The 2008 United Kingdom Interview Thread!

[swordfish2k0 0]

Hi,

I am applying at the London Embassy. I had my medical yesterday and i sent my IV-15 checklist to the embassy last week by royal mail special delivery. The royal mail tracking says it is at their PO BOX awaiting delivery/collection but its been there for nearly a week now, any advice?

[Jeraly 4]

It acn take up to a month to get packet 4 - I wouldn't worry just yet - check out some other people's timelines I'm sure you'll hear something in the next week or two

I never had patience and it took me a long time to get my head around it - I still have impatient days of course But I figured I could either be miserable or happy... being frustrated and impatient sure makes for a longer-seeming wait

[Saffyre 0]

It acn take up to a month to get packet 4 - I wouldn't worry just yet - check out some other people's timelines I'm sure you'll hear something in the next week or two

I never had patience and it took me a long time to get my head around it - I still have impatient days of course But I figured I could either be miserable or happy... being frustrated and impatient sure makes for a longer-seeming wait

Good call! I am trying to stay upbeat now about the process. The only thing that really gets to me is mising my SO - and I know we're all in the same boat there!

[Jeraly 4]

My theory on it is we both knew what we were getting ourselves into 2 1/2 years ago and we still chose to make a go of it - we've been in a long distance relationship for that long and filed last July after getting engaged Christmas 2006. I must say I missed him more at first because I had never been in a relationship where I couldn't see my OH but it has got easier to be apart... until recently...

Now there is a light at the end of the tunnel it is harder and harder to be without him - especially knowing that being with him is going to be so bittersweet - I am giving up everything I know and love and I will miss my friends and family. But we need to do this and I know that whatever happens, wherever we live, however we settle, we will at least be together

[Saffyre 0]

My theory on it is we both knew what we were getting ourselves into 2 1/2 years ago and we still chose to make a go of it - we've been in a long distance relationship for that long and filed last July after getting engaged Christmas 2006. I must say I missed him more at first because I had never been in a relationship where I couldn't see my OH but it has got easier to be apart... until recently...

Now there is a light at the end of the tunnel it is harder and harder to be without him - especially knowing that being with him is going to be so bittersweet - I am giving up everything I know and love and I will miss my friends and family. But we need to do this and I know that whatever happens, wherever we live, however we settle, we will at least be together

It's strange because when I met Toby I had no idea it would come to this.....I didnt even think of getting married, but I wouldn't have guessed it was so complicated. It aint like you see in the movies!!! Either way - we have been doing this for 3 years now too, and I suppose ultimately it is the fact that I can see light at the end of the tunnel that makes it so much harder to keep waiting. You have a wonderfully matuire outlook on it all though!

[Jeraly 4]

Haha - I never used to be like this - this whole process as hard as it has been has made me into more of a fighter - things always came easy to me before this and so having to finish uni and go through a visa process... then when I moev we aren't going to have any money either which I am not used to... there are lots of challenges ahead but keeping my feet on the ground helps to see that things will work out...

Of course you don't see me crying in bed at midnight talking to Jeremy about how we can't afford to do anything like go visit my family or pay for AOS or get a bed etc

[Saffyre 0]

Haha - I never used to be like this - this whole process as hard as it has been has made me into more of a fighter - things always came easy to me before this and so having to finish uni and go through a visa process... then when I moev we aren't going to have any money either which I am not used to... there are lots of challenges ahead but keeping my feet on the ground helps to see that things will work out...

Of course you don't see me crying in bed at midnight talking to Jeremy about how we can't afford to do anything like go visit my family or pay for AOS or get a bed etc

Well that makes me feel a little bit less neurotic about things then. Money isn't our problem - it's more the fact that my mum refuses to come to the wedding, and has stated she will never visit. So essentially she has forced me to chose between her and Toby. I chose Toby. So all the time I am still here, she takes her chances to remind me that I am 'leaving' her behind etc, etc.....

[StillThePrettiest 3]

oh, Saffyre, that's awful

my mum and dad haven't even met Dave yet (they're in Aus, and I'm in London ), but they've been SO supportive... I know that's invaluable

when she says the 'leaving' thing, can you not just keep reminding her that she's invited any time? if she says she won't come, can't you just say 'well, that's YOUR choice, not mine, and it's making me very sad'?

