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i'm in a really bad way here. i need some advice on what to do. i'm currently going through the k-1 process w/ a woman i am very much in love with. now here's the problem. her sister, who introduced us is causing us (me) a lot of problems. she wants to try to call the shots on this relationship. every step of the way she's pushing for things to be done her way....do it like this..no i said do it like this..NO! I SAID DO IT LIKE THIS!!! it is causing me to have second thoughts about the k-1.(if its like this now..whats it going to be like once Jenn. is here?) i have talked to her (the sister) & asked her to back off. then i told her to back off. its not working. she keeps coming on stronger each time. those that know me know...i'm not going to get pushed too far before i snap & flip the fukc out!! last night i called to talk to her about a couple things & SOS she starts yelling & demanding things be done to suit her. well, i flipped the fukc out! started yelling & screaming right back. i talked to her husband today to try & get some help..but he's scared of her.." i don't want to get involved, it will just cause us problems" PUZZY!!! the sister is no big deal for me. i can just tell her off & not care what she thinks, says or does. but what about Jenn? i don't feel right about bringing her here & me not having a relationship w/ her sis. we are like water & oil...we're just not going to get along. i have talked to Jenn about this in the past & she says " don't worry about her (the sister), its about us" but, i just don't feel right about bringing her here to a hostile enviroment (relationship between me & her sister). what do i do?

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You haven't really said anything about how your fiance feels about the situation. Is she giving in to her sister, or does she stand up to her?

If you have doubts about marrying her because of her family, it sounds like you need help that you're not going to find here. Where you really need to start is talking with your fiance. Just know that no matter what she says, her (your fiance) bond with her family is always going to be a huge factor. You may see her sister as the wicked witch, and your fiance may agree, but when it comes down to it they are still sisters. You need to work things out with your future sister-in-law if you hope to have a stable marriage. And that may involve swallowing your pride and making some concessions you don't want to make. Love conquers all, except in-laws.

BTW, bypassing the language filter might land you in hot water with the board mods.

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Are you planning to marry this girl or her sister? I mean don't let this woman bother you. She is not involved with your Jenn except to be a pain in the rear. Let her talk and demand all she wants but what really matters is you and your girl. If Jenn is okay with you as you are and isn't the one making the demands, what is the problem.

Next time you speak with the sister imagine she is in front of you and you are saying, "Yada, yada, talk to the hand." Just let her words roll off of you. But when you speak with Jenn make sure she understands that it is you and her and no one else.

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i'm in a really bad way here. i need some advice on what to do. i'm currently going through the k-1 process w/ a woman i am very much in love with. now here's the problem. her sister, who introduced us is causing us (me) a lot of problems. she wants to try to call the shots on this relationship. every step of the way she's pushing for things to be done her way....do it like this..no i said do it like this..NO! I SAID DO IT LIKE THIS!!! it is causing me to have second thoughts about the k-1.(if its like this now..whats it going to be like once Jenn. is here?) i have talked to her (the sister) & asked her to back off. then i told her to back off. its not working. she keeps coming on stronger each time. those that know me know...i'm not going to get pushed too far before i snap & flip the fukc out!! last night i called to talk to her about a couple things & SOS she starts yelling & demanding things be done to suit her. well, i flipped the fukc out! started yelling & screaming right back. i talked to her husband today to try & get some help..but he's scared of her.." i don't want to get involved, it will just cause us problems" PUZZY!!! the sister is no big deal for me. i can just tell her off & not care what she thinks, says or does. but what about Jenn? i don't feel right about bringing her here & me not having a relationship w/ her sis. we are like water & oil...we're just not going to get along. i have talked to Jenn about this in the past & she says " don't worry about her (the sister), its about us" but, i just don't feel right about bringing her here to a hostile enviroment (relationship between me & her sister). what do i do?

yo bro really what you need to do is talk with your soon to be wife , the marrige is about you two not the sister n what the hell is your relationship any of her business ! i completly understand about having a at least talking relationship with her family but you n your wife don't have to put up with any of her ####### she has not say or control n your lives.. so talk with you soon to be seriously about it tell her if your really starting to have second thoughts she may relize how much you mean to her n tell her sis to piss off to n stay the hell out of it since her husband is a ##### lol sorry that s funney

n mabey her sis is too controling or just don't want here sis to leave cause she will loose control of the situation that s my opinion id chat with you if need be bro and good luck

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never mind i know what needs to be done. thanks.

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you may not feel that way after you hear this. i'm just telling her...i'm not letting her sister run my life. i'm not having anything to do w/ her sister & if she wants to continue the journey i'm all for it me & her only. not me her & her sister. call it what you want. thats whats going to happen.

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never mind i know what needs to be done. thanks.

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you may not feel that way after you hear this. i'm just telling her...i'm not letting her sister run my life. i'm not having anything to do w/ her sister & if she wants to continue the journey i'm all for it me & her only. not me her & her sister. call it what you want. thats whats going to happen.

Not how I'd have handled it, but you know your situation better than anyone else I guess. Best of luck to you.

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never mind i know what needs to be done. thanks.

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you may not feel that way after you hear this. i'm just telling her...i'm not letting her sister run my life. i'm not having anything to do w/ her sister & if she wants to continue the journey i'm all for it me & her only. not me her & her sister. call it what you want. thats whats going to happen.

My only question is this: if she agrees to continue on and move to the US, are you going to limit contact between her and her sister?

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never mind i know what needs to be done. thanks.

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you may not feel that way after you hear this. i'm just telling her...i'm not letting her sister run my life. i'm not having anything to do w/ her sister & if she wants to continue the journey i'm all for it me & her only. not me her & her sister. call it what you want. thats whats going to happen.

My only question is this: if she agrees to continue on and move to the US, are you going to limit contact between her and her sister?

never. i would never come between her & her sister. but, her sister isn't going to run my life. i've gone above & beyond to try & get along...its not happening. so...

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never mind i know what needs to be done. thanks.

:thumbs:

you may not feel that way after you hear this. i'm just telling her...i'm not letting her sister run my life. i'm not having anything to do w/ her sister & if she wants to continue the journey i'm all for it me & her only. not me her & her sister. call it what you want. thats whats going to happen.

My only question is this: if she agrees to continue on and move to the US, are you going to limit contact between her and her sister?

never. i would never come between her & her sister.

gotcha :) and I am glad to hear that!

*Cheryl -- Nova Scotia ....... Jerry -- Oklahoma*

Jan 17, 2014 N-400 submitted

Jan 27, 2014 NOA received and cheque cashed

Feb 13, 2014 Biometrics scheduled

Nov 7, 2014 NOA received and interview scheduled


MAY IS NATIONAL STROKE AWARENESS MONTH
Educate Yourself on the Warning Signs of Stroke -- talk to me, I am a survivor!

"Life is as the little shadow that runs across the grass and loses itself in the sunset" ---Crowfoot

The true measure of a society is how those who have treat those who don't.

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