Interracial marriages surge across U.S.

[Forever Young 1]

I am white and my wife is Jamaican. She is still in Jamaica and has not been to the US as of now, but I have spent alot of time in Jamaica and I think the people there are very wonderful people (most of them). Her family is very supportive and loving and has no problem that i am white. BUT, there are some (ok alot) of racial men in Jamaica. I had to learn quick to just ignore them and smile at them as I held my wife close to me. They made many remarks like white man, why you with a white man, and they would tell my wife that no white man can please like a Jamaican man (they could be right, but my wife thinks different, she is very happy in all depts.)

As for my family, they are very supportive and can't wait to meet her (except for 1 aunt who laughed at me, but i don't even speak to her anymore -- its her ignorance not mine). My church which is 95% white are very supportive and anxious to meet her as well. (which brings up a point -- We all serve the same God, so it does'nt matter in His eyes, so we should not worry about what others think)

I am so sorry to hear that J. They are just jealous and ignorant! I think it is hysterical that we Jamaicans have the nerve to make negative comments about other races. After all our national motto is..."Out of Many, One people!" There is a reason for that!

Jamaica is a country that is so diverse it's crazy! We had a great deal of Chinese, Indian & Syrian people that migrated to JA. from the early 19th- 20th century. Not to mention our strong British, Scottish and German root from slavery!

We are what I call a 'Mutt' country...there are very few Yardies that are 100% African, regardless of what they may want to tell you!!

Good luck & many blessings to you and Marla!

Bless-ed,

Gill

Edited February 10, 2008 by Deyoungting

[typee0 0]

Unfortunately some things never change, I was born and raised in the deep south. I have been many places with the Army. It took some time for myself to accept to each His/Her own. Anyway my own coworkers had the nerve to say I was turning on the black man. I asked What HE double hockey sticks is my guy who was born in africa. That was pure iqnorance. A few other ordeals have been encountered by so called friends. However since I have gone over and they have seen the engagement party pics and the gifts that I receive from time to time it is like oh He must be serious.

Just because some people are stuck in whatever zone does not mean everyone else has to be a part of that thinking. We all must get out side of limited thinking. I am so glad I did. I wish all the best to everyone and the strength to get through whatever obstacles that pop up.

Health and wellness always.

[BelwinMills 0]

not really any yet. My hubby is from Jamaica. We live in a college town which is pretty nice.

[GabachaYucateca 0]

My husband didn't want to come here at all, but came for me. I have gotten the GC comment, but generally just blow it off. In fact, the last person whjo made that comment was born in Cape Verde and naturalized (or his parents did) 15 years ago.

Hubby thinks people look at him a lot, and feels like he notices the difference in looks when we go shopping in say, the suburban town where I grew up as opposed to the city that we live in now. But I'm surrounded by people in interracial marriages.

And where I live and work, if you say "oh, she's the white girl" everyone knows who you're talking about.

What I have felt is tension from other women, white or Latina, who seem to think that just because I'm chatting with their men then I'm someone bad. We went to a party full of Central and South Americans, and at the beginning some of the older Colombian women were not too friendly, but by the end they had invited me to Medellin for vacation. I think it was partly feeling me out because they might not interact with non-Hispanic people too much. I don't know, but I'm pretty used to women needing time to warm up.

But what i hadn't expected was absolute bitchiness and coldness from one younger woman...she came late with her hubby...she was Panamanian and he from Trinidad but i think she grew up here. Anyway her hubby sat right next to me, and she on the other side of him. So I was friendly and introduced myself and started chatting...he was fine at first, but then I saw how she was looking at me, and then he clammed up and got pretty rude and cold.

Nice, huh? And with my husband sitting on the other side of me!

[panamania79 2]

My husband didn't want to come here at all, but came for me. I have gotten the GC comment, but generally just blow it off. In fact, the last person whjo made that comment was born in Cape Verde and naturalized (or his parents did) 15 years ago.

Hubby thinks people look at him a lot, and feels like he notices the difference in looks when we go shopping in say, the suburban town where I grew up as opposed to the city that we live in now. But I'm surrounded by people in interracial marriages.

And where I live and work, if you say "oh, she's the white girl" everyone knows who you're talking about.

What I have felt is tension from other women, white or Latina, who seem to think that just because I'm chatting with their men then I'm someone bad. We went to a party full of Central and South Americans, and at the beginning some of the older Colombian women were not too friendly, but by the end they had invited me to Medellin for vacation. I think it was partly feeling me out because they might not interact with non-Hispanic people too much. I don't know, but I'm pretty used to women needing time to warm up.

But what i hadn't expected was absolute bitchiness and coldness from one younger woman...she came late with her hubby...she was Panamanian and he from Trinidad but i think she grew up here. Anyway her hubby sat right next to me, and she on the other side of him. So I was friendly and introduced myself and started chatting...he was fine at first, but then I saw how she was looking at me, and then he clammed up and got pretty rude and cold.

Nice, huh? And with my husband sitting on the other side of me!

It wasn't me.

[GabachaYucateca 0]

Of course, not, mami!!!! I'm sure we'd get along splendidly!

Edited February 13, 2008 by GabachaYucateca

[panamania79 2]

Of course, not, mami!!!! I'm sure we'd get along splendidly!

Hells yeah !

