Off topic - Wedding officiant is a jerk - must vent

[Doug n Amanda 0]

Ugh, we are going to have to find an officiant where my parents live and the ALL say the same thing on their websites (more or less "Your big day is important to me and I will incorporate your wishes into your vows" and so on). I'm stressing about this a bit. Have no idea how to even go about it.

How many guests is too many to bring along to just get married at the county court house?

Suggestion: check out Yahoo...if you search yellow pages in your area for wedding officiant, look for listings that have positive reviews...that's the way I found an officiant, a salon, AND a tanning service in Florida! (I live in Michigan).....go where the locals go,

No idea on a courthouse wedding, sorry.....

[~Nini~ 2]

That's horrible. I hope you get your money back - hell, I'd go there and demand for my money back, since he was being a righteous cabbage-face.

I'm so glad the district judge who did our wedding was so kind - he took us into his office before the ceremony and told us what he was going to say. We were really impressed with the fact that he took the time beforehand to check with us about our vows.

Having said that, we picked him from a list of judges taken from the county clerk's office, and we might have ended up with a fire-and-brimstone guy. How lucky

[BH45 0]

Wow...what a terrible person to have to deal with. He obviously didn't want to perform your wedding the way you wanted but how he believed it should be done. Go after him for a refund! He didn't give you what you wanted.

Once I get to Chicago, Larry and I will be married at the courthouse. However, we will have a church wedding here in my home town performed by my minister. I've already given her ideas and told her to run with them cause we trust her to give us something special.

[~Laura and Nick~ 5]

That is completely insane!! What an azz!!!

I hope you get your money back...he sounds like a real nut job

[Kathryn41 3,205]

Wow, that is unbelievable. Definitely hold out for what YOU want - it is your wedding! We were very fortunate with finding a friend of a friend who is a judge. He provided us with copies of some of the services he had officiated at, and we used one of those as the base, adding in our own words and removing the references to religion as well as neither of us are religious. We had a lovely ceremony, exactly the way we wanted it, and he conducted the service beautifully. Surprisingly, he doesn't accept payment for marriages (we didn't know this when we asked him), so made a donation to a charity that we knew he supported in his name (a suggestion from his secretary). Hold out for what you want and don't hesitate to insist upon it; if the officiant won't do it your way, he isn't the right officiant.

[Flames9_RN 358]

We got married twice,lol, one by a JP that was next door to the courthouse, super fast and sweet. And the 2nd time was for the family with a JP! He was excellent and very easy to work with. Super easy for me, as my wife handled it all!!