Anybody Else Feeling A Little Blue After Holidays?

[churipu 4]

I'm not sad (yet?) since I have a few more holidays hours left...I'm from Italy and all ends on sunday with epiphany

[Sofiyya 1,687]

Posting on the wrong thread, marc?

Edited January 5, 2008 by Green-eyed girl

[sarah and hicham 3]

I just don't see how Terrie's husband not getting excited about Christmas means that he doesn't respect her or her religion. He married the woman, and I'm sure he knew she celebrated Christmas before they tied the knot. I don't know how this can be evaluated as a lack of respect for his wife's holidays. He isn't Christian and probably has never celebrated Christmas before as he is Muslim. Anyways, I just don't get it.

Peace out!

[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

Posting on the wrong thread, marc?

I see dead ..........................democrats! lol!

[natty bumppo 297]

well its unfortunate neither of u know what my husband and i discuss. When it came to the holidays when we were seperated from each other, there were things said and promises made where the expectations come from.... and as far as just because he is muslim is a crock of bull if u ask me. i am still learning about the religion, as he is mine. its really too bad instead of offering words of encouragement u critisized someone you know nothing about!!!!!!!!!

Ok, well I'm sorry that your Muslim husband didn't keep his promises to love CHRISTmas. You said you are still learning, but you call it a crock of bull. Ok, well good luck to you.

Maybe it should not be about the expectation to "love" the holiday ... it should be about respecting each others holiday

I didn't catch where she said he doesn't respect her for celebrating Christmas. She was upset because her husband wouldn't go shopping alone, even when her son offered to take him.

I've re-read this thread ... what's with the shopping stuff?

Or is this a carry-over from somewhere else. Please link ... as I don't surf all of VJ.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...p;#entry1444868

"I'M JUST HAPPY MY HUSBAND IS HOME TO BE WITH ME FOR CHRISTMAS THIS YEAR. I DON'T THINK HE UNDERSTANDS TOO MUCH ABOUT OUR WAYS OF CELEBRATING CHRISTMAS AND THAT KIND OF MAKES ME SAD CAUSE HE DIDN'T WANT ME TO SPEND ANY MONEY ON HIM AND HE DIDN'T WANT TO GO CHRISTMAS SHOPPING ALONE YET HERE EVEN THO MY SON OFFERED TO TAKE HIM. "

Thank you for the link to another thread.

So ... where does she say he doesn't ... let me use your words "love" christmas ?

Maybe this is an example of two people with different beliefs needing to adjust .. to learn about each other. It does take time. Talk is one thing ... experiencing the time is another.

[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

Im a little blue! lol, ya gonna make it better for me?

[VetsWife328 7]

The holidayswere pure hell...........Didn't even get to talk to James cause he was at our friends house and they took him over to their parents /in laws .........Now these ppl (the mother/inlaw of our friends) don't like me one bit and have already stated that I'm just after a Green Card.........So I didn't call him there.

My "friends" here in Germany cut ties as soon as we put the papers in to USCIS saying "you'll leave anyways",the bit of family I have left here (my cousin and my twinsister) choose to stay away as well so my son and I were all alone all Christmas and New Years.......

My son has ADHD and a lot of problems related to that and is inbetween gettig very excited about finally leaving and being terrified of leaving everything he has ever known in his 7 years...........

Right now I'm feeling better,but just like in my son there's two sides in me as well.

I'm VERY happy about soon being reunited with my wonderful man,but seeing that my twinsister is taking us leaving very hard (and is terrified of flying so wont visit us) it's also getting harder for me.

My sis and I have been through very much when we were kids and even though most of the time we don't get along (ya there's twins that don't get along),we know that noone else will ever know what we have been through growing up......she always was a lot closer to me and due to the circumstances in her life right now doesn't take it well.

At least I know finally talked her into getting Internet so we can at least Chat and e mail once I have moved.And my man has already gotten Lingo for me so I can call free to GErmany whenever I want to.That will help me a lot,but unfortinatley my sis doesn't see it that way and keeps saying stuff like she'll be all alone once we're gone..........

Not easy....

And I personally can't imagine how hard it must be on ppl that actually HAVE a whole family they have to leave behind in their "Homecountry".

