Is anyone else starting to lose hope Cairo will ever finish there "AP"

[~~~water~~~ 0]

I know I am, I know they have a new head there and since the change it seems there are two camps yes - visa in 2 weeks - and your case is under administrative processing don't call us ... we will call you. The waits are longer and longer with many of us approaching a year or longer .

This process is lacking judicial oversight - there are no checks and balances.

[doodlebugg 10]

I'm in total agreement. Before the average was between 4 and 6 months with a few people getting them shorter and very few getting them longer. Now it's either those that get them within a week or two and those that wait a year or more. I haven't seen one person who has been waiting over 6 months get approved yet!!! It's really making me think about maybe making one more trip, though I really truly don't want to.

[MelindaandTarek 0]

I all can say to all of you on AP is (((HUGS))) ~Melinda

[SandyNJack 5]

Jack and I are going on 4 months now and seeing the length of waiting, for those who have been on AP longer, just makes me want to cry. I am already planning on going again probably in March. Like you Doods I really do not want to, because of the expense, but it will be a year that we have seen each other in person in Feb. All this AP poop just makes me think it will never end and it is all a dream. You really have to have a good constitution to go through this process, if they do not think your case is the perfect scenario, because it could really beat you down if you do not.

[♥JP♥ 5]

I found this article, there maybe some link as to why the wait is so long. The article is about the German Embassy but if its that easy to obtain fake documentation maybe thats why it takes so long for the embassy to verify information.

[~~~water~~~ 0]

I think that could add to the delays but if that is the cause I don't think others would just be sailing through. But it is a good point, thanks for the article

I'm in total agreement. Before the average was between 4 and 6 months with a few people getting them shorter and very few getting them longer. Now it's either those that get them within a week or two and those that wait a year or more. I haven't seen one person who has been waiting over 6 months get approved yet!!! It's really making me think about maybe making one more trip, though I really truly don't want to.

Well there have been a few prince of egypt was 7 or 8 months, sunnkleo was 7 months and wael/jeneanne 6 months or something

[ayesha4akram 0]

ok, here goes...

I think the xmas holidays got to me very hard this year. And last week i felt i was at the end of my rope. Too depressed!! My brothers came home for the holidays and when i went to pick each one up (one came on a Sunday the other on a Thursday) both trips to the airport felt too much for me to take. Yes I was happy to see them, but I couldn't get the thoughts of wanting to also pick up Akram at the airport.

It hit me hard and when he came online, and the moment he told me "we might get good news during the new year insha Allah" I just lost it and couldn't stop crying. I told him, we keep telling ourselves that!! Every birthday, ramadan, christmas, anniversary, new year, every single ocasion we keep repeating to ourselves the same thing, and the sad part is that the months turn to years and I'm so tired and sad. (I'm sure you understand this whole situation, and that's the only reason i'm posting this).

Of course, he told me: "Listen, we have the option of me sending you the ticket, so don't be sad". I know it's an option, but that's not the point. I'm frustrated at myself, for thinking that after the interview we wouldn't have to wait long to get an answer. I didn't know this would go on and on and onnnnnnnn for who knows how long!

I'm angry at myself for being so weak and falling apart. I didn't want to speak to anyone (cause if i heard one more time: when is he coming? I think I would SCREAM).

My eyes are back to normal again, since for the past few days they had been swollen from crying so much. I spent a nice xmas day with my brothers and parents alhamdulillah. The knew I had a certain sadness although I did try to keep up a cheerful attitude, so they were extra nice.

I came online and decided to read my email. Just one beautiful email is all it took to give me hope again. For some reason, there's one person on this board who knows exactly what to say and when to say it. It's like you sensed what I felt, and I'm so thankful to you aj1. I was going to reply your email, but decided to do this publicly. I know everyone here knows what a special person you are. To me, you are more than just a person behind a computer, you're more than a friend, you're my sister!

I had never felt so down in spirits before, so I didn't know how to deal with it. But I started to think of all my blessings, and there are so many blessings i'm thankful for. It got from hard to harder, but I'm determined to pass this test of waiting insha Allah. All I have to do is think of how blessed I am: wonderful children, wonderful fiance, wonderful family, and wonderful friends. Only God knows when we'll be together, and I trust that, when the time comes inshaAllah, it will be the best time, because God chose it.

