Wednesday

[doodlebugg 10]

My friend at work's ex did the same thing and it took her 4 months to resolve it by going through the state and having his wages taken automatically. My ex is different in that he is a scumbag and doesn't claim even half of what he makes. He spent this past summer jetting all over North America to race his dragster race car and hiring a driver to drive it wherever the races are and now he's crying poor and says he cannot afford to pay me any longer. He lives in a million dollar house, drives a Mercedes his wife (who he cheated on me with when we were married) drives a BMW suv but he's piss poor apparently. My blood pressure is through the roof at the moment.

My dad was one of those... besides bashing my mother everytime I saw him, he would spend TONS of money on us for frivolous stuff like trips to Europe, DisneyLand, Hawaii... then turn around and refuse to pay child support. His payments were rediculously (sp?) low anyway (he told me once how much they were and expected me to be impressed ) and then would refuse to pay for any extras if I wasn't physically with him because he "paid more than enough money to my mother" and she should be able to pay for ANYTHING I really "needed". My mother took him to court several times and he conveniently lost his job each time before the court proceedings and was able to pay for a much better lawyer than my mother. He then would end up back in the same company, in another state, with a raise after the settlement Oh, by the way, his payments were $200/month/child = $400 - we're talking someone who made six figures

Opps, Happy Hump Day!

Yup. This past weekend the girls were with him and he bought my youngest three outfits from Limited Too and my oldest three outfits from Abercrombie. Those in total probably cost him approx $500 and yet he is crying broke.

[a1angied 0]

Happy Hump day!

Wow people actually get child support more then 3 times in 17 years. That is great. Yeah I get a total of maybe $1500 in 17 years. So I always had to provide for my daughter and since that is what I had to do that is what I did. I guess if I got income on a regual basis and it stopped I would be angry also, since I never have had this income source I can't sympathize. Sorry. I know I had a loser but stuff happens, the great things is that my daughter has never done with out and always has had more then most so I guess God provided her needs and I provided her wants and desires. So for those who get child support congrats.

[MrsAmera 41]

Yea my son is 4 and I've gotten....hmm $0. His biological father is a lawyer, let's see and yet he doesn't feel the need to pay me. Forget trying court he knows every freaking way to weasel out of it. And if I threaten too much he says he'll have the court revoke my son's passport so he can't go to Morocco with us. My husband is planning to adopt him as soon as we can straighten everything out but he's just a poor excuse for a person.

[♥JP♥ 5]

Hey everyone, I'm so cold today. Sparrow, love the pictures You are so much better than me, I just barely got my wedding pics yesterday and its been almost 3 months! I am quite pleased with them although the photographer didnt get a photo of the kiss but he did get many really nice photos.

[doodlebugg 10]

Hey everyone, I'm so cold today. Sparrow, love the pictures You are so much better than me, I just barely got my wedding pics yesterday and its been almost 3 months! I am quite pleased with them although the photographer didnt get a photo of the kiss but he did get many really nice photos.

Are you feeling better? Did you do the cake/champagne for your hubby the other night?

[yassmine2878 1]

Fighting the urge to go to the craft store for some retail therapy.

[♥JP♥ 5]

Hey everyone, I'm so cold today. Sparrow, love the pictures You are so much better than me, I just barely got my wedding pics yesterday and its been almost 3 months! I am quite pleased with them although the photographer didnt get a photo of the kiss but he did get many really nice photos.

Are you feeling better? Did you do the cake/champagne for your hubby the other night?

I am feeling somewhat better, I start coughing alot at night time when I lay down. Other than that, I have no issues. We did do the whole cake/champagne thing, I also made panini sandwiches with the panini grill I got at my bridal shower. I highly recommend eveyone run out and get one of these, they are awesome!

Hows things with you? I miss you alot around here!

[doodlebugg 10]

Hey everyone, I'm so cold today. Sparrow, love the pictures You are so much better than me, I just barely got my wedding pics yesterday and its been almost 3 months! I am quite pleased with them although the photographer didnt get a photo of the kiss but he did get many really nice photos.

Are you feeling better? Did you do the cake/champagne for your hubby the other night?

