Things your husband/fiance does that drives you crazy.

[AngelK96 0]

You painted the picture...

That your husband calls for you repeatedly when you are doing something or talking to somebody. That when you finally respond to him it's, "can I have a glass of water?"

That was the gist of your initial post.

Yeah sure, I don't know anything about your life, your husband or you. But YOU ARE THE ONE WHO PUTS IN ON THE WEB. So don't be defensive if people don't see the "charm" of a grown man hollering for a glass of water when his wifes busy and can't get up and get it himself.

she never asked anyone to see any 'charm'.

she said "Something he does that makes me crazy is he will constantly call my name while I am talking to someone else or while I am doing something. When I finally turn around to answer, he will say something like "can you get me some water?" mad.gif

Its annoying bcz the way he calls my name you would think the building is on fire!"

####### beat me too it

The thread is what your fiance does to drive you crazy, not the reason why. I am sure if amira wanted to analyze it she would have put that in the topic also

[♥JP♥ 5]

You painted the picture...

That your husband calls for you repeatedly when you are doing something or talking to somebody. That when you finally respond to him it's, "can I have a glass of water?"

That was the gist of your initial post.

Yeah sure, I don't know anything about your life, your husband or you. But YOU ARE THE ONE WHO PUTS IN ON THE WEB. So don't be defensive if people don't see the "charm" of a grown man hollering for a glass of water when his wifes busy and can't get up and get it himself.

she never asked anyone to see any 'charm'.

she said "Something he does that makes me crazy is he will constantly call my name while I am talking to someone else or while I am doing something. When I finally turn around to answer, he will say something like "can you get me some water?" mad.gif

Its annoying bcz the way he calls my name you would think the building is on fire!"

####### beat me too it

The thread is what your fiance does to drive you crazy, not the reason why. I am sure if amira wanted to analyze it she would have put that in the topic also

Thanks guys....not just that, I'm sure I do a million things that drive him nuts too. I guess that means I am dismissing my wifely duties.

[Nutty 2]

Getting Defensive??

You initially said when you are talking to someone or doing something your husband is calling your name over and over. When you finally respond to him, he says, "Can you get me a glass of water?"

To me, this sounds he's oblivious to what your doing or brought up to expect you to drop what your doing and bring his glass of water. Sorry. What other reason could there be????

What "assumptions" (OBSERVATIONS as a more accurate word) of mine aren't true?

That middle eastern and south asian cultures are more traditional in their expectations of mens and womens roles in marriage...??

"Especially if he is not handling his "Husband" responsibilities or providing HOUSE AND SUPPORT which is the traditional duties of a husband"

That is quite a statement to make based on my comment of him being unpatient in asking for a glass of water. You went off on this whole tangent of husbandly duties and him being lazy and demanding. You based this all on the statement I made of him asking for a glass of water which he did not demand nor would he ever. Those are called assumptions not observations. You know nothing about me, my life, or my marriage that would allow you to make any kind of observation.

I somehow thought that maybe your husband wasn't lazy and instead having an "old fashioned mindset" of women being the subservient to men.

But actually, your earlier clarified the issue....You posted, "He is just extremely lazy. He will even admit that himself. He loves to put things off."

Well, good to hear you have a "self professed extremely lazy husband."

[♥JP♥ 5]

Getting Defensive??

You initially said when you are talking to someone or doing something your husband is calling your name over and over. When you finally respond to him, he says, "Can you get me a glass of water?"

To me, this sounds he's oblivious to what your doing or brought up to expect you to drop what your doing and bring his glass of water. Sorry. What other reason could there be????

What "assumptions" (OBSERVATIONS as a more accurate word) of mine aren't true?

That middle eastern and south asian cultures are more traditional in their expectations of mens and womens roles in marriage...??

"Especially if he is not handling his "Husband" responsibilities or providing HOUSE AND SUPPORT which is the traditional duties of a husband"

That is quite a statement to make based on my comment of him being unpatient in asking for a glass of water. You went off on this whole tangent of husbandly duties and him being lazy and demanding. You based this all on the statement I made of him asking for a glass of water which he did not demand nor would he ever. Those are called assumptions not observations. You know nothing about me, my life, or my marriage that would allow you to make any kind of observation.

I somehow thought that maybe your husband wasn't lazy and instead having an "old fashioned mindset" of women being the subservient to men.

But actually, your earlier clarified the issue....You posted, "He is just extremely lazy. He will even admit that himself. He loves to put things off."

Well, good to hear you have a "self professed extremely lazy husband."

So what? What is your issue with that now?

