Opnions? K1, K4, or CR-1?

[dlg 0]

Just spent an hour reading more about each of your cases and now I'm all worried...

So, I'd love to hear from each of you what you would suggest for my love and I. Should we go the K1 route, K3 route, or straight for the CR-1?

Reading all the accounts what Paki men are going through, esp. with American (non-muslim) women are going through is making me sad and worried.

If you were to start the process all over again, what would you do, what do you wish you had known?

Thanks!!!

Opps, that title was supposed to read "Opinions" not "Opnions" and K3 not K4 (better work on my typing and editing skills!!)

Edited April 21, 2006 by dlg

[Nessa 23]

Just spent an hour reading more about each of your cases and now I'm all worried...

So, I'd love to hear from each of you what you would suggest for my love and I. Should we go the K1 route, K3 route, or straight for the CR-1?

Reading all the accounts what Paki men are going through, esp. with American (non-muslim) women are going through is making me sad and worried.

If you were to start the process all over again, what would you do, what do you wish you had known?

Thanks!!!

Opps, that title was supposed to read "Opinions" not "Opnions" and K3 not K4 (better work on my typing and editing skills!!)

it depends, are you engaged or married? engaged go with the K1, married K3, is your fiancee in the states already?

[dlg 0]

Just spent an hour reading more about each of your cases and now I'm all worried...

So, I'd love to hear from each of you what you would suggest for my love and I. Should we go the K1 route, K3 route, or straight for the CR-1?

Reading all the accounts what Paki men are going through, esp. with American (non-muslim) women are going through is making me sad and worried.

If you were to start the process all over again, what would you do, what do you wish you had known?

Thanks!!!

Opps, that title was supposed to read "Opinions" not "Opnions" and K3 not K4 (better work on my typing and editing skills!!)

it depends, are you engaged or married? engaged go with the K1, married K3, is your fiancee in the states already?

We are engaged, but I am traveling to meet him soon, with the possibility of marrying there. No, he is not in the U.S. now. We tried to get him a visitors visa, but it was denied...

[iceyspots 0]

marriage make a stronger case...

[MaryandMian 1]

Danita,

I will have to say I would go the CR1 route. It is so hard for a man coming on K1 or K3 from Pakistan and some of them are having hard time AOSing in the states. It does take a little longer but he will have his ss card, his work authorization and travel authorization. It would give him 21 months before he would have to remove or lift conditions. Some K1 and K3 are taking as long as the CR1.

Depending on his name, job. education, and travels all take into play on how long it takes to get your husband here in the states. I think if you file the married visa your case is stronger but you are dealing with a T country and they are making it harder for us to bring our loved ones here.

I think if you just tell yourself the journey will take some time, keep communications open with your husband and try to not stress of the times you will do fine. There does not seem to be any way to shorten the length of time your separated. And no two timelines coming out of Islamabad are they alike unless your bringing over a woman.

Just go and marry him if you desire and get plenty of evidence to submit and pray for patience and understanding while dealing with this journey.

Mary

Edited April 21, 2006 by mianishqsrose

[dlg 0]

Danita,

I will have to say I would go the CR1 route. It is so hard for a man coming on K1 or K3 from Pakistan and some of them are having hard time AOSing in the states. It does take a little longer but he will have his ss card, his work authorization and travel authorization. It would give him 21 months before he would have to remove or lift conditions. Some K1 and K3 are taking as long as the CR1.

Depending on his name, job. education, and travels all take into play on how long it takes to get your husband here in the states. I think if you file the married visa your case is stronger but you are dealing with a T country and they are making it harder for us to bring our loved ones here.

I think if you just tell yourself the journey will take some time, keep communications open with your husband and try to not stress of the times you will do fine. There does not seem to be any way to shorten the length of time your separated. And no two timelines coming out of Islamabad are they alike unless your bringing over a woman.

Just go and marry him if you desire and get plenty of evidence to submit and pray for patience and understanding while dealing with this journey.

Mary

Thank you for your response Mary. I thought with the CR-1 his travel is restricted for 2 years... which was my biggest concern. It would kill me if something came up with his family and he wasn't granted permission to travel home. Patience and understanding. Yes, I need to work hard on this one. Hard not to get angry with my govt. How often do you get to see your SO?

[MaryandMian 1]

Thank you for your response Mary. I thought with the CR-1 his travel is restricted for 2 years... which was my biggest concern. It would kill me if something came up with his family and he wasn't granted permission to travel home. Patience and understanding. Yes, I need to work hard on this one. Hard not to get angry with my govt. How often do you get to see your SO?

I am sorry to say I have not seen him since returning in January 2005. I have two kids and my oldest has to have surgery every 6 months. He is going to have major surgery again on June 1st. We thought he would of been here by now.

But we talk daily on the web one hour and he has bought a cam so we do cam to cam chats. I call him daily at his goodnight time. He calls me daily at my gm time. We limit the time of the calls and then two times a week we have long calls 20 to 40 mins in length.

We just take it one day at a time and know in time we will be blessed.

Mary

Edited April 21, 2006 by mianishqsrose

[dlg 0]

Thank you for your response Mary. I thought with the CR-1 his travel is restricted for 2 years... which was my biggest concern. It would kill me if something came up with his family and he wasn't granted permission to travel home. Patience and understanding. Yes, I need to work hard on this one. Hard not to get angry with my govt. How often do you get to see your SO?

I am sorry to say I have not seen him since returning in January 2005. I have two kids and my oldest has to have surgery every 6 months. He is going to have major surgery again on June 1st. We thought he would of been here by now.

But we talk daily on the web one hour and he has bought a cam so we do cam to cam chats. I call him daily at his goodnight time. He calls me daily at my gm time. We limit the time of the calls and then two times a week we have long calls 20 to 40 mins in length.

We just take it one day at a time and know in time we will be blessed.

Mary

Ugh, wow, you have some patience!! Best of luck with your son's next surgery!!!! Your story should help me find more patience!!!

I need to get my SO set up with a computer so we can chat more that way. Right now we're using calling cards/cell phone. Would be nice to be able to "see" him though. I will be headed over soon if all goes well. Can I take anything over for you? I'll be in ISB.

[meauxna 15]

I thought with the CR-1 his travel is restricted for 2 years... which was my biggest concern. It would kill me if something came up with his family and he wasn't granted permission to travel home.

The CR-1 visa is actually an "Immigrant Visa" if you want to look up the details. At entry, it gives Permanent Resident status to the beneficiary. That means they are a Green Card holder from the first day.

There is no travel restriction like you mention for the first 2 years.

[MaryandMian 1]

I need to get my SO set up with a computer so we can chat more that way. Right now we're using calling cards/cell phone. Would be nice to be able to "see" him though. I will be headed over soon if all goes well. Can I take anything over for you? I'll be in ISB.

Thanks for the offer of taking him something for me. I think I am going to pass on that now. I will tell you that we do the net chats and we stick to it daily unless one of us just cannot be online. It really helps with the stress levels and keep us in touch. We use calling cards for the long calls and I have the landline on the house for some calls so we can use the bills as our proof. Ishteaq uses a cafe to chat from and he just bought his own pc camera since we were not having any luck the others were always rented out. Thank you again for your offer.