I am feeling somewhat better, I start coughing alot at night time when I lay down. Other than that, I have no issues. We did do the whole cake/champagne thing, I also made panini sandwiches with the panini grill I got at my bridal shower. I highly recommend eveyone run out and get one of these, they are awesome!

Hows things with you? I miss you alot around here!

I'm hanging in there.

I love panini sandwiches but I have like no room in my kitchen to store one unless I get rid of the crock pot and george forman grill that I never use! lol

[PalestineMyHeart 1,897]

Mmmmmmm panini....

Haha Bridget I hear you on the counter space crisis. Wayyyy too limited real estate. That's one of the things I love so much about Arabic home design -- the kitchens are HUGE with miles and miles of counter top......

It's cold and rainy in SA.... mid 40s I went from flip-flops to boots overnight.

[deadbird 2]

Hey everyone, I'm so cold today. Sparrow, love the pictures You are so much better than me, I just barely got my wedding pics yesterday and its been almost 3 months! I am quite pleased with them although the photographer didnt get a photo of the kiss but he did get many really nice photos.

Aww, thanks I didn't even post all of them...the photographer who shot the wedding took over 400 photos so I'm still being lazy and haven't gotten prints...and then we had those disposable cameras on the tables and I didn't get those done yet either!

Just mailed AOS today. But apparently I got paid 2 days early so yay!

When my dad owed my mom child support (all of 2 years, they split when I was 16) he couldn't pay it because he couldn't keep a job, but one day he won like $1700 on a scratch off lotto ticket, and handed it all over to my mother, which took care of everything he owed her. Actually, it ended up paying for my computer and all my books for my first semester of college, which was nice.

It's really warm and damp here today--like 50°. Surprised me.

[♥JP♥ 5]

Hey everyone, I'm so cold today. Sparrow, love the pictures You are so much better than me, I just barely got my wedding pics yesterday and its been almost 3 months! I am quite pleased with them although the photographer didnt get a photo of the kiss but he did get many really nice photos.

Aww, thanks I didn't even post all of them...the photographer who shot the wedding took over 400 photos so I'm still being lazy and haven't gotten prints...and then we had those disposable cameras on the tables and I didn't get those done yet either!

Just mailed AOS today. But apparently I got paid 2 days early so yay!

When my dad owed my mom child support (all of 2 years, they split when I was 16) he couldn't pay it because he couldn't keep a job, but one day he won like $1700 on a scratch off lotto ticket, and handed it all over to my mother, which took care of everything he owed her. Actually, it ended up paying for my computer and all my books for my first semester of college, which was nice.

It's really warm and damp here today--like 50°. Surprised me.

400???? Consider yourself lucky!!! I have over 1900 photos! It took 5 hours to through them.

[sereia 0]

so give us a link to see them, jp!!!

[~~~water~~~ 0]

yeah I want to seeee to JP Edited December 12, 2007 by water is wide

[~*Dorothy*~ 2]

me too!!! - I mean I want to see JP's pics...

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Hello MEMA people...

I am feeling so blah lately - holidays suck when one doesn't have family - Jamal doesn't care about them and at this point I don't think I do either, but deep down inside me I got this feeling of sadness and total disconnect - I want it to be over already...sorry for being a Grinch and a party pooper (spl) but I am just in a very weird place in life - one of these days when you don't really belong anywhere...

I came from Poland when I was 17 and always thought that my adjustment went pretty well - even thought I still have some of my polish accent left over and my writing skills need some work - but lately I feel that things got really weird - I lost the feeling of comfort and dealing with Jamal's adjustment had been stressful...

Also, I think that a lot of his adjustment issues are because of me being an immigrant just like him - not the real American - and all this stress is killing me lately and affecting my health...I sometimes wish that I could turn the clock back for both of us and maybe, just maybe we would make better decisions...who knows

Sorry for the rant and thanks for reading...

love always,

Dorothy

Edited December 13, 2007 by Lost in NY

[sereia 0]

dorothy, i'm right there with you! if you want to talk, you know where to find me. i hope things go better for you this holiday.