Edited October 27, 2007 by amira_ordonia

[sandinista! 1,816]

Getting Defensive??

You initially said when you are talking to someone or doing something your husband is calling your name over and over. When you finally respond to him, he says, "Can you get me a glass of water?"

To me, this sounds he's oblivious to what your doing or brought up to expect you to drop what your doing and bring his glass of water. Sorry. What other reason could there be????

What "assumptions" (OBSERVATIONS as a more accurate word) of mine aren't true?

That middle eastern and south asian cultures are more traditional in their expectations of mens and womens roles in marriage...??

is this the assumption (not an observation, because yr injecting opinion and judgment into it) you are asserting based on her post?

[AngelK96 0]

You painted the picture...

That your husband calls for you repeatedly when you are doing something or talking to somebody. That when you finally respond to him it's, "can I have a glass of water?"

That was the gist of your initial post.

Yeah sure, I don't know anything about your life, your husband or you. But YOU ARE THE ONE WHO PUTS IN ON THE WEB. So don't be defensive if people don't see the "charm" of a grown man hollering for a glass of water when his wifes busy and can't get up and get it himself.

she never asked anyone to see any 'charm'.

she said "Something he does that makes me crazy is he will constantly call my name while I am talking to someone else or while I am doing something. When I finally turn around to answer, he will say something like "can you get me some water?" mad.gif

Its annoying bcz the way he calls my name you would think the building is on fire!"

####### beat me too it

The thread is what your fiance does to drive you crazy, not the reason why. I am sure if amira wanted to analyze it she would have put that in the topic also

Thanks guys....not just that, I'm sure I do a million things that drive him nuts too. I guess that means I am dismissing my wifely duties.

I think we need a thread about that too. Cause I know I drive my husband crazy with some of the things I do.

[Nutty 2]

This thread is long...

I wanted to say....if you put on the web comments about your husband that he's extremely lazy that who am I to disagree. But then don't go getting uppity because I agreed with you.

That middle eastern and south asian cultures are more traditional in their expectations of mens and womens roles in marriage...??

"Especially if he is not handling his "Husband" responsibilities or providing HOUSE AND SUPPORT which is the traditional duties of a husband"

That is quite a statement to make based on my comment of him being unpatient in asking for a glass of water. You went off on this whole tangent of husbandly duties and him being lazy and demanding. You based this all on the statement I made of him asking for a glass of water which he did not demand nor would he ever. Those are called assumptions not observations. You know nothing about me, my life, or my marriage that would allow you to make any kind of observation.

I somehow thought that maybe your husband wasn't lazy and instead having an "old fashioned mindset" of women being the subservient to men.

But actually, your earlier clarified the issue....You posted, "He is just extremely lazy. He will even admit that himself. He loves to put things off."

Well, good to hear you have a "self professed extremely lazy husband."

So what? What is your issue with that now?

[yassmine2878 1]

Getting Defensive??

You initially said when you are talking to someone or doing something your husband is calling your name over and over. When you finally respond to him, he says, "Can you get me a glass of water?"

To me, this sounds he's oblivious to what your doing or brought up to expect you to drop what your doing and bring his glass of water. Sorry. What other reason could there be????

What "assumptions" (OBSERVATIONS as a more accurate word) of mine aren't true?

That middle eastern and south asian cultures are more traditional in their expectations of mens and womens roles in marriage...??

"Especially if he is not handling his "Husband" responsibilities or providing HOUSE AND SUPPORT which is the traditional duties of a husband"

That is quite a statement to make based on my comment of him being unpatient in asking for a glass of water. You went off on this whole tangent of husbandly duties and him being lazy and demanding. You based this all on the statement I made of him asking for a glass of water which he did not demand nor would he ever. Those are called assumptions not observations. You know nothing about me, my life, or my marriage that would allow you to make any kind of observation.

I somehow thought that maybe your husband wasn't lazy and instead having an "old fashioned mindset" of women being the subservient to men.

But actually, your earlier clarified the issue....You posted, "He is just extremely lazy. He will even admit that himself. He loves to put things off."

Well, good to hear you have a "self professed extremely lazy husband."

That is totally uncalled for. There's no reason to come to this thread and stir ####### up. We were all enjoying a light-hearted comparision of our husband's quirks. If you cant stay on topic or enjoy it, go start your own.

[♥JP♥ 5]

You didn't agree with me first of all. You were trying to school me on MENA culture because your husband is Iranian and because you lived in India. Well live where ever you want and marry whoever you want but I guarantee you I will still be the one teaching you about MENA culture. The mena culture you are describing is not as common as you think anymore. Also, if you had simply agreed that was lazy, I would be fine with that. However to say that he might not upholding his husbandly duties and is demanding. You are not qualified to say that.