I know if my Daddy was still alive I could and would not leave,no matter how much I love James.

Sorry for the long "rant" but it's been weighing heavy on me for a few days and I just had to get it out........If I was to tell James about the part of me that is hurting because we're leaving Germany to be with him,his feelings would be hurt seeing how long we have been fighting to stay together and one day actually get married and BE together........

Nat

[chaishai 1]

As for me, I feel great! It was easy to go out and not be wished Merry Christmas by store clerks. No one even said they felt sorry for me cause I don't celebrate. Now, if folks would just stop calling two whole months the "Christmas Season", it could be amazing! Yea, glad it's over . . .

I am soooo with you in all of this. People have looked at me and felt sorry for me because we are jewish and dont celebrate xmas - and I have gotten the "oh your poor poor kids" for not getting xmas presents. Um, they DID get chanukah presents for 8 days (well our older child did, our youngest is still a baby) so its not like they are suffering. Besides, just because I dont give my kids a truckload of presents all in one day doesnt mean I dont give them things, they dont have a nice life, etc. The whole "xmas season" and radio channels i normally listen to playing 24/7 xmas music makes me insane.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Christmas is a hard time of year for me, being away from my family. Especially with my mom and the threat of the leukemia coming back, I don't know how many Christmases I have left to possibly spend with her.

I'm so sorry, Cassie.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

The holidayswere pure hell...........Didn't even get to talk to James cause he was at our friends house and they took him over to their parents /in laws .........Now these ppl (the mother/inlaw of our friends) don't like me one bit and have already stated that I'm just after a Green Card.........So I didn't call him there.

My "friends" here in Germany cut ties as soon as we put the papers in to USCIS saying "you'll leave anyways",the bit of family I have left here (my cousin and my twinsister) choose to stay away as well so my son and I were all alone all Christmas and New Years.......

My son has ADHD and a lot of problems related to that and is inbetween gettig very excited about finally leaving and being terrified of leaving everything he has ever known in his 7 years...........

Right now I'm feeling better,but just like in my son there's two sides in me as well.

I'm VERY happy about soon being reunited with my wonderful man,but seeing that my twinsister is taking us leaving very hard (and is terrified of flying so wont visit us) it's also getting harder for me.

My sis and I have been through very much when we were kids and even though most of the time we don't get along (ya there's twins that don't get along),we know that noone else will ever know what we have been through growing up......she always was a lot closer to me and due to the circumstances in her life right now doesn't take it well.

At least I know finally talked her into getting Internet so we can at least Chat and e mail once I have moved.And my man has already gotten Lingo for me so I can call free to GErmany whenever I want to.That will help me a lot,but unfortinatley my sis doesn't see it that way and keeps saying stuff like she'll be all alone once we're gone..........

Not easy....

And I personally can't imagine how hard it must be on ppl that actually HAVE a whole family they have to leave behind in their "Homecountry".

I know if my Daddy was still alive I could and would not leave,no matter how much I love James.

Sorry for the long "rant" but it's been weighing heavy on me for a few days and I just had to get it out........If I was to tell James about the part of me that is hurting because we're leaving Germany to be with him,his feelings would be hurt seeing how long we have been fighting to stay together and one day actually get married and BE together........

Nat

I hope that it will all smooth out soon.

[Cassie 8]

Christmas is a hard time of year for me, being away from my family. Especially with my mom and the threat of the leukemia coming back, I don't know how many Christmases I have left to possibly spend with her.

I'm so sorry, Cassie.

'Tis ok, my mom is a fighter, that is for sure! I just hug her harder whenever I am home to see her.

[Ban Hammer 13,776]

i'm blue knowing that egg nog won't be sold much longer

[Marilyn. 340]

i'm blue knowing that egg nog won't be sold much longer

boo hooo

also my favourite oranges , clementines, are no longer be sold at our grocery store they only sell them around Christmas....

Edited January 5, 2008 by MarilynP

[eric&gen 0]

I had egg nog for the first time the other day in years goes good with coffee.

[Marilyn. 340]

I had egg nog for the first time the other day in years goes good with coffee.

I like mine in my tea too... black tea of course not herbal