Oh, the Things You Find Out Online

[Nessa 23]

Oh, the Things You Find Out Online

Fri Dec 28, 2:00 AM ET

DEAR MARGO: I find myself in a predicament that I never in a million years would have predicted. I am a 25-year-old man who is married to a beautiful, committed wife. Recently, I was chatting online and met a guy. He was funny and quick-witted. After a while we exchanged numbers and have talked for more than two hours every night since. Margo, I hate talking on the phone! Last night we were talking and laughing together, and after a moment of silence, I said, "God, I love you." I immediately apologized, but he said, "Don't." He said he has been fighting saying it, too.

Margo, we are both straight, and we both believe homosexuality is a sin. Neither of us knows what is going on. I haven't had any desire to spend time with my wife since this person came into my life. I only want to talk with "Matt." What is going on?

--- DAZED AND CONFUSED

DEAR DAZE: Let us recap: You "met" a guy online. You've been talking with him on the phone for two hours a night -- and you hate phone conversations. You told him you loved him; he said he's been having the same thought. The two of you believe homosexuality to be a sin. Since you and cyber-friend "met," you have had zero interest in your wife.

These things would not, could not happen to a straight man. You are gay, my friend, though heavily repressed because ... it would be sinful. I believe you and this other chap are so closeted that you've been hiding from yourselves. Because of your religious convictions, I am pretty sure there's an element of self-loathing, if only at the subconscious level.

I would suggest you seek professional help and guidance. Get the national number for GLBT counseling referrals. And perhaps take a break from "Matt" until your identity question is settled, one way or the other.

--- MARGO, STARTLINGLY

we are both straight (hmm, are you sure of that? )

[*JG* 2]

I, for one, will never even understand uttering the "love" word without meeting someone.

[Nessa 23]

I, for one, will never even understand uttering the "love" word without meeting someone.

really? I've been there and now I'm married to the one I fell in love and said I love you many times online.

[Amby 490]

I can understand it even though it didn't happen to me. If you love someone you love them.

[Dr. ZoSo 0]

Oh, the Things You Find Out Online

Fri Dec 28, 2:00 AM ET

DEAR MARGO: I find myself in a predicament that I never in a million years would have predicted. I am a 25-year-old man who is married to a beautiful, committed wife. Recently, I was chatting online and met a guy. He was funny and quick-witted. After a while we exchanged numbers and have talked for more than two hours every night since. Margo, I hate talking on the phone! Last night we were talking and laughing together, and after a moment of silence, I said, "God, I love you." I immediately apologized, but he said, "Don't." He said he has been fighting saying it, too.

Margo, we are both straight, and we both believe homosexuality is a sin. Neither of us knows what is going on. I haven't had any desire to spend time with my wife since this person came into my life. I only want to talk with "Matt." What is going on?

--- DAZED AND CONFUSED

DEAR DAZE: Let us recap: You "met" a guy online. You've been talking with him on the phone for two hours a night -- and you hate phone conversations. You told him you loved him; he said he's been having the same thought. The two of you believe homosexuality to be a sin. Since you and cyber-friend "met," you have had zero interest in your wife.

These things would not, could not happen to a straight man. You are gay, my friend, though heavily repressed because ... it would be sinful. I believe you and this other chap are so closeted that you've been hiding from yourselves. Because of your religious convictions, I am pretty sure there's an element of self-loathing, if only at the subconscious level.

I would suggest you seek professional help and guidance. Get the national number for GLBT counseling referrals. And perhaps take a break from "Matt" until your identity question is settled, one way or the other.

--- MARGO, STARTLINGLY

we are both straight (hmm, are you sure of that? )

You should post your source. This alone is considered plagiarism.

[Nessa 23]

You should post your source. This alone is considered plagiarism.

oh please, are you the plagiarism police?

SOURCE

[*JG* 2]

I, for one, will never even understand uttering the "love" word without meeting someone.

really? I've been there and now I'm married to the one I fell in love and said I love you many times online.

I know it happens and works out. I'm just saying, for me, it's not possible. I could never understand it in my life.

[Nizzy 1]

You should post your source. This alone is considered plagiarism.

oh please, are you the plagiarism police?

SOURCE

Can't you be expelled from Visajourney for not posting the source??

[Nessa 23]

I, for one, will never even understand uttering the "love" word without meeting someone.

really? I've been there and now I'm married to the one I fell in love and said I love you many times online.

I know it happens and works out. I'm just saying, for me, it's not possible. I could never understand it in my life.

I'm sure I used to think like you til I met Charles.

You should post your source. This alone is considered plagiarism.

oh please, are you the plagiarism police?

SOURCE

Can't you be expelled from Visajourney for not posting the source??

I can go to Internet jail for plagiarism

[*julez* 124]

You should post your source. This alone is considered plagiarism.

oh please, are you the plagiarism police?

SOURCE

Can't you be expelled from Visajourney for not posting the source??

Nessa, you've been a bad girl, again! Looks like Amber's gonna have to drive over and spank you! Again.

I think you left the source out on purpose

[Nessa 23]

You should post your source. This alone is considered plagiarism.

oh please, are you the plagiarism police?

SOURCE

Can't you be expelled from Visajourney for not posting the source??

Nessa, you've been a bad girl, again! Looks like Amber's gonna have to drive over and spank you! Again.

I think you left the source out on purpose

I did not. And I don't mind the spanking

[almaty 19]

i a girl that is eager for a spanking

[Ban Hammer 13,643]

You should post your source. This alone is considered plagiarism.

[~Chad~ 0]

matt85 come on now, tell the truth, we know it's you

[mustang-sally 8]

I, for one, will never even understand uttering the "love" word without meeting someone.

really? I've been there and now I'm married to the one I fell in love and said I love you many times online.

I know it happens and works out. I'm just saying, for me, it's not possible. I could never understand it in my life.

I met my SO online in November '05. Between then and when we met in person, when he came to the UK in June '06, we told each other we Loved each other many times. I dont think we would have met if there wasnt that special bond there. We knew we loved each other even though we had never met, the meeting just cemented the feeling.

Yes we would have had to met, there is no way I would married him unless I met him and when we did meet it just affirmed what I knew in my heart, that I love him very much.