By the way, since your husband is so perfect as you stated earlier I guess you really have no reason to be in this thread.

This thread is long...

I wanted to say....if you put on the web comments about your husband that he's extremely lazy that who am I to disagree. But then don't go getting uppity because I agreed with you.

That middle eastern and south asian cultures are more traditional in their expectations of mens and womens roles in marriage...??

Edited October 27, 2007 by amira_ordonia

[yassmine2878 1]

You didn't agree with me first of all. You were trying to school me on MENA culture because your husband is Iranian and because you lived in India. Well live where ever you want and marry whoever you want but I guarantee you I will still be the one teaching you about MENA culture. The mena culture you are describing is not as common as you think anymore. Also, if you had simply agreed that was lazy, I would be fine with that. However to say that he might not upholding his husbandly duties and is demanding. You are not qualified to say that.

By the way, since your husband is so perfect as you stated earlier I guess you really have no reason to be in this thread.

Can I get an Amen?

[mybackpages 0]

I just wantd to say Nutty is not the only one to read these comments this way.

When I read I thought wow how different from what my husband would do. and I admit I saw the same generalization of the pampered Arab ME man. My husband and i even had a conversation about it.

He saw what I saw and admited of course his mother would bring him things without having to get up, but yet he does the difference between the right and wrong way to treat people.

I guess I just dont find the humor or any sweetness in a wife griping about her husband's behavior even in jest in a public way.

[Nutty 2]

IT all started with...Amira Ordonia writing....

"I didnt realize this was in response to me. You would think his mom pampered him but let me tell you she has been living with us for 5 weeks and she is a drill sgt, LOL. I LOVE IT!

He is just extremely lazy. He will even admit that himself. He loves to put things off. "

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I just replied that he is maybe "old fashioned" in his expectation of the roles of husband and wife.

And yes, if she's one to call her husband lazy...Who am I to disagree?

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You initially said when you are talking to someone or doing something your husband is calling your name over and over. When you finally respond to him, he says, "Can you get me a glass of water?"

To me, this sounds he's oblivious to what your doing or brought up to expect you to drop what your doing and bring his glass of water. Sorry. What other reason could there be????

What "assumptions" (OBSERVATIONS as a more accurate word) of mine aren't true?

That middle eastern and south asian cultures are more traditional in their expectations of mens and womens roles in marriage...??

is this the assumption (not an observation, because yr injecting opinion and judgment into it) you are asserting based on her post?

Edited October 27, 2007 by Nutty

[aisha kandisha 0]

I just wantd to say Nutty is not the only one to read these comments this way.

When I read I thought wow how different from what my husband would do. and I admit I saw the same generalization of the pampered Arab ME man. My husband and i even had a conversation about it.

He saw what I saw and admited of course his mother would bring him things without having to get up, but yet he does the difference between the right and wrong way to treat people.

I guess I just dont find the humor or any sweetness in a wife griping about her husband's behavior even in jest in a public way.

AMEEN !!!

[♥JP♥ 5]

I just wantd to say Nutty is not the only one to read these comments this way.

When I read I thought wow how different from what my husband would do. and I admit I saw the same generalization of the pampered Arab ME man. My husband and i even had a conversation about it.

He saw what I saw and admited of course his mother would bring him things without having to get up, but yet he does the difference between the right and wrong way to treat people.

I guess I just dont find the humor or any sweetness in a wife griping about her husband's behavior even in jest in a public way.

Who asked you to see the sweetness in it? My mom brings me things without having to get up too. By the way so does my husband. We do things for each other without the other asking. We do things for each other when its requested as well. I never said he demanded anything from me.

Thats great that you think your husband is different but I'm sure he has his own set of quirks as well.

[♥JP♥ 5]

My response to you was from this comment:

It's good your Mother in law is there to see how you two live together. She'll be happy to see you caring and pampering her son. But on the other hand she should also be in your corner when he becomes lazy, petulent or demanding. Especially if he is not handling his "Husband" responsibilities or providing HOUSE AND SUPPORT which is the traditional duties of a husband.

IT all started with...Amira Ordonia writing....

"I didnt realize this was in response to me. You would think his mom pampered him but let me tell you she has been living with us for 5 weeks and she is a drill sgt, LOL. I LOVE IT!

He is just extremely lazy. He will even admit that himself. He loves to put things off. "

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I just replied that he is maybe "old fashioned" in his expectation of the roles of husband and wife.

And yes, if she's one to call her husband lazy...Who am I to disagree?

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