May all of us who are in AP/AR, have the faith and the strength to endure any waiting, and may we get out of it soon. I'll tell you like my beautiful, dearest friend and sister Jennifer told me, inshaAllah our loved ones will be hearing good news soon. Ameen.

Hugs to everyone,

Ayesha

[doodlebugg 10]

I found this article, there maybe some link as to why the wait is so long. The article is about the German Embassy but if its that easy to obtain fake documentation maybe thats why it takes so long for the embassy to verify information.

Wow thanks for the info!

I think though that the wait is due to the singling out of those of us who met online vs. those that were introduced initially in person. There are a few exceptions but I really think that's the case overall and that they're suddenly cracking down and scrutinizing those of us who met online a lot heavier. I can certainly understand it but I just wish that upfront they would have said that this is the new policy and to expect a good year's wait after the interview instead of saying a month or two. I mean why give false hope when it's not true at all. That's what burns my husband the most, that they lied to him. He took that to heart. I knew better because I read here a lot but he isn't used to people lying to him I guess. I'd do a survey on who from Egypt met online vs. in person and how long their AP is now but my spirit is just spent to the point where I really don't even care anymore.

For me the travel isn't so much the money but the fact that I promised the kids that I'd stay on this continent for a good year or so. If it weren't for them I'd be going every few months to see him.

I'm just burying myself in other things. Currently I'm watching every episode of Heroes from last season and now this season. That %#$#^ writer's strike had best end soon 'cause I'm running out of episodes soon. Maybe I'll find that I have a super power deep inside me and I'll be able to teleport myself to the embassy and make the friggin' call myself.

[aj1 1]

Ayesha you are my sister as well and i thank you so much for saying such wonderful things about me. Yes i knew in my heart when i sent you this letter that you were not in good spirits and i know you needed to hear what i had to say god put it on my heart to tell you that. I know this process is hard i we have been on A/P for almost 10 months and i never thought we we be so close to 1 year i made a decision to go in March to see him because i have not seen my love in 2 years. Yes its been hard for me to get the money to do this because its so much but i need to see him and i need to feel alive again and when i look into his eyes i will feel this. I know its hard to wait like this and there are days when it seems as if the wait will never end but to you Ayesha and to all of us waiting our time will come the wiat will end it has to and we will have a great life and god will bless us for all of our patients and all of the holidays, birthdays, and Ramadan's that we missed will be made up for the rest of our lives. At least we have people in our lives who are worth waiting for. I pray that we have good news in 2008! and that all of us will be reunited with our loved one. This too will pass!

AJ1

[Aymsgirl 0]

I just want to say God bless all of you that are going through this. We are approaching the interview ourselves and although I am hoping for a short AP or AR I assume it will not be. I miss my fiancee like crazy and sometimes this being apart makes me not even know who I am anymore. I spent Christmas day by myself and pretty much slept it away. I pray this is the last Christmas without having my entire family together. I believe in my heart that this walk is not for everybody but those of us who choose this route in life hopefully will become stronger and even more stronger as a couple. As I read earlier from one of the other posts we are on God's time and he knows what is best for us and is there to hold our hand through all of this.

I am blessed to be leaving today to go to Egypt to see my love. This was my last chance before our baby is to be born in 10 weeks. Please know that you are all in my thoughts and prayers and my hopes are that this will be over very soon for all of you. May God bless you and comfort you all!

Tasha

[~~~water~~~ 0]

I just want to say God bless all of you that are going through this. We are approaching the interview ourselves and although I am hoping for a short AP or AR I assume it will not be. I miss my fiancee like crazy and sometimes this being apart makes me not even know who I am anymore. I spent Christmas day by myself and pretty much slept it away. I pray this is the last Christmas without having my entire family together. I believe in my heart that this walk is not for everybody but those of us who choose this route in life hopefully will become stronger and even more stronger as a couple. As I read earlier from one of the other posts we are on God's time and he knows what is best for us and is there to hold our hand through all of this.

