NAME CHECKS ON K1 BEFORE INTERVIEW??

[~~~water~~~ 0]

If I could just give up and move I would

[we_have_2day 0]

I remember well going through all the emotions you are going through. The anxiety and fear of flying blind while the whole process grinds out is monsterous. You have been given some good advice. Focus on your immediate support system regarding your parents. Your fiance/husband will be overwhelmed enough when he comes over here without having that on his plate too. He may not exactly understand what it is you need emotionally as well if you're all stressed. Wires can get crossed and considering the language barrier that can get messy in a hurry. Take it from someone 1 year into the other end of this now, and it has been one VERY rough year, you will need all your focus and stamina to get through your adjustment period here. Of course each individual is unique in how they handle this, but I can tell you it is extremely easy to underestimate how your SO will handle the new life/culture. When love is strong and you can keep it your focus you'll do fine. It's God's plan and He's got his reasons for everything, even if they aren't always a bowl of cherries on our end. Best wishes to you. The holidays can be a hard to time to cope with all this.

[sereia 0]

Actually I believe Dip STicks is stuck at the service center level. Yasi and a few others got stuck at NVC. Some people started tracking going into AR at NVC and it was found to be overall - very insignificant. Some members though, did not fare so well, although it is rare.

You can get stuck at any leg of this process.

I feel we've been stuck in this process since day ONE. I see by the numbers MOST wait a few days to 2 weeks..to be sent..then the few up to a month....im sure its RARE to be much longer than that..Im just scared...I have major family issues here and he is sooo needed home. (Mom alzheimers..dad with picks disease dementia with less than an expected life expectancy of 5 years now and i do this alone..just to much going back and forth, waiting, and taking care of two...)

how long have you been waiting?

Dont laugh....a week? Its not the time...its the 6 months before at vermont...combined with the unknown..and seeing others here that get "stuck" is making me panic....I just found out last night about my father...(official diagnosis) so Im in a panic as I see everyone else being sent within 2 days..and the AP ####### scares me...so many seem to get stuck in it..I just imagine 6 months in vermont, 6 months nvc...interview....6-12 months AP AGAIN

I can't imagine having AP again..and the reps were adement that its sent to cairo then its up to them to deny...............why say it THAT way?

I have to comment on your situation with your parents. I can sympathize and it is a lot of work I'm sure, but...............I would really try not to look forward to your fiance helping out at all. Heck maybe he will you know? Maybe he'll be the knight in shining armor who helps you out bunches with them, etc. but seriously if that is what you are hoping for I would try to rely on yourself and others instead at the present time. Truth be told what if it takes a good year from now for him to get here? All that stress won't do you any good and then what if once he's here he has adjustment issues, as we've all seen happen on this board and he ends up being more of a burden to you (you now have someone else to cook and clean for, etc.) than a help?

I hope it's not the case but it does happen...we've seen it.

I hear you... good advice...I called my youngest son today...asking if he'd be willing to come help. I already know my SO is a "helper". He does dishes for his mom without even being asked when she is just resting...He never offers this information..but wil say..i need to do the dishes..I'll say..is mom sick? No, he says..it was a long day for her..she's resting...I ask...ohh, she asked you to do this..he says..no...I just do it. (How many Mena men cook ,clean, do dishes and do so much around home.) Maybe it changes...but he's a helper by nature... but I agree...I wasn't meaning helping in a physical way..but more emotional and support...ohhh...face it...IM JUST IMPATIENT TO HAVE HIM HERE.... if I have to be honest...just like everyone else here... :dance:

i'd take what bridget said to heart. my husband was also "the helper" in his home country. i was extremely impressed at how much he helped his family clean, shop, cook, serve, etc. i can't say he is not like that anymore at all...but he is definitely not like he was at home by any means. when they come here and are overwhelmed with culture shock/depression, etc it creates a new twist on everything. i wish you a speedy approval! i remember waiting nervously and considering moving to morocco to wait with him also! good luck!

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THank you all...its soooo great to come and know others have been through the same. I've been trying to talk to him about the changes he will endure when here. We have decided to take it slow. When he comes...I dont wont to bombard him with so much culture at once. We talked about staying close to home a bit..he will work with me (I have a business) until he is comfy and is more adjusted to these new surroundings...I think at FIRST it will be so cool to him..new everything..but then I think the shock WILL set in..I had thought of using a digital camcorder to record lots of things from the lack of the Adhan sound to traffic to shopping and just how people interact. I love the culture of egypt and dress and live it here already. But I know its a huge step. I was just thinking how much I'd miss moving there as well..the ease of getting what I want when I want...being able to afford the "Little" luxuries that I may not have there. The inability to understand ANY arabic...at least his english is fluent and we've spent soooo much time with "american english" things he'd hear that are acceptable here but not there. I think these men get an idea of america from the movies and its far from that at times...lol.

