*Baby Corner*

[nannygirl82 0]

I worked as a nanny last year for 2 kids and made $600/week. which was still not enough IMO, with all the sh!t I had to put up with their parents (cheating, giving the baby sleep meds, so that mom would get a full nights sleep, missing their birthdays, halloween, xmas, extending hours, and treating me like fungus growing out of mom's Gucci Purse. )

I too, have seen too many bad nannies and bad parents, so I'd only consider someone who's been thoroughly screened by an agency to take care of my baby.

oohh ya i have soo been there as well the the familes i worked for and interviewd with..i think i could write a book

[♥JP♥ 5]

I also plan on using a bassinet at first and then moving her to her room when she gets a bit older. My reason for this is purely out of what I see around me. My best friends daughter is 10 and has NEVER slept in her own bed. However she is also extremely dependant on her mom for everything now and doesn't like to do anything alone.

Another friend of mine, her son is 3 and still sleeps in their bed. However now he actually kicks his mom out of the room (throws a fit if she won't leave) and tells her this is his room and daddy's room. They are trying really hard now to get him to sleep in his own room but it's not working.

So based on that, I'm going to keep her in my room until she outgrows her bassinet. Also, if she actually slept in my bed...I wouldn't get one wink of sleep. I'd be too afraid that one of us rolled over on her.

[chnst 6]

Another friend of mine, her son is 3 and still sleeps in their bed. However now he actually kicks his mom out of the room (throws a fit if she won't leave) and tells her this is his room and daddy's room. They are trying really hard now to get him to sleep in his own room but it's not working.

I don't think these kids are a product of co-sleeping, they're the products of very poor parenting skills.

I believe everybody should do what works best for them sleepwise, as long as it's safe, there is no right and no wrong.

[♥JP♥ 5]

Another friend of mine, her son is 3 and still sleeps in their bed. However now he actually kicks his mom out of the room (throws a fit if she won't leave) and tells her this is his room and daddy's room. They are trying really hard now to get him to sleep in his own room but it's not working.

I don't think these kids are a product of co-sleeping, they're the products of very poor parenting skills.

I believe everybody should do what works best for them sleepwise, as long as it's safe, there is no right and no wrong.

I didn't mean to imply that there is right or wrong...this is just my personal choice for the reasons that I listed. I don't feel that my friend and her husband have poor parenting skills.

[Eveline 9]

Another friend of mine, her son is 3 and still sleeps in their bed. However now he actually kicks his mom out of the room (throws a fit if she won't leave) and tells her this is his room and daddy's room. They are trying really hard now to get him to sleep in his own room but it's not working.

I don't think these kids are a product of co-sleeping, they're the products of very poor parenting skills.

I believe everybody should do what works best for them sleepwise, as long as it's safe, there is no right and no wrong.

I agree Chnst. This is how we do it with Adam. We put him to bed, kiss him good night, tuck him in and leave (his door is open but only a little bit so he can see the light and it's very hard to open once it's closed). If he comes back out, I bring him straight back to bed, kiss him, tuck him in and out I go. If he comes out again I just take his hand or point my finger toward his bed and he climbs back in there. He's getting better as time goes by but on day 2 of his toddlerbed I literally had to take him back to bed about 30 times (really). He was so stubborn but mommy and daddy sat it out and he knows that not one of us is going to break and let him play UNLESS he plays in his room. If he wants to play in there after we said good night he can do that. Whatever makes him tired. So it happened that yesterday he fell asleep beside his bed instead of inside. I think it's all about consistency. The dentist told me yesterday "Right now, their brains are like empty chalkboards and you can write ANYTHING you want on there" (after I told him that Adam refuses to get his teeth brushed and I was desperate about what to do).

[BelwinMills 0]

autumnchik: I'm glad things the surgery went well for Declanr I hope he has a speedy recover soon from his surgery! I just don't know how you are staying so strong. Poor thing I hope he gets the other tubes out soon. I will still keep you in my thoughts and prayers for a healthy recovery.

[BelwinMills 0]

I was watching night line a few days ago and they were talking about the whole sleeping issue. They were talking about the Ferber method about having them scream it out. They had the Ferber doctor on. They were actually saying that the USA is one of the only countries were parents don't sleep with their baby for the first year. It is a hush hush topic not to tell people you co sleep with your baby. Cause our country thinks it is so bad. But they said you would be surprised on how many here actually do it. I was one of those people who thought it was bad to sleep with my baby in the same bed and room before she was born. But she would just cry constantly when she was a newborn if she didn't sleep with us. So I gave in. We first tried a travel bed next to our bed but it did not work. She would just have a freak spasm with her body and wake her self up. So she sleeps with us now. I know some people think this might be awful. I am a really light sleeper and here everything. My husband says they do this in his country because they don't have cribs and all the stuff we have here and limited space. ( I was surprised that they don't even have car seats. ) So back to night line. They said after a year or 2 buy have your child pick out a loveable (stuf animal) and tell them it will protect you and take care of you at night. My brother co slept with his daughter and now she sleeps in her big bed at the age 2. He does the super nanny trick. My bro said it really works. Eveline it sounds like you are using the super nanny method too. I think this is what we will do. I just need my sleep at night and during the day she is now starting to fall asleep on her own. She watches her mobile, holds her teddy bear, and is out like a light in her crib for nap time. I am thinking about taking her out of the bed soon cause she kicks a lot and scratches us. It is also easier for me nursing to just get up and feed her quickly. This is just what we did. I thought I would never do this how things change.

