicole&efe 0]

Just got my NOA2!

Hopefully this means that instead of me going to visit Efe this summer, Efe will move to the US permanently instead

[ErikaAndHamit 73]

Wooo hooo yay! Congrats! Let life begin......

[kennyandhandan 2]

Just got my NOA2!

Hopefully this means that instead of me going to visit Efe this summer, Efe will move to the US permanently instead

Congrats! That's excellent news.

[Melinda&Necmi 0]

Thanks to everyone for the PMs and emails! They were all a big help.

[Jenn and Fuat 2]

Hi Everyone,

Just thought I would drop in to say hello and give you a brief update. Surgery was two weeks ago and went well... ended up taking out several organs, but appears they got all the cancer. Still doing chemo to be sure, and that will start on Thursday. Fun, Fun...

My mood has been good and Fuat has been an absolute angel. If he didn't know how to cook,clean or do laundry before he came he does now

It will be a few more weeks before I can return to work and just now able to start doing small things around the house.

Nicole and Efe... congrats on the NOA2.

Mindi.... hope things are working out. If all goes well, we should be coming to Michigan in July. Would still like to try to get together.

Hope everyone is well!!

[Deb_Res 0]

Hi Jenn,

So sorry to hear your news, but glad you did well with the surgery. Just take it day by day and it will all work out in no time. Stay strong & happy Jenn. Congrats on your marriage too. I never have a chance to get on here. Lucky if I can just read new posts here and there... Take caare of yourself.

~Deb

Hi Everyone,

Just thought I would drop in to say hello and give you a brief update. Surgery was two weeks ago and went well... ended up taking out several organs, but appears they got all the cancer. Still doing chemo to be sure, and that will start on Thursday. Fun, Fun...

My mood has been good and Fuat has been an absolute angel. If he didn't know how to cook,clean or do laundry before he came he does now

It will be a few more weeks before I can return to work and just now able to start doing small things around the house.

Nicole and Efe... congrats on the NOA2.

Mindi.... hope things are working out. If all goes well, we should be coming to Michigan in July. Would still like to try to get together.

Hope everyone is well!!

[Deb_Res 0]

Hi Everybody!

Home sick with a stomache virus and wanted to finally post and say HI! Life is busy as you all know... Mehmet will be 18 months old on June 5th! How time flies! We had a rough Fall and Winter as he was sick for months. Had to get ear tubes due to 6 months of ear infections and was hospitalized for his 1st birthday. Poor guy went through hell... But thanks to God he is better now and in a new in-home daycare with only 4 other children and I think that makes a world of difference from a health stand point. He is starting to talk and it is just amazing! Resul is working at a local Midas car shop and learning to be a mechanic for almost a year now. He still hasn't been able to go back to Turkey since he's been here (almost 4 years)and his family still has not met Mehmet and that makes him sad. Finances are the issue, especially now with having a baby and paying for daycare. But thank God we still have our jobs, a roof over our heads, and food to eat in this economy!

Hope you are all doing well and hears to a great summer!

~Deb

[awaterlily 0]

I hear you about not being back since...as it is/was our situation as well. Having a child changes a lot. We just shelled out big $ for this trip, which we really can't afford but didnt want to postpone any longer since our little one is going on three. We are in TR right now and will be for about another week. Having a super fun time and our little one is finally meeting all of the other relatives, sooo nice.

so sorry to hear u all have been sick, etc...

Hi Everybody!

Home sick with a stomache virus and wanted to finally post and say HI! Life is busy as you all know... Mehmet will be 18 months old on June 5th! How time flies! We had a rough Fall and Winter as he was sick for months. Had to get ear tubes due to 6 months of ear infections and was hospitalized for his 1st birthday. Poor guy went through hell... But thanks to God he is better now and in a new in-home daycare with only 4 other children and I think that makes a world of difference from a health stand point. He is starting to talk and it is just amazing! Resul is working at a local Midas car shop and learning to be a mechanic for almost a year now. He still hasn't been able to go back to Turkey since he's been here (almost 4 years)and his family still has not met Mehmet and that makes him sad. Finances are the issue, especially now with having a baby and paying for daycare. But thank God we still have our jobs, a roof over our heads, and food to eat in this economy!

Hope you are all doing well and hears to a great summer!

~Deb

[ErikaAndHamit 73]

Oh that is so nice that you are back i Turkey awaterlily! Wonderful! I think we may not get back all that soon either...first we need to work on having kids and then have them and then go lol, so it will be a while too!

Deb, I hope you guys get back soon deb and they can see you cutie pie Mehmet! I wish Hamit was able to find a job! We are trying...not one call back for a year...

Glad you are OK Jen! Hope your chemo goes smoothly and it isn't too bad

[Gil + Pel 2]

Hi Everyone,

Just thought I would drop in to say hello and give you a brief update. Surgery was two weeks ago and went well... ended up taking out several organs, but appears they got all the cancer. Still doing chemo to be sure, and that will start on Thursday. Fun, Fun...

My mood has been good and Fuat has been an absolute angel. If he didn't know how to cook,clean or do laundry before he came he does now

It will be a few more weeks before I can return to work and just now able to start doing small things around the house.

Nicole and Efe... congrats on the NOA2.

Mindi.... hope things are working out. If all goes well, we should be coming to Michigan in July. Would still like to try to get together.

Hope everyone is well!!

it is very good to hear that you are doing ok Jenn!

I hope you will recover as soon as possible! take care yourself!