What would u do ?

[idocare 3]

Would u fight to get him deported, stay with him/her and let them drive you crazy , or would u divorce them and chalk the whole thing up to a lesson learned ?

And keep it moving.....lol

Love to hear your thoughts.

[Jigi 0]

hi,

Divorce and move on with life. There is lot of happiness waiting for you outside... It was part of gods destiny for u ... now it has happpened.... gone ... and a closed chapter... have to move on... for ourselves and for the few people who really care and love u

Jigi

[ose_n_me 0]

Thats easy....

I would file for divorce, make him move out, report it to USCIS as fraud, then slap myself silly for not seeing all the red flags earlier! I don't think I would "fight" to have him deported. I would just trust that God has his punishment in store for him, and I would pick up the pieces and try to move on just as I would with any failed marriage. Deceit can happen in any form, from any man. You gotta just learn to see the signs, and make sure they don't happen again. Learn from your mistakes.

(of course there would be cussing, crying and maybe some of his ###### flying thru the air first!)

[Dr. A ♥ O 203]

Divorce and take a trip to Disney World for a week or longer. I would need something light after that heavy news.

[BESANGIN 0]

I divorced him. I struggled to pull my life back together, but God knew that my intentions were always true and honorable towards my EX and I am happy to say that God has BLESSED me tremendously! I am currently writing a book about my experience. I pray that it is a success and it becomes the new manual for relationships with individuals abroad.

Its not as easy as we like to think to get them deported. I have a friend who works for MBC and she schooled me on the ins and out of it and there are only a few was they can be deported if they have received a 10 year green card. If they have to have conditions released you have a much better shot, but it will be a fight.

But take heart, 'cause God don't llike ugly!!!!!! And where immigration fails to act, He don't when someone spits in the face of a blessing that He has given. So He does spank some A$$ as my Ex is finding out!!!!

[JODO 2]

I am currently writing a book about my experience.

Something tells me you'll make an excellent author

[Bassi and Zainab 1]

I would focus on me. Focusing on the man got me in a bad situation before and it's when I returned the focus to myself that I was able to make clearer decisions. I would focus on my healing and let him go do whatever he thinks was so worth trying to break me for. My ex actually came back later and apologized for many of the things he did to me. (not a bad international relationship, just a bad american relationship. they happen often.) I think that living a happy free life, makes them so mad. They can't believe they haven't broken you.

[Mr. Big Dog 10,747]

I'd ask for a divorce and move on. Why further aggravate the situation? That said, if it wasn't for our marriage, Nani wouldn't want to be here to begin with. She had a good and comfortable life in Ethiopia. She came to the US not to come to the US but to live with me.

[Marlita 0]

Well if he doesn't love me and just wanted a green card i would ask for a divorce and report it to USCIS. Only reason for reporting it would be becuase of the AOS and I don't want to be responsible for supporting him anymore. I won't fight to get him deported. Thats too much work and I would leave it to God on what his punishment would be.

[idocare 3]

interesting

[Ta Ta 1]

If I was very sure and heard it out of his own mouth that he was in it for the green card and does not love me I would let him go and not hang onto

his pant leg.

I would not want to make assumptions as it could just be our personalities didn't click or we were at different stages in life.

I would protect myself financially.

I would not fight but after the anger, grief and hurt would be dealt with I would forgive and move on.

I believe at such a time all my energy and focus should be on myself to heal and be happy again not another minute of my precious time should be wasted on him, not as much as a phone call to ICE. But that is just me.

God has his destiny in his hands and I would just be in God's way if I fought and fought from a sense of revenge.

If he was on an agenda to enforce the financial obligation I signed for, then I would put in writing my knowledge of fraud to USCIS and ICE and let

them decide what his fate will be and be off to bigger and better things in life.

I would just exhale and relax

[devils_advocate 0]

OK lets make this more difficult, you now have a child or children, now what would you do?

[Bassi and Zainab 1]

OK lets make this more difficult, you now have a child or children, now what would you do?

The same thing. I can only control me, myself and I. I have had to tell my daughter that. We didn't deal with the green card issue, but when I was going through living hell with her father, he also hurt her and said things to hurt her thinking it would make me give up. He threatened me that if I didn't stop filing for divorce he would leave our child and never see her again, and said this in front of her. I held my baby in my arms while she cried her little 3 year old heart out. Then I looked her in her eyes and told her point blank, Mommy can't control what daddy does, but mommy can keep you safe and will never leave you. She wrapped her arms around me and we never looked back. Me and her. Once I released him, he was lost. That same man, now pays child support (never once late), picks his child up for visitation every other week (never late) and hates my fiance, who he's sure will hurt me and destroy my life. "He won't be as good to you as I was." I can only hope!

[Mr. Big Dog 10,747]

OK lets make this more difficult, you now have a child or children, now what would you do?

If the foreign spouse is just in it for the green card then children should not really be part of the equation, should they?

[Bassi and Zainab 1]

OK lets make this more difficult, you now have a child or children, now what would you do?

If the foreign spouse is just in it for the green card then children should not really be part of the equation, should they?

It only takes one time to make a child.