Interracial marriages surge across U.S.

[zqt3344 21]

Really intelligent, you people need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and start getting to moving and making the most of life in the USA! For it could be a lot worse in other parts of the world, which is a cold hard reality, aceept it and deal with it. Move on!

What did you expect from people? You are trying to simplify your situation and look through life in rose colored glasses. You and I and anyone else that gets married to a non-USA person should have thought long and hard about the ramifications of marrying them and bringing them to the USA and what could and would be said or done to them or us, so stop crying and be strong!

http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/2007-0...-marriage_n.htm

My question is how many of you have experienced some form of racism as a result of your interracial or mixed nationality marriage? Personally, when a member of my family found out I intended to marry a Vietnamese woman she asked me "How can you do that after what they did to us". I was shocked to say the least. My response was that

1.) I was relatively certain she had nothing to do with the war since she wasn't even born yet. and

2.) That it was us that probably owed amends since we bombed them to the stone age and then bailed out leaving one hell of a mess behind that continues to kill today. Sounds sort of familiar doesn't it? Meet the new boss, same as the old boss.

P.S. I still haven't asked if a white German would be acceptable.

Here's Johnny!

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AGREED! I learned it long ago unlike so many others on here that want to sit around and feel sorry for themselves and cry and whine all the time!

Remember this: When two people are in love, it will attract all kinds of attention and reaction. I was living with, and later married to a (white) French-Canadian/Scandanavia woman from Michigan with me being African-American. We were together a total of 12 yrs. before our divorce. My ex was attractive, but I wanted some different flavor. So, I met a 'Morena' from Northern Colombia, and I'm very satisfied.

But, in Colombia, being Black equates to being a 2nd class citizen. There's segregation alive and kicking in that country, and I understand my fiance when she says that she appreciates the laws we have here in the United States. Her younger sister asks me about, "Obama" regularly, and her father asks me about "Mississippi Burning" and if it was exactly like in the movie?? When I was still with my ex, we traveled to Helsinki, Finland, and people there wanted to know about "Boy's in the Hood" and why young people did not get along with the police in Los Angeles?? Just honest curiosity.

In Colombia, we get stared at, but I just stare back (like I'm part Mental), and people get uncomfortable and look away. I don't get it. We're both black. What's the problem??? Haha.

Moral of the story: don't base your happiness on acceptance from others.

[Ken y Leidys 20]

I think that a good suggestion would be to sit the family, extended family, etc. down and let them know the whole story, see photographs of who their new In-Law is, where s/he is coming from, etc. There should be no surprises, only anticipation for this person entering your life. Hopefully, your family will all be on-board with this decision you have made, because a unified family will make things feel more inclusive.

[bora bora 1]

I think that a good suggestion would be to sit the family, extended family, etc. down and let them know the whole story, see photographs of who their new In-Law is, where s/he is coming from, etc. There should be no surprises, only anticipation for this person entering your life. Hopefully, your family will all be on-board with this decision you have made, because a unified family will make things feel more inclusive.

Exactly.

My friends and family couldn't WAIT to meet my husband!!

[athena_ny 1]

Really intelligent, you people need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and start getting to moving and making the most of life in the USA! For it could be a lot worse in other parts of the world, which is a cold hard reality, aceept it and deal with it. Move on!

What did you expect from people? You are trying to simplify your situation and look through life in rose colored glasses. You and I and anyone else that gets married to a non-USA person should have thought long and hard about the ramifications of marrying them and bringing them to the USA and what could and would be said or done to them or us, so stop crying and be strong!

http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/2007-0...-marriage_n.htm

My question is how many of you have experienced some form of racism as a result of your interracial or mixed nationality marriage? Personally, when a member of my family found out I intended to marry a Vietnamese woman she asked me "How can you do that after what they did to us". I was shocked to say the least. My response was that

1.) I was relatively certain she had nothing to do with the war since she wasn't even born yet. and

2.) That it was us that probably owed amends since we bombed them to the stone age and then bailed out leaving one hell of a mess behind that continues to kill today. Sounds sort of familiar doesn't it? Meet the new boss, same as the old boss.

P.S. I still haven't asked if a white German would be acceptable.

Here's Johnny!

http://static.flickr.com/27/45718334_bcd57b061b.jpg

AGREED! I learned it long ago unlike so many others on here that want to sit around and feel sorry for themselves and cry and whine all the time!