I hate when people try to guilt you into changing your mind on something

[Jeraly 4]

Ouch - why on earth would she want to do that? That must be so hard Maybe she will come around in time? My family have been pretty supportive although I am sure there were skeptics initially

I hate when people try to guilt you into changing your mind on something

Ironic thing is my mum does this all the time - but it is kind of in the "fine, *I'll* do it then" way - if I am going to do somthing for her but it is not right this minute and she gets narky... thing is I just ignore it now It's generally when she has had a bad day

[Saffyre 0]

oh, Saffyre, that's awful

my mum and dad haven't even met Dave yet (they're in Aus, and I'm in London ), but they've been SO supportive... I know that's invaluable

when she says the 'leaving' thing, can you not just keep reminding her that she's invited any time? if she says she won't come, can't you just say 'well, that's YOUR choice, not mine, and it's making me very sad'?

I hate when people try to guilt you into changing your mind on something

That's exactly what I tell her - that she'll always be welcome. But she insists that she is far too afraid of flying (which is not true because she goes on holiday every year)

It's annoying me, but I try to just brush over it if I can

[snowfrostedlashes 0]

My sister was really against my moving away to America at first too... right up until she spent some time in Mark's company and realised that he was a good guy! But she really laid on the guilt there for a while *sighs*.

My Mum's really cool about it although I know she'll miss me as much as I'll miss her - but we're going to fly her out to visit at least once every other year and keep in touch online and I'll write lots of letters and send photos and stuff too.

I'm sure Saffyre's Mum will come round eventually - just keep the lines of communication open!

[Saffyre 0]

Ouch - why on earth would she want to do that? That must be so hard Maybe she will come around in time? My family have been pretty supportive although I am sure there were skeptics initially

I hate when people try to guilt you into changing your mind on something

Ironic thing is my mum does this all the time - but it is kind of in the "fine, *I'll* do it then" way - if I am going to do somthing for her but it is not right this minute and she gets narky... thing is I just ignore it now It's generally when she has had a bad day

Ahh mothers!! They all have their issues I suppose. She'll either get over it or she wont - it's not going to change my mind.

My sister was really against my moving away to America at first too... right up until she spent some time in Mark's company and realised that he was a good guy! But she really laid on the guilt there for a while *sighs*.

My Mum's really cool about it although I know she'll miss me as much as I'll miss her - but we're going to fly her out to visit at least once every other year and keep in touch online and I'll write lots of letters and send photos and stuff too.

I'm sure Saffyre's Mum will come round eventually - just keep the lines of communication open!

My dad and brother are both super cool about it - they support me 100% so I don't feel too bad

[*julez* 124]

Is there any problem giving the address of a hotel (or friend) for the visa to be sent to? I don't think we will be living in our apartment by the time the interview rolls around. We'll be all packed up and waiting to hop the first plane out after the visa is approved!!!

Thanks for any insight.

Thomas

I know people who've had their stuff delivered to them at work, so the main thing is that you're there to sign for the package upon delivery.

[*julez* 124]

Well that makes me feel a little bit less neurotic about things then. Money isn't our problem - it's more the fact that my mum refuses to come to the wedding, and has stated she will never visit. So essentially she has forced me to chose between her and Toby. I chose Toby. So all the time I am still here, she takes her chances to remind me that I am 'leaving' her behind etc, etc.....

Its hard not to have the support of your family. My husband had a similar problem, in that his adult children said that if he moved to the US to marry me that they'd have nothing to do with them. As you can see, he moved anyway. But there was a lot of emotional struggle over it. At the end of the day, though, you realize your fiance is your life partner, the one who'll be there watching the telly with you, and going out to dinner, etc. Its the natural progression of life. Its too bad some family members are so selfish that they can just be happy that you are happy. For my husband, its been nearly 2 years since his son and daughter have talked to him. Though, they still see fit to cash the Christmas and Birthday checks he sends.

Anyhow, I hope you can get your mom to come around.

[Saffyre 0]

Well that makes me feel a little bit less neurotic about things then. Money isn't our problem - it's more the fact that my mum refuses to come to the wedding, and has stated she will never visit. So essentially she has forced me to chose between her and Toby. I chose Toby. So all the time I am still here, she takes her chances to remind me that I am 'leaving' her behind etc, etc.....

Its hard not to have the support of your family. My husband had a similar problem, in that his adult children said that if he moved to the US to marry me that they'd have nothing to do with them. As you can see, he moved anyway. But there was a lot of emotional struggle over it. At the end of the day, though, you realize your fiance is your life partner, the one who'll be there watching the telly with you, and going out to dinner, etc. Its the natural progression of life. Its too bad some family members are so selfish that they can just be happy that you are happy. For my husband, its been nearly 2 years since his son and daughter have talked to him. Though, they still see fit to cash the Christmas and Birthday checks he sends.

Anyhow, I hope you can get your mom to come around.

Full respect to your husband for continuing to send the money when they haven't seen fit to contact him and thank him for his generosity.

I do think my mum is being incredibly selfish - but ultimately, when I was faced with the choice, there was no choice. I love Toby and my life is with him....