[Eveline 9]

Yes, it is the supernanny method. Not that I agree on everything that she is doing but in this case it definetely works wonders . I guess the less stimulation they get at that age the more they see that they cannot break the rules but both parents have to be in it. I'd love to give in every now and then but I won't, he's doing too good on it right now.

Has anyone ever heard of Gary Ezzo? He's the real 'let them scream it out' doc. Some people who followed his programm reported that their children didn't even have urin in their bladder when they got a catheder in for severe dehydration (he teaches to feed your child on YOUR schedule, every four hours and if only 2hours have passed and the baby is screaming...let it scream, put it in his/her crib....It's jsut totally against every motherly/fatherly instinct)...The ferber programm is not as crazy...you go in every few minutes to calm baby and then increase the time between 'visits' until baby sleeps...still if the child is crying, you would have to let it cry for that period...I prefer the "Eveline Method" hehe...pick up baby and comfort it when it's screaming or maybe try to feed it and figure out what's wrong.

@Autumnchick: All the best, you are so strong. Hope Declan is feeling better soon.

[Autumnchik 6]

Hi guys -

Declan is doing well. The doc is hoping that he can leave the hospital on Saturday, depending on how he is healing. We will stay with my family in CT for a few more days because I don't want to make him travel 5 hours to get back home, not until he is a bit stronger. Hubby will have to be back at work next week though, so he will head back to NH.

[Eveline 9]

Way to go little Declan. I'm glad everything went well.

[chnst 6]

Yes, it is the supernanny method. Not that I agree on everything that she is doing but in this case it definetely works wonders . I guess the less stimulation they get at that age the more they see that they cannot break the rules but both parents have to be in it. I'd love to give in every now and then but I won't, he's doing too good on it right now.

Has anyone ever heard of Gary Ezzo? He's the real 'let them scream it out' doc. Some people who followed his programm reported that their children didn't even have urin in their bladder when they got a catheder in for severe dehydration (he teaches to feed your child on YOUR schedule, every four hours and if only 2hours have passed and the baby is screaming...let it scream, put it in his/her crib....It's jsut totally against every motherly/fatherly instinct)...The ferber programm is not as crazy...you go in every few minutes to calm baby and then increase the time between 'visits' until baby sleeps...still if the child is crying, you would have to let it cry for that period...I prefer the "Eveline Method" hehe...pick up baby and comfort it when it's screaming or maybe try to feed it and figure out what's wrong.

@Autumnchick: All the best, you are so strong. Hope Declan is feeling better soon.

how's a baby supposed to learn that he can trust his parents? that's just wrong. I don't think that you can "spoil" a baby by holding it and comforting it. Babies don't cry because they're happy, they cry because they're uncomfortable/hungry/bored and crying is the only way to communicate it, so Mom/Dad can fix it.

I prefer the "Eveline method"

@autum: I'm glad little Declan is doing better! does he have a big scar? Good luck for a speedy recovery!

Edited July 11, 2008 by chnst

[Eveline 9]

I have read an article on 'bonding' somewhere the other day. It said that babies don't know what hunger is, they just cry when they feel the need for food and mommy makes it better, that is why they love mommy...she always makes baby feel better when something is wrong. I thought that was so cute and true...no baby knows what hunger is.

I love it when Adam plays all rough with his daddy. Eric usually chases him around the house and Adam runs around screaming but whenever he's got enough of it or hurts himself or whatever he comes running to me...What a cutie. Daddy is there for crazy rough play and mommy is there for the comfort, snuggles and sugars.

[chnst 6]

awww.... haha. Chuck says every day how he can't wait to play rough with Ben. I woke up the other morning and hubby and Ben were gone. I found them outside working on the motorcycle. Hubby was explaining things to Ben in his car seat and it looked like he was really interested! LOL.

Now they do "guy stuff" every morning so I get a couple hours to myself.

[Eveline 9]

Aaaw, that is cute. Adam loves our John Deere Lawnmower and he can spot every tractor there is in town (and every cow or longhorn). He is such a boy's boy.

[Mommy2ZaidnSalma 11]

All zaids beautiful hair just started falling out today...poor baby, im sure it will be all gone in a few days i was really hoping it would stay