I am blessed to be leaving today to go to Egypt to see my love. This was my last chance before our baby is to be born in 10 weeks. Please know that you are all in my thoughts and prayers and my hopes are that this will be over very soon for all of you. May God bless you and comfort you all!

Tasha

have a safe trip

Bridget I agree its the online thing and the should be upfront about it before they take your money for the visa! If you met online we may never get to processing your case.

ok, here goes...

I think the xmas holidays got to me very hard this year. And last week i felt i was at the end of my rope. Too depressed!! My brothers came home for the holidays and when i went to pick each one up (one came on a Sunday the other on a Thursday) both trips to the airport felt too much for me to take. Yes I was happy to see them, but I couldn't get the thoughts of wanting to also pick up Akram at the airport.

It hit me hard and when he came online, and the moment he told me "we might get good news during the new year insha Allah" I just lost it and couldn't stop crying. I told him, we keep telling ourselves that!! Every birthday, ramadan, christmas, anniversary, new year, every single ocasion we keep repeating to ourselves the same thing, and the sad part is that the months turn to years and I'm so tired and sad. (I'm sure you understand this whole situation, and that's the only reason i'm posting this).

Of course, he told me: "Listen, we have the option of me sending you the ticket, so don't be sad". I know it's an option, but that's not the point. I'm frustrated at myself, for thinking that after the interview we wouldn't have to wait long to get an answer. I didn't know this would go on and on and onnnnnnnn for who knows how long!

I'm angry at myself for being so weak and falling apart. I didn't want to speak to anyone (cause if i heard one more time: when is he coming? I think I would SCREAM).

My eyes are back to normal again, since for the past few days they had been swollen from crying so much. I spent a nice xmas day with my brothers and parents alhamdulillah. The knew I had a certain sadness although I did try to keep up a cheerful attitude, so they were extra nice.

I came online and decided to read my email. Just one beautiful email is all it took to give me hope again. For some reason, there's one person on this board who knows exactly what to say and when to say it. It's like you sensed what I felt, and I'm so thankful to you aj1. I was going to reply your email, but decided to do this publicly. I know everyone here knows what a special person you are. To me, you are more than just a person behind a computer, you're more than a friend, you're my sister!

I had never felt so down in spirits before, so I didn't know how to deal with it. But I started to think of all my blessings, and there are so many blessings i'm thankful for. It got from hard to harder, but I'm determined to pass this test of waiting insha Allah. All I have to do is think of how blessed I am: wonderful children, wonderful fiance, wonderful family, and wonderful friends. Only God knows when we'll be together, and I trust that, when the time comes inshaAllah, it will be the best time, because God chose it.

May all of us who are in AP/AR, have the faith and the strength to endure any waiting, and may we get out of it soon. I'll tell you like my beautiful, dearest friend and sister Jennifer told me, inshaAllah our loved ones will be hearing good news soon. Ameen.

Hugs to everyone,

Ayesha

(L) (L) It's ok I hope so much he is here soon , thanks for sharing

[Cheryl & Medo 3]

We have been in AP for 11 mo and were not the only ones.... There are some here that have been over a year.. And that is all I have to say on this cus it just pi$$e$ me off.

[Ahmed & Sue 0]

Hello All,

It has been over 8 months in AP for us, 18 months total since we first filed. I know we are not the only ones.

God help us all.

Good luck everyone. I really hope after the first of the year things change and stuff starts to get done faster in Cairo.

Anyway............I'm have my camping gear ready for the wait. I don't see an end in sight any time soon. He is definately worth waiting for.

Take Care,

Sue

[~~~water~~~ 0]

Hello All,

It has been over 8 months in AP for us, 18 months total since we first filed. I know we are not the only ones.

God help us all.

Good luck everyone. I really hope after the first of the year things change and stuff starts to get done faster in Cairo.

Anyway............I'm have my camping gear ready for the wait. I don't see an end in sight any time soon. He is definately worth waiting for.

Take Care,

Sue

hi sue

[MelindaandTarek 0]

Just a big ole hug to you all!!! I hope the AP nightmare ends for each and every one of you ~Melinda