Remember this: When two people are in love, it will attract all kinds of attention and reaction. I was living with, and later married to a (white) French-Canadian/Scandanavia woman from Michigan with me being African-American. We were together a total of 12 yrs. before our divorce. My ex was attractive, but I wanted some different flavor. So, I met a 'Morena' from Northern Colombia, and I'm very satisfied.

But, in Colombia, being Black equates to being a 2nd class citizen. There's segregation alive and kicking in that country, and I understand my fiance when she says that she appreciates the laws we have here in the United States. Her younger sister asks me about, "Obama" regularly, and her father asks me about "Mississippi Burning" and if it was exactly like in the movie?? When I was still with my ex, we traveled to Helsinki, Finland, and people there wanted to know about "Boy's in the Hood" and why young people did not get along with the police in Los Angeles?? Just honest curiosity.

In Colombia, we get stared at, but I just stare back (like I'm part Mental), and people get uncomfortable and look away. I don't get it. We're both black. What's the problem??? Haha.

Moral of the story: don't base your happiness on acceptance from others.

Except this thread is about interracial relationships, which, based on your lack of input on the subject at hand, you know nothing about.

[Ken y Leidys 20]

Huh???

[GabiandVi 34]

My parents live in the town where Ernest Gaines set the novel, Autobiography of Miss Jane Pittman. In case you don't know that book or have not seen the mini-series based on it, it is about a woman who was born in slavery and lived through the civil rights era. In fact, if you have read any of Gaines's books, most of them are set in this area, though the names of places have been changed. It is an area that is majority Black but primarily run and owned by Whites. It is deeply steeped in racism, though never really any violence. All my life I've heard racist comments from family and friends.

This is the town where my husband was first introduced to the US. EVERYONE has been very welcoming. People who have said the most awful things about Blacks in the past have been truly accomodating and sincerely warm to my husband. I was a little concerned how my family would accept our marriage, but I'm now ashamed of my former fears.

I expect we will occasionally meet with prejudice when we finally start to live in the US, but I don't think it will have much influence on the way we live. I think that people are much more accepting of interracial marriages these days. I am a bit worried about our child. I'm a teacher and I have seen in schools how children have to choose whether they are "White" or "Black" and how they often have to prove how "Black" or "White" they are. I'm sure it isn't like this in places where minorities are truly that, i.e. 10% or less of the population, but where minorities are a large portion of the population, like where we will be living, fear and distrust rises up along color lines. Maybe this will also begin to be less so.

By relating my experiences and my expectations, I don't want to downplay the racism that exists against an entire group of people. Somehow as an interracial couple, we literally are able to bridge the gap between races. But I do worry about how my husband will feel after a few years living in the US. While he was in China, people were openly curious about him. They would want to take pictures of him and rub his skin to see if the color came off. There is a sort of caste system based on shades of darkness in China. Though it isn't as structured as in India, there is definitely a hierarchy of social acceptance and Black people are thought to be dirty. However, there is a sort of romantic fascination with Africans in China these days, so while my husband often found the attention annoying and the questions and attitudes stupid, he didn't suffer too much from it. I think he might become frustrated after a while about more subtle prejudice in the US. I've tried to prepare him, but I don't know if he truly understands.

[Teacher Mark 53]

Really intelligent, you people need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and start getting to moving and making the most of life in the USA! For it could be a lot worse in other parts of the world, which is a cold hard reality, aceept it and deal with it. Move on!

What did you expect from people? You are trying to simplify your situation and look through life in rose colored glasses. You and I and anyone else that gets married to a non-USA person should have thought long and hard about the ramifications of marrying them and bringing them to the USA and what could and would be said or done to them or us, so stop crying and be strong!

http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/2007-0...-marriage_n.htm

My question is how many of you have experienced some form of racism as a result of your interracial or mixed nationality marriage? Personally, when a member of my family found out I intended to marry a Vietnamese woman she asked me "How can you do that after what they did to us". I was shocked to say the least. My response was that

1.) I was relatively certain she had nothing to do with the war since she wasn't even born yet. and

2.) That it was us that probably owed amends since we bombed them to the stone age and then bailed out leaving one hell of a mess behind that continues to kill today. Sounds sort of familiar doesn't it? Meet the new boss, same as the old boss.

P.S. I still haven't asked if a white German would be acceptable.

Here's Johnny!

http://static.flickr.com/27/45718334_bcd57b061b.jpg

AGREED! I learned it long ago unlike so many others on here that want to sit around and feel sorry for themselves and cry and whine all the time!