[zqt3344 21]

What did you expect from people? You are trying to simplify your situation and look through life in rose colored glasses. You and I and anyone else that gets married to a non-USA person should have thought long and hard about the ramifications of marrying them and bringing them to the USA and what could and would be said or done to them or us, so stop crying and be strong!

http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/2007-0...-marriage_n.htm

My question is how many of you have experienced some form of racism as a result of your interracial or mixed nationality marriage? Personally, when a member of my family found out I intended to marry a Vietnamese woman she asked me "How can you do that after what they did to us". I was shocked to say the least. My response was that

1.) I was relatively certain she had nothing to do with the war since she wasn't even born yet. and

2.) That it was us that probably owed amends since we bombed them to the stone age and then bailed out leaving one hell of a mess behind that continues to kill today. Sounds sort of familiar doesn't it? Meet the new boss, same as the old boss.

P.S. I still haven't asked if a white German would be acceptable.

[Krikit 1,164]

What did you expect from people? You are trying to simplify your situation and look through life in rose colored glasses. You and I and anyone else that gets married to a non-USA person should have thought long and hard about the ramifications of marrying them and bringing them to the USA and what could and would be said or done to them or us, so stop crying and be strong!

[athena_ny 1]

What did you expect from people? You are trying to simplify your situation and look through life in rose colored glasses. You and I and anyone else that gets married to a non-USA person should have thought long and hard about the ramifications of marrying them and bringing them to the USA and what could and would be said or done to them or us, so stop crying and be strong!

Hahaha.

Can't even post an article without being zqt'd.

People stare at us in public and I've had people act like I should have found something better, but this is a country with racism deeply ingrained in its culture. It doesn't get a pass from me, but meh. At least I know I am a few steps ahead.

[Teacher Mark 53]

What did you expect from people? You are trying to simplify your situation and look through life in rose colored glasses. You and I and anyone else that gets married to a non-USA person should have thought long and hard about the ramifications of marrying them and bringing them to the USA and what could and would be said or done to them or us, so stop crying and be strong!

http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/2007-0...-marriage_n.htm

My question is how many of you have experienced some form of racism as a result of your interracial or mixed nationality marriage? Personally, when a member of my family found out I intended to marry a Vietnamese woman she asked me "How can you do that after what they did to us". I was shocked to say the least. My response was that

1.) I was relatively certain she had nothing to do with the war since she wasn't even born yet. and

2.) That it was us that probably owed amends since we bombed them to the stone age and then bailed out leaving one hell of a mess behind that continues to kill today. Sounds sort of familiar doesn't it? Meet the new boss, same as the old boss.

P.S. I still haven't asked if a white German would be acceptable.

Here's Johnny!

http://static.flickr.com/27/45718334_bcd57b061b.jpg

[Krikit 1,164]

Can't even post an article without being zqt'd.

Here's Johnny!

http://static.flickr.com/27/45718334_bcd57b061b.jpg

:lol:

[Teacher Mark 53]

What did you expect from people? You are trying to simplify your situation and look through life in rose colored glasses. You and I and anyone else that gets married to a non-USA person should have thought long and hard about the ramifications of marrying them and bringing them to the USA and what could and would be said or done to them or us, so stop crying and be strong!

http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/2007-0...-marriage_n.htm

My question is how many of you have experienced some form of racism as a result of your interracial or mixed nationality marriage? Personally, when a member of my family found out I intended to marry a Vietnamese woman she asked me "How can you do that after what they did to us". I was shocked to say the least. My response was that

1.) I was relatively certain she had nothing to do with the war since she wasn't even born yet. and

2.) That it was us that probably owed amends since we bombed them to the stone age and then bailed out leaving one hell of a mess behind that continues to kill today. Sounds sort of familiar doesn't it? Meet the new boss, same as the old boss.

P.S. I still haven't asked if a white German would be acceptable.

Here's Johnny!

http://static.flickr.com/27/45718334_bcd57b061b.jpg

I'll leave it at that for now. I'm heading to Viet Nam in the morning and don't have the time to properly respond to you right now. Johnny has pretty much summed it up for me though. His message is intended for you and any of the others who don't see life through the same "rose colored glasses" that I have been endowed with.

Edited February 19, 2008 by WideAwakeInTheUSA

[Ken y Leidys 20]

Remember this: When two people are in love, it will attract all kinds of attention and reaction. I was living with, and later married to a (white) French-Canadian/Scandanavia woman from Michigan with me being African-American. We were together a total of 12 yrs. before our divorce. My ex was attractive, but I wanted some different flavor. So, I met a 'Morena' from Northern Colombia, and I'm very satisfied.

But, in Colombia, being Black equates to being a 2nd class citizen. There's segregation alive and kicking in that country, and I understand my fiance when she says that she appreciates the laws we have here in the United States. Her younger sister asks me about, "Obama" regularly, and her father asks me about "Mississippi Burning" and if it was exactly like in the movie?? When I was still with my ex, we traveled to Helsinki, Finland, and people there wanted to know about "Boy's in the Hood" and why young people did not get along with the police in Los Angeles?? Just honest curiosity.

In Colombia, we get stared at, but I just stare back (like I'm part Mental), and people get uncomfortable and look away. I don't get it. We're both black. What's the problem??? Haha.

Moral of the story: don't base your happiness on acceptance from others.

[zqt3344 21]

So out of touch with reality, grow up!

What did you expect from people? You are trying to simplify your situation and look through life in rose colored glasses. You and I and anyone else that gets married to a non-USA person should have thought long and hard about the ramifications of marrying them and bringing them to the USA and what could and would be said or done to them or us, so stop crying and be strong!

Hahaha.

Can't even post an article without being zqt'd.

People stare at us in public and I've had people act like I should have found something better, but this is a country with racism deeply ingrained in its culture. It doesn't get a pass from me, but meh. At least I know I am a few steps ahead.