We'll see..thank you all for the advice..I really was having a day of panic yesterday....

[MelindaandTarek 0]

(((Hugs))) I hope ur case is forwarded to Cairo soon......

[amrssnowangel 0]

(((Hugs))) I hope ur case is forwarded to Cairo soon......

Either way..we have a backup plan...thats all i needed...we'll sit and wait and see where we go from here...

[sarah and hicham 3]

I remember well going through all the emotions you are going through. The anxiety and fear of flying blind while the whole process grinds out is monsterous. You have been given some good advice. Focus on your immediate support system regarding your parents. Your fiance/husband will be overwhelmed enough when he comes over here without having that on his plate too. He may not exactly understand what it is you need emotionally as well if you're all stressed. Wires can get crossed and considering the language barrier that can get messy in a hurry. Take it from someone 1 year into the other end of this now, and it has been one VERY rough year, you will need all your focus and stamina to get through your adjustment period here. Of course each individual is unique in how they handle this, but I can tell you it is extremely easy to underestimate how your SO will handle the new life/culture. When love is strong and you can keep it your focus you'll do fine. It's God's plan and He's got his reasons for everything, even if they aren't always a bowl of cherries on our end. Best wishes to you. The holidays can be a hard to time to cope with all this.

What type of issues did you have with the language barrier?

[amrssnowangel 0]

I remember well going through all the emotions you are going through. The anxiety and fear of flying blind while the whole process grinds out is monsterous. You have been given some good advice. Focus on your immediate support system regarding your parents. Your fiance/husband will be overwhelmed enough when he comes over here without having that on his plate too. He may not exactly understand what it is you need emotionally as well if you're all stressed. Wires can get crossed and considering the language barrier that can get messy in a hurry. Take it from someone 1 year into the other end of this now, and it has been one VERY rough year, you will need all your focus and stamina to get through your adjustment period here. Of course each individual is unique in how they handle this, but I can tell you it is extremely easy to underestimate how your SO will handle the new life/culture. When love is strong and you can keep it your focus you'll do fine. It's God's plan and He's got his reasons for everything, even if they aren't always a bowl of cherries on our end. Best wishes to you. The holidays can be a hard to time to cope with all this.

What type of issues did you have with the language barrier?

I know for us there is no language barrier...he speaks, reads and writes english fluently. Worst thing we have is in some of the "american" jargon. But that is easy to remedy..as for us...we have no issues with the language....

[sarah and hicham 3]

I remember well going through all the emotions you are going through. The anxiety and fear of flying blind while the whole process grinds out is monsterous. You have been given some good advice. Focus on your immediate support system regarding your parents. Your fiance/husband will be overwhelmed enough when he comes over here without having that on his plate too. He may not exactly understand what it is you need emotionally as well if you're all stressed. Wires can get crossed and considering the language barrier that can get messy in a hurry. Take it from someone 1 year into the other end of this now, and it has been one VERY rough year, you will need all your focus and stamina to get through your adjustment period here. Of course each individual is unique in how they handle this, but I can tell you it is extremely easy to underestimate how your SO will handle the new life/culture. When love is strong and you can keep it your focus you'll do fine. It's God's plan and He's got his reasons for everything, even if they aren't always a bowl of cherries on our end. Best wishes to you. The holidays can be a hard to time to cope with all this.

What type of issues did you have with the language barrier?

I know for us there is no language barrier...he speaks, reads and writes english fluently. Worst thing we have is in some of the "american" jargon. But that is easy to remedy..as for us...we have no issues with the language....

I have a hard time reading Jean's posts sometimes... I guess if the love is strong, even if there is abuse, everything will be fine.

[~~~water~~~ 0]

I had a feeling it was a double edged question

[sereia 0]

Edited December 19, 2007 by sereia

[we_have_2day 0]

I had a feeling it was a double edged question

It always is. Sarah, if you have further issue or comment with me and my persona life or understandability, or whatever else you want call it, please take it private because I don't think anyone here is really very interested in your issues with me. I know I am not. Thank you.

[~~~water~~~ 0]

I had a feeling it was a double edged question

It always is. Sarah, if you have further issue or comment with me and my persona life or understandability, or whatever else you want call it, please take it private because I don't think anyone here is really very interested in your issues with me. I know I am not. Thank you.

[sarah and hicham 3]

I had a feeling it was a double edged question

It always is. Sarah, if you have further issue or comment with me and my persona life or understandability, or whatever else you want call it, please take it private because I don't think anyone here is really very interested in your issues with me. I know I am not. Thank you.

Hmm last time YOU contacted me privately was a 2 page letter insulting me and vowing that any response I made to you would be trashed without you even looking at it. That sure makes it hard to talk to you privately. Apparently you can say whatever you want to me, but you won't acknowledge any response on my part.

[Ban Hammer 13,283]