Remember this: When two people are in love, it will attract all kinds of attention and reaction. I was living with, and later married to a (white) French-Canadian/Scandanavia woman from Michigan with me being African-American. We were together a total of 12 yrs. before our divorce. My ex was attractive, but I wanted some different flavor. So, I met a 'Morena' from Northern Colombia, and I'm very satisfied.

But, in Colombia, being Black equates to being a 2nd class citizen. There's segregation alive and kicking in that country, and I understand my fiance when she says that she appreciates the laws we have here in the United States. Her younger sister asks me about, "Obama" regularly, and her father asks me about "Mississippi Burning" and if it was exactly like in the movie?? When I was still with my ex, we traveled to Helsinki, Finland, and people there wanted to know about "Boy's in the Hood" and why young people did not get along with the police in Los Angeles?? Just honest curiosity.

In Colombia, we get stared at, but I just stare back (like I'm part Mental), and people get uncomfortable and look away. I don't get it. We're both black. What's the problem??? Haha.

Moral of the story: don't base your happiness on acceptance from others.

This is about racism. pure and simple. Don't like what I posted? Tough ^&*%. Evidently it's a good topic or it wouldn't still be active.

P.S. I'm sitting in a pretty poor area of a pretty poor country right now. I do not feel the least bit sorry for myself. I feel grateful to be as fortunate as I have been. My feelings are still the same concerning racists and the idiots who support them.

[Jamericanlove 31]

I'm a Black Jamaican woman who is married to a White american man and I have never had a problem dating inside or outside of my race. My husband on the other hand has always dated black women ALL his life. It's not a big deal and to be honest I have never gotten any negative comment about mine and my husbands relationship. We know we make a great couple and that's all that really matters at the end of the day.

[RyaNRiza 1]

I've heard a lot of comments about mail order brides. If it's someone I care to continue having conversations with, I set them straight. If it's not I just walk away. They also ask me if she had been trying to come here, I guess a roundabout way of asking if she was only looking for a greencard.

Many people just don't want to try to understand.

[sara..... 371]

Im latina perviz is from India...........but...........i have two full black sisters......mixed brother and another mixed sister and brothers that are Pakistani...........hmmm when we set down for dinner in our home we have the meeting of most the nations we have drawn attention no matter where we are in our country the USA or other countries over seas...........i think people are too busy trying to figure us out to say anything but we are the head turners going out to eat......to Disney land where ever it is people stop and look......... no racist remarks in our home....or from our family lol

Edited April 8, 2008 by estadia

[Ken y Leidys 20]

I just returned from 1 week in Northern Colombia. The caste system there is so severe that Blacks and/or Afro Colombians are barred from certain high-calibre establishments. Onelis and I didn't have any difficulties navigating this social construct, but she made me aware of it, and as an American, I am happy to say things are better here than any other part of the world in terms of our Constitution and opportunities available to us.

I spent 2 weeks in Finland, and although I was simply a traveler, I got this look as if I were there to live off of the welfare system. You could read it on the faces of so many people. I just smiled and enjoyed myself regardless, because I can't worry about the thoughts of ignorant people.

Last summer when I visited Peru, I spent some time in the Amazon region, and people were just curious, and just looked at me in curiousity. Some asked politely if I were, "Brazileno" or Brazilian. I laughed and told them, "No, American."

When I lead tours in Baja, Mexico - I get asked where I am from, and while speaking in Spanish, people tell me, "Impossible! American's can't/don't speak Spanish!"

[Merk 0]

KEEP THE OREO LOVE ALIVE! Don't let other peoples' hang ups bring you down!!! Smile and keep on moving!!!!

[sweetpink 1]

not because you are white skinned it made you a better person from the rests of humanity..only moron could have this kind of mentality.

My in-laws loves me and that's all I care for. My father in-law is an irish were as my mother in-law is a german. My sister in-law married to a cuban and I am a filipino...we are a multicultural family!

[kerewin21 2]

My husband was surprised at how many mixed couples you see here in New York. In Morocco, even someone who's dark-skinned and someone who's light-skinned together is unusual, even though they are the same ethnicity and speak the same language.

I personally think it's great to see so many mixed marriages.

[bora bora 1]

My husband was surprised at how many mixed couples you see here in New York. In Morocco, even someone who's dark-skinned and someone who's light-skinned together is unusual, even though they are the same ethnicity and speak the same language.

I personally think it's great to see so many mixed marriages.

I agree!

I was surprised to see so many mixed marriages just where I work - it's really nice.

People used to stare at us a lot in Brazil, but people weren't giving us dirty looks, it's just not common to see Americans out of the touristy area in the city where we lived - and my husband is pretty dark. We think it's beautiful