Could you forgive a cheating spouse?

[no name 1]

I tried to one time and it just made me get more and more distrustful and bitter. I wouldn't do it again. A girl is lucky to have me. I will always treat her right and put her first. Cheating is giving that up.

Kind of the way we think. We are so lucky to have found each other - if we go somewhere else to look for whatever, it's all gone.

So to answer Sister Fracas' question: N-O. I would not forget.

The big difference being you said 'WE' not 'ME'.

[Alex+R 0]

So, hey, you 2...

I think kids are a good enough reason, if they didn't have a whole relationship behind my back. I don't know what else would be. Big difference between drunken hook up and whole other relationship.

[Fandango 1,440]

I trust D with my life....I don't think he'd do that to me. I love him and I want to be with him for the rest of our lives. When I vow 'through good times and bad', I'd like to think that covers forgiveness. I'm flawed, he's flawed...and to be so cut and dry and categorically say 'I'm out' to me, sounds like giving up.

But it would devastate me.

[chispas 0]

I had forgiven before only to have it repeat itself again. Before the actual act took place too much deception had occured. Couldn't go there twice.

Edited December 11, 2007 by chispas

[MR2nice 0]

If you're going to forgive, can you really forget? If not, then you'll always have doubts. The relationship will never be the same if you doubt your partner.

[♥JP♥ 5]

I think its quite easy for one to say what they would or wouldnt do in this situation. However once you have gone through it, its not so easy. I was cheated on, gave it my all, but it didn't work. It is VERY hard to get past that.

[JohnK 0]

Nope!

[AnewKINDofFEELIN 0]

I tried to one time and it just made me get more and more distrustful and bitter. I wouldn't do it again. A girl is lucky to have me. I will always treat her right and put her first. Cheating is giving that up.

Kind of the way we think. We are so lucky to have found each other - if we go somewhere else to look for whatever, it's all gone.

So to answer Sister Fracas' question: N-O. I would not forget.

The big difference being you said 'WE' not 'ME'.

I said me because the question is if I could forgive. That said, I wouldn't cheat. If I did, I certainly wouldn't deserve Lindsay. I know how it feels to be on the ###### end of that stick.

[almaty 19]

probably could...

i have worked with a sh!tload of couples where one party cheated on the other...the relationship can be repaired if both parties have the desire..it takes time

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Only if I get to watch

....I wouldn't say never.

[Lizzy 0]

NO, We both know and agree there is no second chance in this area. If the other knows that from the start then there is no second chances needed.

Edited December 11, 2007 by Lizzy

[no name 1]

I tried to one time and it just made me get more and more distrustful and bitter. I wouldn't do it again. A girl is lucky to have me. I will always treat her right and put her first. Cheating is giving that up.

Kind of the way we think. We are so lucky to have found each other - if we go somewhere else to look for whatever, it's all gone.

So to answer Sister Fracas' question: N-O. I would not forget.

The big difference being you said 'WE' not 'ME'.

I said me because the question is if I could forgive. That said, I wouldn't cheat. If I did, I certainly wouldn't deserve Lindsay. I know how it feels to be on the ###### end of that stick.

See highlighted words above.

[Ms. Squirrel 11]

Yes, I could, if its a one night stand. A one night stand is just a physical act and means nothing. Not to me anyway.

I'd have more trouble with an emotional cheat, a person he trusts more than me, shares intimate thoughts with - a real affair that goes on for weeks/months/years with feelings.

[AnewKINDofFEELIN 0]

I tried to one time and it just made me get more and more distrustful and bitter. I wouldn't do it again. A girl is lucky to have me. I will always treat her right and put her first. Cheating is giving that up.

Kind of the way we think. We are so lucky to have found each other - if we go somewhere else to look for whatever, it's all gone.

So to answer Sister Fracas' question: N-O. I would not forget.

The big difference being you said 'WE' not 'ME'.

I said me because the question is if I could forgive. That said, I wouldn't cheat. If I did, I certainly wouldn't deserve Lindsay. I know how it feels to be on the ###### end of that stick.

See highlighted words above.

See the definition of WE. Pretty simple concept. Did I ever say I'm not lucky to have found Lindsay? No, you just assumed, which is a precursor of looking foolish.

[no name 1]

I tried to one time and it just made me get more and more distrustful and bitter. I wouldn't do it again. A girl is lucky to have me. I will always treat her right and put her first. Cheating is giving that up.

Kind of the way we think. We are so lucky to have found each other - if we go somewhere else to look for whatever, it's all gone.

So to answer Sister Fracas' question: N-O. I would not forget.

The big difference being you said 'WE' not 'ME'.

I said me because the question is if I could forgive. That said, I wouldn't cheat. If I did, I certainly wouldn't deserve Lindsay. I know how it feels to be on the ###### end of that stick.

See highlighted words above.

See the definition of WE. Pretty simple concept. Did I ever say I'm not lucky to have found Lindsay? No, you just assumed, which is a precursor of looking foolish.

Sure it is!